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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): One month is too soon for sex let alone giving virginity too.
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reader, Sakuchanz  +, writes (5 May 2010):
Absolutely not! Don't let your sexual urges get a hold of your judgment. You've only been together for a month which is NOT enough time to even consider giving something so precious. I agree with silly2169 its a mistake if you have to ask others for advice.
Also consider that this guy has another girlfriend. If he's stringing you both along then he isn't right to take anyone's virginity let alone be considered your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): As a girl who wishes she could take her virginity back let me tell you, if it looks like a mistake and feels like a mistake then it probably is a mistake. You already know it looks like a mistake or you wouldn't be asking what others think. Trust yourself! You might be 110% ready, but he is not! He does not value you or your virginity if he has someone else. I agree with Cindycares if you do this you'll be the girlfirend on the side. A month may feel like a long time now but by nineteen you should know that is not long in sexual relationship terms.
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reader, amenthyst3356 +, writes (4 May 2010):
What exactly do you mean on the side? Are you two just really good friends and can talk about everything?
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reader, raiders +, writes (4 May 2010):
 You saved your virginity for a while I mean your 18 most gals loose it when they are 16. You are willing to give it to a dude that you have know for just 1 month and that has a girlfriend. You have to think things through and if you still decide to do it, I just hope you don't regret your decision and expect this guy to give up his gal for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): hun, no. if he has a girlfriend on the side, he's not worth it. there are more guys out there. be smart. keep your innocence for the right guy
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Give him your virginity and in no time you will be his girlfriend on the side.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Whoa..hang on. A G/f "on the side"? Wrong-o...what does that even mean? "on the side"? So who's NOT on the side? You? Does the G/f know she's on the side? Are you so certain that it's not YOU who is on the side? And if you've been together for a month why are you tolerating an on the side in the first place? Why on earth would you even consider giving yourself to someone like this? Don't you feel you're worthy of a man all to yourself? So what's your question/reason for seeking advice? You haven't stated that. Don't offer up freely what this "on the side" type of chump will willingly take from you without so much as a look back.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Giving someone your virginity should be something cherished between you two and ONLY you two. Giving your virginity to someone who has a GF is like giving money to a compulsive gambler. He won't appreciate it, and you will regret it.
For you not to deeply and sorely regret it, he needs to not have a girlfriend and be in love with only you. Otherwise, he will not respect you at all and even more, is he the type of person who could handle the risks of sex such as pregnancy or STD?
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reader, TimmD +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Let me repeat that back to you:
You want to give your virginity to a guy who admits to having a girlfriend on the side?
Do you value your virginity? Does he have any plans to break up with this other girl?
I'd think long and hard before doing this if I were you.
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