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Is this relationship I have with a 31 year old man wrong?
Q. I'm 16 and I've really only been attracted to older men (mostly teachers and other figures of relative authority, etc. I don't appreciate guys my age cause they're all terribly immature) and I love a guy who's 31 - that's 15 years older than me. I ...
A. 3 June 2010: Have you ever heard the old saying:" Err on the side of caution"? It means if you're uncertain, go ahead make the mistake, but do so so the error is due to being cautious, saving you from making the worst mistake. You're a smart girl, think about ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship I have with a 31 year old man wrong?
Q. I'm 16 and I've really only been attracted to older men (mostly teachers and other figures of relative authority, etc. I don't appreciate guys my age cause they're all terribly immature) and I love a guy who's 31 - that's 15 years older than me. I ...
A. 3 June 2010: Hell yeah! Cindy!... (read in full...)
Is this relationship I have with a 31 year old man wrong?
Q. I'm 16 and I've really only been attracted to older men (mostly teachers and other figures of relative authority, etc. I don't appreciate guys my age cause they're all terribly immature) and I love a guy who's 31 - that's 15 years older than me. I ...
A. 3 June 2010: Agreed, Vintage. But it's certainly very hard to stand by and hope the too-predictable-outcome by-passes her.... (read in full...)
Is this relationship I have with a 31 year old man wrong?
Q. I'm 16 and I've really only been attracted to older men (mostly teachers and other figures of relative authority, etc. I don't appreciate guys my age cause they're all terribly immature) and I love a guy who's 31 - that's 15 years older than me. I ...
A. 3 June 2010: Just remember, sweetie, we tried to tell you....... (read in full...)
Boyfriend, drugs and pornography
Q. I found out that my boyfriend has been lieing to me for maybe the duration of our three year relationship about porn, i foud some on his computer. since then he has been treating me diffrently and i even foud out he has been snorting legal coke from ...
A. 17 May 2010: SMART GIRL!! Best of luck in the next round! There's plenty of good guys out there, it just takes a little while to find 'em. Hang in there!... (read in full...)
Wife doesn't satisfy me sexually like past loves...
Q. my former girlfriend was raw with me in bed,she made me feel that no other woman can give me hot sex,now am married and cant find such satisfaction in my wife,yet i love her,what do i do?...
A. 14 May 2010: I'm sorry really I am but DITTO to what Vintage and q165 said!... (read in full...)
Is this relationship I have with a 31 year old man wrong?
Q. I'm 16 and I've really only been attracted to older men (mostly teachers and other figures of relative authority, etc. I don't appreciate guys my age cause they're all terribly immature) and I love a guy who's 31 - that's 15 years older than me. I ...
A. 14 May 2010: I must admit that I'm impressed with your obviously higher than usual level of mentality. At 16, you're remarkably thoughtful. I applaud that; with that said, I hope to soften the following from stinging too much. There are a few static and ... (read in full...)
My wife sent naked pictures to my dad!
Q. I surprisley come to know by viewing my father's mob.images taken and given by my wife's totally nude and having sex pic. and shoked very much in my life. i was in dream of our healthy and whelthy family having father-mother with two chil...
A. 14 May 2010: Oh my gosh! ok, I get it now..it's far beyond just pix! Your wife and elderly father, no wonder you're disturbed. You're right, THAT IS shameful and they made a tape/pix, too?? Were I you, I'd most certainly confront your wife and require an ... (read in full...)
I'm living in a fake happiness! I'm depressed and I cant get over him, help!
Q. I need help getting myself out the biggest mess/fantasy world of my life! Im truely in love with a friend of mine and i cant snap out of it. Im lost without him, the thought of him being with anyone else tares me apart. I can't be happy anymore, i ...
A. 14 May 2010: First, no one MAKES you who you are but you. You can allow someone to influence you, but no one makes you you, but you. Sounds to me like you're suffering a case of full blown depression. Or an intense bout of post traumatic stress. Your ind... (read in full...)
My wife sent naked pictures to my dad!
Q. I surprisley come to know by viewing my father's mob.images taken and given by my wife's totally nude and having sex pic. and shoked very much in my life. i was in dream of our healthy and whelthy family having father-mother with two chil...
A. 14 May 2010: First, I think we have a language barrier issue, here. I am fluent in five languages other than English and I'm fairly certain what you're trying to convey here is that your wife has been sending nude pix of herself to your father via mobile ... (read in full...)
Worried that my fixation on him will ruin our friendship!
Q. I have come to University and in my first year. I have met this person (male) and I feel we get along very well. But over the last 3-4 months (ive known him for 6 months) I constantly worry about him, what he is doing and always want to be around ...
A. 14 May 2010: I confess that I'm wholly unqualified to dispense advice in gay or bi relationships. But honestly, this sounds like good ol' fashioned infatuation to me. I suspect that as long as you conduct yourself as a genuine friend and not a deranged, ... (read in full...)
It seems he wants this girl who he knows is engaged, but everyone was sure he liked me!
Q. Hi im really confused. The guy i like is generally a bit shy round me. Well when i say shy, people have said he is. We dont talk much however sometimes he will just talk to me normally othertimes he wont. For example if we go out with friends he ...
A. 12 May 2010: Honestly, this sounds like one big mess. There are FAR too many she's, he's, and whomever else's involved here. Get outta the weeds, sweetie. Just you and him one-on-one and THEN figure out who's doing what to whom. Until you clean up the mess, ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I love him, sometimes I don't. What doe this mean?
Q. My boyfriend and I live in different places but are able to spend some time together - more than weekends. Our jobs keep us apart but we have long holiday breaks. When we're together I really love him. I feel like I want to be with him forever....
A. 12 May 2010: Um, what affection? You're addicted to his affection but have listed over and over, here that there is none.
I'm afraid, my dear, that you don't love this guy at all. You're systematically and temporarily infatuated with him, I'd say. Perhaps ... (read in full...)
It took me about a year to see how really lazy my husband is! Is it worth saving?
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. I have tried several times and several ways to get my husband to understand that he needs to do more than just exist. I started by having a talk with him about how unhappy I was with how things were with us. He...
A. 7 May 2010: I had one of these. I got rid of it. Best $1500 I ever spent.
I think these types are raised or just allowed to be this way. I don't believe you can threaten, prod, induce, or coerce them to change into a better, more productive person. I think ... (read in full...)
Am I gross? OR was the guy just not nice?
Q. Hi, I recently hooked up with a guy and whilst we were in bed fooling around he took off my pants, then he stopped and was like ew, so I asked what's the problem and he told me "your vagina is gross". I've had my confidence knocked by it my...
A. 7 May 2010: We have a name for guys like this and it's not fit to put into print here.
I'm impressed that you're advanced enough to know and properly use biologic terms! I think it's just your own genetic individuality, sweetie. Like different nose sizes, eye ... (read in full...)
Do I forget about my fantasy of my wife having sex with another man?
Q. i have been married 3years, and from past 2years i m having a strange fantasy of watching my wife having sex with other man. my wife has sometimes flirted with other man in-front of me to support this idea.... but this growing with time. i love her, ...
A. 7 May 2010: Ahh, the Indecent Proposal type thing. The fact that you're questioning your own sanity says you're probably still as sane as the rest of us. Do you need help? Maybe. Is this consuming your life, impacting it on a daily basis? Are you not going ... (read in full...)
Mother accusing me of having sex! Should I just have it since she thinks I am anyways?
Q. Well I'm 15 years old and my mother continues to accuse me of having sex. She is really paranoid because she had me at such a young age. The more she accuses me, the more I feel like I should just do it because she thinks I'm doing it. I really just ...
A. 7 May 2010: This is easy: DO THE RIGHT THING BECAUSE IT IS THE RIGHT THING and you can't go wrong. It's a bad idea and completely the wrong motivation to have sex just because it seems to be expected of you by your mother's worry or concern or by a high ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if he wants to commit?
Q. I am in a relationship...he says he loves me...he says he wants me...but i dont see he wants to commit him self...how can i find out if he really wants me ?...
A. 7 May 2010: I'd just straight up ask him. So where do you intend to take this? He said he wants you, right? Do you mean you want to know if there's more to that, like permanently? ... (read in full...)
Can ex's really be friends?
Q. I cut all contact when my ex boyfriend broke up with me for reasons only known to him, but he asked me when I was ready to contact him because above all our friendship was the most important thing to him. I feel ready to talk to him again, I mis...
A. 7 May 2010: I've heard this can be done, but personally, I believe it to be a very illadvised pursuit. If you took issue with his behavior as his GF, note that you're now taking issue, the same way over the same issue(s). So what's different, now? I'd work ... (read in full...)
Six months ago she said she would wait for me, so how come she hung up?
Q. Hey everyone..I know this is a bit long..but plz read the WHOLE THING and help me out with this mess tht im in..:( Its been almost 6 months since i broke up with my gf!(she was my first and i wanted her to be my last too)we were together for 2 ye...
A. 7 May 2010: I think if you do yourself the favor of ridding yourself of this girl, you'll remove yourself from the precipice of insanity and you'll find you mind, again. This girl is ABUSIVE and you're a willing victim! She knows you'll take whatever she ... (read in full...)
His ex's texts are making it hard for me to trust him
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and have been at university since September last year. I started going out with a boy I met here in October, the whole thing has been so intense from the start and now he practically lives with me. I have serious trust issues with him ...
A. 6 May 2010: It's comin' straight atcha, girl! There's one, highly predictable next step in the making and from what you say, you already know what that is. I think I'd put it all out there. Tell him you've read the texting on the wall, so to speak and ... (read in full...)
Is she just manipulating me playing with my emotions
Q. Please anyone I need help. When the girl who says I think I love u tell her friends that she doesn't knw what I am 2 her, a 6oyfriend or friend. What does this mean. We hung out all the time. We have a healthy sex life. Now she tells me she doesn't ...
A. 6 May 2010: Maybe I do. Maybe I don't. Perhaps you'll be better off deciding for her. Doesn't seem to bode well. Indecision like this is usually a good, strong indicator that there exists some profound instability. If you like instability and being left ... (read in full...)
First date--I have the ability to make people feel awkward! HELP!
Q. Ok, so I asked this girl out to a movie with a group of friends about two weeks ago. I'm not normally so balsy (asking someone out who you don't know at all is pretty weird at my school) but I'm really attracted to this girl so I just went for it. ...
A. 6 May 2010: In a word? RELAX. Just relax and keep it that way. I'm betting your super power is good ol' fashioned anxiety. Anxiety is extremely contagious, so if you're getting wound up tight, others can pick up on it and that generally makes them anxious and ... (read in full...)
Why he's acting hot and cold with me?
Q. Hi, I'm 35 and my coworker has been trying to get my attention for a couple of months. Lately things have progressed and we spent the afternoon together. He told me how happy he was spending time with me and how he wanted to get me flowers or a ...
A. 6 May 2010: Is there a married person in this equation somewhere?... (read in full...)
Meeting the grandparents and making a good impression
Q. i have met my boyfriends parents and apparently they like me. i have been going out with him for six months and now he wants me to meet his grandparents, i need to make a good impression on them too. how can i do this? ...
A. 6 May 2010: Be YOU, but the good YOU. Nicely dressed. Well groomed. Polite and well-mannered. Odds are good that the g-parents are considerably older and probably much more conservative than you. I'd avoid the skater-rock-chick look. Skip the bizarre nose ... (read in full...)
New to sex and needing advise
Q. heyhey My question is about sex really. Me and my bf are both each others firsts when it comes to sex and we dont fully know what we're doing yet. So i was just wondering how to make him cum (sorry if that seems vulgar)when we are actually having ...
A. 6 May 2010: No, It's not wrong or weird. It's FACT and it's the "nature of the beast" You're dealing with classic inexperience, as you seem to already know. Of course, the foreplay aspect gives you more pleasure than that act of intercourse, there are many ... (read in full...)
He always makes me cry but I love him
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 16 year old girl and i love my boyfriend very much. We have been going out for almost 11 months and i can say that he hurt me several times intensionally. But sometimes it's my fault. So i really do not know what to do because ...
A. 6 May 2010: Ok, let us review: " he hurts me intentionally"??But sometimes it's your fault?? RED FLAGS, SIRENS, WARNING SIGNS ARE EVERYWHERE, little sister! Hurt? Depressed? Cry? This is ABUSE, this IS NOT LOVE!!! And we DO NOT emotionally black mail ANYONE, ... (read in full...)
My friend says if I don't tell her he will!
Q. Im a Boy and i have been with my girlfriend for a year now, we also now have a baby on the way too. we are moving in together soon and starting up a proper life together. i love her, i always have since i laid eyes on her, but i have had gay sex ...
A. 6 May 2010: Is this about you debating your sexuality or that you're a cheater?
Your "friend" is not a friend if he resorts to threatening you with matters that are none of his business to tell anyone. This smells alot like blackmail, my friend. What's this... (read in full...)
Tips on making her feel not so lonely.
Q. Hi. I need some good advice. My wife has told me she is lonely when she is home alone. She doesnt have much family here. Just one sister. I make good money, we have a nice home, two good cars, big screen tv, the works. But my job is always chan...
A. 5 May 2010: Cerebus is right on the money, I'd say! Perhaps the lonely thing is due to hormones?... (read in full...)
If I get pregnant, will he get into trouble?
Q. Hi there. I am 16 years and my boyfriend is 25.We have been dating for almost 2 years. If he makes me pregnant and i then go stay with him and his family, will he get into any kind of trouble?? ...
A. 5 May 2010: So you were like 14 and having sex with a then, 23 yro? I would think this is dependent upon your country's laws. In the USA, that's statutory rape! And yes, he'd get into lots of trouble if you were my daughter! But I don't know the laws in your ... (read in full...)
Having a hard time forgiving myself
Q. I recently had a foursome with a woman and two men that I am not in a relationship with. However, I am in a relationship with another man whom I love very dearly. I am 20, and have always been happiest in relationships, as I've only been single ...
A. 4 May 2010: To be perfectly honest I'm wholly under qualified to offer advice on Gay male relationships, but since this is about you and not that, specifically, here ya go: I believe the key to any forgiveness id UNDERSTANDING. Why did you do what you did? ... (read in full...)
Mom found out I was having sex and now I can't go to the prom!
Q. So my mom found out that my boyfriend of 5 months and I were having sex, and she asked me if I had sex with him prior to her find out and I told her no. When she found out she was upset and broke my boyfriend and I up, she claims she's mad that I ...
A. 4 May 2010: Ok, honey..there's seeking advice and then there's anybody got any ideas on how to manipulate thing to go my way. The first one, I'll give you my my best shot, the second? No dice, doll. Your mother has apparently set some ground rules that ... (read in full...)
I want to give him my virginity but there's a problem..he already has a gf!
Q. im 19 and i found a guy that i want to lose my virginity to. We have been together for a month and i feel 110% ready. The problem is that he has a girlfriend on the side....
A. 4 May 2010: Whoa..hang on. A G/f "on the side"? Wrong-o...what does that even mean? "on the side"? So who's NOT on the side? You? Does the G/f know she's on the side? Are you so certain that it's not YOU who is on the side? And if you've been together for ... (read in full...)
Dating an ex of a friend..is it too weird?
Q. Ok so basically i have this friend who used to go out with my high school best friend around fours years ago. He has basically kiss the group of female friends and slept with one and for the past year he has been coming over (as friends in the ...
A. 4 May 2010: Best idea? Leave it alone. This guy has circulated himself in one form or another among a group of girls who are "friends"? Tacky, Tacky. Do you think that'll magically change if you keep hooking up with him? Sounds like at least one of your ... (read in full...)
Before she wanted to get married, now she says "leave it to the future!"
Q. i have a affair with my gf from last 14months. we both luv eachother had enjoyed life also had sex.i trust her n she too. but from the last two months her behavior has changed.before that we talk on phone mostly for 10-15 minutes. she calls me ...
A. 4 May 2010: I suggest you wise up fast, my friend. This is classic USER. Now she wants money? According to today's exchange rates 300 rupees = 6.75 USD. To me that'd be the same as someone bumming a pack of smokes, presumptuous but no big deal. To you, I know ... (read in full...)
Wanting to watch the girl I love have sex with another man, since I can't.
Q. I met this girl online that I really liked and we fell for each other and it is all completely amazing, we are pretty both always searching for a way to talk to each other and I am soon gonna move to where she lives so we can be together. But ...
A. 4 May 2010: This is one of those things that's actually more fun to talk about than actually do. Rather than putting the cart before the horse, why not move wherever you're moving to, establish a solid relationship with the love of your life (have you ever ... (read in full...)
Why do I not love my wife for who she is?
Q. why do i not love my wife for who she is. i ask her to change the this that bother me but she dose'nt...
A. 4 May 2010: So if you don't love her for who she is, May I ask why on earth you married her? What does she need to change and why?... (read in full...)
Crush on my sister's ex-boyfriend
Q. Okay, so in summer of 2009 I told my sisters ex boyfriend that I liked him. Well he didn't think of me the same way but thought it was cute. Then they got back together and I think I still have a "crush" on him. Help on what to do? And please don't ...
A. 4 May 2010: First: yes, STOP. You don't seek advice and then set conditions for that advice because all you're asking is for people to give you ideas on how to accomplish or acquire what might not be in your best interest. Some of us have had experience in ... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid about people using me! How can I get over this?
Q. I,m very anti-social. and I dont like goin out to pubs or drinking. It all started when i started secondary school i was bullied coz of my weight and My glasses. I was even used as a prank by I boy. He said he fancied me and stupidly I believed him ...
A. 4 May 2010: I suggest you seek some counselling from a professional in this. Garden-variety, public advice isn't going to help you through your issues. Understand that children are cruel to each other and you were subject to that. The best thing you can do to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend, drugs and pornography
Q. I found out that my boyfriend has been lieing to me for maybe the duration of our three year relationship about porn, i foud some on his computer. since then he has been treating me diffrently and i even foud out he has been snorting legal coke from ...
A. 3 May 2010: The porn thing, again. I swear porn has caused many more problems than it's aggregate worth as an industry.
Sweetie, Cerberus, the three-headed dog dude here has a valid point. Guys have a visual fixation when it comes to sex and porn feeds that... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't let me give her oral sex and leaves her pubic hair ungroomed, I like it shaved. Any ideas?
Q. I've been married now for over five years. My wife and I have a great sexual relationship with some of the best sex I have every had. There are two things that I'm having trouble speaking to her about. My wife leaves her pubic hair ungroomed. ...
A. 3 May 2010: When in doubt, spit it out! Just ask her to neaten things up, it's not as if you're asking for a complete Brazil wax! Just say it, but nicely. "Hey, honey, I'd like to ask you to do something for me without hurting your feelings, k?..I'd really ... (read in full...)
I'm confused and my sexuality and dating!
Q. I'm really confused, I liked this guy who had a girlfriend, then we kissed at the cinema, but when he wanted to again I said no because of his girlfriend. The following week I went round his house and we kissed multiple times and he was telling me ...
A. 3 May 2010: Ok here's what you do:
A) back away from snogging with cinema guy
B)Why are you still hung up on the ex-Bf? Have you figured that out, yet?
C)Just because you dream about something doesn't mean it's destined for reality, little sister.
Sou... (read in full...)
How do I explain to a woman that I don't want to have kids?
Q. I had a vasectomy years ago, and to be honest, I'm quite happy with the decision. I definetely don't want to have kids EVER. But how do I explain this to a woman if I ever find one. Will she hate me? Will she immediately leave? How should I...
A. 3 May 2010: I'm the female aspect of this. I never wanted children. EVER. I've always been upfront, honest and to the point about that fact. I say be honest and straight up about it. Whatever her reaction, you won't be held responsible for misleading her or ... (read in full...)
Happily married but also in love with my possible half brother!
Q. I have been happily married for nearly six years and have two wonderful children (one from a previous relationship; and one with my husband). A couple of months ago, I made friends with a young couple through friends and over time I fell in love ...
A. 3 May 2010: Umm..ok..wow. I'm afraid I have to echo Midge, there. Girl, you seriously need to get your head and your ass wired together. How selfish can you be? A back up plan? Do you have a back up plan for your kids, too? Because if you're already ... (read in full...)
What do you think about age difference relationships?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm going to try and make this question as short as possible. I work with a lad [I'm a student with a part time job] and have started to develop feelings for him. We have been texting a lot recently, usually just before bed. In t...
A. 3 May 2010: He's 17, you're 19, no big deal, I think. Unless either of you find that his lack of age interfering with "of age" activities. It's not as if we're talking about a 10 or 20 year gap. Any younger than 17 and I'd wonder about your motives. At 19 ... (read in full...)
Problems from the pill?
Q. Hi aunts, Bit of a medical question here, and before I just get a string of comments telling me to go to the doctor, I already have, I'm just interested if anybody has had any similar experiences. Basically I had UTI (urinary tract infection), most...
A. 3 May 2010: Not a doc, here but I have daily contact with medical personnel of all specialties. I've heard that antibiotics can and do cause vaginal yeast infections, often just upsetting the PH balance of the vagina can cause this. A UTI can be fatal if left ... (read in full...)
Before she wanted to get married, now she says "leave it to the future!"
Q. i have a affair with my gf from last 14months. we both luv eachother had enjoyed life also had sex.i trust her n she too. but from the last two months her behavior has changed.before that we talk on phone mostly for 10-15 minutes. she calls me ...
A. 3 May 2010: WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IS: WAKE UP AND SMELL WHAT THE G/F IS COOKIN', dude! Decreased call volume? No plans for the future? She stopped calling you? The writing is on the wall, my friend, I encourage you to read it and believe it. It sounds pretty ... (read in full...)
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