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*assman08
writes:Please anyone I need help. When the girl who says I think I love u tell her friends that she doesn't knw what I am 2 her, a 6oyfriend or friend. What does this mean. We hung out all the time. We have a healthy sex life. Now she tells me she doesn't knw if she wants or needs a relationship now. She's done it twice already. Should I feel stupid 4 waitn around on her or should I move on. O I'm dealn with a leo.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Maybe I do. Maybe I don't. Perhaps you'll be better off deciding for her. Doesn't seem to bode well. Indecision like this is usually a good, strong indicator that there exists some profound instability. If you like instability and being left hanging on the line I say stay with the nonsense. But if not, move on and decide that you're worthy of a woman who knows herself a bit better than this girl.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 May 2010):
If she's done it twice already, then you might just as well move on. She's keeping you around as a comfort blanket. That's all. You shouldn't settle for someone who is messing you around. Best to move on now and save all the hurt later.
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reader, raiders +, writes (6 May 2010):
 It means she like and feels comfortable being with you. She knows you won't hurt her so she has you there for support and for sex but still does not want or feels ready for a relationship. In other words she is stinging you around till she decides what to do to either keep you or leave you.
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reader, GettingHelp  +, writes (6 May 2010):
I can be really confusing sometimes for girls if a relationship is not outlined in words... Exactly what you are to one another. Girls like boxes and labels and neatly filed away relationships (forgive the metaphor)
My guess is you guys never talked about your relationship (am I right?) and what it was so she's probably been confused for a while. And girls get a bit psycho and confusing when they are confused.
This is just my guess... am I right about you never having talked about your relationship before?
She may be going through something weird or hard in her life and its confusing for her and changing the way she feels about stuff.
Talk to her... See if there are other things going on in her life... Listen to her...
Then think about how she's doing mentally and emotionally and think about whether realistically she will come back to you and whether or not she is worth the wait.
If she isn't: move on. If she is: the hardest part will be deciding whether to let go or wait around is hard.
I Quote: "Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the most painful."
Unfortunately you gotta decide how much she's worth to you, I can't decide for you.
Even if I can tell you what to do - I hope this has given a new perspective.
Let us know what happens
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reader, zfor +, writes (6 May 2010):
 it sounds like you are being played. I was in a similar situation once. One minute they want you and the next they just want to be friends who have sex. I finally had enough and decided yes we could be friends but not friends who sleep together. I went out on a date a few weeks later and really had a great time..... when the person who was playing me found out he told me he was in love with me so like a fool i got back with him.... it didn't last! I know it sounds hard but if you have the strenght get out now! Make her do some of the running.... make it harder for her and if she doesn't make an effort then you need to ask yourself what you are getting out of this apart from sex.
Ask yourself what you both have in common that would stand good sted for a relationship and then ask yourself whether you are better off as friends. Its up to you at the end of the day. If you are happy with casual sex then just be careful but make sure you both want the same things so no one gets hurt. Good Luck
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reader, JBolton +, writes (6 May 2010):
As a women i would say walk away. As i don't know enough about either of you i can't say if she's playing with your emotions but anyone who can say they 'think' they love you isn't worth being with. You seem like a really nice guy and it seems like you do care about her. but when you love someone you don't 'think' it you know it. when you fall in love its an emotion that posses your very soul, drives you crazy and no matter how long you've loved them for you will always feel like the real you when your together. my partner is a leo and i loved him for 3 months before we even started dating, but within 3 weeks in was in love with me.
oh and a realtionship has 2 sides, sex and intimacy. this sounds like mainly sex in which case you'v become a frind with benefits. if thats not what u want to b get out of it. if ur ok wih that then its up to u.
JBolton
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