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How do you have a successfull FWB?
Q. Question: How do you have a successfull FWB? How am I supposed to act in this type of relationship? I think I want to do this because I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now because of my kids. So, the question is, am I supposed to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Yep, I'm going to have to agree. The line: am I supposed to have no feelings during a FWB relationship? This is the give away. It suggests that you're not a good candidate for an FWB arrangement, simply because you're already questioning your ... (read in full...)
Is he getting sprung?
Q. Okay so my bf always wants me to give him head I give him head more then we have sex, he say's he loves they way I do it, Is he getting sprung????...
A. 9 June 2010: Ok, so the urban dictionary essentially defines "sprung" as obsession. Very closely related to what we see in these 13-15 yro's claiming they're going to just die due to being in love with their teacher.... (read in full...)
Is he getting sprung?
Q. Okay so my bf always wants me to give him head I give him head more then we have sex, he say's he loves they way I do it, Is he getting sprung????...
A. 9 June 2010: So is "sprung" like some sort of cultural jargon, then? Ok, so I'm blond, alright? I'm just not getting this "sprung" thing. And Mia, Youth and enthusiasm is no substitute for age and experience! I'm 39, it's not like I have one foot in the grave ... (read in full...)
I hate seeing my mum like this all because of my step-father, what can I do?
Q. I came home from college for summer vacation. Since I have been back, my mother and her husband (who doesn't live in the house) argue more than they did before I left to college. Mind you, I was a freshman. Every other day after she leaves to see ...
A. 9 June 2010: Unfortunately, there's nothing you can say or do to or for your mother unless she wants to hear/see it for herself first.
You're absolutely right in your observation that this guy is no good. I'd say it's classic co-dependence, but I'm not a qual... (read in full...)
Do you think you attract the same type of person over and over again? And how to stop it!
Q. Do you ever notice that you attract a certain type of person? I wonder about that, if anyone else seems to find themselves attractive to the same type of person over and over again. I won't describe the type I've been attracting just because I d...
A. 9 June 2010: q! I think that was my ex mother-in-law!!... (read in full...)
How do you have a successfull FWB?
Q. Question: How do you have a successfull FWB? How am I supposed to act in this type of relationship? I think I want to do this because I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now because of my kids. So, the question is, am I supposed to ...
A. 9 June 2010: I have had a successful FWB thing. And if every one is one the same page, it can work really well. I sorta liked him in a human being way...see, he was this oh-so *buff* geologist a few years younger than I and lemme tell ya, sister , he could...but ... (read in full...)
Is he getting sprung?
Q. Okay so my bf always wants me to give him head I give him head more then we have sex, he say's he loves they way I do it, Is he getting sprung????...
A. 9 June 2010: Umm, I hate to appear naive but what, exactly, does "getting sprung" mean? Isn't that something that happened to Joliet Jake?... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband accept I just don't enjoy anal?
Q. My husband is obsessed with anal sex. We've had it twice. He refused to use any lubricant and it hurt very badly. I told him that I'm not interested in doing it again. I only did it with him because I felt pressured. His female boss is ...
A. 9 June 2010: I'm going with "fetish" I can't offer you anything on "gay-ness" being hopelessly heterosexual, myself. This sounds like pure fetish to me. But something like anal sex without the courtesy of lubricant is so close to abuse that it bears ... (read in full...)
We don't have sex anymore!!
Q. hi everyone. ive been with my husband for 13year on and off. we've been married for almost 5 of those years now. he seams to have lost interest in me. ive had 2 kids and put on 2stone. my youngest is 4months. since my last child was born we wouldnt ...
A. 9 June 2010: glad to hear it, Poster! Keep on keepin' on!... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to believe what he's saying or not... Help!
Q. Okay so it has been since 2 weeks i have known this guy. First of all we agree that this was just for fun. It has nothing to do with serious meeting it was more like fun type. Then i started to talk to his guy, we pretty much got together talking ...
A. 9 June 2010: TWO WEEKS and it's a relationship though you've never met? How on earth do you love someone you've never met and don't have the nerve to speak to over the phone? "Kinda going fast" how?
He loves you and fell hard for you? In this same long term... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't want to be with me again, but I was his first real relationship and the longest!
Q. so my boyfriend broke up with me, and it was all because we were in the car with his friend and we were talking, and some stuff i said piss him off, i said:"don't act like you don't hang up on me" and and "i wish you were whooped" so im gue...
A. 9 June 2010: News flash, sweetie: It DOESN'T matter one single bit if you're the longest, strongest, prettiest, "most bestest" relationship ever in the whole wide world: no still means no.
What do you want with a guy who takes issue with you talking to othe... (read in full...)
How do I stop this lust for my teacher?
Q. My teacher is really handsome, funny and smart, he's about 40 years old (i'm 15). It started when I was 12, I had a crush on him for a year and a half. But when I was 13 and a half I started to have sexual thoughts about him and I was desperat...
A. 9 June 2010: I'm curious to know what "getting better for him" even means. Kindly define that?... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend just want to be room mates now?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years; working on 5. We dated and spend time together (and still do), slip sweet (and sometimes spicy) notes into each others wallet/purse to be found at the most inappropriate times (lol), and even ...
A. 9 June 2010: Eloquently said, q.
Correction to my first post: "I don't OFFER this up lightly"
Note to OP: I believe the sort of tactic you're facing is decidedly Passive/Aggressive. It's a means to an end. "let's just be friends" is a generic code phr... (read in full...)
Have you ever been through this and how did you know it was real?
Q. Girls and guys have ever been in a relationship with someone and they loved being around you and a few months into it they broke up with you because they weren't ready for a serious relationship. Its not ony that, but whenever we were apart she ...
A. 9 June 2010: "this or have no negative remarks to say." Translation: Don't tell me the truth! Heaven forbid! Not the truth! Just sugar-coated lies and whatever fantasy-nonsense that says it'll all work out and be wonderful, no matter what reality has to say ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is playing games! How do I handle this?
Q. Dear Cupid, I probably already know my own answer, but I am confused. My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 4 1/2 years. I am 48 yrs old, was married 26 years. He is 52 married 3 times and insecure. He left me for a woman 10 yrs older than him...
A. 9 June 2010: Count me confused too, now. The whole thing you've detailed here is so convoluted as to be nearly incomprehensible. Which of these men are you currently with? the 52 yro who left you for a 62 yro?(which I'd think was a good reason for him to be an ... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend just want to be room mates now?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years; working on 5. We dated and spend time together (and still do), slip sweet (and sometimes spicy) notes into each others wallet/purse to be found at the most inappropriate times (lol), and even ...
A. 9 June 2010: I don't think you're over thinking here at all. In fact you have every right to feel blind-sided and slapped right upside your head.
I show no hesitation in translating the dreaded Man Code and so to be fair I cannot hesitate to translate the nefa... (read in full...)
The memories we shared makes me want to go back to my abusive ex!
Q. Dear aunts.my ex is playing games with me and make my life miserable.iv known Owen from prep school.he has been my first everything.in 2006 WE CHEATED on each other.we apologised and things wer ok again.one nite we were making lov and i was ontop, ...
A. 9 June 2010: If you're happy with your new b/f then stay that way. Also, keep in mind: your ex is an ex for a reason and there's a wilderness of horrors back there with him. Having a selective memory about just the good times, to the exclusion of the horrific ... (read in full...)
This girl won't let my boyfriend be. What do I do?
Q. All right, well my boyfriend and I have been together for about 9-10 months now and I love him more than anything in this world, and I'm sure he feels the same way. The thing is, me and my boyfriend are in a long-distance relationship. So I guess ...
A. 9 June 2010: ASK her? ask?...honey I'd be up in her face *requiring* her to back T-F off, like yesterday! She knows he has a g/f and he tells her to leave him be and she's still? Either this girl is WAY stupid and needs someone right in her face about it OR ... (read in full...)
She gets mad because I don't agree with her
Q. I don't know what to do. My gf gets mad whenever I don't agree with her. She looks at it in a disloyal way although I'm just trying to say my opinion. I told her, if she wants to be with someone who always agrees on her opinion, she should just get ...
A. 8 June 2010: All you do is tell her that if it's a Yes-man she wants she'll have to go on without you. If she can't respect your ability to stand your ground and speak your mind, then move on. I'd tell a woman the same thing. NO ONE can control your mind if you ... (read in full...)
He looked at porn right after we made love - whats wrong with me?
Q. I recently posted on here as i'd accidently discovered my fiance had been looking at porn on the computer..only one site had come up so i tried not to let it bother me as you all said and put it down to a one off. But earlier curiosity got the ...
A. 8 June 2010: Geez, I can't express how exasperating it is to see this porn thing come up over and over, again. Porn, Facebook idiocy, texting, the whole nine yards just needs to go away, I think.... (read in full...)
My friend is very "dippy" and it is getting embarassing, what can I do to help her?
Q. Hi, My problem is that a colleague of mine who is also a friend is a bit embaressing to hang out with. Now I'm sure you'll all have a go at me for being nasty and saying I'm bit a true friend etc ... So please just read my situation because I...
A. 8 June 2010: I've heard of people acting this way just for the "attention factor" It gets attention from others because this person believes him/herself to be incapable of getting attention otherwise, as though any attention is better than none at all. IF ... (read in full...)
B/f wants me to terminate my pregnancy but continue to help him. I'm very confused!
Q. Im 42 in a comitted relationship and just discovered im pregnant, shocking to say the least after having spent 15 out of 20 years trying for a second child i had long since given up hope and resigned myself to being infertile. Problem i have...
A. 8 June 2010: On the question of termination, I staunchly defend your right to personal choice. On the matter of of the B/f: you're being manipulated. You're being used. And I'd bet the farm both counts will be continued without hesitation, regardless of what ... (read in full...)
He looked at porn right after we made love - whats wrong with me?
Q. I recently posted on here as i'd accidently discovered my fiance had been looking at porn on the computer..only one site had come up so i tried not to let it bother me as you all said and put it down to a one off. But earlier curiosity got the ...
A. 8 June 2010: I'd agree: the last thing he should even be thinking of is running off to spank the old monkey..that's just weird. So, was this later that same day or what, now?... (read in full...)
I feel I've lost control and he wants to make me feel badly about it!
Q. hi can anyone help i have been in a relationship for 7 weeks, we have had a few arguments, name calling etc, and we both decided we were being defensive and agreed to get on and be happy together. then last week it was my birthday he did not even ...
A. 8 June 2010: I think you should just keep doing what you've done: thanks but no, thanks buster. End of lunacy. From what you've described, you should be thanking your lucky stars for having gotten rid of him so easily!
This guy's a genuine flake. Wanting ... (read in full...)
He looked at porn right after we made love - whats wrong with me?
Q. I recently posted on here as i'd accidently discovered my fiance had been looking at porn on the computer..only one site had come up so i tried not to let it bother me as you all said and put it down to a one off. But earlier curiosity got the ...
A. 8 June 2010: *Hours*,later that same day, I get that, but *right* afterwards, WTF?... (read in full...)
He looked at porn right after we made love - whats wrong with me?
Q. I recently posted on here as i'd accidently discovered my fiance had been looking at porn on the computer..only one site had come up so i tried not to let it bother me as you all said and put it down to a one off. But earlier curiosity got the ...
A. 8 June 2010: AFTERWARDS? damn, I'm at loss on this one... (read in full...)
Is he a user and abuser? Or a heartbreaker?
Q. I've known this guy for 5 years now. 4 years as a friend and 1 as well an online realationship. Things started in 2009 march, i'd just gotten over someoen who never liked me and well this online guy was alaways there to help, always caring. we ...
A. 8 June 2010: Ok, that does it for me, we part ways on the interpretation of nonsense posted on even more nonsense that is Facebook. What's posted here from Facebook is either work of an acid-tripping cat, walking on the keyboard OR merely further evidence ... (read in full...)
We text each other all the time but he never makes the first move to ask me out on a date!
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a very brief time (3 weeks) and we constantly text each other. He seems to be doing the chasing in terms of texting BUT he won't ask me out and I keep dropping hints!?! We've been out on dates/hung out twice, both ...
A. 8 June 2010: Oddly, I am decidedly old school in this, so it may seem as though I'm from Mars or something, but I believe there is something to be said for that old antiquated notion of actually speaking to someone about what's on your mind, rather than hiding ... (read in full...)
Is he a user and abuser? Or a heartbreaker?
Q. I've known this guy for 5 years now. 4 years as a friend and 1 as well an online realationship. Things started in 2009 march, i'd just gotten over someoen who never liked me and well this online guy was alaways there to help, always caring. we ...
A. 8 June 2010: Then that would mean she already KNOWS the guy's a batsh*t crazy loser, wouldn't it? A' la :What do I when Im lost inside my soul.on Saturday... (read in full...)
She doesn't want children but I want to have them one day, am I just wasting my time with her?
Q. so i'm with the girl of my dreams, and a brief conversation we had one day is kind of bugging me. Were both in our early 20's, so this isnt anything to necessarily worry about any time soon: she is crazy about one of her sisters children- pictures...
A. 8 June 2010: I suppose it can change and probably often does. On the other hand, it may not. I am an example of the later. I have no children, never wanted any and absolutely do not like other people's little darlings. I've been this way since the age of 16 ... (read in full...)
Is he a user and abuser? Or a heartbreaker?
Q. I've known this guy for 5 years now. 4 years as a friend and 1 as well an online realationship. Things started in 2009 march, i'd just gotten over someoen who never liked me and well this online guy was alaways there to help, always caring. we ...
A. 8 June 2010: What you do is: treat him as though he has disappeared for the very last time! Hit the off switch for the last time and stop allowing yourself to be dragged into mindless games. On/off on/off is utterly, absurdly, mindlessly insane.
Just ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says if we have a baby he will settle down with me and stop hanging out on the streets, what should I do?
Q. hi i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18 and wants to have a baby but he is alway out in the streets he say's if we have a baby he will settle down with me. What should i do?...
A. 8 June 2010: Right you are, Q: You'll know he's lying because his lips are moving!... (read in full...)
Is there any chance for me and my teacher to be together?
Q. I'm 15, and I think I have a crush on one of my teachers. (he's around late-30s/early-40s). I wouldn't be interested in having a sexual relationship, but how reasonable do you think it would be? I know it's not very normal, and I'm not crazy enough ...
A. 8 June 2010: I think there's about ZERO point ZERO chance for you to have a legal, healthy relationship with this or any teacher you may ever have, sweetie. I can say this because I know for fact that there are countless posts on this site asking your very same ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says if we have a baby he will settle down with me and stop hanging out on the streets, what should I do?
Q. hi i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18 and wants to have a baby but he is alway out in the streets he say's if we have a baby he will settle down with me. What should i do?...
A. 8 June 2010: What you should do: is NOT believe a word that is falling out of the hole under his nose!
You should also NOT have a baby for such a ridiculous reason, sweetie!
What's the problem with acting right NOW, ahead of time?
What reason is there ... (read in full...)
I don't want to end the relationship but I want him to stop being mean and texting other girls!
Q. hey there i have quite the problem and i have no clue what to do about it...my bf well hes a jack ass but he can be so sweet too... two weekends ago i found out the three times during our relationship he texted a girl he had sex with before dating ...
A. 8 June 2010: So, he's "kinda mean to you and just isn't nice to you anymore" AFTER you sat him down and talked this over with him?? CLUE #1, sweetheart: he's NEVER going to be nice to you. The evidence is staring you in the face.
Were he genuinely sorr... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: "Obsessional fire", indeed.
Brass tacks:*how do *anonymous* flings / oral "experiences" differ from having sex with someone you know? Or don't they? How are they the same?*
Anon. flings differ in that : they're ANONYMOUS. Casual, uncalculated... (read in full...)
Why won't she tell me her real number of sexual partners if she loves me?
Q. I am involved in my first relationship since divorcing my wife of 20 years. I have been in it for 9 months, and it has been wonderful. However, there was an instance a month into our relationship where I caught her in a bit of a lie and it made me ...
A. 8 June 2010: Ok, I've watched this thread silently for a few days now and I'm still clueless-which is nothing new-BUT: why the hell is this so important to you? What's the diff. if it's 3 or 83?
While I can see and validate the trust issue aspect (meaning... (read in full...)
My teacher kissed me! I know this is wrong so how do I move on and get over him?
Q. Okay so I'm going through a really rough time at the moment, and this teacher is so lovely and has been helping me through it, organizing councelors and just helping and stuff. One day when I had a breakdown in his class, he followed me out as I ...
A. 8 June 2010: Great idea fem. anon.! Transfer to a new school wherein a fresh crop of unsuspecting children are free for the taking! Splendid idea! Now why didn't I think of that? I know, how's about: we just get rid if these pedophiles altogether-there is no ... (read in full...)
Married to the wrong man!
Q. i married the wrong man for the wrong reasons. we have been married over 15 years and were high school sweethearts. we have four wonderful childern, however i knew the day i was marrying him he was probably not the man i should be marrying. i cried ...
A. 8 June 2010: Ok, so you've been cheating on your husband for the past 15 years? I apologize and stand corrected-I missed that little fact the first time around. I withdraw my previous inquiries pertaining to further info. What's stated is more than enough.
T... (read in full...)
Why won't she tell me her real number of sexual partners if she loves me?
Q. I am involved in my first relationship since divorcing my wife of 20 years. I have been in it for 9 months, and it has been wonderful. However, there was an instance a month into our relationship where I caught her in a bit of a lie and it made me ...
A. 7 June 2010: horrible pun there, q.... (read in full...)
My teacher kissed me! I know this is wrong so how do I move on and get over him?
Q. Okay so I'm going through a really rough time at the moment, and this teacher is so lovely and has been helping me through it, organizing councelors and just helping and stuff. One day when I had a breakdown in his class, he followed me out as I ...
A. 5 June 2010: Sweetie? YES, HE IS LIKE THAT. The fact that you're 15 and he's 30 tells me everything I need to know. You're a kid..he's not, that means he's a pedophile. period. Look me up in 10 years or so and let me know then, just how much you *really* ... (read in full...)
He cheated!!! What do I do now???
Q. Hi my names megan. My husband is very atractive. And me, I'm just a little on the chunky side. Not too big not too small. But its sad when I stand next to him (he's... Just that gorgeous) But as I expected I wouldn't have him long, I knew so...
A. 4 June 2010: Here's the deal, sweetie: what you're facing now is just about one of the hardest things you'll ever face in this life. I won't lie to you and tell you it'll all work out and other sugar-coated nonsense. Fact is this: there is no rule that says ... (read in full...)
My teacher kissed me! I know this is wrong so how do I move on and get over him?
Q. Okay so I'm going through a really rough time at the moment, and this teacher is so lovely and has been helping me through it, organizing councelors and just helping and stuff. One day when I had a breakdown in his class, he followed me out as I ...
A. 4 June 2010: THIS IS A PREDATOR, honey. And PREDATORS take advantage of those who are weakened by injury or slowed down by difficulty.
You've stated that you're having a tough time right now and this PREDATOR knows it and is taking advantage of it! Like it o... (read in full...)
My co worker has a feminine odor problem. What can I do?
Q. Has anyone worked with someone that has a distinctive body odor and doesn't seem to get the hint that some better hygiene is needed? I share an office with a very cute, perky girl who is 22 and single. All of the young guys in our office hang ...
A. 4 June 2010: OMG! How utterly offensive. If she's not picking up the hints you're cleverly dropping, perhaps along with being Perky PollyAnna-on-Prozac she's also totally clueless?
Maybe a nice little gift bag, with a few strategically chosen products... (read in full...)
Married to the wrong man!
Q. i married the wrong man for the wrong reasons. we have been married over 15 years and were high school sweethearts. we have four wonderful childern, however i knew the day i was marrying him he was probably not the man i should be marrying. i cried ...
A. 4 June 2010: Here's what jumped out at me first: you married him against what you believe your heart was saying versus your head. May I ash what then, do you think would have been the "right" reasons to marry your husband? (meaning: you've obviously changed your ... (read in full...)
We don't have sex anymore!!
Q. hi everyone. ive been with my husband for 13year on and off. we've been married for almost 5 of those years now. he seams to have lost interest in me. ive had 2 kids and put on 2stone. my youngest is 4months. since my last child was born we wouldnt ...
A. 26 May 2010: I'm afraid you're going to make it a point to talk about this to him. There is no crystal ball to tell us what's going on with this.
It'd be far too easy to jump to conclusions or make assumptions, most likely incorrect, without knowing what he h... (read in full...)
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