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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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Why can't I get over a guy that I barely had a relationship with?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 2 years with a wonderful guy. When I first met him, I had been hanging out with another guy for about 4 months. I was very attracted to this other guy, but I didn't feel comfortable hanging out with 2 guys at once...
A. 10 January 2010: I think you're probably over him, but a lot of women have that bad boy at one time or another in their life that they weren't able to tame and think about what if they could have tamed him. I don't think you had any real true feelings for this guy, ... (read in full...)
Is my fiancee cheating on me?
Q. Is my fiancee cheating on me? She is very happy to go to work every day. She is making lots of new friends and decided that she and I need to go out separately with our own friends. She went out of town a few weeks ago for the night with a "female" ...
A. 10 January 2010: Hmmm time to call Cheaters??? Yeah, it sounds pretty sketchy to me. I know girls can get drunk and do silly things like pinching, but they usually don't wind up looking like hickeys! She's REALLY young, so in all honesty she may not be ready to ... (read in full...)
STD, foreplay questions
Q. I might sound dumb but I'm curious and I'll never know if I don't ask. So.. What's the difference between stds and stis? I know what they are but is there a difference? Also can they be passed on by oral sex? Is a condom a good way for me to protect ...
A. 9 January 2010: They're the same thing, they just recently changed them to STI's because they're saying that most of these infections can be cured since they're bacterial rather than just having some disease you can't get rid of. So, most people are used to ... (read in full...)
17 year old virgin with no boyfriend?
Q. Is it bad to be a 17 year old virgin whose never had a boyfriend?...
A. 9 January 2010: No, not at all. Be glad you're not one of the girls worried about an STD or a baby on the way out of sheer stupidity. Don't feel bad about yourself, be happy that you are. Things will fall into place eventually and it'll happen--trust me, you ... (read in full...)
I know all he wants is sex and I don't want to be thought of in that way!
Q. Seriously, I am not the type of person who comes off as being rude. I need to tell a married man whom I have been friends with for a year to stop calling me. I have ignored him but he just won't catch on. I've told him that the situation we are ...
A. 9 January 2010: Okay, so ignoring didn't work...I take it that is was for an extended period of time before you decided that it didn't work? Sometimes we have to be the "bad guy" and if he's just not getting it when you ignore him, then you NEED to tell him. For ... (read in full...)
How do you get someone out of your head?
Q. How do you get someone out of your head? I should not be thinking about a married man the way I do. It's a guy I have been friends with for about 10 years - from our early teen years. He's recently married and has a baby on the way. I always kind of ...
A. 9 January 2010: It takes time, and that time has to consist of no contact.... (read in full...)
Would he 'really' throw me out the window or was he joking?
Q. Hello all and Happy new year! Here's my question. What does it mean when you ask a man that you are involved with what he wants to do/be with you and he answers, "If I told you I would scare you" and smiles...nicely. We were cuddled up on the couch ...
A. 9 January 2010: "He was obviously using his very twisted sense of humor because he would never ever do that."
I would say that it's not very obvious if you're unsure if he actually meant it. I would definitely be taken aback by a comment like that; I guess th... (read in full...)
Becoming a single mother by choice!
Q. Im 29 years old and really want a baby. However, im single. Ive wanted children for a few years but it wasnt until i had an unplanned pregnancy with my boyfriend at the time just over a year ago and miscarried that the urge for children has gotten ...
A. 8 January 2010: Regardless if it's to replace a lost child, I think all women (or at least most) want to have children. I think it's just natural and there's nothing wrong with you wanting to go about with what you want to do. I don't think there's anything wrong ... (read in full...)
I have a bucket list about sex
Q. so i'm young. but ive already done stuff, witch was a mistake i got caught up in the moment. and i really regretted it. but now i have this "bucket" list all these things i would like to do before i graduate high school. abd there are a few sexual ...
A. 8 January 2010: You need to be realistic though. I highly doubt that dying a virgin would be a huge regret. But you're right, we should all live that way...after all, we might not be here tomorrow. So I'm gonna go pull an all nighter tonight, sleep with 4 or 5 ... (read in full...)
What is going on with these nipples of mine?????
Q. I've been having VERY sore nipples for a long while, I can't remember how long, so I'm sorry there. Well anywho, I HAVE been on a hormone replacement meds which only lasted 2 weeks with taking it and that has been over 2 weeks ago and I've been ...
A. 8 January 2010: If they both hurt like that, it's hormonal. It has something to do with the meds you were taking or you're pregnant. There's really not much you can do to make them feel better except wait it out.... (read in full...)
Friend keeps breaking dates
Q. i have kept making dates with a female friend but alwyas get an excuse for her not turning up. yet when she wants me there for a date or somthing else, she gets upset if i dont show on time. what can i do to make this an even playing field so to ...
A. 8 January 2010: Either you can quit asking her out so she'll freak out about why you're not asking her out anymore then she'll want to actually go out with you and not flake. Or just bring it up when she asks you out next time (face-to-face while you're together). ... (read in full...)
When I touch myself I have to go pee
Q. Whenever I touch my clit and get really horny and just keep circling it and touching it I have to pee. I'm not talkin abou g spot, I'm talking about my clit. I even went into the bathroom to see if it was cum or if it was pee, and it was definitely ...
A. 8 January 2010: I'm a little concerned that you would think the feeling of having to pee could be "cum" because women don't have cum; and pee and vaginal lubrication come out of completely different areas. Some women pee when excited, just make sure you get it all ... (read in full...)
I have a bucket list about sex
Q. so i'm young. but ive already done stuff, witch was a mistake i got caught up in the moment. and i really regretted it. but now i have this "bucket" list all these things i would like to do before i graduate high school. abd there are a few sexual ...
A. 8 January 2010: No, you won't be better off this time. FWB isn't for everyone, you'll probably wind up emotionally attached and hurt. Don't bother. And why do you feel the need to complete these sexual things before high school is over? You do realize you have ... (read in full...)
Is there a deeper meaning to her text even though she doesn't want a relationship?
Q. OK, there's this girl that i really like and over the past few weeks I've been getting to know her pretty good. We talk all the time and hang out when ever possible and I have such an amazing! time when were together. To be honest it seems that she ...
A. 8 January 2010: As far as a deeper meaning to the actual text, I would say no. But the way she's acting I think would show that she either doesn't know what she wants or she's playing games. If it's a she doesn't know what she wants situation, it may just be ... (read in full...)
Why after an orgasm do men leave women hanging?
Q. Hi. Ok I have a question I no a lot of women would liked answered. Why is when a guy has a orgasm first its over they get up and go on with there day. They just leave the girl hangen they don't even try to finish what they started. Guys what if your ...
A. 6 January 2010: I don't have an answer, but I'll agree with you that it's complete BS! This happened to me recently, moreso, sleep was important to him afterward. Talk about a HUGE turnoff literally. Needless to say I haven't cared to bother with him at all ... (read in full...)
Is there such thing as a much too sweet guy?
Q. Is there such thing as a much too sweet guy? I'm dating a great guy he sends me good morning texts. Buys me stuff for no reason and makes me art pieces and makes sure I'm okay but I'm kinda aggravated by him. I'm so used to being neglected and stuff ...
A. 6 January 2010: And this is the reason why good guys turn into a-holes...... (read in full...)
I want to add my teacher to Facebook!
Q. I tried to add a teacher that I think I love and I mean honestly love on facebook last year and he declined because he obviously wasn't allowed, but I didn't know that teachers werent allowed to accept students on the site, at the time. He said he ...
A. 6 January 2010: Unless you want to perhaps get him locked up in prison for eternity, I would suggest backing off and leaving him alone. ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of this flu bug???
Q. Hi, Sorry this isn't a relationship question, but I have had awful flu for nearly four days and it's really getting me down. I haven't been out of the house and not been at work and I feel lonely and miserable with a terrible cough and sore che...
A. 6 January 2010: Go to the pharmacy or ask someone to go for you and find as many flu remedies you can intoxicate with yourself with, without overdosing. However, when you have the flu you're pretty much screwed, so I would just go with some tylenol every 4 hours ... (read in full...)
Any first date tips?
Q. ok people i need helppp!! i am going on a first date with a guy i've liked for sooooo long, and i am sooooooooooo nervous!! i'm just out a 5 year relationship, we never really done the whole dating thing, anyway what do i say, what do i wear? what ...
A. 5 January 2010: Definitely get some dating help books, dating is hard even when you do it frequently.
I'm definitely going to go with DON'T drink too much! Because then you'll be back on here freaking out because you really liked him and he still hasn't called y... (read in full...)
I just feel like a loser...
Q. I started going out with this guy around halloween time last year, not that long ago. We met on a uni night out he seemed really interested as did his friend in me, but I told him straight away I had a boyfriend. I really started to like him and ...
A. 5 January 2010: You're not a loser, you're just dating guys who are losers. Don't fret, we all go through this and feel this way from time-to-time. You're still so young and have many more guys to date, don't let these two guys get you down. Think of them as ... (read in full...)
Sex on a first date, today he is quiet, will he show for our date tomorrow?!
Q. I slept with a guy on our first date! Now he seems distant.. We have only really known each other a month but the instant we met online he lived near, attractive it was like we was made for each other.. he instantly give me his number and got on...
A. 4 January 2010: I really think that it's all in your head. He's been distant for a day??? And you two slept together a couple nights ago? You told him that you didn't want him to bother on his day off and to text you while he can...you do realize you told him to ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex boyfriend all of a sudden care so much?
Q. OK, I've posted a couple questions about my ex in the past but new drama with him seems to form every week. I will give a quick run-through. We dated for 7 months, but he broke it off via text messaging while I was at college, saying he was moving ...
A. 4 January 2010: The drama never ends because neither one of you allow it to end. Since you're not over him, you're not letting things go. In reality, if you wanted the drama to end and to not bother with him anymore you would ignore what he says about you "hating ... (read in full...)
Does he need other girls to satisfy him? I was hoping he wanted to be exclusive...
Q. I'm 18 years old and about a month or two ago I started seeing this 21 year old guy whom I met through friends. Before we started liking each other, I knew of his habits of being a real bad girl chaser, always hitting on and adding hot girls...
A. 4 January 2010: All he is is immature. Whether or not he was joking, it was a stupid thing for him to say. Perhaps you should tell him that you would actually think it better to find a hot guy in your relationship for a threesome because you're not gay but ... (read in full...)
My ex's new girlfriend is a wanna-be-replica of me!
Q. Is it just me or is it creepy? My ex-boyfriend and i broke up about a year ago. It was my choice and a good choice, however after casually running into him a few times I met his new girlfriend...who really reminds me of...me. Not in a good sense at ...
A. 4 January 2010: You met and discussed hobbies...right. You ran into them a few times, that happens to plenty of people and usually it's a, "Hi how are you? Nice to meet/see you again" awkwardness. Many men like to date girls of a particular race and maybe a ... (read in full...)
The boyfriend? The ex? Torn between them!
Q. Hello: I have a boyfriend of 7 years but half-way through the relationship I started to talk to my ex again and feelings started to come back. The ex and I dated for about 5 months (7 years ago) before we broke up. For the past few years, I've bee...
A. 4 January 2010: If you're quite the opposite, then take charge and cut the strings if you don't want them attached anymore...... (read in full...)
My ex's new girlfriend is a wanna-be-replica of me!
Q. Is it just me or is it creepy? My ex-boyfriend and i broke up about a year ago. It was my choice and a good choice, however after casually running into him a few times I met his new girlfriend...who really reminds me of...me. Not in a good sense at ...
A. 4 January 2010: Sorry, but you need to get over yourself. Really, who cares? If you were over him, you wouldn't be trying to rationalize why he's dating some version of you that you claim isn't as good.
Do you honestly think that he stalks you then tells th... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend touch me?
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 18. I've been with him for 6 months, and I'm completely in love with him. He's my first "real" relationship, as in the first that didn't revolve around sex. He cooks for me all the time, he keeps me entertained every ...
A. 4 January 2010: I'm being completely serious when I ask this question; is there a possibility that he could be gay??? Otherwise, a boyfriend not wanting to be affectionate or even want to touch you is plain bizarre and I would assume it's because he's not into any ... (read in full...)
I was the rebound guy
Q. First post on a site like this. Any thoughts would help. I admittedly was the rebound guy. I was single and confident when I met her and simply looking for a good time. We had an amazing summer together while she was home from school. She's 2...
A. 3 January 2010: It's pretty apparent that you're not a dumbass, so I think you know you shouldn't be pining over this girl who is a dumbass.
Okay, so you two spent a summer together so that was 3 or 4-months at the most? Of course you two didn't fight or have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he doesn't want a relationship in college. what should I do?
Q. So, heres the deal. I'm a junior in high school. My boyfriend is a senior. We have been dating for 6 months. Our age never made a difference at all, until now. He's starting to get serious about college, and it has brought up questions about our ...
A. 3 January 2010: As far as breaking up with him now or right before he goes to college is up to you. Neither of us can tell you what the best thing to do is because you're going to do whichever you feel is right.
However, going off to college is probably going to... (read in full...)
I'm scared if I say no he'll dump me!
Q. Im 16 and my boyfriend is 17 We had oral sex once and now he seems too want it alot... Sometimes i want it (because it feels good) but at the same time i dont want things to get out of hand but im scared that if i say i dont want too he'll dump me ...
A. 3 January 2010: If he dumps you because you tell him, "No" then that just shows what kind of person that he really is; it also shows that he only likes you for sexual purposes. If he liked you for more than that, then he'd respect the fact that you don't want to. ... (read in full...)
Isn't she into me any more?
Q. Ive been in a relationship with the same woman for over 14 years and we are both in our thirties. We have two children 2(boy) and 7(girl) my lady says that i annoy her too much when i try to cuddle (she says i'm too heavy or i'm squishing her. I'm ...
A. 3 January 2010: I don't think she's cheating or that she doesn't love you anymore: but probably bored. I know it sounds like you're doing a lot and you are definitely going out of your way, but it's not upping her excitement factor. I think you definitely need to ... (read in full...)
The boyfriend? The ex? Torn between them!
Q. Hello: I have a boyfriend of 7 years but half-way through the relationship I started to talk to my ex again and feelings started to come back. The ex and I dated for about 5 months (7 years ago) before we broke up. For the past few years, I've bee...
A. 2 January 2010: Listen, you're thinking of dumping a guy that you've been with for 7 years for a guy that you dated for 5 months. Honestly, 5 months is nothing--that's hardly even a serious relationship. If you two couldn't make it longer than 5-months, what ... (read in full...)
I rip my heart out telling her things but don't get the same back
Q. ok this might be long but i need help. i want to trust my girlfriend again she cheated on me before but only a kiss with the same guy twice. this was about 3 months ago but i just cant trust her and when she hangs with guys i get upset and like ...
A. 2 January 2010: It seems like you've begun to think that you're the problem, but really, she's the problem. You're really not going to be able to trust her ever, and I agree, she can say no.
When I have a boyfriend, out of respect I don't hang out with oth... (read in full...)
Do you think he might dump his girlfriend to be with me?
Q. theres a guy who already has a girlfriend, and i really like him, if we have a dance he will ask me to dance and not his girl friend, what if he dumps his old girl friend to date me? then every body would hate me....
A. 2 January 2010: If he dumps his girlfriend to date you, then everyone hating you and him together might be deserving. But don't get your hopes up too high, once it comes down to the dance, he'll probably ignore you the whole time. Find a nice guy who is available ... (read in full...)
Do I let a married man divorce his wife or should I move on?
Q. Okay heres the deal, I have fallen for a married man, and he likes me as well. Hes going to jeporadize his marriage to be with me. Do i go ahead and let him, that way me and him can be together, or do I just cut contact completely? ...
A. 2 January 2010: In actuality, a man leaving his wife usually has absolutely nothing to do with a mistress. He leaves his wife because he's truly unhappy and doesn't want to be married to her anymore. So, to think that you have any control over whether or not he ... (read in full...)
I told him I would call his home!
Q. I was in a relationship with a married man and I thought I got pregnant and tried to contact him several times. So I called him a few times for about 5 days and he didn't answer. Then I sent him a message stating that I thought I was pregnant and I ...
A. 2 January 2010: Umm yeah...it is bad. Here's why he probably got mad in the first place: because you were even contemplating calling his home. I don't understand the whole pretending to be some lady and calling his home question because you said you sent him a ... (read in full...)
I get a sinking feeling when I realise it will never happen again
Q. My husband is circumsized, and lately I've found myself CRAVING sex with an uncircumcised man. I've been with both cut and uncut men before, and hands-down I've found sex with uncut men to be more pleasurable. My husband knows that I've been with ...
A. 14 December 2009: I really think that it's all in your head, there really is no difference. Maybe the uncircumsized guy just happened to have a different shaped penis that pleasured you better...because having a foreskin shouldn't make any difference.... (read in full...)
How do I win her?
Q. Well, there is this girl I like. She has been dating this other guy for a year and plans on getting married to him. Well, she likes me to. She hates it when other guys flirt with her however, when I flirt with her, she likes it. She also flirts back ...
A. 14 December 2009: Well apparently she likes douche bags. So if she leaves him and goes to you, what does that make you? And yes, it is selfish because you're thinking of yourself. If she wanted to be with you, she'd be with you! It doesn't take that much winning ... (read in full...)
I really like him but since I told him to stop being so sexual he's gone... what did I do wrong?
Q. Ok is there anyway of getting this back... advice please!! Really liked this guy, he would always stop and chat to me as we work near eachother, he would stop his car to talk to me, flirt etc, this went on for a while ... the thing is i coould never ...
A. 14 December 2009: I think it sounds like you're plenty confident and you were probably more yourself than you think. Maybe you were a little more reserved than usual, but usually you can tell when someone has some personality.
Honestly, I don't think he really a... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 14 December 2009: Seriously...no confronting. Dump her already. Everyone has already told you MANY times to let this one go and you're not. You said you would never talk to her again if she screwed up, and it looks like she's screwed up about 3 times since then ... (read in full...)
Could our adolescent sex play have turned her into a lesbian?
Q. When I was younger, me and my cousin played doctor and it went a little too far (sex, anal sex and oral sex). I was 11 years old and she was 10 years old. She was the one that talk me into these acts but after the first few times, she did not have ...
A. 14 December 2009: If you're male and she's female...why would that have anything to do with her being a lesbian??? She talked you into these acts to begin with? Sounds like she already had problems...I don't know of any 10 year olds that would know about anal or ... (read in full...)
How do I win her?
Q. Well, there is this girl I like. She has been dating this other guy for a year and plans on getting married to him. Well, she likes me to. She hates it when other guys flirt with her however, when I flirt with her, she likes it. She also flirts back ...
A. 11 December 2009: To be honest, I think she likes the attention you give her. Otherwise, she would have dropped her fiance for you a while ago. Don't you feel bad for the other guy at all? What if she were to do this to you?
Say you were able to "win her over... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 18 November 2009: I think you should quit talking to her now because you know she's going to flip flop. Being "pretty sure" is the same as not being sure. You wouldn't have asked if you did't think she was going to. Give it time, you know she probably will. ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 16 November 2009: Garm,
I don't mean to butt-in here. But you shouldn't be trying to manipulate her into wanting her back. The best thing you can do is do what makes YOU happy--you're revolving your actions too much on how you can manipulate her into wanting ... (read in full...)
How to steal my ex back from rebound?
Q. My ex and I still talk frequently (almost every day, or more). How do I steal her back from her rebound boyfriend? ...
A. 9 November 2009: Eh, you just want her back cause you can't have her. So, you know that the relationship probably isn't going to work out in the future. But you pretty much have to follow what anonymous said, the more you act like you don't care, the more she'll ... (read in full...)
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