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Help me, I'm not studying for my exams because I'm avoiding the professor I have fallen in love with!

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Question - (2 June 2014) 6 Answers - (Newest, 26 June 2014)
A female India age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am 32 year old unmarried female, I am working in company and pursuing B E in the evening college, I approached a professor for clarify some doubt about subject. He is married and have 2 doughters 18 year old. I is to got his chamber frequently and we became very close, he started massaging me evry day and evry time he is to tell me that he likes me alot. But I always avoided him, slowly I stopped talking to him. But know I missing him alot, and I am madly in love with him, whole day I am thinking of him only, I am not studying for exams. I don't want him to be with me, I know its not possible , but I couldn't stop thinking of him. Pls help me

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2014):

If u wish to have a sexual relationship then go ahead, if not stay away, as he is not in a position to love you romantically.

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A female reader, Lady Green United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2014):

Please don't go destroying someone else's marriage. Even if he tell you his wife is 'this and that', that is between them.

The way to stop feeling the way you do, focus on someone else, even just for a crush. Then be close to that crush. Totally ignore your professor if he is trying to get close to you. You can do it if you stand with a strong principle (pls dont tell me you dont have a strong priciple against married men)..

And of course, study study study.. Education is very important..

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A female reader, sugarplum786 South Africa +, writes (3 June 2014):

sugarplum786 agony auntHe is not interested in you as you said he has a wife and 2 kids. So protect yourself before he use you and hurt you. Remember no man is worth failing exams as you never know if they will always be there, so stop dreaming about romance and what can be, clear your head and study or for the rest of your life regret the opportunity you lost in becoming educated and that too over a married man that crossed the lines and should not have touched his student.

Do you really think you are the first student he has shown interest, do you really think he is thinking about you at night when having sex with his wife, wake up an smell the coffee he is just a figment of your imagination and you dreamt him into something he is not. Focus on your studies.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2014):

Although being in love with a teacher is perfectly normal, you can't have a romance with him. It will only lead to heartbreak and trouble. But, you do need to revise for your exam! Try listening to peaceful music- this usually helps me concentrate and relax when I need to work hard. Once you have done well in your exam, you can relax a little more, maybe even go out for a night. You never know, you could meet your true man!

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (2 June 2014):

BrownWolf agony aunt

If you were studying for your exams, it would help to take your mind off him. Study hard and forget him. When you pass your exam and have your B E, you will be able to get a better job and meet more people.

I believe because you are unmarried this is hard for you. To have someone in your life would be great, but this is not the man. You already know that, so stop stressing yourself out. Go and study hard for your exam. This is not love, it’s a wishful thinking if things were different. Plus he is not a good man to try to have you while he has a wife and children. You will only get hurt.

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A female reader, Fari United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2014):

Fari agony auntHey anonymous,

I can safely say that everyone has had a crush on their teacher at some point in their lives. Its perfectly normal. You have already stated that he is married and has a wife and kids and we both know there is no point in a relationship there cause you don't wanna be the mistress who causes hurt and pain in that family. With regards to the whole situation, I think your doin the right thing by staying away. You guys need that space so that you don't get attached and become intimate . Jus try to study for ur exams . I kno ur seein stars right now but ur education is important , u gotta get that B.E girl!! The feelings will pass within time but u won't always have an oppourtunity for ur education

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