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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 30 March 2010: See! Isn't it good that you took the chance? I'm happy that this is all going in the right direction :)... (read in full...)
Could this be implantation bleeding?
Q. Hello everyone, is it normal to bleed after a week ur period was done? Before the period i was really worried that i wasnt going to get it because i had sex (protected though) 2 -3 weeks before my usual period, but then i did have it. and i was ...
A. 15 March 2010: Probably...but that's probably a better question for your doctor.... (read in full...)
I have no idea what's going on in her head..need advice!
Q. Last month my ex called to say that we were over and she needed a break from us, we'd been going out for 2 1/2 years,we'd been arguing a lot over the last few months,and I guess she'd just had enough. taking a step back from us has made me see some ...
A. 14 March 2010: I agree that I think she still likes you; however, it sounds like the way your relationship was before will only go back to the way it was before. If you were depressed in the relationship before and now you're happy, not depressed, and not ... (read in full...)
Could this be implantation bleeding?
Q. Hello everyone, is it normal to bleed after a week ur period was done? Before the period i was really worried that i wasnt going to get it because i had sex (protected though) 2 -3 weeks before my usual period, but then i did have it. and i was ...
A. 14 March 2010: Nah, don't think you're pregnant. Sounds like you're probably just having an irregular period. Even if you always have a normal one, you can be irregular every so often. I was always normal until about 23 and I completely skipped a period and ... (read in full...)
What does this look mean?
Q. Hey, could you help me?? Well I like this guy and today I saw him and said hi, he looked at me like right in the eye before remembering to say hi back and I smiled and so did he. About 10 minutes later I saw him walking down the stairs in our bu...
A. 13 March 2010: Anonymous...it's called sarcasm for ridiculous questions.... (read in full...)
What does this look mean?
Q. Hey, could you help me?? Well I like this guy and today I saw him and said hi, he looked at me like right in the eye before remembering to say hi back and I smiled and so did he. About 10 minutes later I saw him walking down the stairs in our bu...
A. 13 March 2010: It depends...was his head slightly tilted to the left? If it was to the left then that means definitely interested. If it was to the right, definitely no. However, if there was no tilt and he blinked twice, then it's a maybe.... (read in full...)
My cousin touches me! Help!
Q. Ok, my older cousin used to touch me all the time. I was 10 years old and he was 13. I didn't know what masterbating was and why he did it, but he used to be my best friend when i was 10. So we used to sit together in the same chair because it was a ...
A. 13 March 2010: Yes, it is very wrong. Even if he wasn't your cousin and some boy, it's very inappropriate for him to be touching you in such a way. You definitely need to tell your parents what he does. They will not be mad at you, they'll want to protect you.... (read in full...)
My girlfriends periods only last two days! Is there something wrong?
Q. My girlfriend and I were talking recently and she told me that her periods only last 2 days and are always light. Does this mean she is less fertile or could have problems conceiving? She is 32. I have never heard of girls having such short, ligh...
A. 13 March 2010: Some women do. Especially if they're on birth control, that can happen. Certain birth control pills can make periods only last that long, or if she has a IUD her periods can be that way. OR, she could be one of those lucky ladies that just ... (read in full...)
Why am I jealous of this negative attention, my best friend gets from the guys??
Q. One of my best friends is really short and pretty. I view myself as just an average (but my friends are helping me get over my self-esteem issues). She has mostly guy friends and that makes me sort of jealous because they're also always with her. ...
A. 13 March 2010: Oh gosh, boys at that age say stupid things like that. You definitely don't want boys saying that they want to rape your dead body! That's disgusting, that's called necrophelia and that was Jeffrey Dahmer! Gross!
You just happen to know wha... (read in full...)
How can I show her that things have changed and that it will work?
Q. I need some advice! I met a girl about 3.5 years ago. We moved very fast but loved each other very much, about 9 months into our relationship she became pregnant. Our relationship was good but we became to fight more and more. We became distant ...
A. 12 March 2010: I really think you need to tell her what you told us. Let her know that you have changed and if she would give you the opportunity to show her, you could then prove it to her. I mean, it kind of sucks you quit your job and dropped some classes to ... (read in full...)
All the kissing and no call yet.
Q. I'm 19 years old and so is he, I've known this boy for almost 2 years, he lived in my halls of residence in my first year at uni, we never really got close but were aquaintances, but I always fancied him a little bit. A few nights ago I was out with ...
A. 12 March 2010: It depends, the only way to know would be if we were able to read his mind. He may think you were cool and enjoyed making out with you, but he's just not interested in anything more. I agree to give it another week and just assume he's a lost ... (read in full...)
I exercise and do sports constantly but can't seem to lose weight!
Q. Hi, Aunties! I'm in a great relationship with one of the best guys in the world. I'm beyond lucky to have him, and I love him very much. At only 16, I know that I'm going to be told I know nothing of love... And that's probably true, but I'm very...
A. 11 March 2010: If your boyfriend tells you that he thinks you're beautiful; he means it. He wouldn't be with you if he thought otherwise!
However, what you eat is the biggest key to weight loss, more so than exercise. Many people can work themselves to death... (read in full...)
Do you have to take birth control at the same time everyday for it to work?
Q. If you been on Birth control pills and you never skip a day but take it sometime on different times of the days. Does it still works? ...
A. 11 March 2010: For it to be as effective as it is, yes. However, as much of a good girl as I have tried to be about taking it, there have been time where I skipped around on the time (I still took it everyday) and didn't wind up pregnant. Could have been luck or ... (read in full...)
Is it selfish for me to want him in my life?
Q. I have been so troubled lately. My bf and I broke up just over a month ago. We were together for five years, and I am having trouble moving on. I initiated the break because I had not been happy for quite some time. My feelings for him ...
A. 10 March 2010: Well you'll get over it. I know that's not what you want to hear, but a month isn't nearly long enough to get over a 5-year relationship. There are things that you're going to miss about him and especially when you're feeling blue it's easy to ... (read in full...)
We met while clubbing, but he won't let me club anymore!
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend who wants to go clubbing and drink. We have been together for 2 years, we met at a club and for the first 6 months always went clubbing together and we went to every music festival ...
A. 10 March 2010: I think if you got out clubbing REGULARLY like every week or even a few times a month, I think that would make any partner feel uncomfortable. Clubbing is typically where single people go to mingle and yes, sometimes you'll find couples that go ... (read in full...)
Forty and really wanting a child
Q. I am 40 years old and it is killing me that I do not have kids. I really would like to have a child part of the problem is I don't even have a boyfriend or any prospects. I am totally single. What can I do?...
A. 8 March 2010: Make a trip to the sperm bank.... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 8 March 2010: I'm just glad someone likes everyone's answers for once! And everyone agrees!... (read in full...)
He wants to move to miami florida but I want to go to college in philadelphia...
Q. I've been thinkin bout this since I got off the phone with him last nite I'm 18 years old a senior n highschool I just got use to living in philadelphia I'm from orange county california. My boyfriend I'd from philadelphia as well we've been off and ...
A. 7 March 2010: You two are so young, so it's only reasonable to have a lot of "what if's." Honestly, you two will end up breaking up and what you fear will happen, on the other hand, you two could be the exception and end up being together. What you also need to ... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 7 March 2010: Horseshoes and the dog sounds more like settling to me. You finally found her again and you might as well try! What do you have to lose, right?... (read in full...)
My child overheard bad language and keeps repeating it
Q. help! my bf and i had a fight, we took it to room, 3 yr old overheard him say why u acting like a bitch? now she calls me bitch. how do i discipline her? she talks back to me, and it becomes a shouting match. i dont know what to do, cant hit her, ...
A. 6 March 2010: What I've noticed with my best friend who is a preschool teacher is to act like it's the end of the world when they do something wrong and it usually works. So if she calls you a bitch again, you or someone else basically has to embarrass her, ... (read in full...)
Why is he blowing hot and cold? Anyone ever experienced this before?
Q. I met a guy in a club a few weeks ago, we had been eyeing each other up all night and eventually got chatting. At the end of the night he walked me to my taxi, asked for my phone number and said he would be in touch the next day. I thought it was ...
A. 6 March 2010: There's all sorts of possibilites, and it's quite common. Has happened to me before and pretty much all of my girlfriends. If he was pretty intense at first and kind of dropped off the face of the earth after the second date, I agree that he may ... (read in full...)
Is the friend the reason our relationship crumbled???
Q. i went out with my boyfriend for 5 months it was brilliant for the first month and everything was going really well until i met his friend, his friend started ringing me every night and i stupidly ended up talking to his friend rather then my ...
A. 6 March 2010: What would you do if he was talking on the phone and hanging out with one of your girlfriends more than you? As women, we might talk about it before just going straight to a breakup, but not everyone is the same and he probably felt hurt and ... (read in full...)
My mom and dad want to use my credit and then have me go bankrupt, any way I can stop them?
Q. So I have sort of a financial problem... Apparently my dad and mom want to work up my credit then have me go bankrupt I have no specicfic reasons why so dey want to ... But I have no control and if I say no they stop talking to me... Why would I ...
A. 4 March 2010: If you're an adult then yes, you do have a say in it. And if they do this then this is fraud. This is only some "benefit" for them and it's terrible. Credit means so many things, and it can ruin things for you in the future. It takes 8-10 years ... (read in full...)
Is great sex worth being cheated on and lied to?
Q. My girl's a liar and a cheat but she's so good sexually that I can't ditch her. She lets me do ANYTHING. Tempting? How am I supposed to go out and meet other girl that compare to THAT? Comparatively, every girl I meet is so boring sexually....
A. 2 March 2010: Obviously the only thing that's important to you is the sex. You don't seem to care too much that you're with a person that most people wouldn't want to be near (a cheater and liar) but you don't want to leave her because you think she's good in ... (read in full...)
He doesn't always respond to my texts. Should I keep trying?
Q. OK everyone I was kinda seeing this guy in october last year, but ended in novemebr I really liked him and have told him this Anyway my point is every now and then i txt him 2 see if hes ok sometims i get a reply sometimes i dont And s...
A. 2 March 2010: Yes, I agree. If your friends want you to look like the crazy/clingy chick from months ago that still won't go away, then yeah keep persistently texting him.
It sounds to me like the responds to you because he's not a jerk and is trying to be po... (read in full...)
Will the first time really hurt?
Q. I am thirteen and have been in a great relationship sence i was nine. With the same guy. I am completely ready for sex. no one can say its puppy love because it is not. not even close he means a lot to me and no one ever made me feel that good. and ...
A. 1 March 2010: Well you seem to know everything so shouldn't you know since he makes you feel better than anything sexually...which is something you've never had? Anyway, yes, it hurts. If you think that hurts, try passing a baby through there because that will ... (read in full...)
I hit him, he hit me -- should we try to work it out?
Q. My boyfriend and I got into a petty arguement which esceladed and then he ended up tossing me around the house. Although I hit him first I still feel its wrong what he did to me. He was abused as a kid and abandoned by his mother. He cried to me and ...
A. 1 March 2010: Besides working on himself, you also need to work on yourself. Yes, it was wrong for him to hit you, but you also have no right to hit him. I'm sure you probably aren't usually an "abusive" person, but if he's been abused in the past then he'll ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and confused about this weird relationship I have with a 25 year old guy.
Q. So, I'm a 17 year old girl and I met this 25 year old guy online about a month and a half ago. We literally talked for 10 hours the first day we "met". He's really sweet and is always complimenting me. When it comes to conversation we make each ...
A. 1 March 2010: Seriously, what baggage could you possibly have at 17 years old? I'm 26 and thinking of a 25 year old guy trying to get with a 17 year old girl makes me think that there's something wrong with him. He's 25 with a lot of baggage and there's ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to take birthcontrol anymore.
Q. I don't know how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to take birth control anymore. I don't want to get pregnat. I'm no where near ready for that. I been taking for a year and a half and its starting to make me feel sick. And weak. In reality I never ...
A. 1 March 2010: If your boyfriend is a jerk enough to get it from someone else because they're okay with not using condoms, then you really don't need someone like him in the first place. I think you're probably just worrying too much and he'll be a baby about it ... (read in full...)
Will my breasts grow anymore?
Q. i'm 16 and have small boobs. i dont mind the fact that they are not big but i hope that there is a chance they will grow. its the main thing im self concious about. i just hate being self concious about them. my friends have amazing bodies it makes ...
A. 26 February 2010: Laura, they're trying to sell pills. They don't work. If they make them a little fuller it's only temporarily, but you won't go from an A cup to a D cup and retain it.... (read in full...)
Will my breasts grow anymore?
Q. i'm 16 and have small boobs. i dont mind the fact that they are not big but i hope that there is a chance they will grow. its the main thing im self concious about. i just hate being self concious about them. my friends have amazing bodies it makes ...
A. 26 February 2010: Well there's a chance, but probably not. Most girls are done growing by 16 and some still grow until 18. And no, eating certain foods do not makes your boobs larger...if you start drinking beer all the time, the only that will grow is your gut. ... (read in full...)
I've not heard anything... am I being paranoid?
Q. I recently took a great woman out on a date on Sunday and had an amazing time. We both fell into easy conversation and tentatively planned on going out swing dancing the following Friday night. I waited until Tuesday night to give her a call about ...
A. 24 February 2010: I agree, you need to give some more info. If you just called and you're relying on caller ID to let her know you called, then she'll just assume it's not that important if you didn't leave a message.
So either she is busy, she's playing hard-to-... (read in full...)
She had sex with 3 of my friends and I can't get past it!
Q. Hey everyone, I have been with my girlfriend for over a year now, but recently I started feeling differently due to some issues with her past. Basically without jumping into too much detail she had sex with three of my friends,one which she "dat...
A. 24 February 2010: Well her past is her past, and usually I don't agree w/ someone being upset over these types of things, but I would probably feel the same way if I found out that I had a boyfriend that had slept with 3 of my friends. Really, all of the info about ... (read in full...)
Should I take Him Back One Last Time?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for about a full year, on-and-off. Our breakups were always stupid, sometimes because of rumours/misunderstandings, and once because he lied to me about himself. Afterwards, though, he explained it was only because he ...
A. 24 February 2010: Here's your problem, you want him to change. He is who he is and sure, not everyone is perfect, but if he's not the right person for you then he just isn't. I know what it's like to think that a guy is great in many ways and has tried to make an ... (read in full...)
I'm using an implant, can this fail? Since Christmas I've been feeling pregnant.
Q. Hey Aunts. Could Someone Help and end my confusion? i had Implanon (impalnt) inserted Early Last Year, Around June i think or before, The Thing is ive had light spotting since it was inserted but since Christmas/New year ive had no pe...
A. 7 February 2010: If you have an implant, usually you'll get lighter to no period at all. Maybe your body isn't reacting very well to it either, afterall, what the hormones do is trick your body into thinking it's pregnant that way you won't ovulate, so some ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't get jealous?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't get jealous. Is this considered a good thing or a bad thing?...
A. 7 February 2010: It depends on what the situation is. If you're hanging all over some guy (which I hope you're not) either intentionally or unintentionally, I could see him being jealous. If it's someone coming on to you and he trusts you, then it's good if he ... (read in full...)
Everyone hates my bf - now my ex bf.
Q. I didnt see myself searching for relationship advice on the internet but im desperate. im 23 and my bf is 25 we been together for almost a year. living together under my moms roof. we both love each other alot were pretty content besides for a ...
A. 7 February 2010: You pick your friends, not your family.
You wrote, "he has a record and it prevents him from finding work."
Now you write that his record is clear and he can find work. So what is it? You call the cops on him after he walked home and ... (read in full...)
Everyone hates my bf - now my ex bf.
Q. I didnt see myself searching for relationship advice on the internet but im desperate. im 23 and my bf is 25 we been together for almost a year. living together under my moms roof. we both love each other alot were pretty content besides for a ...
A. 7 February 2010: So everyone thinks he's a dirtbag and aggressive except you. However, you know he has a record and you had to call the cops since he became overly aggressive? Umm, that makes no sense how you would believe the way that everyone else thinks is ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if the girl at jcrew is into me?
Q. I was in jcrew today doing some shopping. while doing so a blonde who works there asked me if i needed help. she was so pretty, her hair was tossed up like kirsten dunst. i looked into her eyes and smiled and she smiled back. i smiled even more, ...
A. 7 February 2010: You could have talked to her...I'm not trying to burst your bubble or anything, but after working in retail/customer service for quite some time, it's our job to ask people if we can help them sometimes more than once (especially if the manager is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just dumped me and I may be pregnant.
Q. im 15 an i went out with this guy for almost a year, weve had sex an the last time we wernt as carefull. i got my period after but it was a few days late and it was alight pink at first but than was a redish brown and wasntas heavy as usual. ive ...
A. 7 February 2010: Agreed, you need to find out if you're pregnant first. Either get a home pregnancy test or go to the a clinic to find out. Sounds like you could possibly be, those are common symptoms; however, nausea when you're preggo isn't the same as "Oh, I ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I may have texted too much and scared him away!
Q. Met a man online. Thought he was great got on really well. Has a very stressful job. Used to text him and he wouldn't answer me so I would text him again he would answer with something like, yes still alive, just stressed and thatv would be it. So ...
A. 7 February 2010: You wait to contact him AFTER he's contacted you, which may be never but if he wanted to talk to you, he would. You have to remember that men are simple, if they want to talk to you, they will. If they don't want to talk to you, they won't. Also, ... (read in full...)
Why are women's bodies so complicated?
Q. I did not have a cycle for the month of January. To my thought it was suppose to come down on the 27th of january. I took the first pregancy test 4 days after it was suppose to come down , came back neg. So I waited a week and 2 days later came back ...
A. 6 February 2010: Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 4 will become pregnant each year if they always do it correctly.
Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 27 will become pregnant each year if they don't always do it correctly. -Pla... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and we want to have a baby
Q. People are telling me i'm Crazy ! Im 15 and planning to have a baby ? My boyfriend and i been together for about 1 year and Two Months. He tells me he Loves me and he will never Leave me.We been having intercourse since we meet. Now we both want to ...
A. 6 February 2010: You're crazy.... (read in full...)
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