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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 2 February 2010: Ugh, do your husband a favor and let him go. ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 28 January 2010: Oh, you should definitely text him. It's clear he wants you badly. I think you should also tell him you love him and want to mother his children. And definitely, give him some ass. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Two days and no call. Should I wait a bit longer?
Q. Ok, Here's the scenario.. 10 years ago I was in a relationship with this girl..She was 18 and I was 20... I just got out of the Army and came back to the state. I passed by her town (80miles from my home town) and picked her up and took her home ...
A. 27 January 2010: Well if she doesn't have a phone at her place and she went back to her place later that night, then I'm guessing she wouldn't be able to call you? From what you said, I think she's probably still interested in seeing where things go, but wants to ... (read in full...)
He promised he would stop talking to her, but I found out he still is!
Q. So my boyfriend talkedto this girl that I very much hate, he promised he would stop talking to her, but I found out he still is talking to her thinking I don't know a thing. What is this suppose to mean??????...
A. 27 January 2010: It means that he doesn't respect you enough to care about what you want and he probably can't be trusted. I only say this because you asked him to do something, you trusted him to follow through like he said he would, and he still does it anyway.... (read in full...)
Why do we argue over money all the time?
Q. if me and my partner keep arguing about money, is it right to even consider marriage? we have been together 9 years and got together when we were 18. we love each other and generally get along well but our we tend to argus about money a lot. ...
A. 27 January 2010: Well, one of the top reasons why people even get divorced is because of money. If one person can't control their funds and the other can, then it's a huge thing. I would assume credit works the same down under as in the states, but once you're ... (read in full...)
Will his children ever forgive me for breaking up their family?
Q. About a year ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years. Well, shortly after that, a family member of his (whom I've always been attracted to but never thought anything would ever happen because he was married) contacted me to consol me for my ...
A. 26 January 2010: Probably not, I know I wouldn't. Would you?... (read in full...)
My ex won't talk to me and he's seeing other people and I can't let it go!
Q. I feel like I am about to explode this minute. I don't know why but I have been broken up with my ex for a year and I never can seem to let it go. I know he's an asshole as he left me for another girl. I know guys like him don't deserve a single...
A. 26 January 2010: You can cut contact, you just choose not to. I'm just gonna be brutally honest, but you only have yourself to blame for feeling like crap a year later. Of course he's a total piece of crap and SO not worth your time, but YOU, yes you, allow it to ... (read in full...)
Would it be against the law to date my student-teacher?
Q. I turned 18 on the 3rd of this month. There's a teacher (actually, not even teacher... uh, student-teacher) at my school who I've become very close with. He's 20. He, for lack of a better term, 'expressed interest' in me first. So, before I do ...
A. 25 January 2010: I don't think it's illegal, but it could cost him his job or would be highly frowned upon at the very least.... (read in full...)
Wife had anal sex with another man, how should I react?
Q. Mod note: had some language and sexual content not suitable for younger aunts and uncles, changed to make it... more friendly. I went to a party with my wife and I forgot to eat beforehand, well I got drunk and passed out. I woke up a couple o...
A. 25 January 2010: Umm, I don't really think this is a real post. But if your wife was having anal sex with some other guy while you were passed out, I doubt it was her first time getting it in the behind. Just tell her that it's been bothering you because you know ... (read in full...)
It's been over a year since we've spoken, but now we've started talking again. Could we possibly rekindle what we had?
Q. About a year ago, I broke up with this guy I had been dating for about 6 months. I had a lot of reasons, but the main reason I did it was because we were at different parts of our lives. I was in college, and he had not yet finished high school, ...
A. 25 January 2010: I think that you shouldn't try to rekindle anything if what broke you two up before is still there. In other words, if you two are still on different pages, then don't consider it because it will still be an issue.
I don't think you should b... (read in full...)
Should he get the DNA test or should I leave the situation alone?
Q. Ok so my bf and I have been going out for about 10 months, in that time we broke up and got back together. Well i guess during that breakup period or while we were still together(still trying to figure that part out) he met some girl and they were ...
A. 25 January 2010: I think he should go through with the DNA test. Not just for himself or the "babymomma" and all that drama. But I think a child has a right to know (in most cases) who their parents are. Especially when it comes to the history of a parent's ... (read in full...)
Do I always have to keep him chasing?
Q. Help from the gentlemen out there please (although ladies' opinions will be helpful too! Ta!!!). I have been in a relationship for 18 months now, and I feel that my partner has lost a bit of his interest in me. I feel that the excitement has g...
A. 25 January 2010: The chase ends after he catches you, which he did. But basically, what you need to do is get a hobby and get a life. And I sincerely don't mean that in a rude way, but just literally. Of course still be attentive and caring, but sometimes when he ... (read in full...)
Should I get the morning after pill?
Q. should I get the morning after pill? I just had sex tonight w/o protection but he didn't cum inside. do you think I should?...
A. 25 January 2010: That's nice, I guess it's good you got some sort of consolation prize since you didn't get pregnant this time.... (read in full...)
Anyone have information on std tests from planned parenthood?
Q. does it cost money to get tested for stds at plan parenthood? also, what do these tests consist of and how long does it take to get results? if I get tested for multiple stds do they cost extra?...
A. 25 January 2010: That's why we suggested Planned Parenthood with your first question: because it doesn't cost anything because you probably meet the income requirement. Call them and find out for whatever questions you have, they're usually very nice and helpful, ... (read in full...)
Does this happen to anyone else? If so, how do you deal with it?
Q. Ok. I am in need of some good advice. From both men and women, if possible... My current situation: I am engaged. Living with my fiance. She's the woman I love and adore. I know I will always feel this way for her. It's more of my problem than her...
A. 25 January 2010: Well past boyfriends that I have that were good and nice enough, like you, to care would sometimes masturbate before sex. Maybe not like moments before, but maybe in the shower in the morning or at night before we went to bed that way they could ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend bailed on me and is now on dating site...
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost two months. (we are both in our late 30s) A couple of weeks ago he began acting a bit distant when we were apart which made me concerned so I ended up doing some poking around and found out that he did ...
A. 25 January 2010: Maybe he just didn't know how he felt; however, that shouldn't be of your concern. Just be lucky that you dodged a bullet there! The guy seems good on paper, minus the jail time, but in reality--it seems to me like he's a liar, a jerk, and a ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and want to know..why do I want to have a baby?
Q. I am fifteen(10th grade) and I want to be pregnant. Plz don't say I'm stupid cuz I'm not going to become pregnant I just want to know why I feel this way. My bf and I are very serious, like engaged serious, we are sexually active and everything and ...
A. 25 January 2010: Because you're naive, immature, and think it'll be all nice and fun, but that's not how it is. You're judging it by shows and movies, it's television. Become a babysitter or nanny if you want to be around babies and children, then you'll see how ... (read in full...)
Why don't people think about the new dating partner, before undertaking a 'rebound' relationship?
Q. I now know that I was involved in a rebound relationship. It was about 4 months long started off as if it could really be a good investment. As time went on and now with thinking about my ex's behavior it was only a rebound relationship. He ...
A. 25 January 2010: It's simple, because a lot people are selfish and care only about their own feelings and wants, so they'll use other people to feel better about themselves and after the other person has served their purpose for them, they drop them without a ... (read in full...)
We have been dating over a year, I suspect he is gay, what do you think?
Q. Is it weird if your boyfriend doesn't initiate kissing? My boyfriend of over a year doesn't initiate kissing, but when I initiate it, he says he enjoys it but he thought he wasn't any good at it. Also, in the internet history of my computer...
A. 24 January 2010: Hmm, I'd probably start thinking the way you do and probably be just as confused. It sounds to me that he might be confused too or he could possibly be bi. If he enjoys giving you oral, then that kind of flips things a bit. So perhaps he's ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had to deal with stretch marks before?
Q. hey all anybody had to deal with stretch marks before? i have em everywhere of my body and they are ruining my life. i have em on my back, on the sides of my body, on my stomach, my breasts, inside my arms and legs. im too worried about these...
A. 24 January 2010: Also, just to add; stretch marks will fade with time, so they won't be as noticeable as you age, particularly if you happen to be light complected. I've also heard that bio oil is probably the best thing out there now.... (read in full...)
Should I confront her about trying to always make me jealous?
Q. Hello, I've been dating this girl for 4 months now but she constantly tries to make me jealous, and tries to get a reaction out of me. For the past 2 months, wherever we are she'll make a remark of some sort saying, "Oh, check out that guy over ...
A. 24 January 2010: Well I would only assume that she continues to try to make you jealous after 4-months of DATING because she's still not your girlfriend? If you you're still not "official" then you need to make it that way, because either she's extremely immature ... (read in full...)
BF pushing me away, but does not know I only have months to live. Should I tell him?
Q. ah, I can't stop the way I feel and stay away.. I love someone he loves me too but we can't be together coz plenty of reasons anyway, I have a health issue for years and it got worse in the last year. Recently, the medicine stop working I tried al...
A. 23 January 2010: I think you should tell your boyfriend and I also think you should see another doctor.... (read in full...)
Kicking myself for failing my driving test. Again!
Q. Morning guys, Im on such a downer. I failed my driving test again yesterday-my 2nd attempt. I had such awful rainy weather and the route was so difficult. I know i need to book myself in again but im soo scared.To make it all worse my family ...
A. 23 January 2010: I think that you're just making stupid mistakes because of your nerves. It's not that big of a deal...and it takes longer for others. Honestly, around here, I wonder how some people got their driver's licenses, they basically cause accidents. ... (read in full...)
Should I give an ultimatum?
Q. I started hooking up with a friend of mine about 4 months ago. We love each others company and have a great time together. She knows how I feel and she bounces back and forth between feeling the same way, and just wanting to be friends. I want to ...
A. 23 January 2010: I think you're right in giving her an ultimatum. If you're tired of being strung along, then sometimes it's what you gotta do. But keep in mind, you also have to be prepared to follow through with it. So if she says "no" then prepare yourself to ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my stepson.
Q. I'm 38 years old and married to an older man - he's 50. It's his second marriage and he's got 2 kids from his previous marriage. Over the past few months my attraction to my stepson has grown tremendously. We flirt a lot to the point it could be ...
A. 23 January 2010: Jesus Christ, woman! Talk to your husband and have him take some Viagra or something! You honestly think anyone here is going to say, "Yeah, sounds like a great idea! Cheat on your husband with a younger man to fulfill your fantasies!" I know we ... (read in full...)
I got my sister pregnant.
Q. I'll give you some background im 22 and i have an 18 year old sister. We've always been really close. When my mom and dad split up she was made to decide where she wanted to live. I had already moved out and got an appartment so to spite our parents ...
A. 23 January 2010: I don't know what the hell you do either. Sorry, but I'd be quite embarrassed to have to tell my family. And I don't know how you two "laughed off" having sex with one another...waaay awkward. I'm not sure about the laws in the UK, but I know in ... (read in full...)
He wants the baby but not me...
Q. good morning everybody, i'm 23, i have my boyfriend and we have been together for 2 years. First, he loved me so much but my parents were really disappointed about our relationship. Now i'm 2 months pregnant, i told him so and he's being like a ...
A. 23 January 2010: Don't be selfish, just because he doesn't want a relationship with you, doesn't give you the right to keep his child away from him. It's not just YOUR baby, the baby belongs to BOTH of you.
Guys can freak out about this stuff. Perhaps things w... (read in full...)
He hasn't got time for a relationship. Should I pursue him anyway?
Q. First, i'd like to thank you all for taking the time to read and answer my question. So here's the situation: I got my cousin to talk with the guy I like. I found out that when he liked me, he still liked his ex girlfriend. But he said he tried...
A. 23 January 2010: If there's one thing you should learn now, don't pursue a boy EVER. Give him some space, be nice and friendly of course, but if he wants you, he knows where to find you.... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 23 January 2010: I recommend you quit being a fool and realize that either way he's going to leave you and he'll never leave his wife for you. Divorce your husband because no, you shouldn't be married. I agree, people do get married too young and these things ... (read in full...)
I think its time I raised the subject of sex with my girl, but unsure how to do it!
Q. What would be a good way to bring up having sex to mu gf? We have been together for well over a year now. We have gone as far as dry humping with only our underwear on. So what would be a good way to bring up the topic of sex to her?...
A. 23 January 2010: Ok whatever, I'll agree that you shouldn't be having sex yet. You're teenagers and going to have sex anyway, so I don't see the point in lecturing. But to answer your question, just ask her how she feels about it. DON'T just tell her, "I want to ... (read in full...)
My Wife's Boss wants an affair with her
Q. My wife attended her work Christmas party and her boss said he wanted to have an affair with her and other comments, such as her body it so hot he want to Fuc* her etc. I was furious and confronted her boss. He said it was all in kidding....
A. 23 January 2010: Wow, what an ass he is! Regardless if he was "joking" or not, that major sexual harassment as others have stated. He definitely needs to lose his job. If he's doing this to other women too, then at least hopefully your wife should have some ... (read in full...)
I rejected him twice but now he has a g/f I think I want him
Q. Okay I know it sounds weird, but I have no other option. I like a guy that I have rejected about 2 times because I was scared to be in a relationship. I wanted to be, but i couldn't face it. He's told me he loves me, but I was to scared to adimt...
A. 23 January 2010: Of course you want him now, it's because you can't have him! Just be friendly with him for now, don't try to go after him while he has a girlfriend, it only ends up making you look bad, especially because now he'll have the perfect opportunity to ... (read in full...)
Where can I get free, confidential treatment for an STD?
Q. I think I might have an STD where can I get tested? is there anywhere to do it for free or cheap and with privacy? like not notifying my parents. I'm 17....
A. 23 January 2010: Planned Parenthood... (read in full...)
"All the Rules" has any1 read it and found success?
Q. ok just bought the book "All the Rules" and its about dating and how to hook line and sink a husband, has anyone read it and found it to be successful? It was a pretty popular book around 1995/96... anyone who has read it please reply!...
A. 23 January 2010: That book is a little extreme. I think it tells a woman to play too hard to get. The good ones I've read are, "Why Men Love Bitches" (it doesn't actually tell you to be a bitch) and there's a "Why Men Marry Bitches," which I haven't read. I'm ... (read in full...)
He wants the baby but not me...
Q. good morning everybody, i'm 23, i have my boyfriend and we have been together for 2 years. First, he loved me so much but my parents were really disappointed about our relationship. Now i'm 2 months pregnant, i told him so and he's being like a ...
A. 23 January 2010: Maybe these are stupid questions, but if you could clarify it may be able to help.
1. What do you mean by, "he's being like a lion?"
2. And what do you mean you decided to not give him your baby? You decided that you won't let him see it o... (read in full...)
Am I doing myself harm by talking to him? I secretly want him back.
Q. My husband and I had a rocky start but I had thought things were getting better (after he attempted suicide this year). He didn't get as much help as we thought he should. We were planning on moving to his home state (Mississippi) in June (from my ...
A. 22 January 2010: Well I think the reason for divorcing you isn't necessarily YOU, but he's probably not feeling like a "man" and the husband he should be (he's depressed and going broke) so he can't provide for you financially and emotionally, so he probably sees ... (read in full...)
Should I just be her friend for now? I don't want to get stuck in "friends zone" though.
Q. i went on a first date with this girl, and we had a great time, she admitted it was a great time. She lives a little far away so we cant see each other a whole lot but we txt each other everyday and i make her laugh alot. but she told me after our ...
A. 22 January 2010: As far as the two options that you picked, you should go with neither. If you want to "play" this right, text her ocassionally (like once a week or every other week) just to let her know you're still interested, but it will make her guess a little ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to not have a boyfriend at 14? A friend in my class has had 45!
Q. Just wondering if its normal to be kinda frigid at 14? It's just that I have seen girls my age who have gone past the whole "shy" thing and are dating boys whenever they feel like.Theres a girl in my year who' had over 45 boyfriends. I ha...
A. 21 January 2010: No way, you're fine. I used to feel the same way as you, but I didn't have a boyfriend until I was almost 17. Be patient about it, I know you want to do what everyone else is doing, but don't feel that way. You have plenty of time ahead of you ... (read in full...)
Was I too pushy with him?
Q. My husband and i are in the process of getting a divorce and so is his sister and her husband. well last wek her husband and i made out and talked on the phone for an hour and had phone sex. we both said we liked it and he told me to call him ...
A. 20 January 2010: Yeah, you totally blew anything you had in the future with him. Sorry to be blunt, but from what he said to you, it's pretty apparent that he's not interested in you. I know you feel bad already and I don't mean to pour salt into a wound, but you ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date a woman 7 years older?
Q. Anything wrong in dating older women (like seven years older than you)?...
A. 20 January 2010: Nope! That's the difference in age between my mom and dad, my dad met my mom when he was 23/24 and she was going on 31! Been married almost 27 years now.... (read in full...)
Hubby says I'm not fun like others
Q. My husband went to luncheon with some female clients and when they asked him to bring me for lunch one day, he replied that I'm not fun like them. He told me this when he came home and realized his mistake when I was offended. He tried to correct ...
A. 19 January 2010: I agree with Angzw, go out and have fun yourself and show him what's up!... (read in full...)
They all say I'm pretty and nice but why do I go home alone every night?
Q. ive met cocky guys players jerks who only want sex or guys who have a gf but say they like u more and i wait and wait they just never break up,leaving me bleeding inside..and i dont believe "im too good that guys get intimidated" it's a lie.. so yea...
A. 19 January 2010: Just becase you're pretty doesn't mean that you're approachable. And apparently the ones that aren't afraid to approach you are the jerks you don't like...and they pretty much approach any girl that's decent looking even if she does look like she ... (read in full...)
Did my FWB actually ever like me or was I just some random girl to him?
Q. Guys, your point of view would be interesting. So I met this guy, not interested in him at first but he was in me..very interested. I decided what the hell, give it a shot, and we started dating. First off, I slept with him on the first date. ...
A. 19 January 2010: You might want a man's perspective, but it's pretty easy to figure out. If you tell a guy that you want to be FWB, believe it or not, they're usually okay with it. You told him that, so he went with it. You were his friend with benefits...you ... (read in full...)
Was I too pushy with him?
Q. My husband and i are in the process of getting a divorce and so is his sister and her husband. well last wek her husband and i made out and talked on the phone for an hour and had phone sex. we both said we liked it and he told me to call him ...
A. 18 January 2010: Umm well...you madeout with him and phone sex with him, texted him daily and told him later on that it was a "mistake" which would kind of make a person feel slightly crappy that you basically told them that you regretted what happened, then you ... (read in full...)
Should I get the morning after pill?
Q. should I get the morning after pill? I just had sex tonight w/o protection but he didn't cum inside. do you think I should?...
A. 12 January 2010: Yes, that's what the morning after pill is for. Get it first thing tomorrow. Also, use protection in the future because the morning after pill isn't considered for use as a birth control method--only for when "accidents" happen. You can get the ... (read in full...)
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