A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a girlfriend, we had been quite steady together, I really love her a lot. However, I tend to have a lot of random crushes on other girls and really would like to be with them them. Please give me some advice on this!!! I need to get it out of my head!
View related questions:
crush Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (2 March 2011):
 What is your idea of a "crush"?
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): Hey there. it sounds pretty normal for me, i think most guys, particularly of your age, fancy a lot of girls and have sexual thoughts towards alot of girls. The key is in having the self control to not do anything about it. If you cant handle that and you actually feel that you cannot be faithful to your girlfriend then maybe you should be single. If it's just lust and fantasy then don't worry and maybe indulge in a little pornography to try and curb the fantasies abit, although I'm sure you probably already do! I really think it's normal for people to want to have sex with more than one person, so try not to worry about it.
...............................
A
female
reader, Nime  +, writes (2 March 2011):
 I think a lot of us in loving, long-term relationships feel this way too. I can 'fall in love' with a guy for 5 minutes or a month because I recognize his unique qualities and believe, in another lifetime, we'd be great together. This doesn't in ANY WAY diminish the love I have for my boyfriend. In fact, I relish in the sensation of being free and able to 'window shop' while feeling the warm security of already having what I love and need; somehow it makes me appreciate what I have even more. Moreover it makes me feel more sexual as a person, which is a benefit only my boyfriend gets to enjoy. As long as you are always honest with your girlfriend (my boyfriend thinks it's funny) and recognize that while the grass is green on the other side, it's not GREENER, I think having these random crushes is fine and sexually healthy. However, if you get to the point where you're taking your girlfriend for granted while thinking about other girls, maybe it's time to move on...
...............................
A
female
reader, StarryEyes101  +, writes (2 March 2011):
 It may be that you wanna experience other people before you settle down. If you do love her a lot, and you want to be with her, then you better forget about these crushes.
As they say, "Don't leave the person you love for the person you like, 'Cause the person you like will leave you for the person they love"
Hope this helps =)
...............................
|
