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writes:Okay, so in summer of 2009 I told my sisters ex boyfriend that I liked him. Well he didn't think of me the same way but thought it was cute. Then they got back together and I think I still have a "crush" on him. Help on what to do? And please don't say you have to stop right now because obviously me trying that hasnt worked... Thanks.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (4 May 2010):
 First: yes, STOP. You don't seek advice and then set conditions for that advice because all you're asking is for people to give you ideas on how to accomplish or acquire what might not be in your best interest. Some of us have had experience in these fields so you need to accept that someone might just know better beyond your expansive and vast years of life experience.
A)Sister's boyfriend. Period. Read: NOT YOUR'S. NOT up for grabs. Hands off, sweetie. That's another woman's territory. Respect that. Respect YOU, while you're at it.
B) you're crushing on this guy because he's probably significantly older than you and seems that much more alluring. This type of things has gone on for centuries, it's nothing new. A crush is temporary. A flash-in-the-pan. It's harmless as long as you don't act upon it. Believe us, you'll get over it. You may never forget the guy, but it WILL become a bitter sweet memory.
C) Sister's B/f said "How cute". Sweetie, that's code for: run along little girl, I'm into big girls like your sister. If he were into little girls then that would make him a predator and you want nothing to do with predators, believe me.
D) There really is lots of fish in the sea, take your time, grow up to be a solid, responsible, independent, rational-thinking woman who knows right from wrong.
E) I promise you, you won't die if you stay out of your sister's relationships! Stick to your own development and crew. Good luck and focus on doing things right!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 May 2010):
Yes you do have to stop. There is no use on you saying you can't stop, because you have to stop. First of all, he's your sisters boyfriend. If do the dirty on her, you'll lose your sister, your respect, your friends, your dignity, and even your parents will sit there and never trust you again. Trying it on with a sibling's partner is the biggest stab in the back of all. As I've said on here previously, a friend of mine did that. Her sister actually beat her up, her parents turned against her and you can be sure she doesn't have any friends now. No one likes a person who stabs their own family in the back. And to top if off, he's made it more than clear he's not interested. So enjoy your crush, but accept right now that it won't go further. Ever. Get back out there with your own friends and keep meeting new people. You'll get over him in time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): Too many guys in the world....... Don't mess up ur relationship with ur sister for a guy!!! She means more then any BOY who most likely will be out of the picture in less than a year or so. Plus if he would talk to u he would date ur best friend cousin and grandma lol don't do it.
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