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writes:What does it mean if a man tells you your his guilty pleasure? What would it mean to you if you were to say this to someone or someone was to say this to you?How would you translate this in your inner world? Personally, humorous, passing comment, serious. Reply to this Question
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (6 November 2014):
 I would describe chips (fries) as a guilty pleasure. No good for my Arteries and if eel guilty after eating them but they feel good at the time.
I would avoid any man who describes you as his guilty pleasure. Its a vile thing to say. Bit like those awful types who describe friendships as "collecting interesting people".
To answer your question more fully we need more info. Are you in a relationship with this guy or a FWB for example. Sounds the latter from what he is saying.
Mark
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reader, BlowysRCool  +, writes (6 November 2014):
 Well the meaning of the phrase, "Guilty Pleasure" is something that you do, and it's either a secret, or he's just not that open about it, and he feels that if he tells anyone, he would be guilty of it, or shunned for it by others.
For example, let's say you watch some lower-channel soap opera, and you feel if anyone else knew, you'd feel ashamed of your actions, so in other words, he's ashamed of you.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 November 2014):
 It's sort of like an artist describing his lover as his muse. Not a nice thing to be refering to you as I'd say. kind of rude actually.watch your back and good luck.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 November 2014):
 A little red flag would pop up. Why would a man say I'm his guilty pleasure? I'm married and not looking and would back away very carefully from anyone who said something like to me.
If I weren't married the red flag would still pop up. A "guilty pleasure"? That means he feels guilt. Why would that be?
Again, I would back away from Mr. "Guilty Pleasure" Vague Annoying Person and not get sucked into any ridiculous and unnecessary drama king machinations.
My inner world would label him as a passive aggressive jerk type and I would AVOID AVOID AVOID AVOID.
Was that what you wanted to hear?
No?
Okay, he's an amazingly romantic man who has fallen for you and will sweep you up and marry you, just as soon as.....
Oh wait.
So what's the story? You left a LOT of important detail out of the question.
I'm going with he's a jerk until I hear extenuating circumstances that clear him of that charge.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (5 November 2014):
 Instead of wondering and asking people who dont know the two of you..why don't you JUST ASK HIM! It could mean any number of things and there is no way that any of us could know. Best to get it straight from the horse's mouth dont ya think???
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 November 2014):
 If you're sure he's single and you're not a mistress, then he means that being with you is "addictive". Basically, it's a compliment, even though he may not know that "guilty pleasures" are ones that usually aren't good for you, like chocolate, cigarettes, martinis, midnight ice cream, or whatever.
He also may be religious and has residual morality issues regarding fornication or whatever.
Either way, unless he has another woman, you have nothing to worry about.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 November 2014):
 I will tell you how I use the term "guilty pleasure" It's very tongue in cheek for me.
I am a Jewish girl. My favorite mindless fiction is AMISH romance which is Christian based and if I was a religious Jewish girl I would not be permitted to read it. That alone gives me cognitive dissonance so I refer to my love of Amish Romance (where when she takes off her Kapp they have to get married because he's seen her hair) as my guilty pleasure.
But ask him WHY he feels so guilty...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2014): This obviously means it's something he knows he should not be indulging in but he has a weakness for. Translation he may be cheating on his partner for u n already have a family. Or he has some type romantic feelings for u n know he shouldn't take it there. I would have nothing to do with someone guilty pleasure. Skinny people who don't diet don't feel bad about eating at 1am or eating lots of snacks or bread. Overweight people who are trying to diet feel really bad when they eat junk food or at 1am, it's their guilty pleasure. C'mon.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 November 2014):
 It means he's trying his darndest to compliment you.... but you ARE - after all - his "bit on the side".... hence the "guilty." (Translaton: He's married, or has some other girlfriend out there....)....
Ask HIM to interpret this for you.... should be interesting.
Good luck...
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (5 November 2014):
Normally it means he is after one thing... You have it, he wants it. The guilt part means he has no plans for a long term commitment, just to enjoy the "Pleasure" part.
If you want the same thing, then their is nothing to worry about. If you want more...well then you know what to do.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 November 2014):
 I'd definitely ask him why he feels guilty. Are you sure he is single?
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reader, Princess_008  +, writes (5 November 2014):
A word can have various meanings! For example : Present ( gift) and present ( opposite of absence ) .Now not just meanings are different. Different people views it differently. You know asking here what exactly that means won't help you out. You should go and ask the person itself what he means by this.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 November 2014):
 I think that sentence can be interpreted in SO many ways, depending on WHO said it and why (and why).
You ask:
*** How would you translate this in your inner world? Personally, humorous, passing comment, serious.**
Personally, well my guilty pleasure is chocolate. So I'd take it with a grain of salt and in a humorous way.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (5 November 2014):
You're thinking too much. People don't put nearly enough thought into what they say as some people seem to think.
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