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My boyfriend wants me to swallow

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Question - (5 February 2010) 7 Answers - (Newest, 1 February 2017)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

my boyfriends been trying to get me to swallow, but im so nervous ill puke or something, because I have heard nasty stories about it. i was told this joke: do you know the difference between like and love? spit and swallow.. it made me feel bad. like i want to try it i really do, but idk if i can. ive been with him 4 years now i just want to wow him one day. any advice?

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A female reader, Shannon17 United States +, writes (1 February 2017):

Shannon17 agony auntAn old thread with the same timeless comments. I guess I'm unique, or just different, because I don't just *like* swallowing cum, I LOVE it. I've been with the same man over four years now, we have sex 3-4 times a week, and in all those times I bet there's been maybe only 20 times when I *haven't* swallowed him.

By my calculations I've swallowed the cum of eighteen different men in my life; I love the taste, the texture, and have since I was a teenager. If I didn't like the taste I wouldn't do it.

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A female reader, KoriNickole United States +, writes (6 February 2010):

its not as bad as you would think,it tastes a little wierd but it helps when you really enjoy doing it for the person,if its a really big nut then you might gag a little but my best advice is after you swallow,drink water :]


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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010):

The like or love thing is rubbish so dont feel bad about it if you really cant swallow. Some dont mind doing it while others gag. Its a personal choice thing and nothing to do with love. As suggested here, try a little taste first and see how you feel about it then. It might not be as bad as you think.

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A female reader, pinktopaz United States +, writes (5 February 2010):

You probably won't puke, but I say swallow it as fast as you can and get it over with. Have some water ready and after you swallow drink some water because sometimes it can be pretty bitter tasting depending on the guy. Just from my experience, if your boyfriend smokes pot quite frequently, I've found they tend to not taste so pleasant. So if he does, ask him to lay off, or thankfully, he's not a loser that hits the bong all day.

Also, spitting or swallowing doesn't determine whether you like or love someone. Swallowing just tends to turn a guy on, that's all it is. So your boyfriend asks you because it would turn him on, that's it. Don't feel too bad about it, it's really not a big deal.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (5 February 2010):

DoubleM agony auntFirst of all, he should be doing oral for you as well, preferably first. It should also be done by him so well that you orgasm, maybe repeatedly. If he does that, then swallowing will likely be lovely for you.

It's healthy for a woman, to begin with. Most every woman I've known over 45 years loved it, or at least never complained. But here's my advice: Try to avoid the pre-cum, a drop or two that precedes ejaculation. It's usually fairly bitter (alkaline), although some women like it as well. Wipe that away, then take only his first sperm squirt in your mouth. Taste and swallow. He should be willing to allow the remainder to release on your chest, or wherever, the first time or more. If his diet is balanced, especially including fruits and fruit juices, his ejaculate should be quite tasty or, at least acceptable for swallowing. It's harmless if he is healthy and free of disease.

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A female reader, SeXylOvE12 United States +, writes (5 February 2010):

SeXylOvE12 agony auntYou can tell when he's about to come when you feel the bottom of his shaft starting to "pump it out."If you can't tell just tell him to tell you when he's about to cum. Go down as far as you can and relax your throat muscles. It should go right down your throat, and even if it doesn't it really doesn't taste that bad. Just try not to think about it as a disgusting experience and it wont be.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010):

Wow. Well I've never heard that saying before, that entire love vs like thing. And if that's the only motivation you have to 'swallow', then don't do it. You should never feel pressured into doing something sexually that you don't really want to do, ESPECIALLY by your significant other. I mean it's one thing for him to ask you nicely if that's something he wants, but if he is making you feel bad because of it, that's bad news.

If that's not the case, and it's just something that you want to do, know that there are PLENTY of couples who LOVE each other, and the girl doesn't swallow. Love does not equate to if a girl is willing to chug some jizz. Period. And if a guy really thinks that, they have quite a few issues.

Anyway, past that point, if this is something you really want to do, the best advice I can give to you is just to go for it. If you haven't tasted it yet, then just try tasting first. Assuming that you spit however, you know the consistency and the taste already, which us girls all know can be a little hard to uhm...swallow. I sometimes even take a few seconds in order to muster up the willpower to do so (the warmth of the stuff is what does it for me, I don't like it). I know this is a little personal to share, but I've found personally that the deeper along to the back of my tongue he is when he climaxes (as in further back, almost near my throat), the easier it is to swallow. Simply because when it hits the back of your throat, you can't taste or really feel the consistency. Which makes swallowing a lot easier.

You don't have to gag yourself, but just get it far enough to where the 'release' isn't hitting your taste buds. Just ask him that he gives you a heads up just as he's about to climax, that way you are mentally prepared and you don't choke.

Again, if you are doing this because you yourself feel pressured, and think that love is swallowing, don't do it. Some girls are ok with it, some aren't. It's totally up to personal preferences and comfort levels. If this is something you actually do feel comfortable with and want to to make your guy a little more happier in bed, by all means, do it. My boyfriend of almost two years is the first and only guy I've done this with, and I'm twenty-one. It took me someone I really trusted and felt comfortable with in order to wrap my head around the process, and it becomes almost routine with time. :) So best of luck to you!

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