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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Everything was fin until I developed feelings for him,, please help!
Q. Long time, I've searched for advice and help. I'm quite happy recently, i feel like I've found myself. I feel confident about everything. That its rare when i have a problem. However, that's not the point, i have run into a small problem in my li...
A. 23 July 2012: Hi. You're very welcome.
It's also possible that although he says he just wants to be friends and not get seriously involved, he might at the same time be hoping that it will get to a point where he feels safe to give you his heart.
At the ... (read in full...)
Everything was fin until I developed feelings for him,, please help!
Q. Long time, I've searched for advice and help. I'm quite happy recently, i feel like I've found myself. I feel confident about everything. That its rare when i have a problem. However, that's not the point, i have run into a small problem in my li...
A. 20 July 2012: Hi there. The real question is - Why does he feel that he isn't good enough?
Perhaps he has been in relationships before, and had some disappointing breakups.
And now maybe, he is afraid of getting hurt - yet again.
And so he is balking ... (read in full...)
Guys what size do you like your women?
Q. I know all men are different but guys what size do you like your women? Im just curious....
A. 20 July 2012: Hi there. Everyone has very different tastes.
Some men like thin girls, some like more well covered girls with a few curves.
Some men like big girls with big breasts and curvy hips.
And everything in between.
What attracts a man to ... (read in full...)
Why does he look at pictures of him and his ex-wife?
Q. I'm an adult and has been very serious with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We both are divorced, him more recently, and I found that he has been looking at some pictures of them together from a few years ago that are on his computer. They are nice ...
A. 20 July 2012: Hi. I really don't blame you for feeling a little doubtful about this, as most people would feel that way.
I would be wondering, if it was me in your position.
And maybe, you could also say something light hearted and good humoured to him,... (read in full...)
The Beginning of A Wonderful New Life.
Q. In October of 2002, I moved from The San Francisco Bay Area, back to my hometown of Dallas Texas. In November I got a job at the wonderful world of Wal-Mart (said sarcastically) I worked back in receiving, my job was a soft-lines processor. I was ...
A. 16 July 2012: Hi. Yes, I agree.
I never had children - not by choice though - I was unable to conceive.
And I never missed being a parent, as like your man, I have watched both nieces and nephews grow up, on both my side and my husband's side, so I enjoy... (read in full...)
I need to find a better way to cope with our break
Q. My boyfriend and I recently decided to take a break and I'm not handling it too well. Before I begin, I just want to clarify that the break had nothing to do with a fight or change of feelings... it's something a little different than your typical ...
A. 16 July 2012: Hi there. Breakups are never easy and being your first romance, doesn't make it any easier.
All things in life happen for a reason.
You have both decided to have a break for a few reasons, and to live a bit more of life as well.
It's im... (read in full...)
I don't trust my b/f and I'm afraid he'll cheat while out with the boys for the weekend
Q. Hi, well what it is I that I don't have any trust in my boyfriend what so ever. We've been a couple for nearly 7 months and right now he's in Ibiza. He went there yesterday with his friend and I don't trust him at all. It's eating away at me and ...
A. 16 July 2012: Hi there. When you have a great fear as you have, that he will cheat on you - because of your past relationship - it can then become a big part of the problem.
And it can also drive a HUGE wedge between you as time goes by.
Not all men c... (read in full...)
Why does he look at pictures of him and his ex-wife?
Q. I'm an adult and has been very serious with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We both are divorced, him more recently, and I found that he has been looking at some pictures of them together from a few years ago that are on his computer. They are nice ...
A. 16 July 2012: Hi there. It does seem kind of unusual that he still looks at photos of his ex wife and him together.
To keep on doing that, would almost seem as if he isn't really over with her - even though he is divorced.
It might be wise to simply ask hi... (read in full...)
How can I keep myself from being distracted by girls?
Q. Plz i need a help...how can i avoid my slf from being distracted by gurls? Wenever i try reading or doin an important something that wil help me and sudenly remember my romantic past with some gurls,my dreams,work or idea of what am doing wil just ...
A. 16 July 2012: Hi there. The wisest thing you could do, is to start saying "no" to them when they ask to see you - just for sex.
It sounds like they are only using you, and don't want the commitment of a relationship.
Perhaps when you do date girls, you ... (read in full...)
I know he doesn't love me so why would he want me to have his baby?
Q. The man I am seeing is "complicated" but I like him a lot and though our involvement is risky, we are trying to see how things will go. Anyway, we were making love today and during the act, he told me that if I missed a period and conveived, he ...
A. 15 July 2012: Hi there. When you say "complicated" and it's "risky", do you mean that he is married?
I am just wondering what makes it complicated and risky.
Perhaps he has some idea in his head, that if anything happens to him, well then there will be al... (read in full...)
I get so emotional before my period! How do I make these mood swings go away?
Q. I am so incredibly emotional during the week before my period. I end up taking it out on my boyfriend. It's getting worse every month. I go to bed sobbing and wake up perfectly fine. I tell my boyfriend things like he doesn't think I'm good enough ...
A. 15 July 2012: Hi there. The thoughts you have just before your period, are probably there all the time, and just more extreme at that time of the month.
So what I am saying, is that you may be having the exact feelings that your boyfriend doesn't think yo... (read in full...)
The Beginning of A Wonderful New Life.
Q. In October of 2002, I moved from The San Francisco Bay Area, back to my hometown of Dallas Texas. In November I got a job at the wonderful world of Wal-Mart (said sarcastically) I worked back in receiving, my job was a soft-lines processor. I was ...
A. 15 July 2012: Hi there. Congratulations to both of you!
You seem well suited.
Do you think that he will ever want children, and have you talked about it yet?
If you haven't so far, it might be wise to do so, just in case he does want them.
You are no... (read in full...)
Is this marriage over or is this a phase?
Q. Hi, I am a bit confused as to where this is going and need some advise please. Your advise in the past has been really very helpful. I have been married abt 13 years and in the time my husband was always antisocial and controlling though in a very ...
A. 14 July 2012: Hi. It's hard to know what is going on in his mind really.
You said earlier that there are children, so it's not just the two of you.
Perhaps what is happening in his life now, is nothing to do with your marriage working or not working.
... (read in full...)
Is this marriage over or is this a phase?
Q. Hi, I am a bit confused as to where this is going and need some advise please. Your advise in the past has been really very helpful. I have been married abt 13 years and in the time my husband was always antisocial and controlling though in a very ...
A. 12 July 2012: Hi there. Thirteen years is a large chunk out of your life, so you don't really want to give up on your marriage too easily, surely.
You do need to sit down together and talk indepth about what you want and what he wants.
His wanting his own ... (read in full...)
B/f seems to have more time for neighbors than me! How do I stop being so available?
Q. I have been with the same man for almost 4 years, we're together every other weekend, one night during the week and every Sunday evening. We talk almost every evening, but that's usually because I'm the caller. Over the last year my texts go ...
A. 12 July 2012: Hi. As you have said, "Yes", you probably do too much for him.
The more you do for him, the more he probably expects you will do - an assumption he will make.
For instance, taking the papers to his lawyer whenever that is necessary.
Al... (read in full...)
B/f seems to have more time for neighbors than me! How do I stop being so available?
Q. I have been with the same man for almost 4 years, we're together every other weekend, one night during the week and every Sunday evening. We talk almost every evening, but that's usually because I'm the caller. Over the last year my texts go ...
A. 11 July 2012: Hi there. I think you do make yourself too available to him and all that you do in taking documents to his lawyers etc.
And driving there to see him all the time, is you doing all the giving and him doing all the taking.
And my understanding... (read in full...)
Should I move in with my b/f to ease family's fiancial burden?
Q. Hello all, I'm having a bit of a dispute here within myself and my family. My parents are very loving and caring people and I know they would do anything for me, but my mom is sick and the company my dad works for is slowly on the decline. My older ...
A. 11 July 2012: Hi there.
As you are doing some paid work with your grandmother, are you also contributing to your household by paying some board?
If you are not, well then it would be difficult your parents paying for your meals etc.
Because your mother i... (read in full...)
Husband thinks my high sex drive is pathetic
Q. I'm 25 yrs old, 5ft 5, 124 lbs.... I am an attractive female, long burgundy hair, and I love sex... It is my absolute favorite thing on this earth. My husband is 5ft 10, brown hair, and about 20 lbs overweight. And he isn't a verry big fan of having ...
A. 10 July 2012: Hi. I guess you are at least lucky that it didn't give you an aversion to sex altogether, after all that happened to you as a child.
Perhaps you are afaid that you are not loved enough as a person for who you are, and as a consequence of that, yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's family seem to prefer his brother's girlfriend to me
Q. I really need help, I feel like I'm going insane!! I have been with my boyfriend for three years now, everything's been fine and we love each other to pieces, we plan on marrying in the future. However, the last couple of months his brother has ...
A. 9 July 2012: Hi there. You are in a relationship with your boyfriend - NOT his family!
As you love each other very much, it really doesn't matter too much about what his family thinks or does, surely.
And if you do decide to marry, well then it's your b... (read in full...)
I feel pushed aside in my boyfriend's quest for female attention
Q. My bf is a huge extrovert and loves to talk to people and start conversation with anyone. He's very charming and I think he also likes getting attention from women in particular. So in social settings it's not unusual for him to gravitate towards ...
A. 9 July 2012: Hi there. There is another option here.
Why not just the two of you go out together, not in groups.
You could mention to him, that you would rather just go out - you and him.
And that you are not that into crowds etc., that you would jus... (read in full...)
Should I apply for the job or sort out my health issues first?
Q. I have had an abdominal scan recently which showed up a calcified cyst. The doctors need to do a CT scan before they can determine what it is. I've not been working since I had quite a big operation 2.5 years ago. My husband (who is working)...
A. 9 July 2012: Hi there. It would be very wise for you to sort out the problem with your health as a no. 1 priority.
So get that sorted out first, definitely.
The reason I say this, is you don't want to start a new job, and then find that within a short t... (read in full...)
I want a new relationship but I don't want to leave my fiance
Q. I have been with my fiance for over 3 years but lately I just feel like I want a new realationship but I don't want to leave him. I love him and have a 1 year old daughter with him I just miss the passion and intensity of a new relationship and ...
A. 9 July 2012: Hi. Having regular sex is good for you, and is also an excellent form of stress relief, apart from the fun side of things.
I still think that you ought to say to him that you DO NOT wish to have another baby, when he is so reluctant to give you... (read in full...)
I want a new relationship but I don't want to leave my fiance
Q. I have been with my fiance for over 3 years but lately I just feel like I want a new realationship but I don't want to leave him. I love him and have a 1 year old daughter with him I just miss the passion and intensity of a new relationship and ...
A. 8 July 2012: Hi. You are saying that he works 6 days a week - and then home only on Sundays.
So are you also saying, that he works out of town on the other 6 days - then he comes home to stay on Sundays?
I just want to be clear on what is really happening... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi. Probably you just need to find what actually interests you.
Do you have any hobbies?
If not, why not start some?
And perhaps it might end up making you an income!
You can't head in any direction, until you know where you're goin... (read in full...)
I am a morning person, who will be working a part time overnight job. How can I cope with this?
Q. I'm not really sure where to post this question online but I've been around this site plenty, so I figured you guys can help. It's mainly health and sleeping pattern related. It could indirectly be related to how it will effect my relationships with ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi there. From what you are saying here, you don't work in the daytime, is that right?
So you are at home then?
So what I am saying here, is you DO NOT work a second job in the day?
Which means that your days are free?
This overnight ... (read in full...)
I don't know what I am to him, I need advice!
Q. Im am stuck in a relationship that I feel isnt defined by anything. Not that I want definition really though because heck even if someone is your bf they could break up with you any day or be lying to you. However with the man Im "involved" with it ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi there. You both feel the same about each other, so there's no real problem there, is there?
So that part is positive.
Once you brought it up about commitment, well that seems to have been a kind of cooling off for him.
He got a bit sc... (read in full...)
Am I a bad sister for feeling like this?
Q. Me and my sister are currently working overseas and at the same city. Recently, due to redundancy, she was terminated by her company so she had no choice but to send her kids back to our home country. This is making me depressed actually because I ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi there. It does sound like she is taking advantage of you, from what you say.
If she is renting 2 other places, well then why does she need to sleep at your house?
And why rent 2 properties in the first place?
She is clearly not short of ... (read in full...)
I want a new relationship but I don't want to leave my fiance
Q. I have been with my fiance for over 3 years but lately I just feel like I want a new realationship but I don't want to leave him. I love him and have a 1 year old daughter with him I just miss the passion and intensity of a new relationship and ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi there. All relationships DON'T stay in the honeymoon stage forever, it doesn't matter who you are with.
The honeymoon stage usually lasts for perhaps up to 18 months or 2 years or possibly 3 years, however that's about the limit.
The new... (read in full...)
Is my husband just trying to be nice to get me to stop the alimony payments?
Q. im so confussed my husband of 20 years left me for a much younger girl. old enough to be his daughter. they are now living together and have been for 5 months since i threw him out. im still very much in love with him and would have him back. he ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi there. If there is so much of an age gap between them, well then they probably DON'T really have much in common.
She is by her age, like a "daughter" to him, so that makes him feel young, I guess.
Perhaps it's not really about the alimon... (read in full...)
When I close my eyes I see dots!
Q. When I close my eyes to fall asleep in bed, I see pixels and pulsating purple blobs all over the place. It's so distracting! What exactly is it and what can I do?...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi there. It would be wise to first see your family doctor to ask him, in which case he will ask you a few questions and look into your eyes as well, for any abnormalities.
He will then discuss with you what it could be, and refer you on to see a... (read in full...)
Husband thinks my high sex drive is pathetic
Q. I'm 25 yrs old, 5ft 5, 124 lbs.... I am an attractive female, long burgundy hair, and I love sex... It is my absolute favorite thing on this earth. My husband is 5ft 10, brown hair, and about 20 lbs overweight. And he isn't a verry big fan of having ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi there. Any problems in the bedroom, often start outside of the bedroom.
Perhaps not only does he not give you the attention you desire in the bedroom, he might also not be emotionally close to you outside the bedroom either.
You haven't r... (read in full...)
How do I take this relationship to the next level?
Q. I have been on and off again with the same guy for over a year now. There is a lot more detail I wish I could give to the situation but to spare the essay I'll sum it up as best I can. This is not my first relationship, I'm 24 and I've been in two ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi. Perhaps then, your best course of action from now on, might be to stop texting him altogether.
What I mean by this, is to let him initiate ALL contact with you, from now on.
Don't text him just because you haven't heard anything for a f... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being selfish?
Q. This may at first sound like I'm seeking money advice, but bear with me! I need to explain everything in case you get the wrong idea! Boyfriend and I will be soon moving in together. The flat is actually owned by our flat mate who will be sharing ...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi there. I can understand that he doesn't want to dig into his holiday savings, as once he draws out that money - it's gone forever, isn't it?
Which is fair enough.
He may have already booked his holiday, and so might need to pay something on... (read in full...)
He's moved on, I haven't, and it's eating me up.
Q. Hey all, My boyfriend and I of 2 years broke up about 2.5 months ago. He's in the Marine Corp and it really wasn't a mutual break up, nor a pleasant one. I wanted to stay in the relationship but he felt he was no good for me (not sure if that was...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi there. Because he is in the marines, that probably also means that he goes away on deployment fairly regularly, is that right?
And so it's possible also, that he feels it is unfair to you, to always be waiting for him, and feeling lonely a... (read in full...)
How do I take this relationship to the next level?
Q. I have been on and off again with the same guy for over a year now. There is a lot more detail I wish I could give to the situation but to spare the essay I'll sum it up as best I can. This is not my first relationship, I'm 24 and I've been in two ...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi there. It sounds like you need to sit down with him and tell him all this.
You have an amazing connection with him you said, so he must feel this way also.
Perhaps the reason he cools off a bit from time to time, is because he doesn't know ... (read in full...)
My ex is dating someone else but how do I find out if he still likes me?
Q. In a few weeks I'm going on a family vacation where my long distance ex-boyfriend happens to live. We broke up a year ago when we were still in love but incapable of keeping a long distance relationship. Now we're working and more capable, and I ...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi there. You are already in some kind of regular contact with him, so you are speaking to each other, and so the ice is broken.
Perhaps, don't say "I've missed you", but just ask him how he's been and get talking about anything and everythi... (read in full...)
Should I ask him for a last goodbye?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for about half a year. He's an international student and we come from different cultures which caused many disagreements and misunderstanding although we were in love. Last week we had another argument and I went home ...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi there. As it does seem that it is truly over, and he is going back to the country where he lives, well then you have to accept that it is the end.
That situation probably isn't going to change now.
All you can do, is to write him one la... (read in full...)
He made tentative plans, said he'd call but hasn't. Should I wait or make other plans?
Q. I met a guy from online..we spoke and texted for a week prior and got along great. We met in person and seemed to have a good time as well. We were in alot of contact or some form of contact each day since we started talking either through text or a ...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi there. Because you are actually seeing each other now, well then there is not so much of a need to just text or chat on line, is there?
So that's why they are less frequent.
Phone calls are okay though. Because that's how he gets to ask y... (read in full...)
I fell out with a friend because he lost his values, now I'm not sure what to do about our friendship.
Q. I'm really not sure what to do for the best. I feel out with a really good friend of mine who I've always loved. I know I did the right thing but I just don't know what to do. He was always such a repsectable person with strict values, and in the ...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi there. It is hard for you to accept how he is now, because you liked the "old" him.
Perhaps when he had those beliefs before, he only half believed in them.
He could have thought that was who he was, until he went travelling and l... (read in full...)
Could this flat agreement leave me financially screwed if things don't work out for me income-wise this year?
Q. I'm currently in a comfortable lifestyle with some good savings in the bank, but I'm really worried about where my future is gonna take me in the next year. Currently I have a year contract for a funded degree at my uni, and it pays pretty well, or ...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi there. Well one thing for sure, is that until you have secured another job, it's going to be a very wise thing for you to reduce your spending - just in case it takes a few months to find another job you like.
Especially, as you have a decent... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 4 July 2012: Hi. If you want to make stuffed animals, you probably need to see if there is a market for it, in the first place.
The problem with that is, stuffed toys are things you can very often buy in department stores, in the toy department, so you coul... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 3 July 2012: Hi there. To have a driver's licence is really convenient, and gives you the independence, which then equates to freedom.
And that's something we all crave, surely.
No longer do you have to ask someone to drive you places, it's just so muc... (read in full...)
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