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*amanthapantha2004
writes:This has happened before. My boyfriend of 3 years has broken up with me again. This will be his third time. The first time it was when we first started dating.. No reason, Robert leaves me.. dates another girl.. Comes back.. The next year.. Robert ignored me for a while dumped me, dated another girl.. came back.. Each time, he BEGGED for me back. This time, he broke up with me again. Hes so mean to me each time he does it. But he later apologizes and says it just a way to try and quit loving me. But anyways, So this time.. He was being really distant and so i guess i was being too clingy always asking him what was wrong.. what could i do to help us get along? I know i fuss a lot, and guys don't like girls who fuss. So yes, this is partly my fault, Too. But Robert told me to leave him alone and that he wasn't happy with me and didn't even like to me in the same distant with me.He's this mean EVERYTIME he breaks up with me.. and i do nothing! I know what you're thinking.. well your a dumb girl for putting up with this! But you don't understand.. Once you date someone for 3 years.. You're willing to do anything and everything for them! He was texting another girl while we were together. He's not someone to cheat though.. or at least i didn't think so. ( I told him about a week that i didn't like him talking to this girl, Do you think it's just a way to get back at me) I just.. I really want to know what I can do to get back with him and help our relationship get better. Do you think he will come back like the times before? Can guys ever really change? Thank you so much for reading this! And for all of you guys answers! It means so much to me, really!
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reader, Samanthapantha2004 +, writes (21 December 2009):
Samanthapantha2004 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your input! And No, we were not having sex. we are both very active in church and are christians. I am saving myself for marriage. And he respected that and wanted to do the same. He told someone that it was God who told him to break up with me.. But honestly, I dnt think God would make him be that mean to me. And I know, Whatever happens will be God's will. I shouldn't have to rely my happiness on a guy who will never come around, Obviously. But thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): This is typical behavior of an insecure guy who doesn't like to be alone, so he sort of uses you as, the fallback girl because you allow him too.
He is young, he's a teenager just like you are and he wants to date other women or girls he finds interesting or attractive and I bet he breaks up with you just so he can do that, and then he begs you to come back when that girl dumps him or he finds he doesn't really like her enough.
Stop wasting your time on him. You are single, too, so start telling him no thanks and start dating some available
guys who will be better to you, in fact you don't even have to have a boyfriend, just guys who are friends, dates, you know?
Put your focus on you and figure out what it is you want to do with your life. You can't just pin your hopes on a man, they die, they leave, they cheat and they can be abusive jerks and you have to leave them. In other words, become self sufficient so that you have options in life, so you can be choosy about the men you allow into your life. You are too young to be willing to "do anything" for a guy who has been bouncing you around for three years.
He's not a husband, he isn't even good husband material and he is in no position in his life to commit to you long term any way.
Good Luck.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (20 December 2009):
 Stop being a door mat. This guy does not really love you or else he would not be hurting you so much. In time you will look back and ask yourself - why did I waste so much time on this loser. He is young and not ready to settle. You move on and stop wasting your live on this guy. I know its hard when people say there are plenty of fish in the sea - well its true and some really nice ones as well but you will not beable to see them with your "Robert Goggles" on - TAKE THEM OFF!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (20 December 2009):
 I agree with Dog. Your hanging on to this guy hoping he will change hoping he will change for you your wondering what these other girls have that you dont etc etc so mutch to think about. This guy is a jerk in every sense, Im sure your a wonderful girl in time maybe you will find a guy that treats you as such. There was post on her with a girl complaining she didnt have enough drama in her relationship and then theres the post the many post of guys saying that they have never had a gf and that there nice guys witch i dont doubt but they would really like a gf and blah blah blah. my point is there are nice guys out there stop trying to hold on to this one you dont have a bf your not in a relationship i hope your not having sex with this guy cause if you are thats the only reason he comes around at all. Do your self and all the other lonely guys out there a favor leave this guy dont look back and give one of those guys the best moment of their life when you talk to them.
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