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Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 3 June 2010: True, valid point,q. But what if John goes all fruit loop-like and takes a flyin' leap off the nearest bridge, convinced he failed to satisfy his wife and look what her drove her to do? What then? Presto: compounded evil.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: NO! Really? She's leaving John? I missed that altogether somehow. Oh man. now see what you've gone and done?... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: excepting, of course, the righteous indignation of fem. anon., that is.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: OP: though we've tangeted off into the weeds here abit in effort to interject a bit of levity into the grimness this has become, I want you to know, that my song remains the same: spare John this atrocity. Confess to an outside, disinterested party ... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: I'd say that description is quite accurate, q. Amarillo looks like one humungous truck stop, but it was ok.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: I was completely unimpressed with Brownville. Baytown was downright frightening.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: OMG! Look! fem. anon has posted! Amazing news, sports fans: Dan is the devil himself!... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: Been there, done that and before you even think it, q, Bunny did NOT do Dallas, either! No, it was somewhere going towards Brownsville, I think.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: OMG..chimichangas...YUM...there was a place in Texas I was at......small town, really, there were tumbleweeds rolling across the road and even a roadrunner..the whole thing was surreal..but I digress as I am wont to do, why are we talking about ... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: I'm defending the OP-Obliterated Poster- because she's served her time in Purgatory. It is ultimately her prerogative on how to proceed. There's not much else that can be done for her. I think we've covered it all.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: Very nice, raiders, Splendidly done. Well-executed spin, there.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: This thread has taken on a life of it's own, I fear.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: 80 what? old buzzard... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: Excellent return fire, raiders, but that is not my aim here. It is only that I believe the OP to be beaten to death now.
True, I am arrogant but you say that like it's a bad thing. It's not arrogance if you can back it up.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: dig·ni·ty (dgn-t)
n. pl. dig·ni·ties
1. The quality or state of being worthy of esteem or respect.
2. Inherent nobility and worth: the dignity of honest labor.
3.
a. Poise and self-respect.
b. Stateliness and formality in manner and appearance... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: Honestly, I was musing to myself over the possibility that I might next begin regurgitating liberal talking points on "the human condition" and other nonsense. It was a frightening moment, lemme tell ya.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: Me? *I* say (and this is me, personally) You see this .12 guage loaded with double aught buck shot? Start running. both of you.--DISCLAIMER: this is me personally I am not recommending this course of action to anyone, I am notorious for my ... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: I'm no believer in the "biological clock" thing, personally having no use for it. However, window treatments ARE an important part of life.
Neither do I believe in anyone being dragged helplessly into love with anyone against their will and good... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: Oh, q-you old buzzard, you're baiting me! I don't know if I shall manage to successfully resis, but rest assured, I'm trying...trying...argh! the temptation!... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: Oh, q-you old buzzard, you're baiting me! I don't know if I shall manage to successfully resist taking the bait, but rest assured, I'm trying...trying...argh! the temptation!... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 2 June 2010: Daaamn! Now THAT is a rant if I ever I saw one! Fem. anon: I hope that was therapeutic for you since it comes across as a quasi-therapy spew. Which is not to say that I disagree with your bullet points. Just an observation. Notwithstanding, there ... (read in full...)
Getting married in a few months but can't get my ex and the sex we had out of my head.
Q. Loved sex with ex girlfriend but am getting married in a few months. Have seen ex gf who I was suppose to marry. When I have seen her I think of the best sex I have had. Love future wife and sex just not match in terms of orgasmic frequen...
A. 1 June 2010: I'm down with Griffo. EXACTLY what he said.... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 1 June 2010: Oh c'mon, raiders. *I'm* the one with the it's -all-black-and white one end of the spectrum or another disposition. She can have true remorse without disemboweling her husband! This is a tough one which is why I say mitigating circumstance worthy ... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 1 June 2010: Normally, yes, but I earnestly believe the poor guy doesn't deserve being saddled with such heinous news of events....usually I'm the first one in line to insist upon full disclosure at all costs, but in the OP's case, I believe there may be ... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 1 June 2010: Never one to disappoint, q has wrapped this up nicely for us: the OP did it, she knows, she sees it, and while q has no further belief that the OP will learn from her misdeeds, we may all happily move on and be assured that the rest of us with a ... (read in full...)
I can a woman physically cum over a male???
Q. I was giving my boyfriend a handjob the other day and he was talking saying dirty type things and he goes: 'mmm i want you to cum on me.' what does that mean ? do women 'come'/'cum' like men do ? i've masturbated for ages and when i orgasm or be...
A. 1 June 2010: I believe there are isolated exceptions among women who actually do produce something of this effect-meaning actual, naturally-produced lubricant in excess-I had a friend who would claim she would dehydrate herself in this manner. I suspect your b/f ... (read in full...)
Dating my son-in-law's mother
Q. Hello. I would like to ask a question. I am divorced for some 5 years now. My oldest daughter is married and has a wonderful husband and two beautiful daughters. Her husband's mother is also divorced for now over 2 years. We have been chating and ...
A. 1 June 2010: You sound like a thoughtful and considerate man, taking into account that you may make your daughter uncomfortable, for this I applaud you.
If this is your SIL's mother, what's the difference?
It's not as though she's your blood-relati... (read in full...)
It seems like I'm going to lose her... what do I do?
Q. Hey,Guys, I have some problems with one of my friends, And i need you help. This is the thing,one of my friend's a girl, who has been my friend since high school, is going to celebrate her birthday, and asked me if i can give her a prese...
A. 1 June 2010: As is often said: "the road to hell is paved with good intentions" It sounds as though you *meant* well, but in reality, it turned out to be a very bad judgement call on your part.
I think all you can do is earnestly apologize for the error in... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 1 June 2010: Oh certainly, Miamine, like who has any use for anything as insignificantly insipid as morals or a code of conduct? At least the OP has the decency to evaluate and recognize the fact that she has done something worthy of re evaluation..which speaks ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong of me to see two different men?
Q. I was involved with a married man a little over a year ago. (His wife knew and approved of the relationship.) He went away for work so I began to persued another relationship with a different man. The second man and myself are in what can be ...
A. 1 June 2010: Did you agree to the request that you refrain from seeing other men? If you did, then yes it would be wrong.
If you're up front and honest with each of them making it clear that you are seeing someone else at the same time, and everyone... (read in full...)
Why do I lose interest after I've masturbated?
Q. Why is it that every time I masturbate, as soon as I ejaculate I immediately lose interest. I mean i just stop, clean up, and go on about my day like it never happened. I don't like this because I...when masturbating have deep fantasies, but as soon ...
A. 1 June 2010: I believe this is just how men are made. It is only the natural way of things. Ejaculate. It's over. The fantasies, the urges, the whole nine yards. It's all gone in an instant. Then you're all put back together and you go on. I'm given to ... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 1 June 2010: Poster: I don't accuse you of premeditated, wholesale, moral slaughter, however, it does run a close second; but I do maintain that you're guilty of excessively poor judgement in committing adultery with your BIL. Alcohol or not, it is still your ... (read in full...)
How do I make him understand I don't like what he is doing?
Q. My boyfriend and I dated for 3 years... he recently started to care... after 3 years! And now he thinks ive become the bad person. I mean no one is perfect, I know ive made mistakes, but hes cheated on me 3 times. And before he spoke to girls like ...
A. 1 June 2010: You've dated this guy for THREE YEARS and "he's *recently* started to care"???? What's THAT about? And now that he does care, you're a "bad person"?? You've clearly stated that he talks to more girls than guys. While this is no harbinger of great ... (read in full...)
My partner found me on the street with another man, and now he has broken up with me!
Q. Hi please can you help me here , I was with the father of my son for 6 years now there was ups and down but we solved them and get back together again, but now He found me on the street with a guy around 9 at night ,he just came and i went to him he ...
A. 31 May 2010: Honestly, I get the distinct feeling that's there's more to this story than you're telling here.
"You are what your record says you are" Anyone who will automatically assume that because you're out hanging in the street at 9pm, with an unknown man ... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 31 May 2010: Wow. Female anonymous has gone and field-dressed you out, Poster.
I am forced to admit that anon.'s view is quite accurate.
So now that you've experienced on-going castigation and just shy of a public whipping, all you're missing is the scarlet ... (read in full...)
Will he ever forgive me for this?
Q. I've know this guy 4 five years and we've been hanging out off and on. Well everything was going fine until one night i texed him and he ignored me and i smarted off. I said u don't like 4 people 2 treat u badly, so u shouldn't treat them that way, ...
A. 28 May 2010: A_G_E. age, not ago.... (read in full...)
Will he ever forgive me for this?
Q. I've know this guy 4 five years and we've been hanging out off and on. Well everything was going fine until one night i texed him and he ignored me and i smarted off. I said u don't like 4 people 2 treat u badly, so u shouldn't treat them that way, ...
A. 28 May 2010: I'm looking at your indicated ago of 30-35 and I'm sitting here in stunned disbelief after reading your post. Are you sure you've indicated your age correctly? Frankly, I'm aghast that anyone in your age bracket could or would conduct themselves ... (read in full...)
He's still married, but I'm in love with him, should I be his girlfriend?
Q. please no criticism, I'm asking for advice.... this guy and i are coworkers hes 27 I'm 20. my schedule changed to one that is similar to his so i drove him home from work and stuff for a while. last summer, he just randomly started kissing me. we k...
A. 28 May 2010: I must throw in with CaringGuy and KC100, they've both offered you very good observations and a solid "heads up" on this.
I fear you've just learned a very hard lesson, sweetie. You're a minor, sweet distraction to this guy who is only filling ... (read in full...)
Do you think more people get away with cheating than get caught?
Q. Do you think more people get away with cheating than get caught? What criteria do you think makes for a more likliehood of being caught or not? I've read some statistics sites that state that people who have cheated their partners didn't find out 70 ...
A. 28 May 2010: Statistics are actually nothing more than the results paid for by whomever is funding statistic-gathering, like say, that global warming farce.... (read in full...)
First love keep trying or give it up!!
Q. I don't know where to start. I was married at 17 and have two children. We have been married for 30 years now. When my first child was about three months old I met the brother of my sisters boyfriend. There was an instant connection, but i was ...
A. 28 May 2010: It sounds to me as though you have no idea when to leave a good mess alone. You said you've tried this once already and it went sour. Now you'd like to see if it'll do the same thing again this time? At the price of your marriage?
The defi... (read in full...)
B/f's father died, his mom is needy and I'm having trouble being patient!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and for the first 3 1/2 years everyhting was great. 8 months ago his dad died suddenly and he moved home to be with his mum. Since then things have been falling apart. We hardly see each other, partly ...
A. 28 May 2010: Sounds to me like your guy's mother is trying to compete with you over who he's more devoted to: you or her. It could be that mom feels left alone and abandoned by her husband's death and she's compensating for this by keeping a strong hold on her ... (read in full...)
Do you think more people get away with cheating than get caught?
Q. Do you think more people get away with cheating than get caught? What criteria do you think makes for a more likliehood of being caught or not? I've read some statistics sites that state that people who have cheated their partners didn't find out 70 ...
A. 28 May 2010: Then there are those statistics about what old buzzards think!... (read in full...)
Please give you take: Is my husband cheating and what should I do?
Q. I know my husband is cheating, but I have been too direct with my suspicions,so he is trying to convince me that I'm paranoid and delusional. He has stooped so low that he is pretending that his object of lust is a longtime friend 13 years his ...
A. 28 May 2010: Then I am fulfilled, Poster. Thank you ever so much from refraining from the temptation to seek out only what you wish to hear. Thanks for keeping it real. :) :)... (read in full...)
Do you think more people get away with cheating than get caught?
Q. Do you think more people get away with cheating than get caught? What criteria do you think makes for a more likliehood of being caught or not? I've read some statistics sites that state that people who have cheated their partners didn't find out 70 ...
A. 28 May 2010: Statistically, a recent poll showed that 94% of Americans believe it is morally wrong to cheat. The remaining 6% who said they believe it's morally acceptable to cheat are surely among the ranks of who do cheat.
Statistics and experience very oft... (read in full...)
Not in love with my wife, but have a young daughter.
Q. I'm 37 years old, married, and have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. I'm from the UK and my wife is from Hong Kong. We met in HK through a mutual friend while i was working there. Before we got together she was in another relationship and I knew both of ...
A. 28 May 2010: Having read and re-read your post, I am at a loss as to what your question(s) may be, in this. I am, therefore, left to assume that you're seeking feedback or observation upon your situation. I'll take a crack at it since I've come this far, but ... (read in full...)
Can a vindictive narcissist go to one who just gives up?
Q. Ok so I am not sure if any of you can help me with this issue.... I have a narcissist ex. We have broken up twice now. The first time he was the vindictive type. He would ask around about me, hold my stuff hostage, drive by my house, text me, etc. ...
A. 28 May 2010: So if you already have a number of reasons to legitimize and rationalize away this guy, them may I ask why you're here asking us what to do about him? Don't say we didn't try to warn you!... (read in full...)
Please give you take: Is my husband cheating and what should I do?
Q. I know my husband is cheating, but I have been too direct with my suspicions,so he is trying to convince me that I'm paranoid and delusional. He has stooped so low that he is pretending that his object of lust is a longtime friend 13 years his ...
A. 28 May 2010: Poster: it is indeed, my pleasure. I have been where you're at and though I don't share your age group, it's one helluva place to find one's self, I know. I genuinely feel for you. I always say: give 'em enough rope they'll hang themselves, these ... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 28 May 2010: Your post struck me as sincere, thoughtful and genuine. I could almost feel the deep remorse. I say "almost" because I was just about to make an isolated exception to my usual position that your behavior is totally unacceptable on any level.
... (read in full...)
I want to have a relationship with her..but she says she is still needing closure with her ex..
Q. i met kim in 2005 she was married then. sarah is now divorced 3 years and started having a long distance realationship with a fellow right after her divorce. that realtionship dissolve 8 months ago after 3 years on back and forth travel. then i came ...
A. 28 May 2010: Ok, since the names were changed to protect the innocent (thank you for the PM clarification, Poster) we may now proceed:
You've described a woman who has jumped into a relationship right after a divorce, it imploded after 8 mos. then she took up w... (read in full...)
Please give you take: Is my husband cheating and what should I do?
Q. I know my husband is cheating, but I have been too direct with my suspicions,so he is trying to convince me that I'm paranoid and delusional. He has stooped so low that he is pretending that his object of lust is a longtime friend 13 years his ...
A. 28 May 2010: I'd put all my chips on: GUILTY as charged, sister.
A man with nothing to hide doesn't typically act as you describe.
Where there's smoke, there's fire.
It sounds to me as though he's looking for permission or some sort of weird approval from yo... (read in full...)
I'm mortified and feel like hiding from the world- I got some braces and they look worse than I thought they would!
Q. I have just got braces and I am 28 and I have never had much confidence and it has taken me a while to do this but they are horrible and I feel really ugly and I am frightened to go out and I don't want to go back to work. I knew they wouldn't look ...
A. 28 May 2010: Have you asked your orthodontist what you can do to make them feel or look more attractive?
I have a friend roughly your age who elected to get braces, but she chose electric-lime green wires(!) Imagine what she dealt with when people saw lime... (read in full...)
I want to have a relationship with her..but she says she is still needing closure with her ex..
Q. i met kim in 2005 she was married then. sarah is now divorced 3 years and started having a long distance realationship with a fellow right after her divorce. that realtionship dissolve 8 months ago after 3 years on back and forth travel. then i came ...
A. 28 May 2010: "I met kim in 2005 she was married then. sarah is now divorced 3 years.." What did I miss here? First Kim, then Sarah....is this a typo or are we talking about two different people?... (read in full...)
Can a vindictive narcissist go to one who just gives up?
Q. Ok so I am not sure if any of you can help me with this issue.... I have a narcissist ex. We have broken up twice now. The first time he was the vindictive type. He would ask around about me, hold my stuff hostage, drive by my house, text me, etc. ...
A. 28 May 2010: Unfortunately, genuine Narcissism runs way too close a second-(perhaps even a symptom!) of the garden variety Sociopath.
These people are telling you the truth.
These guys NEVER change. It will always be by him, for him, and about him.
The fact... (read in full...)
I love him dearly but he hurts me in anyway he can!
Q. i'm about to be 16, he's 17. we have been talking for about six months? and well we have choose to date when he comes to my school next year, well anyways i think he's abusive and controlling. you tell me... 1.) i'm not allowed to hang with other ...
A. 28 May 2010: Over reacting? What!?!
You've completely convinced me that the several very good reasons you list here are why should drop this guy like a hot rock-like, yesterday!- are anything but over reacting!
You have a blazing bouquet of red flags here, gi... (read in full...)
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