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writes:Hello, ive been with my girl friend for years, we have broken up before, after 7 years, cause she never said she loved me, we got back together, she said it once, now a year an half later still doesn't say it, we get along real good, I say it once an while, but she doesn't say it back. Does it mean she only likes me, an only said it the once ,try to make me happy. Should a person stay with a person who never say it, she says she has a wall up. Thanks
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 January 2014):
 Does she SHOW you she loves you?
I learned that SAYING "I love you" means NOTHING unless it's backed up by SHOWING me you love me with your behavior.
My last husband said "I love you" all the time and yet he lied to me and cheated on me.
The current husband told me early on "I will NEVER say 'I love you". And while he has said it a few times in our 3 years together... the first few times I told him I loved him his response was "thank you" which hurt me deeply till I looked at his behavior and realized that his behavior tells me he loves me more than his words.
Does her behavior say she loves you? Does she treat you well? Does she respect you? Do you FEEL loved?
if not then, yes you should leave but if the ONLY reason you are thinking of leaving is because she won't SAY she loves you, then think about how important those words are related to her actions and proceed from there.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (3 January 2014):
You are upset because your girlfriend doesn't say she loves you?
Yet, you have a really good relationship. You need to tell her that it is important to you to hear those little words "I love you" from her. Ask her what her issue is. Maybe something has happened in her past.
Those words are not easy to say. Too many people throw I love you around and really don't mean it.
Good luck
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (3 January 2014):
What exactly are you looking for in a relationship??? To hear the word love, or to be loved???
If she has been with you for 7 years, and you get alone really well, what does that say? People say I love you all the time but don't show it, or mean it. I would rather the person show me love than say it.
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