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writes:Let me apologize in advance for another penis post . LOLI can relate to the commentS I have read about being rejected and worrying my penis is inadequate. I am average but thick. 6" long and 6" around and she still tries to make me feel good about myself... But she has mentioned her ex had a "horse cock" and they had sex multiple times daily. She shares her phone and her ex texted so of course I was dying to know wtf was going on. I looked and I happened to look and it was nothing but merry Christmas.. etc.. but curiousity killed the cat so I scrolled back 6 months. not too far..like 3-4 quick scrolls. She said she left him because he got married to his ex. I don't want to pry... But she mentioned how much she loved his package and it was heavenly and she missed it badly. And how his wife probably LOVES his giant horse cock and she wishes she could orally service it and ride it to orgasm. It didn't matter he was married. She lived that huge penis. Now I have trouble getting aroused and feel downright ashamed that I can't be her biggest. I actually lay in positions in my bed where I hold my hips back and make it retracted because I am so ashamed that I can't do that for her. She swears up and down that I am the best ever.... I make her cum nearly whey time. But she rejects me 80% of the time. I even made a joke that I was gonna deprive her of my package because she rejects me and she joked back... "It's not like you are depriving me of much anyways." I think I am going to end the relationship because now my whole world is messed up. I have never felt ashamed with my body until now. When I try to express how she made me feel (not even on purpose) she gets irritated. I went through a divorce where my ex left me for a bigger man and I had a previous lover tell me straight up she wishes I was bigger. So to me even a joke reallly hurts. I wish I could find peace. I know I am not "small" as I had one girlfriend who couldn't take it all....What should I do: we live each other and I have never felt this happy.. but my perfect feelings for have been almost totally ruined because of this new sexual fear and deep feelings of inadequacy. I always swore if I got married that my new wife and I should not be able to resist one another. Looks like I am going sexless again and I feel sexually worthless. I am going to deny her my tongue since she prefers it over my manhood just to see how she likes it... And I am probably going to start looking for a new partner.. but can't decide
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2015): spare us the details man . The problem isnt you its your partners for making those kind of comments to her ex.Going on strike is a good thing. Get hold of your dignity and get yourself a new partner.A woman like that is riff-raff.
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reader, Mr.Jones  +, writes (1 June 2015):
You really can only accept your situation and live with it, or decide to walk and try to find a girl that loves what you have to offer. A very hard choice but one you will have to make as I don't think she will ever be a fan of the small package unfortunately. This is shallow but within her rights, I wouldn't want to be with a woman with fat legs for example. Good luck and remember that it likely won't be long until you find someone new. Try and find a small, petite girl which will naturally make your penis look bigger.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 January 2015):
 Oh dear, this is what you get when you snoop. I'd tell you words of confidence, but you should have known better, so you got what you asked for. Private conversations are NOT for you to read, for this very reason. Those words were not intended for you. You violated her trust, and if I were her Id have serious trouble trusting you again.
I don't believe you became insecure because of the text you read, you were insecure to begin with, or else you'd NEVER have snooped. You know damn well what you would find. What girl doesn't tell her boyfriend/the man she's in love with that she loves his package? She had the hots for him at that point, OF COURSE she'd be saying those things to him. What did you honestly expect?
Give yourself and her some time now, that's my best advice. Don't do anything stupid like withholding sex, and then you complain "looks like I will be going sexless again" when YOU are the one who wants to punish her by withholding sex because YOU have an insecurity issue. Grow up. You snooped, this is what you get, it's elementary. Now give her time to get over your betrayal (yes, snooping is betrayal), and give yourself time to work on your insecurity issues. Your issues come form YOURSELF, and are not caused by her. Your insecurity was there long before you met her, and long before you snooped. End the relationship if you want, you don't sound at all invested in it, but do not think it'll be better in your next relationship, because your insecurities will follow you wherever you go, and into every relationship you have. So my best advice is that you work on the issues you have, and solve them, rather than try to run away from them, because you can not outrun yourself.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 January 2015):
Dump her, you're exactly right. You well never feel adequate because let's face it; in her eyes you're not.
Everyone has a personal preference. She probably thinks a huge penis is more masculine, and that is her right, but it means you're not compatible.
Don't force your relationship. There are women out there who are much more suited to you.
Your penis size is fine for almost all women. And some women don't like huge penises. Nobody can make everybody happy.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (18 January 2015):
 All right OP, I'm going to tell you a couple of things here. First is a rule that I always follow in life myself, and that is, no one can ever make you feel inferior without your consent. Always remember this OP.
Don't allow yourself to feel bad because of some woman who doesn't appreciate you. She is NO ONE to rate or rank your penis size and if she's cheap enough to do that, she's not worth being with anyway.
Secondly, I don't think this woman has *any* feelings for you whatsoever because I have never seen someone so rudely and obnoxiously blunt with their partners. Sounds like she was with the other guy just for the sex and she's with you for the same reason and is belittling you just because she can and knows that it makes you feel terrible.
Dump her OP, dump her right now. Don't let her words affect you OP, you have the choice entirely. Pity her; she has no room for love in her life and is incapable of being someone who can ever give or receive love. Sex should be a part of a loving relationship and from the sounds of it, there's no "love" from her side whatsoever. She's just all about the sex and you can never sustain a relationship based on that.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 January 2015):
 You know a DECENT women may COMPARE sizes but she DOESN'T tell the guy she is with that he is smaller than the last BF.
I think your GF is with you as a rebound, and she is sort of treating you as one.
If all that matters to her is a big dick, then well, LET her go FIND one.
One thing though, when you said you wold "deny her your package" and she gave you a "not missing much" it was a TIT for your TAT. If you EXPECTED her to say, OH NO DON'T !!! you were sorely disappointed and you will CONTINUE to be so with her. YOU are the one who is making THIS about your dick. NOT her.
Those text to her ex, WERE not for you or your eyes. THEY weren't written to make you feel bad, they were writing to hopefully ENTICE this guy into STILL sleeping around with her.
I'm sorry to say, the issues you have with your SIZE... are YOUR issues. If she KEEPS bringing it up, not you, THEN WHY are you with her?
And honestly, if she turns you down sexually 80% of the time you either initiate like a BUNNY (constantly) or... she just isn't into sex. It's NOT about your penis.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (17 January 2015):
I'm not really sure what advice you are looking for but you are the only one making things an issue and making things worse. Your own self pity actually makes you worse in bed and this is not manly at all. You say she is rejecting you but you are the one pushing issues into your own head, looking for something to blame. It's not rocket science, sex is not about size of the penis.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 January 2015):
 In this case she, and your ex lovers were comparing you to their bigger exes. You have rotten luck with women. Some women do talk about big dicks to make a man feel insecure but it sounds like they did enjoy bigger dicks better. Or that she's not over her ex yet.
If you've been with your girlfriend more than 6 months, it means she was emotionally cheating on you with her ex. If no, you live together too quickly without getting to know each other well. By the way she's talking to you I don't think she loves you much. If a relationship is not based on love there is not much support when you don't feel so good. Especially if she rejects you 80% of the time. That's not an action of a woman in love, regardless of what dicks had been inside her.
You can definitely be happier than this. You have to get to know a woman inside and out before you live with them. A woman who feels a 6 inch is a disappointment should not be your girlfriend.
After your exes you probably feel like all women are like this, but I have to tell you I am surprised by your story because it is all centered around size. I would be annoyed to have a boyfriend always worrying about size and it would take me a while to understand where he came from. Maybe you need to look at where and how you meet your dates. Go for quiet, shy types who haven't been in a relationship in a long time.
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