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Okay so i'm not an expert at giving advice or anything but I know that there are a lot of people that would be grateful with a good ear and a bit of honest advice and that's what I am. Honest =)
I live in the UK near Cardiff. I am 21 years old.
Just a little about me, I love to read, and i love horror movies. The scarier the better. Ghost's and alien movies freak me the hell out, but i tend to watch with someone or during the day LOL ;)
The thing i can't stand the most is Jealousy and Lies. They are both good things but only to an extent. When people choose to abuse it, that's when it ticks me off.
I'm single and have been for a while. But i'm still smiling =)
My best friend is male. My friend is a compulsive liar. But I try to see the best in people even though it is really really hard.
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30 year old virgin - got no one to talk to or ask for advice
Q. Hello everyone, I'll get straight to the point. Im a 30 year old virgin, dont know how but i am. Its sad and im ashamed of it. I get nervous when im close to women, i feel i have no experience. Im average looking, workout in the gym alot, got a ...
A. 1 June 2011: Hey.
This sounds really complicated and you sound like a really nice guy. But sometimes these things just happen. And I'm gonna say it. Kill me if you want but I'm saying it. It WILL happen. Don't rush these things. I know you've been waiting 14 y... (read in full...)
I was falsely accused of a crime, and my girl hasn't treated me the same since it happened!
Q. We been togther for just over 4 years. For first two years we had sex almost everyday where ever we could, and when we both had the same days off work we spent the entire time in bed having sex. She held my hand everywhere we went, wasnt bothered ...
A. 1 June 2011: I think your friends are right. She is acting pretty strange. Her feelings for you wouldn't have just disappeared like that. And now that she knows you didn't steal anything. She might still believe you did it. But for the few months that you ... (read in full...)
She has inexplicably blocked me and I can't help but feel rejected. Should I give up on online dating?
Q. A girl I met online and have been talking to for the past couple of months has inexplicably blocked me. I say inexplicably because we had been getting along just fine (so I thought anyway) and had established a while ago that we'd like to meet up ...
A. 1 June 2011: Her loss. Don't worry about it. She probably changed her mind a while ago and didn't wanna come out right and talk to you about it. Instead she took the coward exit. Or perhaps she had a lot going on in her life that she didn't tell you. You'll ... (read in full...)
I cant continue this LDR but I don't want to hurt her
Q. Hi After ten months of a long distance relationship, I can't go on. I love her, love my time with her, but the relationship model is all wrong, it's not working. We have just done the "time to think" thing, I know we are finished, so does she, we ...
A. 31 May 2011: Hey. There aren't many guys out there that would go through this much trouble to spare a woman's feelings. Even if they loved them. So kudos for that. But I know it's probably really tough on you. And 10 months is quite a long time.
If you don'... (read in full...)
Do I come to grips with losing everything I know?
Q. My girlfriend lives 8 hours away. I want to move down there with her but would prefer her to move here, it is so far away from everything I know. I am a country guy bread in full; she lives in the big City L.A. It feels strange to think I would be ...
A. 13 May 2011: No, you're not being selfish. It's the only place you know. You're 18-21. Still really young. You need to talk to her about it. I know I could never move from where I live to somewhere more populated. If anything it would have to be the same. I've ... (read in full...)
How many friends do you have?
Q. OK I am wondering how many friends--and I mean real friends--can a person honestly have. I am not counting Facebook friends, but real friends. To me a real friend is someone you feel a kinship with, someone you identify with and who identifies w...
A. 13 May 2011: I have three people I can really trust. And one is my sister. One is male who I met about 2 yrs ago and one is a friend who I have known all my life. I also have friends that I would never confide in because they'll twist it out of proportion and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 8 years told me last week that she hasn't got the same feelings anymore. My life has come crashing down!!
Q. Please my girlfriend of 8 years last week told me she hasn't got the same feelings anymore. I always thought we were great together as does others Iam devastated sick everything you could think of we are both from different countries so I've ...
A. 14 April 2011: I'm sorry to hear it. I hope she does realise she misses you and wants you back. But if she has fallen out of love with you she probably just wants you as a friend. It isn't fair on you to dwell on the possibility of her coming back to you. I think ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 8 years told me last week that she hasn't got the same feelings anymore. My life has come crashing down!!
Q. Please my girlfriend of 8 years last week told me she hasn't got the same feelings anymore. I always thought we were great together as does others Iam devastated sick everything you could think of we are both from different countries so I've ...
A. 14 April 2011: Hey.
I'm sorry for what you are going through. I know that it's hard.
First off, if there is no other guy involved then she probably simply fell out of love with you. It happens. She is probably feeling really bad about it too. Do you guys still ta... (read in full...)
He ignores my texts and only contacts me when he wants sex
Q. I'm a gay guy. I met a guy a few weeks ago and we've seen each other a few times since.We always have amazing sex, and he always says how great the sex is.Thing is i text him and it gets ignored.Then maybe a couple of weeks later he will text to ...
A. 12 April 2011: Sorry to say it hun. But you sound like a booty call to him. Ignore him. I doubt he will be as bothered by it 'coz he knows with a text you'll be knocking at his door. Don't bother with him hun. Go find someone that deserves you.
Hope this help... (read in full...)
I plan to be independent, but don't know how to tell him.
Q. I'm studying Eng.,and he is my classmate, we both love each other, but he gets angry whenever i talk to boys, he also told me not to wear jeans, and also tells me that after our marriage i have to leave my job because I have to take care of his ...
A. 10 April 2011: WOW! Leave him. He's gonna control EVERY step of your life and you are only 18-21. Not wear jeans??? Please. That's absurd. I'd laugh in someone's face if they told me I couldn't wear jeans anymore! But... If you love him. Put your foot down. Te... (read in full...)
Is this the wrong way to go about it? I'm using someone else to make my teacher jealous.
Q. i am 18 and i am in a short term relationship with another 18 year old but it isn't serious i don't even have feelings for this guy i am with i know that sounds so awful but i don't. My reasons for dating this guy is... i have feeling for this old...
A. 10 April 2011: It's not wrong. You are 18. First off. Dump the guy you are dating now. It's wrong to lead him on. Just go for it. Tell him you like him but if he doesn't like you it doesn't matter. You have nothing to lose. It hurts keeping it to yourself. So tel... (read in full...)
Don't know if what he wrote on his Facebook page referred to me or someone else?
Q. Hi everyone there's a guy I've liked for ages but haven't the guts to tell him that i do like him, he drove me somewhere on Tuesday evening and anyway after i left his and a few hours after he wrote this on his facebook page......... It hurts ...
A. 10 April 2011: Hey. Don't put yourself down like that. I think it is you. You should let him know how you feel. I know it's nerve wracking but you'll feel better to get it off your chest. He put that up on his status just after you left. Then I think it is you.... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Please give opinions!
Q. Hi, okay, so I think that this guy might like me, but I really like him, so I'm worried that maybe my mind is playing tricks on me. I need other, third-party opinions on the matter please :) Here's why I think he likes me: -He stares at me A L...
A. 10 April 2011: Yeah it sounds like the feelings are mutual. =) Now you have talked once, you should try to spark up another conversation then try to as often as you see him. Don't be afraid to talk to him 'cause he is probably quite nervous and waiting for you ... (read in full...)
Her best friend is a boy. Am I wrong because I feel jealous?
Q. hey guys, i go out with a girl that has lots of boys as friends and has a boy best friend, is it normal for me to get really jealous and sometimes upset because it seems like she likes him ? ...
A. 7 April 2011: My best friend is a guy. Some guys are intimidated then they see that you are more like siblings than bf/gf and you start to be more confident. You will have to get used to it as he is her best friend. She may resent you in the future if you try to ... (read in full...)
I don't think he's interested in me. Should I call off the date?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a little under two months. The first couple dates we went on we made out and it was super hot. He suggested we wait a couple weeks to have sex... i told him we should wait 3 months. He reluctantly agreed. Since ...
A. 6 April 2011: I think he is backing off a bit incase the making out gets so hot that he get's turned on and he doesn't wanna rush having sex with you. Ask him if he is still interested coz he seems a little distant, but I don't think you have anything to worry ... (read in full...)
Who answers the questions on this site?
Q. Hi Andew Not really sure how I got here virtually!!! Must be on a cloud? who is it that actually answers these questions people have? other users or do you have a staff of lisc. social workers, Ph.d's ect...who purse this site and chime in when th...
A. 6 April 2011: We the other members answer your questions. Some may be professionals and others could be in (or has gone through) similar situations as others. People who listen and understand other people's problems and try sharing it for a little while. Hope t... (read in full...)
When should I kiss my g/f?
Q. please help i have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 months, we live quite far away from eachother and i dont get to see her often, the first time i was with her i was too shy to kiss her, she then said "i got a hug today but not a kiss", so i ...
A. 6 April 2011: Hey. She is expecting a kiss. So you can kiss her whenever the moment feels right. Saying goodbye is always a good time to do it. I hope this helps and Good Luck =)... (read in full...)
She's keeps asking me when I'm going to propose to her, but she tells other people she wishes she was with this other guy who she's cheating on me with!!
Q. Hi I just wanted to get some advice I don't think my gf is phisicly cheating on me but..... When got together she was seeing this other guy at the same time. 2 years on and she is still in daily contact via txt and face book with this guy. to save ...
A. 6 April 2011: Why are you still with this girl????? It's beyond me when people stay together knowing full well that they are cheating. Leave her. Even if she bites your head off. Get from her. As far from her as possible. 'Cause if you do propose to her, ... (read in full...)
I get paranoid at night
Q. i gues this coud be a health issue ima 14 year old male who gets very paranoid at night and some times during the day (especialy when im alone) i normaly dont go to bed till around 9,40 and normaly fall a sleep after 11ish. this is because i have ...
A. 4 April 2011: Then i don't think you have anything to worry about. How long have you lived in the house? Yes it is of me... (read in full...)
I always seem to be the odd man out, and I don't know what to do. Advise please.
Q. Hello, I guess I just need someone to talk to. I'm 22 and I have never been in a relationship. I have a horrible scary feeling in the back of my mind that I will be alone for the rest of my life. I cannot imagine any woman who would think I'm good ...
A. 4 April 2011: Hey =) You are still really young. Late blooming. You WILL find someone. There is someone for everyone. You just gotta keep looking and eventually it will happen. Just be patient. =) Hope this helps... (read in full...)
How can I start a casual conversation with the professor I'm romantically interested in?
Q. I always want to strike up a conversation with the professor i like when we're together, but i don't know how. it might be due to my limited social skills or it could be because i'm nervous..... i feel very awkward every time we're together alone wh...
A. 4 April 2011: It isn't hard to talk to someone. He isn't gonna bite your head off. Ask him if he has had a good week or has he got any plans for the weekend. Discuss something about your class. Pretend he is a family member and you have known him for years! When ... (read in full...)
I get paranoid at night
Q. i gues this coud be a health issue ima 14 year old male who gets very paranoid at night and some times during the day (especialy when im alone) i normaly dont go to bed till around 9,40 and normaly fall a sleep after 11ish. this is because i have ...
A. 4 April 2011: Hey.
I think everyone is the same as you. I definitely am. If I hear a noise, I lay rigid in bed. What are you afraid of exactly a break in? Has there ever been a break in in your neighbourhood? 'Cause if there hasn't then there's less likely to b... (read in full...)
Was this really a mutual breakup?
Q. just broke up with a guy I dated for about 6 weeks bc he wasn't attentive enough. I began pulling by canceling our weekend plans and turning down his request to spend time together on Thursday. Although he could tell I was upset, he still acted like ...
A. 2 April 2011: Hey.
I think he agreed to the break up 'coz you wanted it. I don't think he wanted it at all. Yea, i think he still wants you. he probably backed off a bit 'coz he knew something was wrong your end, and he didn't know what to do or say to make you ... (read in full...)
I would love to see if this could work with the father of my child, but now I have an opportunity to explore this relationship with my friend of 8 years! What should I do?
Q. I have a 1 yr old with a guy who i have not been with since i was 8 months pregnant. he has treated me the worst i have ever been treated. about 2 weeks ago he seen me hanging out with a guy friend of 8 yrs and now all the sudden wants to marry me. ...
A. 2 April 2011: Hey.
As the saying goes... A baby can have a hundred father's but it will only have one Mother.
If he treated you really bad before when your married there will be no doubt that your life will be hell. Unless he's changed. But I doubt it.
S... (read in full...)
I know it was in the past but I feel so hurt, confused and betrayed.
Q. Hello, i'm currently 19 years old and have been with my partner for just over a year and she's also 19. Today, we were (for some reason) discussing old partners and laughing about it until it got a bit more serious and the discussion of ou...
A. 27 March 2011: Hey.
I think if it's in the past that's where it should stay. You dragged it up even though it could have been worse. She told you about it. Ever thought she may regret it? She's ashamed? She didn't want you to know for a reason.
I think you shou... (read in full...)
Should I let my 6-year-old daughter see her Mum, even though it may break her heart if her Mum then disappears again from her life?
Q. Hi All, I have a beautiful 6 year old daughter, absolutely beautiful. I was with her Mum, a successful Uni graduate, for a short time when she was conceived, but we split up before she found out she was pregnant..anyway...she gave birth and I went t...
A. 26 March 2011: I know that it's a very difficult situation. My sister went through the same with her then 6yr old daughter (She's 8 now) He nagged and nagged to see her. Took her to court and he finally had access. Did he bother? Nope. He wouldn't ask how school ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is afraid of me cheating on her
Q. Hi. I have to go overseas for college soon and even though me and my girlfriend love each other and want to stay together, she's afraid that I'll cheat on her while I'm at college even though I just want to make her happy. What should I do? How...
A. 24 March 2011: I think every girl is afraid their partner is gonna cheat on them when they aren't with them, but you gotta have 100% trust. Phone her and text as much as you can. Try not to leave ur phone if you are going out (Trust me on that one)
Just sit her ... (read in full...)
Would a girl laugh at my penis when its not erect?
Q. i wondering if my 6-7 inch dick (erect)is big enough to do the job? when its not erect its maybe about 2 inches. i kind of feel embaressed when its not erect. i feel like a girl would laugh when she felt it not erect....
A. 24 March 2011: 5 inches is the average size of a penis. Most penis' are smallish when not erect. You have nothing to worry about. All male parts are different. But it is nothing to fret about.
I hope this helps =)... (read in full...)
If I start the NC rule, will she realize she still loves me?
Q. I've been in a 3.5 year relationship with my ex-gf and she says she no longer loves me in a romantic way. I've contacted her occasionally (once or twice a week) the past 2 weeks since our breakup. If i start the NC rule now, will there be a chance ...
A. 22 March 2011: First off you can'e 'make' anyone love you.
But I think the NC thing is a good idea. But if she doesn't love you anymore and doesn't wanna be with you then you need to respect that and move on.
Hope this helps... (read in full...)
How to sort myself out for my relationship sake
Q. me and my fiance are having a hard time at the moment and i dont know if she wants to be with me she has already split up with me and got back with me but she says im too obsesesive with her by texting her and ringing her everyday. i think i have t...
A. 22 March 2011: Hey.
Don't text her as much. Give her a little space. Sure text her once saying "you miss her" or "can't wait to see you". But wait 'til she texts you. She probably feels suffocated, so a little backing off by you will probably help
I hope ... (read in full...)
9 happy years together, then suddenly says she don't want to be with me
Q. ive been with my gf for 9 years.. i finally asked her to marry me, this was 2 years ago. we have been looking at venues to get married now on the net, pricing things and that. then we went to look at a venue, it was rubish, so we stopped at another ...
A. 21 March 2011: Hey. I'm sorry you are going thru this. It must be so hard. You have been together since you were teenagers, perhaps she wants to try something new. She has either been feeling it for a while or she just realised that you have both had your time. Yo... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin at 20!
Q. im going to be twenty in 2 days and im still a virgin. is this normal? at times i lie awake at night and despise myself for it. other times i think its fine and i shouldnt worry. ive considered losing it to an escort-going so far as to make the ...
A. 21 March 2011: My friend is 21 and she is still a virgin. I know people think it's all about sex these days but it's quite rare someone being a virgin at 20+ Hell, it's rare if there are 13yr old virgins these days. Don't just get rid of it like that. You'll lose ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for X? Or go for Z?
Q. i am a 21 years old pakistani muslim girl i am in relationship with a guy X in my university for 3 years.. our relation has been really tough since the first day v are really different people with different choices n opinion n dont seem to get ...
A. 21 March 2011: Hey.
Seems to me that X is a bit of a waste of time. You obviously don't like the person he is. If he broke up with you, you are free to do what you want. Get to know Z. You may regret it if you don't.
Good luck and I hope this helps =)... (read in full...)
She's moody, I want her to dump me. Love's faded. What can I do?
Q. So heres my story: Ive been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years now, im 20 now and she is 10 months older, and have been with her since i was around 16, shes my first serious relationship. And shes the only girl ive ever slept with. We met ...
A. 19 March 2011: You know what? She sounds exactly the same as my brother's gf. Let me tell you something. She will NOT harm herself. It's a way of trapping you. A very stupid little girl thing to say. I'm 20. And i've never even thought of saying it to anyone! Like ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date her before she is 16?
Q. Hi, I'm a 17 year old male and I met this 15 year old girl who lives in the west of London (I live in the east). I'm going to be 18 in May, she will be 16 in August, would I be a prevert if I dated her before she is 16?...
A. 18 March 2011: Nope. There's nothing wrong with it at all. Go for it =D... (read in full...)
I don't believe in soul mates and things like that but I feel like she's the other half of me...
Q. I'm a guy. Went out with the girl of my dreams for 3 years, and spit up nearly 4 years ago. And I STILL have strong feelings for her. We had an amazing relationship, but in the end we split because we agreed we had, had our time so to speak as...
A. 18 March 2011: Hey.
You sound like a really nice guy. She knows it as you both spend time together.
I think she wants you as a friend as she is still saying you have had your time. But would it hurt to ask her if you can see anything happen with you both in ... (read in full...)
She misses me, then gets a new boyfriend, but still wont let me out of her life! What is going on here?
Q. Why do girls tell there ex they miss them of they got to gether with a new guy three weeks into the breakup? My ex told me she found some old pics of us and they made her sad cuz she misses me, but she knows I want her back and she has a new bf. I ...
A. 18 March 2011: Sounds like she wants you as a back up if her other relationship fails. Maybe. She knows you want her back, so she knows that her being with another guy is upsetting you. I'd cut her out of your life.
If it was me I wouldn't talk to him. She eith... (read in full...)
Online relationship; different sex drives
Q. I'm in an online relationship. Without getting into specifics, we've been going steadily for over 10 months now. But there's a schism, it seems. Despite me being "the male," her sex drive is, by far, much stronger than mine. Typically, ...
A. 17 March 2011: Wow! She sounds like a spoilt brat. I don't find any enjoyment with cyber sex at all. Ya know there have been times when i haven't been able to get out of it so I do it, but I'm watching tv, or making something to eat while texting/writing online or ... (read in full...)
Broken up but ex hasn't changed her status
Q. So girlfriend of one year broke up with me 3 weeks ago but hasn't changed her status on a social networking site.. All communication has basically been dropped since I know I have to get over her, especially since she's befriended/gotten quite close ...
A. 17 March 2011: Perhaps she hasn't been on to change it. If it is Facebook, if you put yourself as single then she will automatically not be in a relationship with you on there. And if she is just in a relationship, perhaps she is seeing someone so didn't change ... (read in full...)
How do you make an ex jealous?
Q. Whats the best way to make a recent ex jealous and want to talk to you again? Or want your back?...
A. 16 March 2011: You can't 'Make' anyone want you back.
I agree with Jmtmj. Move on. And if she knows that you have genuinely moved on and are happy, she'll either be happy for you or jealous.
Hope this helps... (read in full...)
Sex after breakups?
Q. After a break up does it help have sex with another girl??? or should I try for a new relationship?...
A. 16 March 2011: Hey.
Well you are single now. You're free to do whatever you want. Have sex. Find a gf. Hang out with your friends.
Hope this helps =)... (read in full...)
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