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writes:I'm 25 years old and I'm still a male virgin. I've never even kissed a girl and I've never even been on a date. Since girls probably prefer a guy who knows what he's doing, how can I lose my virginity? Do I lie about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 February 2015):
 You got to start somewhere, correct?
To ASSume that all women wants a guy who knows what he is doing is right. However,a guy can have had sex with 50 women and STILL NOT know how to rock a woman's world. A guy can have sex once (or never) and do a great job.
A guy who can PAY attention, make sex fun, a shared GOOD experience - not a "let's get this OVER with" so I'm no longer a "virgin" experience, because NO woman wants to be some guys crash test dummy.
Sex doesn't come first though. FIRST comes finding a girl, ASKING out a girl, DATING a girl, GETTING to KNOW a girl, DEVELOP feeling for SAID girl, then if she feels the same way, sex MIGHT happen.
Unless you are more focused on the whole " MUST LOSE MY VIRGINITY" quest you are on. Then you find a girl who is "just" looking for sex and GET IT ON. Go buy some condoms (and LEARN how to put them ON RIGHT). There are plenty of hook up apps you could use.
Do you lie about it? No. Don't lie. But DO you HAVE to tell a girl *I'm a virgin*? Not really. I presume there is MORE to you then your sexual status? Just say, I don't kiss and tell.
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male
reader, CMMP +, writes (14 February 2015):
If you were 17 and a virgin you'd probably lie about it too, so what difference does a few years make?
Our, if she asks how many women you've slept with, just tell her you don't like talking about that kind of thing. I don't ask and don't answer it when asked because so many people lie about it that the number they tell you will probably be a lie.
More importantly stop being afraid to ask a woman out or you'll be a virgin for the rest of your life.
If you ask a woman and she says no it isn't a big deal. Maybe she has a type and you're not it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2015): There is a simple answer here. Just don't lie!
I lost my virginity later than most. It wasn't a religious choice or anything, I just didn't find anyone that I cared enough for to give it up. I never really told anyone although it wasn't a secret either. It wasn't a big deal. My only "must" was that my first time would be with someone I actually liked.
When it did happen for me it was with a man I really liked and cared for. He was willing to wait until I was ready and he never made me feel pressured. I married him.
Honestly, the old sayings are true. When you are with the right person you will know. Until then, your sexual experience is your business. Make a point of not discussing it with anyone other than your partner. The right woman will be honoured you waited for her.
Good luck.
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