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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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Help! I'm scared to tell my mom I'm pregnant... again!
Q. Please help me, I just turned 16 january 20 and my boyfriend turned 19 dec 16, i got pregnant before and got an abortion 5 months ago and I'm pregnant again. my mom is extra strict and so is my family, once again my bf wants to keep it and I do too ...
A. 8 December 2010: A lot of people have stuff to last them for a while...that's what baby showers are great for. Babies grow fast and you'll have to keep replacing those clothes. 1000 diapers will be gone within a year. Not trying to be negative, but you have ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and we want to have a baby
Q. People are telling me i'm Crazy ! Im 15 and planning to have a baby ? My boyfriend and i been together for about 1 year and Two Months. He tells me he Loves me and he will never Leave me.We been having intercourse since we meet. Now we both want to ...
A. 6 February 2010: You're crazy.... (read in full...)
Do "birds of a feather" always flock together?
Q. I met a guy over the internet, and I like him very much, we have already set a date to have a coffee or something next week... Untill now I haven`t found any big red flags,and we have been talking a lot, and everything is great so I was feeling ...
A. 6 February 2010: Umm yes, birds of a feather typically do flock together. He may not be as "bad" as his friends or he just hasn't gotten caught. Also, if you do start seeing him, that means that you'll possibly be around those people and you'll probably be a ... (read in full...)
The guy I like his flirting with somebody else, and she's no good for him! what should I do?
Q. I really really like this guy. He usually pays alot of attention to me and hangs out with me and walks to class with me. But lately he's been flirting with this other girl who is sooo not his type she the type that will break his heart in a few ...
A. 5 February 2010: Right, I'm sure you don't want him to get his heart broken...more like you're jealous he's flirting with someone else and you want him to be yours.
Let him do what he wants. If he wants you, he'll be with you, if not then he'll be with someone ... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 5 February 2010: Yeah you should stop because if someone catches you, you can be arrested. Take it from the guy that got caught having sex with the picnic table...yes the picnic table. You know the kind with the hole in the middle where the umbrella goes??? ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is angry over my happy ending massages...
Q. I have been dating my new girlfriend for about 4 months now and things are going okay. Yesterday my g/f and I met a group of friends for drinks after work. One of my good friends got a little buzzed and he accidentally blurted out to everyone at ...
A. 5 February 2010: Yeah you are totally missing something...sorry dude, but that's disgusting. If I were your girlfriend I would be so disgusted with you and would dump you. You pay a PROSTITUTE to jerk you off and then give you a massage! You don't see how that is ... (read in full...)
When together he constanly shows he loves me but when we are apart he hardly even texts me!
Q. my boyfriend is in college and i only get to see him a few times. whenever we are hanging out we have a great time, share laughs, and he actually shows he loves me, but when he's at college he hardly texts me, always partying, being shady, and shows ...
A. 5 February 2010: My first thought after reading your question was also: actions speak louder than words. It sounds to me that he's living his life like you don't exist and he "gets around" to you when it's convenient for him. It's really not fair to you at all. ... (read in full...)
I've just realised me and women see things differently
Q. I need some insight. From women especially...(guys feel free to share if it has happened to you...) It's a little long winded, I apologize for that but I want to be thorough. Here's my situation. I am engaged. Totally in love... My fiance and I...
A. 5 February 2010: I've been in your girlfriend's shoes before and I just want you to know that it probably has nothing to do with you. She may have a lot on her mind or she's feeling bad about herself in some way...and when I felt that way, when my boyfriend would ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to swallow
Q. my boyfriends been trying to get me to swallow, but im so nervous ill puke or something, because I have heard nasty stories about it. i was told this joke: do you know the difference between like and love? spit and swallow.. it made me feel bad. ...
A. 5 February 2010: You probably won't puke, but I say swallow it as fast as you can and get it over with. Have some water ready and after you swallow drink some water because sometimes it can be pretty bitter tasting depending on the guy. Just from my experience, if ... (read in full...)
My ex stays in touch, is he just being "nice" as my friends suggest or is it something more?
Q. I'm not even really sure where to begin on this one. Basically, I am an older woman still interested in my much younger exboyfriend. We dated for 7 months and he left me over 2 years ago. The break up was bad, but he is a nice enough guy to show ...
A. 5 February 2010: I have to agree with your friends. Sounds to me like he's just being a friend. If you hear from him every 2 months that means you hear from him about 6-times a year. If he wanted you, you'd probably hear from him a lot more than that. He may ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and my boyfriend can't marry me because it will break the other girl's heart
Q. hi everybody,i think you gyzs for all those good idvices and ideas that may lead my relationship.therefore,i have a problem and i need some advices from anyone who cares about my situation.this is my problem:i have been with my boyfriend for two ...
A. 5 February 2010: If he didn't care about her, then he wouldn't worry about breaking her heart. Either he's making excuses like another aunt posted (and it's a lame one at that) or if that's the real reason, then he still has feelings for her. I think you know that ... (read in full...)
How can I make him pay me more attention?
Q. So my boyfriend of 10 months have been having some probems he does not really pay me that much attention, he spends all his time with his friends playing video games and such and comes home at around 2 in the morning from their house ( we live ...
A. 5 February 2010: Yep, do what you are doing. Go out with your friends and start coming home after he does. Of course, this is game playing but sometimes you have to if talking to him hasn't worked and the last thing that will work is clinging onto him. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell this woman's boyfriend the baby might not be his, but my boyfriend's?
Q. ok so ive previously been writing about questions i have concerning my boyfriend and i. well the story gets more interesting every week. to give you a summary my boyfriend and i have seen dating for about 10 months..in that time we broke and got ...
A. 4 February 2010: This whole ordeal really shouldn't be any of your business. I know you're now involved because you took your boyfriend back, but the person that should be dealing with any of this is your boyfriend. So, I'm assuming you took your boyfriend back ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend constantly observes my eating habits and makes me feel bad about my weight!
Q. hi I was looking for some advice. My Fiance and I have been together 10mths. He is a great guy. the problem is that I am a bigger girl and he is skinny and tall. he wants to help me lose weight and not have any health problems down the road, but he ...
A. 4 February 2010: Wow, you've been with this guys for only 10 mos. and you're engaged to be married??? I'm guessing you didn't gain weight overnight and when he met you, you weren't a size 5. Look, if you're trying and doing what you can to lose weight, then that's ... (read in full...)
Office teasing/bullying makes me paranoid...
Q. So I really like were I work. I'm also bisexual, but not openly so. But the work place is non-western and very homophobic. there are obviously gay guys working there but no-one mentions it or brings it up in front of them a bit like an elephant in ...
A. 3 February 2010: I mean I can see how you could be offended, but saying that something is "gay" is only something the you're choosing to take offensively. I mean gay has a completely different meaning than it used to, it used to mean someone was happy, now it means ... (read in full...)
Which should I choose; my unfulfilling life with my boyfriend or my old friends and family back home?
Q. I am living with my boyfriend 24hrs drive away from my friends and family and a 3.5 hr expensive flight. I have been here living for over a year. We have plans to marry. I am having a hard time meeting friends here and having a hard time being ...
A. 3 February 2010: Back about 5-years ago I was in a very similar situation. And it really just depends on what YOU make it. However, regardless of what others say about you needing to "growup" or whatnot, there's a lot more factors that go into it than just missing ... (read in full...)
I waited 3 months for a dinner reservation in a top restaurant and my bf has just cancelled out. Is it ok to take another man to not miss out on the dining experience?
Q. A while back I booked a table at the supposedly best restaurant in the UK and it took me 3 months and a cancellation to get in. My b/f has known about it for weeks and how excited I am about it. Today he texts me to say that the mother of his child ...
A. 3 February 2010: I think another man is a bad idea. You have a boyfriend and you don't want to lead a guy on. Bring a girlfriend or family member instead.... (read in full...)
How do we deal with people who are jealous/envious of us?
Q. My partner and I are in an age gapped relationship. I am the older woman, 38 and he is the younger, 21. We have been together for 3 1/2 years now and have never been so much in love! I left my disfunctional marriage to be with him. I have 2 children ...
A. 2 February 2010: Well I haven't had to deal with it myself. But if you two are happy together, then that's what matters. I think you're really taking a chance dating a guy that young, I'm 26 and wouldn't date a guy that young (and you started dating him when he ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with being friends with an ex? Need opinions please
Q. Hi everyone, i have so many times read about exes on this and the advice given to such problems. But I have a question... What is your opinion about being friends with an ex? Well, I know it is best to just forget about them totally but what...
A. 2 February 2010: You don't have to be their friend to be nice to them. If you run into them, of course be nice or whatever, you don't have to be mean. Basically in my mind a boyfriend is a friend of the opposite sex who you are intimate with. Well if you couldn't ... (read in full...)
When should I give him his prezzie?
Q. Dear Cupid, My fiances' birthday is the day after Valentine's Day. Okay, my question is: should I give him his Valentine's Day gift(s) on his birthday, or just give him everything on Valentine's Day? ...
A. 2 February 2010: Umm no. Valentine's gift on the 14th and his birthday present on his birthday. Think of your birthday being the day after Christmas and your parents tell you one present is for your birthday...that's not fun! It happens to me and mine is two ... (read in full...)
His parents won't let me see him...
Q. Ok. i have met this guy on the internet because it's really hard to find someone who wants a relationship. well the thing is im 19 and he is 16 and no matter what i do, his parents intervene they say tht he is a minor an ill call the police on you ...
A. 2 February 2010: Get a laywer or something? He is a child! Regardless if it's age of consent his parents have every right to keep him AWAY from you, that includes them having a restraining order filed against you as well as getting you locked up, and in that case ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend lying about cheating on me?
Q. There are rumors going around that my boyfriend cheated on me... I am scared that they Aren't just rumors... What do I do? I already asked him and he said they weren't true but he has lied before... he can lie again. Do you think he is telling me ...
A. 2 February 2010: How would any of us know if he's telling the truth? We don't know him, he's never told us a lie or the truth, we don't know his character. So for us to tell you whether or not he is isn't what we can answer, but all we can do is give advice.
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If he's not into me why is he talking to me? Help me understand!
Q. I went out on a blind date 10 days ago. It went pretty well and I think we both had a good time. I've talked to him online almost every day since then. He also asked me to watch a movie with him one night, but I was busy. I had a five night ...
A. 2 February 2010: Chill out! He's broke, give him a break. Your closed ended response of "yes" doesn't require a reply. For now leave it alone, he'll probably talk to you again when he gets his paycheck and wants to go out (which may not be this weekend). He ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 2 February 2010: Ugh, do your husband a favor and let him go. ... (read in full...)
I'm so down about my love life, at 36 will I ever find love?
Q. Please help, I have cried myself to sleep the past 2 nights. Im 36 single and just unable to find love again. Since me and my ex, of 5 years split up 4 years ago, Ive gone from one disasterous relationship to another. I don't want him back, b...
A. 1 February 2010: Get the book: How to be Wanted: Use the Law of Attraction to Date the Man You Most Desire and Live the Life You Deserve. By Romy Miller
I know the title sounds totally cheesy, but it's not. And it's not completely about men and dating, but gett... (read in full...)
Is marriage REALLY that important?
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for over 16 years now (since we were 11 and 12) and engaged for eleven years. We have two children (2 and 4 with another on the way). Up until quite recently, I had no intention of ever setting a wedding date. ...
A. 1 February 2010: Yes, marriage is important to most women. If a piece of paper isn't that big of a deal and you want to be with someone the rest of your life, then what's the big deal about getting married? I think you should consider yourself lucky that she's ... (read in full...)
Tampon troubles...
Q. I feel really stupid because I am 13 and don't no how to put a tampon in iv tried but it just won't go in....
A. 1 February 2010: You probably just need to relax more. If you don't understand how to put it in...read the directions, it comes with them and even has pictures! If you're not using tampons with an applicator, then you definitely should get the kind with an ... (read in full...)
Shy people..what kind of impression do they give off?
Q. A simple question: What is your most lasting impression of a person who is shy and who does not get involved much in casual and impersonal social events? Say, you had a neighbor who was always nice, but never just came over and knocked on your door ...
A. 1 February 2010: If I had a neighbor that would come knock on my door and want to hang out, that would just be weird to me. Neighbors to me have always been more like aquaintances, I may wave to them outside sometimes or help them out with something or give them ... (read in full...)
If he's not into me why is he talking to me? Help me understand!
Q. I went out on a blind date 10 days ago. It went pretty well and I think we both had a good time. I've talked to him online almost every day since then. He also asked me to watch a movie with him one night, but I was busy. I had a five night ...
A. 1 February 2010: First off, I don't know why you came to the conclusion that he's not into you. If he wasn't into you then he wouldn't ask to see you and ask what you're doing. Of course he didn't bring it up this last time because you've been busy every other ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him my REAL age?
Q. hey you guys i have a question that i want to ask im 14 soon to be 15 in june and my boyfriend is younger than i am i want to tell himm that im older than him but im way to scared that he might reject me becuse of that. please tell me how should i ...
A. 1 February 2010: I doubt he would care that you're older, he may even like that, and you're way too young to already be lying about your age and saying you're younger than you already are. However, don't be surprised if he happens to not be too happy in general ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm scared to tell my mom I'm pregnant... again!
Q. Please help me, I just turned 16 january 20 and my boyfriend turned 19 dec 16, i got pregnant before and got an abortion 5 months ago and I'm pregnant again. my mom is extra strict and so is my family, once again my bf wants to keep it and I do too ...
A. 1 February 2010: I hope you mean that you were pregnant for 2-months and kept it a secret for 5-months, because you can't have an abortion after about 13 wks unless something is seriously wrong with the baby...so at 2-months hardly anyone shows.... (read in full...)
Help! I'm scared to tell my mom I'm pregnant... again!
Q. Please help me, I just turned 16 january 20 and my boyfriend turned 19 dec 16, i got pregnant before and got an abortion 5 months ago and I'm pregnant again. my mom is extra strict and so is my family, once again my bf wants to keep it and I do too ...
A. 1 February 2010: Well you have to tell your mom, you can't keep it a secret. It will be obvious when you start showing...or even when you start sleeping and puking all the time. I don't know why you didn't learn your lesson before. Obviously your mom isn't too ... (read in full...)
He didnt get me a birthday present, am I just being used?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months. A few weeks ago he moved away for work for 3 months. It was my birthday last week and he sent me nothing. Yes he rang a few times on the day and sent a few texts...its not like he forgot. I asked him ...
A. 28 January 2010: I agree with caringguy. This guy is a douche, it's time to lose him. C'mon how hard is it to send a birthday card or buy a bouquet of flowers from proflowers???... (read in full...)
Lately, I've developed a liking for transexual porn.
Q. I'll start off by saying that I'm a 16 year old male and I've been watching internet porn for quite some time. Lately, I've developed a liking for transexual porn. I have absolutely no desire for a relationship with a male or a transexual so I don't ...
A. 28 January 2010: I think you're worrying too much. An exboyfriend of mine would show me the craziest porn on the internet and we'd laugh about it together and he's be like, "Oh my God, look at this tranny! It looks like a real chick!" To me it was funny, but I ... (read in full...)
We have unprotected sex a lot, but I don't fall pregnant
Q. I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend and I have sex a lot and he doesn't pull out. He never does. But I still don't get pregnant. and I don't take birth control or anything. Is this something I should worry about?...
A. 28 January 2010: Yes, you should be worried that you're not on birth control and not having protected sex. Are you crazy? Either A) You're lucky and when your eggs are released there hasn't been any sperm present. This could be by chance or perhaps you only have ... (read in full...)
He's a good guy, my parents love him, but I lost interest one year in.
Q. ok let me start from the begging. when i was younger my parents didnt let me go out at all. i wanted to go out and have fun with my friends at the mall and parties, i would beg to my parents to let me go out but they would make up excuses. by the ...
A. 28 January 2010: So are you trying to insinuate that it's somehow your parents fault for being strict and that's why you're with some guy that you don't really love and ended up pregnant? Well if that's the case, then I'm wondering why I was never in your situation ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 28 January 2010: Oh, you should definitely text him. It's clear he wants you badly. I think you should also tell him you love him and want to mother his children. And definitely, give him some ass. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I had to be stupid and ruin it by kissing his best friend
Q. Okay. i really need help... my life is so complicated.. i know this is a love/dating site but i thought someone on here might be able to help me.. I was dating this guy for 2 years and then i had to be stupid and ruin it by kissing his best...
A. 28 January 2010: Oh wow, you certainly do have a horrible and complicated life. This is by far worse than all the people dying in Haiti, people that are beaten/molested/raped daily, and wow all those homeless people...some life you have. I can't imagine what pain ... (read in full...)
Any boy I talk to, just seems plain nothing comparing to my ex.
Q. I just CANNOT forget my ex, we broke up a few days ago. Even though we fought a lot, when we didn't it was perfect! Any boy I talk to, just seems plain nothing comparing to my ex. I love him to pieces, I sometimes wish I could just call him like old ...
A. 28 January 2010: Get a grip, you broke up a few days ago. You'll probably feel the same way in a couple months. It takes time and don't worry about other guys until you're done comparing them to your ex.
Just realize people go through breakups every single d... (read in full...)
She's replying to my texts a day later... is there still a chance?
Q. I need help...and I hope you can help me! It is a bit long winded but I'll try and keep it short. In early Nov 2009 me and my then girlfriend of 3 years split up, well I guess you could say I left her! The reason for the split is as follows - ea...
A. 28 January 2010: What you need to keep in mind it that getting back with your ex doesn't change that the problems that were there before will be there again if you two get back together. So as far as any advice on that, I think she could at least spare an hour or ... (read in full...)
Is being loud, obnoxious, and competitive a turn off to people, especially the guy I like?
Q. How should I be if I want a certain guy to like me. Normally, I'm really loud and competitive at school, but I think that's only to attract attention. There is this girl at school who's beautiful, smart, and sweet to everyone, unlike me, and that's ...
A. 28 January 2010: Yes, typically guys don't like loud and obnoxious girls. Same way girls don't like loud and obnoxious guys. It can be intimidating to even want to talk to someone like that, it makes you think that they're going to start talking over you and ... (read in full...)
Two days and no call. Should I wait a bit longer?
Q. Ok, Here's the scenario.. 10 years ago I was in a relationship with this girl..She was 18 and I was 20... I just got out of the Army and came back to the state. I passed by her town (80miles from my home town) and picked her up and took her home ...
A. 27 January 2010: Well if she doesn't have a phone at her place and she went back to her place later that night, then I'm guessing she wouldn't be able to call you? From what you said, I think she's probably still interested in seeing where things go, but wants to ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 23 January 2010: I recommend you quit being a fool and realize that either way he's going to leave you and he'll never leave his wife for you. Divorce your husband because no, you shouldn't be married. I agree, people do get married too young and these things ... (read in full...)
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