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writes:My girl friend recently just looked through my email account, I have never given her my password or permission to look through my account. She saw a draft of an email a while back addressed to her. It was written at a time when we had split up and I was angry. It was a horrible email written about her, said some hurtful things, I was angry and hurt at the time so I wrote it, I never would have sent it to her. I love my girlfriend a lot and care about her, she is very angry about the email and now wont speak to me. I can't even remember precisely what the email said because she has deleted it.I know I have really hurt her feelings, I would never have wanted her to hear or read those things I wrote. Will she forgive me?
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Give her time, she'll cool off... or not.If she doesn't, then it's time to pick yourself up and move on. If this is the kind of thing that she considers a "deal breaker", then she's too unstable to continue a relationship with. You're better off without her.Plus she's already shown you that she doesn't trust you by breaking into your e-mail.One last thing, and it's a good rule to live by."NEVER put anything into writing, that you wouldn't want the entire world to read"! You are the only person you can ever really trust!
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reader, JDinCali  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 How unfair of her for being an illegal snoop! You have every right to keep a journal/e-mail.
Ask to see her diary and see if she can empathize with you more.
Tell her also that she should be thankful you're a guy who can think before he blasts off a rude e-mail. The fact you were able to resist the temptation of going off on her, shows you care about her feelings.
Also, it was a smart thing to keep tabs of rough times by writing them out; as to not dwell, but not forget either. It's so easy to pass things off, but sometimes if we're not careful the past can repeat itself.
She needs to step back and see the big picture.
Hope things get better.
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Us girls are quite sensitive when it comes to stuff like that. But yeah she will forgive you. She'll understand that it was done a while ago and it was when u were split up. Very wrong of her to read the emails though. So it was her fault she saw what she did.
Give her some time and space and she'll come around. Next time... delete the emails.
Hope this helps =)
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