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writes: A simple question: What is your most lasting impression of a person who is shy and who does not get involved much in casual and impersonal social events? Say, you had a neighbor who was always nice, but never just came over and knocked on your door to hang out, and who didn't show up at your bbq or something like that? Would you think something poorly or realize this person doesn't enjoy being consistently social and probably has anxiety over such situations?
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (1 February 2010):
If I had a neighbor that would come knock on my door and want to hang out, that would just be weird to me. Neighbors to me have always been more like aquaintances, I may wave to them outside sometimes or help them out with something or give them extra oranges from my tree...but I would never want to just hang out. I know some neighbors are like that, but not many.
If my neighbor didn't show up to a bbq I had, I probably only asked them to be polite and maybe so they could meet some new people, and if they showed up then cool; if not, I probably wouldn't care. But that's just me.
Shy people in general vary. There's the people that you can tell are nice but they're shy. There's the people that you can't tell if they're just shy or have social problems. Or there's the people that are shy but come off as rude. As long as you smile and are somewhat personable I doubt they think anything bad about you.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 My most lasting impression of someone who is thought to be shy is not really shy at all. some people simply have a much higher intelligence than most of the people around. Some think that in those social environments people just simply talk too much shite therfore don't want get involved. Or his/her conversational level may be that he'll/she'll start to talk about things like quantum physics the mayan civilisation or where did we all come from, out of space? and/or the development of the japanese symbols.
Others ive met simply like peace and quiet, even people around your age group do, many of them do. they like to just be in their own space doing their own thing.
I met a woman, id call the most beautiful woman ive ever seen, everyone wants to know her, talk to her, be her friend, take her on dates, parties, bbq's. But one thing we had a conversation about was that she said to me she likes to have her own time because people are always calling her to do something, she does not even have a boyfriend, men fall to her feet. So much attention leaves her no room for herself, therfore she chooses to be alone ... in peace and quiet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): ok well i wouldnt think much of this person. i wouldnt think bad thoughts of this person because i dont see them much. i would think they are nice becuase the only time i see them they are nice. One think that is bound to happen i thinking the person is a geek for a little while, then forgetting about them and moving on
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