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Okay so i'm not an expert at giving advice or anything but I know that there are a lot of people that would be grateful with a good ear and a bit of honest advice and that's what I am. Honest =)
I live in the UK near Cardiff. I am 21 years old.
Just a little about me, I love to read, and i love horror movies. The scarier the better. Ghost's and alien movies freak me the hell out, but i tend to watch with someone or during the day LOL ;)
The thing i can't stand the most is Jealousy and Lies. They are both good things but only to an extent. When people choose to abuse it, that's when it ticks me off.
I'm single and have been for a while. But i'm still smiling =)
My best friend is male. My friend is a compulsive liar. But I try to see the best in people even though it is really really hard.
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Sex after breakups?
Q. After a break up does it help have sex with another girl??? or should I try for a new relationship?...
A. 16 March 2011: Hey.
Well you are single now. You're free to do whatever you want. Have sex. Find a gf. Hang out with your friends.
Hope this helps =)... (read in full...)
She doesn't show much interest, should I just give up?
Q. I have a girl I am trying to get with still. I compliment her as much as I can, not trying to score points but of genuine belief, she often says I am 'crazy, mad' etc etc. I have still persisted, but today for some reason I have snapped, I haven't ...
A. 14 March 2011: You seem like a really nice guy. I think you should back off a bit. See if she starts making the move. I'm exactly the same as you. But you'll be surprised when you stop making an effort for a while...
Hope this helps =)... (read in full...)
I want to talk to a girl more but never get the chance to
Q. There's this girl I like and I'm pretty sure she quite likes me too. Nevertheless, we've only spoken a few times and I'd like to get to know her better. I have no problem talking to girls but the problem is I never see her so never get the ...
A. 12 March 2011: Yea Facebook is a really good way to talk to people. Especially when you don't have the courage to do it face to face..
But you can also bump into her accidentally and ask her if she would like to go out or something. Go out of your way to talk to h... (read in full...)
Should I break up with this guy because he is SO busy?
Q. This guy (he's 26) and I (I'm 23) have been talking for about 2 years now. Him and his friends call me his "girl", but we've never had "that talk" to say we're exclusive. We've just had this implied strong connection since we met a couple years ago. ...
A. 9 March 2011: You're ending it with the guy you love because he's a little busy? I think that's really shallow if I'm honest. He probably doesn't want to be that busy like he obviously meant in his text. He's trying to get into school and have a good future, is ... (read in full...)
I am having an affair with my friend's wife! Is it okay to keep on with this relationship?
Q. I am having a relationship with my friend's wife. She is a wonderful lady but her husband is a real jerk. My relationship started 10 years ago when her husband left overseas for work. Then we just talked over the phone and had lunch. Subsequently ...
A. 9 March 2011: Um... NO!!!!
He's your friend even if he is a jerk. You need to come clean. If you are caught it's gonna hurt more than anything. It's disrespectful and dishonest. And doing it for a year???
I hope this helps... (read in full...)
I'm feeling weak and alone, will anyone help me?
Q. Lately I began thinking to myself wow My life is pretty great, then suddenly things have been beginning to change, My friends are starting to seperate from me, suspicious I question this, Only to find out what they truely think of me, If Im happy ...
A. 8 March 2011: You need to get yourself some real friends. Distance yourself from them. Ignore them. And always smile 'coz it won't half piss them off ;)
You are at a difficult age, everyone has crap days in their life you are not on your own. But if they can'... (read in full...)
How can I get her to forgive me....she read an old email that I never sent.
Q. My girl friend recently just looked through my email account, I have never given her my password or permission to look through my account. She saw a draft of an email a while back addressed to her. It was written at a time when we had split up and I ...
A. 8 March 2011: Us girls are quite sensitive when it comes to stuff like that. But yeah she will forgive you. She'll understand that it was done a while ago and it was when u were split up. Very wrong of her to read the emails though. So it was her fault she saw ... (read in full...)
Do I not do this because of the age difference or her being in a very emotional state or do I so it to help her regain her self confidence?
Q. Ok so here is my problem and i have no idea what to currently do at this point. I apologize in advance for how long this article is but I wanted people to understand the background first. I have worked in a small shop for about a year with a coup...
A. 8 March 2011: I totally agree with Danielepew. You are jeopardising your job either way. It's probably the emotional state that she suggested it. Perhaps she wasn't getting any at home or something. But either way, she knows you are a young guy and to ask you ... (read in full...)
She is obsessive & I don't know how to handle it!
Q. my girlfriendd and I have had a relationship for the past 17 months. but she has become so obsessive , she never let's me see my friends..because she thinks they are a bad influence..when they're not. she gets jelous when I lay eyes on another ...
A. 8 March 2011: I agree with MonksDaBomb..
I have a friend like it. And no matter how many times i tell her to take it slow, she rushes into it. The longest relationship she had was 6months. Then he left 'coz she tried to keep him in the house (wouldn't let him ... (read in full...)
Why is he acting all odd,sleeping with other girls and then contacting me??
Q. I live across the street from this cute guy, we were never really friends up until a couple months ago. The other day my phone rang, and it was my girlfriend telling me she slept with him, I ignored him, and tried to figure out what to do. The ...
A. 7 March 2011: He probably has no idea that you know. So is acting all cocky as if he did nothing wrong. A good come back would be "When you stop F***ing about with random chicks. Then you can contact me." But i'd stick at what you are doing hun. Ignore the fool. ... (read in full...)
Why would an ex text me out of the blue asking for sex? Is he confused?
Q. Why would an ex text me out of the blue asking for sex, and saying she hasn’t had sex with anyone since me? I know this is a lie and so does she. She cheated for the last years of a long relationship. Is she desperate, as her last boyfriend dumped ...
A. 7 March 2011: Maybe both. Desperate, confused, upset.. The list probably goes on. I think you should avoid her. If she cheated for the last YEARS of a long relationship, if you guys started to get serious again. What's gonna stop her from doing it again?
H... (read in full...)
I slept with the adopted daughter of my estranged uncle. I'm in my early 30's, she's 21. Can this work?
Q. Not sure what to do but last night I slept with the adopted daughter of my estranged uncle. Among the obvious issues here she is also only 21 years old. I am in my early thirties. I have only recently met her in the first place. Turned out she is ...
A. 7 March 2011: I don't see a problem with the age gap if i'm honest... My sister was 20 and going out with a 40yr old. It is legal so...
I think before you take it further you should be honest with your uncle and anyone else who should know. They'll probably... (read in full...)
She likes me but has feelings for another guy too
Q. Hello, I met a girl on holiday a few months ago and I really like her. Yesterday I told her I liked her and she said she likes me too but the problem is she also said that she has been after another guy for 5 months and still has feelings for him. ...
A. 6 March 2011: If she has been after him for 5 months then he is probably not interested. She shouldn't waste her time on him any more. But there's nothing you can do to change that so, I'd say back off from her a bit. Don't ignore her. But don't talk to her as m... (read in full...)
We're supposed to get married in a month and she doesn't trust me!
Q. My fiance doesn't trust me! About 18 months ago I was a little out of control with my spending and hid all my banking records from her. I finally built up the courage to tell her about my problem and of course she was upset. Now I am completely ...
A. 6 March 2011: You need to sit her down and just tell her everything. What is a relationship without trust? She is gonna make you feel like crap if she keeps accusing you of things. When you are married, it's going to get worse.
She needs to be told that you have... (read in full...)
Reconciling with my wife after a break and think a threesome would help
Q. Ok me and my wife broke up for 1 year after a 3 year marriage,break up was basically down to her family and we both agree on this and have been cut out of our lifes,we have recently started seeing each other again,we live apart but have been ...
A. 6 March 2011: I agree with CindyCares. Get her some roses and chocolates or take her out for a nice meal. She had a threesome before being married right? Then, I doubt she wants to do it when she is married. She may be offended if you want that.
I hope this help... (read in full...)
Her friends are popular and look down at me!
Q. I like a girl at my college. We get on really well when we are together. The thing is her friends all think their popular and feel they look down on me. What should i do?...
A. 5 March 2011: Who cares what her friends think? They are probably no better than you or me.
Try to get her on her own, ask her if she'd like to hang out sometime and exchange numbers. Sounds like you get on really well. Don't let her friends stop you.
I hope thi... (read in full...)
If he likes me, why is he hesitant about taking me to the prom??
Q. Hi I'm a 17 yr old single girl who goes to high school. So the prom is in a week and this guy was kind of flirting with me about 3 weeks ago. However we never actually went on a real date. He starts telling me stuff such as maybe somethin...
A. 5 March 2011: I think you should ask him if he's like to be your date. If he says no, go with your girlfriends or ask someone else (maybe a guy) but just as friends. If he see's you there with another guy, he's gonna be kicking himself that he said no to you. ... (read in full...)
If your partner smokes weed, what effect does that have in terms of your daily life and sex?
Q. Someone I like smokes weed does what does that affect in terms of everyday life and sexually? I really like him and he feels the same but I feel turned off by him smoking weed and his friends do to, I have read many times how it stops them getti...
A. 5 March 2011: If he smokes it occasionally and not all the time I don't think it'll be a problem. I know a lot of people that smoke the stuff every day and they are fine. Sometime's they get angry though. I think that is one of the side effect's. But it's really ... (read in full...)
I really want to get this girl's attention, any suggestions??
Q. There's this girl at school and I try to get her attenden but it never seems to work how could I get her to like me ?...
A. 5 March 2011: Well you can't really make someone like you. Just be yourself. Compliment her. Don't try too hard 'cause it's off putting. Make her laugh. Ask her if she'd like to do something sometime. Girls like a confident guy so get straight into it =) I ho... (read in full...)
What happens to women who mainly look for money
Q. there are a lot of girls out there who are mainley looking for sugar daddies or guys with money and dont care about other things, are they gonna get hurt in the end? also, does this mean they have given up on love?...
A. 4 March 2011: I think those girls are out for the money. No love in it at all. Then i see it as others may be out for the security, not having to worry about money again. Or they could be like me and prefer the older gent. Not like OAP's or anything lol. If they ... (read in full...)
Broke up with BF. Hes Making little changes..but is that enough or am I wasting my time?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend.. we have been dating for 6 months. We got along great, he makes me laugh and i could see myself marrying him(he said the same about me and talked bout the future alot) cept for a few important things that bug...
A. 4 March 2011: Yea i think he's doing well considering. He could have hit the bottle like some but he will slowly get there. And with you around i'm sure he will get there quicker.
I think you should try to be more patient. It isn't hard when you put your mind... (read in full...)
I wasted my chance of happiness!
Q. I used to date this girl a year ago. I knew she was special from the start but i didnt take her seriously. So ended up not talking to each other for a year. Little did i know that she was actually really in love with me when we were dating and even ...
A. 3 March 2011: To be honest I think you should let her go. It's taken her long enough to get over you, so telling her all that may be a big strain on her. Be happy for her, If it is meant to be it will happen. If they break up then maybe you should try being ... (read in full...)
How do I resist the urge to look up filth on the internet?
Q. Hi. It's me again. I have a psychological problem or maybe just a bad habit. I keep looking up pornography on the internet (sometimes vision of drunk women being taken advantage of) and I feel guilty about it later on. I once spoke to an expert ...
A. 3 March 2011: I agree with Annalisa. There is a world beyond the internet =) Go out with your friends. Try gaming sites that are sooooo addictive like www.miniclip.com The multiplayer pool is too addictive. LOL. Keep your mind busy and entertained. Watching porn ... (read in full...)
Should I trust her? And if so, how do I get her to hook me up with the guy I like?
Q. There's this guy I sort of like. His name's Rick. He's tall and always wears hooded jackets even though we live in mild climates. I'm guessing this is just his style, and I find it cute. I want to talk to him, but we barely cross paths or share ...
A. 3 March 2011: So he know's that you like him? What is the problem exactly?... (read in full...)
When is the right time to stop flirting with her and finally ask her out?
Q. I recently joined a club at uni and got to know the committee members. All of them are very friendly and very nice. I didn't have any problems talking to all of them and being my usual self by laughing and teasing them. I felt very confident and ...
A. 3 March 2011: Yea i agree. The worst thing she can say is no anyway. I say go for it. If you don't wanna ask face to face add her on Facebook and send her a private message asking if she would like to go out sometime. Something casual. I hope this helps =) And ... (read in full...)
Why do I hesitate in making the moves on this girl I like?
Q. Hey guys i have a question that i have thought on and i just can't seem to find the answer. There is this girl that i have known for about 8 years and for some reason i just can't stop thinking of her for the last couple of weeks. I have not seen ...
A. 3 March 2011: If she has a bf you need to respect that. They are young so in a year she could be single and very much available. Talk to her as a friend. Keep in contact with her until you move back. If you stop contact I don't think she will wanna even talk to ... (read in full...)
How do I show this jerk in a classy manner that I have moved on?
Q. Okay guys. My question is how do you handle a guy who has been ignoring you for the past two months. He liked me but then ran away because he was in another relationship and couldn't handle his feelings. So now he is back in the picture. He just...
A. 2 March 2011: Like you said he is a game player and your a toy to him. Hold your head up high and smile. Ignore the jerk, find someone that deserves you! Show him that you have moved on and he is gonna be buried in your past.
I hope this helps =)... (read in full...)
Two friends, but I like them both!
Q. ok, here goes, two guys, P and R. they bith say they like me, only problem is, i like them both back. P and i have been flirting for about three months, but he has even said himself that he wont take it any further than that, although he claims to ...
A. 2 March 2011: I think P is probably embarrassed. He's at the age that maybe all his friends will tease him if he has a crush/gf.
R sounds very cool though. I think i'd have to go with your friends on this one. And you and he are friends which is also good.
Al... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy who told me from the start that he's not "dating material" but I've fallen for him anyways!
Q. About a month ago I started a fling with this man I really really really like. He made it extremely clear right from the start that he was unreliable and not a good person (his words). He also said he loves spending time with me, but he also made it ...
A. 2 March 2011: Stop spending so much time with him. Look elsewhere. He obviously just likes your company and nothing more. In other ways I think that he doesn't want to hurt you if you were to get serious with him 'cause in his own words he is unreliable. Would ... (read in full...)
Feeling confused about my feelings for my boyfriend...
Q. I have a boyfriend I am happy with but if I ever think of myself kissing a boy it is never him I am thinking of. Also, I asked my friends who we should all ask to my party. Does this mean i should break up with him?...
A. 2 March 2011: If you are not attracted to him then break it off with him gently. But if you are and you are happy stay with him. You are very young and you are curious to try different things. That's understandable. Hope this helps =)... (read in full...)
I am seriously in love with this older guy!!!
Q. Help!!!! i think i am in love with this older guy(25+),!!!! I've been out with older guys before but this time i am totally stuck. Basically we both work in the same shopping center and i am purposely making up excuses to end up in his shop, we...
A. 2 March 2011: He blanks you when people are around because he knows people will frown about him flirting with a younger girl. I don't think you should bother him anymore. Try and avoid him. Find someone your own age that won't feel ashamed about being with you. ... (read in full...)
First sexual experience...
Q. Hey, so me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 1 month now and she wants to get a bit 'sexual' and im keen for this. Were both 16 and we have both never had sex or given/received a blowjob. I know she wants to but im a bit nervous I might ...
A. 2 March 2011: I really don't know if this is true, or real, but i heard it somewhere. Holding your pee in. When you go to the toilet, pee, then hold it for a minute then pee, then keep holding til you finished. It sounds odd i know but it's worth a try. Other ... (read in full...)
Texting...
Q. So I just met this girl and she was really cool, she gave me her number. The next day we texted through out but it tapered off that night. I got a couple of weird answers when I asked where her favorite place to eat was and what not, she would say ...
A. 2 March 2011: I think you should wait to see if she texts you. If she doesn't then it's obvious she isn't interested. Give her some space and see if she comes to you. I hope this helps... (read in full...)
Do I hang around waiting on her???
Q. I've been in love with this girl i've known for about 5 years. For the past 5 years she has had a boyfriend. She has now been single for 4 months, and 2 months ago she asked me out. We've been dating now 2 months. Nothing has happened. And so i ...
A. 2 March 2011: I think right now you are just a stand in for her ex boyfriend. She likes your company and right now she prefers you as a friend. Maybe you should give her some space until she is really over him and ready to move on 'cause it really isn't fair on ... (read in full...)
Love my girlfriend so why do I keep having crushes on others?
Q. I have a girlfriend, we had been quite steady together, I really love her a lot. However, I tend to have a lot of random crushes on other girls and really would like to be with them them. Please give me some advice on this!!! I need to get it out of ...
A. 2 March 2011: It may be that you wanna experience other people before you settle down. If you do love her a lot, and you want to be with her, then you better forget about these crushes.
As they say, "Don't leave the person you love for the person you like, 'Cau... (read in full...)
Did I misread the signs? Is there anything I can do now?
Q. A couple of weeks ago I went to a friends bday party and met this really beautiful, funny, cool girl. We laughed and joked all night. Danced a little bit. It was one of those nights where you meet someone and go "Wow, I really like this person" ...
A. 2 March 2011: Tell her you like her, but you don't wanna ruin anything with the guy she is seeing. 'Cause if you ruin anything with him and she really likes him, it may end up with her hating you.
If she only likes you as a friend, you should keep your dist... (read in full...)
Am I a bad person for setting the trap for her to fall into? In my defence, she did some really horrible things!
Q. So I met this girl (we are both 28) when she came to my country on a two month vacation. She was attractive, beautiful and smart (basically the opposite of me ? ) but anyway, we got on well together and things got serious towards the end of her stay ...
A. 2 March 2011: I agree, it was quite devious of you. Leave her where she is. You don't love her. If she has problems i'm sure she can ask other people for help. Don't go back to her.
Hope this helps... (read in full...)
What is this fluid?
Q. I'm a 17-year old male , but i haven't any ejaculations yet , i only get seminal fluid (transparent fluid) at the tip of my penis but no cum or ejaculation at all , what would that be ??...
A. 2 March 2011: http://www.sharedjourney.com/define/fluid.html
Hope it helps =)... (read in full...)
Is it strange that I'm falling for this guy over Skype?
Q. Hey Everyone, I just wanted to know if what I'm feeling is completely crazy. So a little while ago I met this guys online and we exchanged skypes and we've been video chatting on there everyday for 3 to 4 hours at a time. Is it strange that I'm...
A. 2 March 2011: I don't think it's crazy at all!!. I say go for it. You obviously feel this is right and so do I. My friend's boyfriend lives about 3-4 hours drive away and they get on really well (Together for just over a year and still going strong).
I hope this... (read in full...)
I'm confused and lost, I like this guy, it's a LDR only over FB as he doesn't own a phone!
Q. Do long distance relationships work.? I like this guy Doesn't own a phone I only talk to him on Facebook he lives 1 hour away We see eachother once every two weeks Potential? Do they work? And do you think this will work?...
A. 2 March 2011: Sometimes they work. An hour isn't that long considering people do it from different corners of the world.
I think if you like him, keep at it and see where it leads. It might be nothing but it might be the person who you spend the rest of your... (read in full...)
He criticizes me and sends mixed signals, should I stay with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a year now... I am in love with him and feel so low when im not with him.. but I feel as though he is mentally torturing me. He doesnt liek me wearing make up and the other day he gave me an ultimatum betwee...
A. 2 March 2011: Good for you hun. Sounds like an awesome plan =)... (read in full...)
He criticizes me and sends mixed signals, should I stay with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a year now... I am in love with him and feel so low when im not with him.. but I feel as though he is mentally torturing me. He doesnt liek me wearing make up and the other day he gave me an ultimatum betwee...
A. 1 March 2011: Hey there.
I think you need to sit him down and give him an ultimatum. You or no you. Make up? Really? I couldn't live without mine and why should you? I think that is ridiculous. Sit him down and tell him how you feel about everything. And if he d... (read in full...)
Should I trust her? And if so, how do I get her to hook me up with the guy I like?
Q. There's this guy I sort of like. His name's Rick. He's tall and always wears hooded jackets even though we live in mild climates. I'm guessing this is just his style, and I find it cute. I want to talk to him, but we barely cross paths or share ...
A. 1 March 2011: Why don't you approach him yourself? The worst thing he could say is No right? Go out of your way to find him. I have a friend just like Yolanda, It's hard to know if you can trust her or not 'cos you don't know if she's joking, lying, or being se... (read in full...)
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