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anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months now and i want to tell her i'm in love with her but i'm afraid it may be too soon as 5 months isn't a huge amount of time. I have had feelings for her for a couple of years now as we have been close flirty friends and have text or rang each other everyday for the past few years. Do you think i should tell her or put it off a bit longer?
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reader, Wow123 +, writes (1 July 2012):
If you love her, she deserves to know about it, but you have to be certain. you don't want to say I love you, then break up with her a week later.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (30 June 2012):
 If it is how you feel and you want to tell her then go for it, just be ready not to be disappointed if shes isnt quite ready to say it back yet. Even if she isnt she will more than likely be happy that you feel that way.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 June 2012):
 IF you feel it you should tell her. But you must be prepared for her to not say it back.
My fiance RARELY says "I love you" and never EVER says "i love you too" so his response to my infrequent "I love you" is "thank you"
it doesn't mean he does not love me... he does.. his behavior shows me he does not his words..
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reader, 057  +, writes (27 June 2012):
You should be honest. Maybe shes waiting for you to say it before she does. Its all silly games in the end, go for it, I say.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (27 June 2012):
Hi there. Because you have some history together as flirty friends before this past 5 months, well then I am guessing that you already know each other pretty well.
So with that being the case, and you have now been a couple for the past 5 months, well then if you have some serious feelings for her, why don't you share them with her?
It's much more appropriate to share them with her than with us.
Because she needs to know.
In a lot of relationships, when two people get along really well and everything seems to click, it's quite normal to feel that you love someone even after about two months.
It takes as long as it takes for those feelings to develop.
If you feel love towards her at 5 months, tell her.
Don't just blurt it out when it's not the right moment.
And don't just say it absent mindedly after you have made love to her.
If you do say it then, she will simply think it was just the passion speaking, and not really the truth.
And you don't want her to think that, surely.
The point is, you want the mood to be exactly right.
Just the two of you, and you could snuggle up to each other while sitting on the lounge together one night.
And when you feel the moment is right, just say how you feel.
It's better to get it out in the open, than to bottle it all up inside of you because you think she might be put off by hearing those 3 little words.
Just be open and honest with her.
She will probably be happy to hear it said.
And the chances are she might just feel the same way.
She probably won't say it though, until she hears it from you.
So what are you waiting for?
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reader, G's_Girl  +, writes (27 June 2012):
 Hi Anonymous,
Every person and every relationship evolves at a different pace, so there is no wrong or right here.
Your feelings cannot be contained any longer, it's how you feel, so sharing it with her is a gift.
Perhaps if you are concerned she is not at the same place as you, let her know you want to share something with her, but she does not need to respond in kind, you merely want to express how you feel, and go ahead. Then if she feels the same she will tell you, and if she isn't quite there yet, she won't feel any pressure and can acknowledge how you feel and be extra caring and loving until she can express the same.
You've known each other a couple of years, you've been close flirty friends, so I'm sure it's mutual and all will go well.
Enjoy and let your actions follow your words!
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