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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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I think I have a cheating boyfriend!
Q. i'll try to keep this short. i think my bf of 3 yrs is starting to cheat on me...our relation is a long-distance one. we talk to each other abour 2 hrs over the phone.recelty he is under a lot of work,so he comes home tired. 3 yrs ago, a girl was ...
A. 23 December 2011: Hi. Do you mean that your mother doesn't approve of the relationship, because you and him are not married?
There's probably not a lot you can do about that, unless you moved out of home.
Your mother might be having doubts about his intent... (read in full...)
What are opinions about male menopause?
Q. I was wondering about your opinion, about male menopause . Some doctors believe it, when man has problems with libido,or getting an erection, it is explained, with this new term. But I have an extreme case of this, if it is true, and my ...
A. 18 December 2011: Hi there. Like others have also said here, some medications can cause problems with attaining an erection.
And certainly stress alone, would take away the desire to have sex at all!
As you seem to realize yourself, it most likely is partly... (read in full...)
I fell asleep while talking to the guy, do I contact him or wait for him to contact me?
Q. I'm terrible at this dating thing. So I gave this guy my number and we spent all last night talking, before I so nicely fell asleep on him (i felt really bad after that.) So this is my stupid question..Do I text him first or wait till he get's in...
A. 18 December 2011: Hi there. It sounds like it was a first phone call from him, wasn't it?
Just out of politeness, perhaps you could send him a short text to apologise and be honest about it. DON'T make up any other excuses - say that you were starting to get real... (read in full...)
I think I have a cheating boyfriend!
Q. i'll try to keep this short. i think my bf of 3 yrs is starting to cheat on me...our relation is a long-distance one. we talk to each other abour 2 hrs over the phone.recelty he is under a lot of work,so he comes home tired. 3 yrs ago, a girl was ...
A. 17 December 2011: Hi. I realize you talk to him on a fairly regular basis, but do you ever actually see each other?
And if you do, how often is it that you see you each other?... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Or am I getting my hopes up?
Q. Hello cupids , I met this guy last march (lets call him x) X and I really got on we got with each other a lot and became good friends as well. When me and x are together we are so comfortable with each other we have good banter , play fight , talk ...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi there. You are at least friends, so that's a start.
Player or not? Who knows.
Just keep going as you are, and see how it all develops over time.
When he says about "find my life partner through you", he could well be referring to you... (read in full...)
He has asked me to his friend's wedding.....does he want something more from me? Or just a date who everyone will get along with?
Q. this is just a random question but, What do it exactly mean when a guy asks a girl to be his date to his friends wedding? A guy I went to High School with and haven't seen since graduation (but through facebook we talk here and there) randomly...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi there. It's hard to say what his intentions are, so you are going to have to wait till the day to see how things pan out between you.
As you already chat with him on Facebook, it's not like you are complete strangers, is it?
So you at lea... (read in full...)
I think I have a cheating boyfriend!
Q. i'll try to keep this short. i think my bf of 3 yrs is starting to cheat on me...our relation is a long-distance one. we talk to each other abour 2 hrs over the phone.recelty he is under a lot of work,so he comes home tired. 3 yrs ago, a girl was ...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi there. You said this is a long distance relationship.
How far are you from each other? Is it several hours drive or 1 hour on a jetplane?
So what I'm really asking, is do you see each other at all?
Talking on an internet chat line or on... (read in full...)
Can I get her to open up her heart to me again?
Q. In June of my girlfriend of many years left me for another man,It was painful and traumatic. Three months later we made contacted and started the process of talking and seeing each other occasionally ,while she is still with him. Things progressed ...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi there. When you ended your relationship, was it caused by a big argument?
Did she want to get serious but you didn't?
Perhaps she was looking for something in a relationship that you couldn't give her.
Unless you can clarify this at leas... (read in full...)
What happened with his family that it's all gone sideways?
Q. My boyfriends parents are very reclusive people, and we usually get along fine, but lately I am feeling like they don't like me anymore. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we lived with them for a little while but now we have our own pla...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi there. Is there much money that he owes his parents?
Are we talking about thousands here?
And is he repaying them that money?
Even though his parents lent him money to help him out, it was probably understood by them (or at least assume... (read in full...)
No butterflies with my new guy but this is probably because of my old crush....what should I do?
Q. I met this guy recently and he's perfect in all ways, ticks every box, but I don't feel anything when I'm with him. No fluttering heartbeat when he holds my hand, no butterflies when he kisses me, nothing. I think it is because I am still not over ...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi. If he seems like a decent guy, it probably is worth giving it a chance to see what happens.
Just take it slowly and don't let things progress too quickly.
Perhaps you could just consider him to be a friend - without any expectation.
... (read in full...)
No butterflies with my new guy but this is probably because of my old crush....what should I do?
Q. I met this guy recently and he's perfect in all ways, ticks every box, but I don't feel anything when I'm with him. No fluttering heartbeat when he holds my hand, no butterflies when he kisses me, nothing. I think it is because I am still not over ...
A. 15 December 2011: Hi there. Is your last relationship a very recent breakup?
I mean like a couple of weeks to a month or two?
If it is, well then perhaps you jumped into this new relationship way too soon. You probably weren't ready.
The chemistry doesn't... (read in full...)
Link between the amout of sex and his porn use?
Q. my boyfriend watches porn without me should i be worried? We went fom having sex 2 or 3 times a day to once a week if i am lucky....
A. 15 December 2011: Hi. Is this friend of his who moved in, male or female?
Is the porn he watches - same sex porn, or male and female porn?
Do you suspect he might be turning towards being attracted to men - instead of women?
Just some ideas you might lik... (read in full...)
We've been friends with benefits for almost 5 years. How do I take this further?
Q. Ok! Here it goes!!! I have known this guy for almost 5 years. We met at my old apartments and I guess you can say it was always a friends with benifits. For a few years I would try and get a relationship to only fail and it would end up in a fight ...
A. 15 December 2011: Hi. Who knows, you and him might eventually become an item and get married.
It might not be for a while yet, but yes it's possible.
Just make sure that you don't take any crap from him, from now on.
Stick up for what you believe in - al... (read in full...)
Link between the amout of sex and his porn use?
Q. my boyfriend watches porn without me should i be worried? We went fom having sex 2 or 3 times a day to once a week if i am lucky....
A. 12 December 2011: Hi there. The internet porn watching, probably is nothing to do with sex or you, at all.
What it is about, is him feeling his life is missing something.
He might feel that outside of his work, that he has no other real interests.
It... (read in full...)
We've been friends with benefits for almost 5 years. How do I take this further?
Q. Ok! Here it goes!!! I have known this guy for almost 5 years. We met at my old apartments and I guess you can say it was always a friends with benifits. For a few years I would try and get a relationship to only fail and it would end up in a fight ...
A. 11 December 2011: Hi. That's good news you are not having sex anymore, so it's now evolved into friendship.
Something you need to do now is, to consider how well you think you get along with each other, plus how much you actually have in common.
A new challen... (read in full...)
We've been friends with benefits for almost 5 years. How do I take this further?
Q. Ok! Here it goes!!! I have known this guy for almost 5 years. We met at my old apartments and I guess you can say it was always a friends with benifits. For a few years I would try and get a relationship to only fail and it would end up in a fight ...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi there. Are you still friends with benefits? Or has the sex part of it stopped now?
There's nothing wrong with just being friends, for now. At least you are speaking to each other, so that's a start.
What is the current situation of whe... (read in full...)
Fling I had at work is now totally ignoring me. I'm married but feel uncomfortable with things this way!
Q. I had a fling with a guy at my job for 2 years. He wasn't what I expected so we ended the relationship. It took awhile for him to go away because he was still calling and texting for six more months after. I have moved on and now pregnant and ...
A. 7 December 2011: Hi there. When you had the fling with this guy in your office, were you still with your husband?
Or, were you separated?
Or did your husband find out about it and then you split up?
I ask this, because you have said here that you and your h... (read in full...)
We have not consumated this relationship. He is married. But can I get over him while I have to see him twice a week?
Q. I have a major problem here and need help. I am in love with someone who is married. He is in love with me but we have not had an affair. We acknowledged that this was the case but that we would do nothing about this. The problem is is that I ...
A. 5 December 2011: Hi there. Every time you see him at work, you are being reminded of the impossible situation you are in.
He is married, so he belongs to someone else anyway!
His loyalties are with his wife. You are a friend, and that's all. Regardless of yo... (read in full...)
Is he just being polite? Or do you think these are positive indications of romantic interest?
Q. I just met a guy at work a few days ago. He works there too, but I just started a week ago. I work in a bookstore, and we passed each other in an aisle, and I smiled at him and he smiled at me, and then he stopped and said "hey, I don't think I've ...
A. 5 December 2011: Hi there. It sounds like there is some interest there.
When you are both on the job in the store, you can't stop and talk much because that's not what they pay you to do, so other than "Hey" here and there and a smile, talk between you can only... (read in full...)
Want feeling back in penis.
Q. Alright so the deal is my penis is very imsensitive, and only becomes sensitive when I orgasm. For maybe two years I was an idiot and did that stupid bed humping thing. It's not too bad but head doesnt feel like it used to, and my gf's handies ...
A. 2 December 2011: Hi there. There is some sensation you have said, because you do feel something during orgasm.
So we know there is at least SOME sensation there.
If you used to have more sensation before this bed bumping habit you used to entertain yourse... (read in full...)
I was cheated on, how can I get my confidence back to date again?
Q. hey all. I need your help again. As many of you May know that answered my questions many months ago i was having problems with a cheating girlfriend. well after much sole searching i finally managed to make her my ex though it has taken a lot to get ...
A. 2 December 2011: Hi there. What needs to happen is for you to forget the fear of someone else cheating on you in future.
What I mean by forget about it, is to not be consciously thinking about it all the time, the way you probably do now.
The more you think a... (read in full...)
I am totally messed up when it comes to relationships/sex/dating.
Q. Hi! I really need some advice and input from all of you wise people out there! :) I am 19. I've been in two relationships. The first one was at 15 and lasted for 2 months. The second one was at 17 and lasted a month. I dumped both of them. I ...
A. 29 November 2011: Hi there. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that you have been conditioned to NOT trust relationships since your childhood.
Your parents are your role models, as is the usual thing in life. You learn by what you see in your own home, by... (read in full...)
Sexually Frustrated with no attention!!!
Q. I am seriously at a loss. . . I am 23 and my husband is 30. We used to make love ALOT. But as of this year it has gone down drastically to just once a week that barely lasts 15 minutes! I understand that he stresses about work, and he is an ...
A. 28 November 2011: Hi. Perhaps you could kiss him and give him a little hug when he leaves for work in the morning, and the same when he gets home from work at night.
No matter what else you are doing at the time, make that little bit of extra effort to show you... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be depressed when I can't see my boyfriend and friends?
Q. I always feel sad when im not with my boyfriend and want to be with him all the time, ive just hurt my foot and been on crutches for the last week (im off them now) but i couldnt get around as much or get go anywhere without my friends, so i didnt ...
A. 27 November 2011: Hi there. If you couldn't get around to see your boyfriend - because you were injured and on crutches - well then why couldn't he come around and see you?
He is your boyfriend, isn't he?
If you have to make all the effort and he makes none, i... (read in full...)
Sexually Frustrated with no attention!!!
Q. I am seriously at a loss. . . I am 23 and my husband is 30. We used to make love ALOT. But as of this year it has gone down drastically to just once a week that barely lasts 15 minutes! I understand that he stresses about work, and he is an ...
A. 27 November 2011: Hi there. Once you get married, because the opportunity is always there - and you are living together - the temptation isn't quite to great.
Before you were married, making love was always a case of whenever you saw each other. So it was a ca... (read in full...)
I don't believe there is a switch that just turned off his feelings. I want him back
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me eleven days before our 3 year anniversary. He is currently in Korea, teaching English to Elementary school children, while I am still in America. He said he couldn't be with me because he "could not reciprocate his ...
A. 26 November 2011: Hi there. How other people treat you, all begins with how you treat yourself.
If you only accept the best for yourself in life and nothing less, well then others will treat you that way also.
On the other hand, if you accept crap from others... (read in full...)
I'm too clingy and boyfriend feels pressured
Q. I'm 22 years old and I'm in my first proper relationship, with a guy who is also 22. We've been dating for nearly five months now, and are in our final year of college. The problem is, I'm far too clingy. I didn't realise this was a problem fo...
A. 25 November 2011: Hi there. Your depression is probably situational, rather than clinical.
By that, I mean that your depression - however infrequent - is most likely caused by the uncertainty in your life and where you are going, and on what path.
It does seem ... (read in full...)
I wanted more, but got a casual relationship, and now I feel like a mug. Help!
Q. I feel like a complete mug! I got with this guy, from day 1 he chased me and I had never had a boyfriend before so I was flattered by the attention, automatically we talke more and more, he seemed more and more interested and it was becoming clear ...
A. 25 November 2011: Hi there. Perhaps in future, when you meet new men you are inerested in, just keep it casual - no sex - so it doesn't become complicated.
You first need to find a guy - when you are ready to date - who treats you well and with respect and dign... (read in full...)
He called it off, but now contacts me. What does he want??
Q. So ive been going out with my bf for almost two months and a couple of weeks ago he broke things off with me. He said that he thinks we are better off friends, but since then he has been texting me all day and will invite me over to his house. And ...
A. 25 November 2011: Hi there. Perhaps he is making sure you are still available to him, should he change his mind.
It's like he's checking up on you. Because you have said here, that he texts you all day long.
He can't make up his mind.
He's not sure he want... (read in full...)
Is my mind playing a trick on me or am I becoming bisexual?!
Q. I'm a 17 year old male and I'm very interested in women. I don't want to kiss, have sex, a romantic and sexual relationship with someone the same sex. Sometimes when I look at another male, something in my head is telling me that I'm attracted to ...
A. 24 November 2011: Hi there. As you have no particular interest in kissing or making love to another male, and you only have those feelings towards the opposite sex, the chances are you probably are heterosexual.
You might only be comparing yourself to other yo... (read in full...)
His text left me confused! What do you think he meant by this?
Q. hi - it is official i hate texting !!! This guy and i went out a couple of times and we slept together. Always initiated by him. I texted him asking to go out for drinks and he replied something VERY confusing: "i have to go out with some colleg...
A. 24 November 2011: Hi there. You said you went out a couple of times, so that means you weren't an actual couple, as such were you?
As someone else here has also said, it does sound like a booty call. Friends with benefits.
If he really liked you, he would be... (read in full...)
Should I act like I'm interested in my ex girlfriend at the party tomorrow?
Q. Ok I would like to first thank everyone who read my question and I definetely appreciate your time to read about my problems. It means alot. Ok so I recently decided to go in on a partnership on a party that my brother and nephew are throwing ...
A. 24 November 2011: Hi there. It really depends on how you feel about her now, and if you still have any feelings, remembering how depressed you were at the time, over the breakup.
I don't think you said this, but who broke up with who? Was it a mutual decision... (read in full...)
Why did she invite me? Do I love her too much? I am usually pessimistic but why can't I feel happy for long?
Q. In the past9 months, I have been loving a very good female friend of mine. Her arrival has brighten up my life at the start since I was really down due to several reasons. I love her a lot but she can only treats me as a friend which is underst...
A. 19 November 2011: Hi there. Maybe you put a lot of emphasis on being in a relationship and are therefore putting all your eggs in one basket.
By that I mean, a relationship is perhaps the be all and end all of life for you, to the exclusion of all else.
So it's... (read in full...)
Almost 40 and still clueless...
Q. At my age, I should probably know the answers to these questions, but being so close to the situation has clouded my judgment and muddied the water... please be patient with me while I try to explain the situation... I married young, and after...
A. 16 November 2011: Hi. You're very welcome, I'm happy to be able to help.
Any nice young men you meet from now on, just take it slow and when you are sure you love them enough and trust them and of course like them as well, then and only then when you DO feel rea... (read in full...)
Almost 40 and still clueless...
Q. At my age, I should probably know the answers to these questions, but being so close to the situation has clouded my judgment and muddied the water... please be patient with me while I try to explain the situation... I married young, and after...
A. 10 November 2011: Hi. Right, now your best course of action from this point forward, would be to keep your distance from him. In other words, give him some space.
Let him initiate all contact with you from now. And if it so happens that he doesn't make any furt... (read in full...)
Can someone help me get over this guy?
Q. Hello.. I need some help. Y'see.. I am absolutely obsessed with this guy. He's always on my mind, and I want him out, but I need some help forgetting about him. This guy in particular has been an obsession of mine for almost a few months. I never ob...
A. 8 November 2011: Hi there. One hour is not a huge distance away, although it certainly is enough of a drive in one go, for sure.
For a start, DO NOT text him anymore. If anyone is to text, it has to be him - for now. This is to see if he will initiate contact ... (read in full...)
Not had sex for 3 years now and not sure how I will react now that I have a new girlfriend
Q. I haven't had sex the last 3 years and I'm not sure how I will react when my new girlfriend and I get into bed. Has any of you guys been in a similar situation and what do you suggest?...
A. 8 November 2011: Hi there. When you say you haven't had sex for 3 years, are you saying that you haven't been in a relationship of any kind for 3 years?
So that's making me think are you scared that you won't get an erection?
And if that's the case, there prob... (read in full...)
Almost 40 and still clueless...
Q. At my age, I should probably know the answers to these questions, but being so close to the situation has clouded my judgment and muddied the water... please be patient with me while I try to explain the situation... I married young, and after...
A. 8 November 2011: Hi there. It's very clear to me that he has some pretty serious feelings towards you. You can surely see that also.
What's really behind all this changing behaviour of his, is his medical condition and very little else. It's not that he has d... (read in full...)
Hes been hurt in the past and now wont trust me!
Q. dear readers, i have known this guy for a few months now and im having a few difficulties. he was hurt in the past by his father whom he once trusted, but the father abused this guys mum and his siblings. so i understand where he migh...
A. 8 November 2011: Hi there. You can't change his past family life, it's something he has to learn to deal with and accept.
Whenever you do see each other, just don't ask him anything personal. Simply ask him how he is, or how has his day been.
He's already ... (read in full...)
Could I please have some ideas? I'm feeling rusty about what to do when trying to get a relationship going.
Q. I have at last found someone who I am actually attracted to. I have not had a relationship for the past year because I did not want to, and found no one I really liked . But suddenly, out of the blue, I find someone who I really like . My problem is ...
A. 8 November 2011: Hi there. If you are making all the effort, and he isn't, well then it might be that you are more interested than he is.
But also, if you are doing it all, he doesn't really need to try does he? You are doing it for him!
Perhaps you c... (read in full...)
Why has he changed towards me we used to be good friends?
Q. i was close friends with a guy foir 2 years. i thought we got on really well but all the time i would help him with work and saved him losing his job. hes borrowed quite a lot of money-borrows the wrong word and knows i like him. we had a bad row a ...
A. 8 November 2011: Hi there. It sounds like it might be time to move on from him.
The way he's acting, it seems like he's just used you by borrowing money from you and then not paying it back. Now he's treating you shabbily, and without respect.
Whatever you ... (read in full...)
We work together and ride the same bus but when is the best time to talk to her? best time to talk to h
Q. hi everyone e we have seen each other around where we both work as she works every sunday and i work the odd sunday. the one time we came face to face was when i walked passed her and we both smiled at each other. we also did the same one tim...
A. 8 November 2011: Hi there. Well, you work together on some Sundays, so that's a good start.
Do you work in the same area, where you have to talk to each other as a part of your work duties? If so, that's perfect. If not though, it's not a big deal.
You can... (read in full...)
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