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writes:Hello! So there is this professor who started winking at me a couple of months ago. The first time he winked i was with a friend of mine so i didn't give any attention to that. I thought it was his "way' of saying hello. The next day he winked again but i was again with this friend of mine and i thought he may be winking to her. But a couple of days later, i met him when i was alone and he winked at me without saying anithing.Then suddenly for 1-1,5 month he stopped winking and even he avoided saying hello with no reason. Just two weeks ago when i saw him and told him hello he winked again. When i asked my friends if he is winking at them too, they said no. And some general information that may help you: we don't have any direct cooperation and communication because he is not the supervisor of my Ph.D.We have only spoke once for 2 minutes for a job matter. He is married and that is the major problem for me because although i find him very handsome, i know i should not do anything with him. When he is around with other people he avoids even saying hello or looking at me (i don't do anything also) and every time he winks or smiles he makes sure first that no one else is looking. What kind of game is he playing with me or is it just my idea that he wants something from me? thank you very much in advance for your help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): Keep clear, it's a complication you don't need.
A friend of mine got involved with a married professor a few years ago, apparently he and his friends got involved with students quite a lot.
Just make it clear you're not interested.
Best case scenario, you get involved, have great sex and finish your PHd never to see him again.
Worst case, you get involved and lots of people get hurt, he gets fired and you could get in trouble too.
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reader, beautifultrustnlover  +, writes (20 August 2007):
 yes he is intressed in you but STAY FAR FAR AWAY hes married and you dont need that trouble thats for sure enjoy going to school and having friends and have a good time dont worry about this man ignore hes winking hes just wants attention from a young smart ladie and it probley makes him feel good
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (20 August 2007):
It can mean anything. But it doesn't matter, just stay away. Nothing good can come out of this.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (20 August 2007):
 Hi,
If you are with students, he winks. If there is a possiblility of other people witnessing him winking, he doesn't. He avoids paying any attention to you around his colleagues because he doesn't want to lose his job, and because his colleagues know that he is married, and he doesn't want them gossiping. The thing that worries me the most is that you seem to be on a fishing expedition and want to know if he likes you or not. YES, he obviously is attracted to you. The question that you SHOULD be asking of yourself is, "Why would I ever fall for someone who has the potential of being a scum-sucking bottom feeding cheating bastard?". I hope the language wasn't too strong, but you get my drift. If you are bright, and you must be - going for your Doctorate, then you will keep well away from him and save yourself a LOT of grief. This is not a popularity contest, it is not a win-win situation. You never get to put the first marriage behind you, it won't disappear with a divorce. If your relationship starts out with you being the other woman, That will AlWAYS be the way that your relationship started. I don't know if he has children or not, but he has relatives (Mother-in-laws are tough enough to begin with) that will always treat you badly if you are the cause of breaking up his marriage. SOME CRUSHES ARE BETTER LEFT AS FANTASIES. Let some else be his mid-life crisis. Run for your Life.
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