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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I'm 35 and my coworker has been trying to get my attention for a couple of months. Lately things have progressed and we spent the afternoon together. He told me how happy he was spending time with me and how he wanted to get me flowers or a card but didn't know if that was appropriate. He's been texting me the last few days and I saw him today and he didn't smile or anything and acted very distant. I haven't really flirted with him but have been very friendly so I don't understand why he is acting hot and cold with me. Any reasons you can think of?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): I would say he is feeling embarassed about it, or he has achieved what he wanted to do, personally if it were me in your shoes, a 'thankyou' gift would leave me feeling bought.
You say you have not flirted with him, so how did this progress to a physical level? Did he just ask you and you said okay then?
He may ask to see you again, but it sounds like it will probably be the same again, an odd afternoon.
Is he married, in a relationship? Are you?
Take it for what it was and leave it at that, if he really has feelings for you he will commit.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Is there a married person in this equation somewhere?
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reader, hpoco  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Maybe he is having an equally difficult time interpreting your signals, and his hot/cold reaction is just confusion. If you like him, you should let him know, and then see how he responds. If you haven't really flirted or returned his feelings in any way, then you have to expect that at some point, his hot will go cold!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): I'm not one for agreeing with dating a coworker it can become weird if things don't work out in my opinion. If he's hot and cold and your interested in him maybe ask to see him again if he's reluctant or aloof then maybe step back and see what transpires
Good luck
;D
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