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writes:I would like an honest opinion pleaseI don't find bras comfortable. Would i be judged by men or women if I was to be without a bra in publicI'm only small up top and I know it's my choice but even tho I'm small up top, to put it simply, my nipples are not smallWould I be judged in the wrong way because of this by either men or women?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2020): Oh gosh girl, if you are on a college campus, or even a townie in a college town, look around you at how my girls are going sans bra plus look at how many leggings you see with no panty lines beneath. Maybe half of those are thongs or true G strings, but a whole lot of the leggings that you see, are sans underwear altogether! I wear a B cup but stay braless unless at my parttime job or in church. I get nice attention from guys, but no shaming, ever! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2020): I don’t see that being a problem. Just don’t wear anything suggestive and most people won’t notice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2020): Please let me give you a Dads perspective, on your question. My daughter is a high school teacher. There is a dress code for teachers: nothing too short, nothing too tight, and nothing revealing: just common sense! In my 30yr old daughters off time, she enjoys the freedom of going without a bra. My daughter is happily married and her life is good, and she is a very popular teacher, with the students! That being said, when she goes to the mall, the supermarket, or to a fast food restaurant, she is being eyed up by many of the very students that she teaches at her high school. Students hang out in the mall, in the food court and other locations like the arcade and on furniture in the main corridors. Many students hold jobs at the grocery market, the mall and several fast foods. She thinks that it is just boys being boys, when they stare at her erect nipples thru a sundress, a tank top or a halter top, with no bra! I explained to her, that she is being viewed, judged, sized up, and being talked about sexually!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2020): Where I live I have not ever felt judged by anyone, for being braless. I attend a large university and am always sans bra, on campus. I could care less if I am a distraction in my classes! Guys have to take responsibility for trying to scope me out rather than pay attention in lectures! Also OP, there are some places to work, where you can work braless! I have worked summer jobs as a cocktail waitress being braless in a uniform white blouse: I had to wear black pantyhose too, and a black midthigh skirt as part of the uniform. I have worked as a bartender and a summer camp couselor also, neither of which required any bra. Guys just look, and smile. Other girls understand what a pain bras are. I have B cups and there is no sag to them, so I get noticed but not judged. Many fashion botiques have liberal dress codes too. Just skip the bra and be comfortable, because breasts and nipples are truly a very attractive part of the female body, and there is nothing dirty about not being confined. I hope that I helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2019): I am American and 23yrs old. My size is an A cup to a small B cup. I despise wearing a bra. I talked to my mom, dad, and younger brother, out of respect, to ask them if it would offend anyone if I go braless, when I visit my parents home. They assure me that I should be comfy in my former home. I also have large nipples, and when I was at uni, I realized that I would be a huge distraction in labs and lectures. For that reason, I always wore a nude sports bra, or nude pasties underneath, to hide my nipples! Other than classes, internships, church, and now in the workplace, or events like weddings etc, I went/go braless! Regarding at work I must dress up daily, with skirt, suit jacket/blazer, pantyhose, heels and I use nude pasties daily, in case I remove my suit jacket! I also have spoken to my husband, about my attire, and he is very supportive of my every choice! Just be mindful, that you will be judged for going braless at work, and in certain institutions ie church, in court, at a wedding or a funeral.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (26 December 2019):
 you can by flesh coloured nipple covers, buy them and be free :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 December 2019):
 I dont know about the USA, but in Norway it would be considered unprofessional if nipples are shown at work. Meaning you can go without a bra, but your nipples should not be visible through your clothing. What you do in private and not at work is up to you and no one would care.
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reader, N91  +, writes (25 December 2019):
 In all honesty, who cares?
It’s your life and you can do whatever you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2019): OP, I think that you are a nice kind young lady. I believe that you are a young woman, with self respect, and who wants to be respectful of those around her. My wife too, has large prominent nipples. It can be 88 deg, and my lady appears to have just stepped out of a walk in freeze. No kidding. She is just an A cup, and never wears a conventional bra. Depending on where she is at, or where she is going, guides her choices. To work, she opts for a decent quality sports bra. At home, no bra, unless guests are coming, then a camisole underneath. When she goes to the mall or the grocery store, again she uses a sports bra, and when she and I go to dinner or on date night, nothing under her blouse, even a white blouse. The fact is, some boys are punks, some young dudes are players, and some old men are letcherous perverts. Do not be forced to dress uncomfortably, just for them! Sharpen your wit, and if anyone comments, respond in kind, pointing out his pimply face, buck teeth, bad breath etc. Best wishes OP! Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2019): Like others have said, visible nipples draw attention. Even on guys! My nipples tend to point through my tee-shirt; and even I have to remind people that my eyes are up here! I'm being facetious; but it still makes me a little self-conscious. I wear thicker tees or just let 'em show; but for the sake of elderly ladies and kids, try to be more respectful. On the beach...let nature take its course, I'm a guy!
Let comfort and self-respect be your guide. You can buy heavy cotton tees to go under shirts for men and women.
Sometimes you have to spend a little extra for a good comfortable bra with straps that don't dig and cups that hold without discomfort. They're smooth and soft; and look like you're wearing nothing! My lady-friends seem to love them.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (24 December 2019):
 Everyone gets judged for various reasons. It’s a ridiculous and frustrating fact of life. Men’s nipples can show through clothes with no concern, so it’s a sexist double standard for women to be judged for the same - though that’s how many societies work.
Perhaps try bralettes or sports bras, but if you don’t want to, you’ll just have to dive in at the deep end and go braless.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (24 December 2019):
Well being totally honest with you if your nipples are visible guys will definitely notice and they may give you some uncomfortably long looks.
Regarding the whole judgment aspect, if you know in your heart you're not doing anything wrong then you have to learn to be comfortable doing what you're doing, because as pointed out people can be judgmental for good or bad.
a lot of it depends on where you live, some places are more conservative than others in regards to dress. If you live in Miami it's probably no big deal, if you live in rural Texas then maybe it's an issue.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (24 December 2019):
 The fact that you need to ask this question shows that you are not comfortable with the thought of going bra-less, otherwise you would just do it and be damned with what people think.
There are so many different types of bras available that I find it difficult to believe you cannot find one in which you are comfortable. What about a sports bra? They are ultra comfortable usually.
There will always be people who will judge you for any number of reasons. Human beings can be very judgmental. If you feel uncomfortable with being judged, then you need to conform. If you don't want to conform, then you have to rise above being judged. Your choice. Try one and, if you don't like it, go with the other. Nothing is irreversible.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (24 December 2019):
I have noticed in American there is this "thing" about modesty for women that has such a double standard, not wearing a bra is one of them. The whole notion of a "training-bra" is SO American. To put bras on girls who barely have begun to develop breasts. So they can get used to covering up. All the while having their bums sticking out of short shorts or skirts.
However, some people will "judge" you, especially your peers (kids in high school- college).
There are a TON of cute, and comfortable bralets and sports bras out there) in case you don't want the traditional bra on but also don't want comments.
Growing up I rarely wore bras until I was in my late teens (and then mostly for work) - we wore white t-shirts at the bakery I worked at. And same for college, I worked at a night club) But that was Denmark and people weren't so fast to notice and comment on MY clothing choices.
Sports bra's/bralets is the answer. If you feel you have to wear something under your tops.
I have 3 teenage daughters. My youngest at 15 sticks to bralets - there is no real support in them and she doesn't need support in her chest area as she is on the smaller side, but they are cute (not that anyone but her can see them, but there you go). My middle one at 17 like all bras as long as they aren't the underwire ones, mostly again for the look. And my oldest uses mostly sports bras as she does need the support and she finds them WAY more comfortable than regular bras.
So as you can see, it comes down to COMFORT for my daughters. NOT so much modesty.
Talk to your mom. Another reason your find bras so uncomfortable might be the fit. Or if you use bras with underwire or push up types.
If you really don't WANT to wear a bra, I don't see why you should HAVE to wear one.
You will find that people will "judge" you REGARDLESS, so DO you. Just use common sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2019): I don't know if you will be judged by women but I can speak for men and say we will only be happy to look at them. joking of course. But seriously if that is acceptable in your culture and society then go ahead. why not.Merry Xmas.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 December 2019):
 But how and why people would see your nipples ?
Unless you wear something see-through, or incredibly clingy and form - fitting ,or terminally low-cut. Some "Lady Gaga at Oscar night " kind of attire.
Otherwise, if you are small up top and you wear no bra with normal shirts , sweaters and dresses , your breast won't attract any particular attention, and least of all your nipples which won't ever be visible.
Except perhaps if , say, you are wearing a very lightweight summer thing and all of a sudden there's a gust of cold wind and your nipples poke out, but, hey, that's nature, that's how a human body works, it's not your way to strut off your pointy nipples- so, unless you are surrounded by a bunch of lecherous perverts, you should not worry.
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reader, Paraps +, writes (24 December 2019):
Paraps is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2019): I mean, sure, by some people. But some people will judge you for any number of things you have no control over so why not be comfortable and worry about your perception of yourself instead of their perception of you! And if anyone says anything you should ask them why they're so obsessed with your breasts because it's creepy.
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