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Are they really addicted or just being guys?

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Question - (21 August 2007) 8 Answers - (Newest, 26 November 2007)
A female United States age 36-40, *taunton5410 writes:

When guys say that they are addicted to porn, is that REALLY that bad or are they just normal people being guys?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007):

many people struggle with this. Those who are addicted find themselves inevitably drawn to stronger and stronger material. As they go down the slippery slope they find themselves more and more drawn to the more perverse and perverted side of things. That's when it really becomes dangerous. Often they will think of ways that they can actually fulfill thier lusts or fantasies, some go on to committ criminal acts as a direct result of this. It has een found that men and women equally struggle with this. But then we are bombarded by everyt kind of media containing it and the solution is complex. The answer I have found is the Grace of God and a disciplined life. Both are necesary even for the Christian or religous.

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A male reader, metalinvasion92 United States +, writes (29 August 2007):

metalinvasion92 agony auntIf a guy says he's addicted to porn then he REALLY is. Not to gross you out but i used to be a porn addict 2 years ago, and i stopped because it came to a point where i felt unsatisfied if a did not watch porn that certain day. so yes there are really porn addicts, then again some people just say they r a porn addict to be funny so you will never really know the truth unless you find out for yourself

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A male reader, somewhat_anonymous United States +, writes (22 August 2007):

Ya know, most are saying that those guys are addicted to porn for saying they are, but they might not be. They might just be bored and in the habit of doing that when there is nothing to do.

The real test is if they prefer it to sex, or even do that instead of other activities. For example: "I have final exams tomorrow, instead of studying, I think I'll masturbate to porn!"

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007):

no one admits to being addicted to something when they are not...think about it in these terms, alcohol, ciggarettes, heroin.....you would not say you are addicted to them if you are not. Read some of the informatin on the internet about porn addiction, it is very real and can be dangerous to a relationship when a person is weak and allows it to interfere with real life relationships or it escalates into more shady areas of sexual behavior.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007):

I think it is bad. I dated a guy who was addicted to porn and he preferred it to sex after a while. That really did a number on my self esteem and it made me feel inadequate.

I don't think it is unusual for guys to look at smut every now and then. But addiction means that they are looking at this stuff at least five times a day (this was my ex bf's confession). I can't really say if that is normal or not but I can certainly say that it is something I would never put up with again. For me it was a nightmare.

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (21 August 2007):

love-him agony aunthey bbe, if they say they are addicted, all u can do is believe um.. i hope i helped :)

Mail me if u wanna talk x x x

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (21 August 2007):

kenny agony auntIf someone says they are addicted to porn then the likellhood is they probably are. Alot of single guys out there look at porn, as well as married guys too. I woulden't say its just a guy thing either as im sure truth be told alot of woman look at it too.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007):

If he says he is addicted to porn, then he probably is. But on the brighter side, by admitting it he has just taken the first step on the road to recovery. Does he want to recover? If so, there are ways to do it.

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