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writes:I've had a boyfriend for nearly 2 and a half years, we're both off to uni this october.. the problem is he wants to stay together, get serious and evetually get married. I want to have a break and have informed him of this.. I am only 18 and have so much left to do, I want to go travelling and be free to pursue what I feel like. It hurts both of us to think of breaking up but its something I really need to do...Should I stay with him and try it, give it a chance?Or just break up with a chance of getting back together if we really need to?
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (22 August 2007):
Chances are you will break up if you go to different places for college anyway. If it really does hurt you that bad breaking it off, perhaps you could try staying together. But be real with each other. You will not have nearly as much time to even talk on the phone and neither one of you can be expected to drop plans at the drop of the hat for one another. If it is obvious that it isn't working, then break it off so it helps quench that "What if we stayed together?" feeling.
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reader, piratecandy +, writes (21 August 2007):
If you don't feel that you want to keep going and get serious with him then maybe he's not really what you want
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (21 August 2007):
 You should do what your heart is telling you. If you want to break up, then that's what you should be doing. You owe it to yourself to go into Uni and make it the experience that you want. It would be hard to have a long distance relationship, you could do it if you want to, but You really don't Want to! Uni is the best time to develop and find out about Yourself, it's probably better not to have to worry about being a part of a couple if your heart isn't in it. If you were meant to be, you'll find your way back to each other. Good Luck Honey!
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reader, RebeccaT +, writes (21 August 2007):
No i dont think theres any reason to get serious just yet.
Explore all the different guys and then ull knoew the ont you really want.You need space.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007): Hey, I think you should break up with him. You have been together for such a long time and I think it would be better if you could go to Uni with no burdens and then you are free to meet other guys and do the things you wanna do. If you feel like this guy is holding you down, in terms of your want to go travelling, then you should definitely cool things off. Break up with him, and if you feel that you wanna get back together after Uni, then that's great. But for now you need to feel like you have no weights on your shoulders and then you can enjoy University fully x
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