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My real name is obviously NOT Phoebe Halliwell and no, I'm not Alyssa Milano either, though it'd be awesome if I were. I chose this name (Phoebe Halliwell) because she's a strong character and has been through some tough times in love herself, coming out stronger and still believing.
I'm young, single and live in the UK. I don't have any form of qualification, just a big heart and the occassional spare moment!
I have a pretty open mind and can relate to a lot of people. I'm the right side of 25 and have had some serious ups and downs! I'm just here to give you guys a fresh pair of eyes on a situation that seems to have no solution, sometimes that's all you need :)
Peace,
Phoebe
*NOTE* I'm going back to school for a while to try and change my career path. This means I won't be answering as quickly as I usually do but will still accept private e-mails from those seeking my advice. |
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Does his "have kids when you're young" really mean "I want to have kids with you"?
Q. This older man that I am friends with ( and suspect that he likes me as something more) was asking me if I wanted to have children. I told him yes I did. He told me to have them when I was young; and then he winked at me. He said I should have ...
A. 14 April 2006: Hey! Woah! Slow down one second. Seventeen year age gap if I'm not mistaken. Has he actually made a move on you? I'd stay freinds with him and meet someone nearer your own age.
Goooood Luck!
Phoebe xxx... (read in full...)
I'm 30, he's 16, I love him but he won't meet me!
Q. hi, well I'm confused he's 16 I'm 30 we like each other and get along too. We met on the internet but he's saying he wants to wait 1 to 2 years for we meet. How can i cope with the distance and without seeing each other we are falling in love too. ...
A. 14 April 2006: Dear Reader,
Question how far you think it will go. I mean, he's 16! He's not even leagally counted as an adult yet. I know you love him but slow down. A fourteen year age Gap could cause problems. I'd say let him down gently and find someone your... (read in full...)
Older online woman who I'm falling for big time!
Q. hi, im 16 and met a 27 year old girl on the net i want to meet her but she wants to wait. we get on well and really like each other. we clicked the first time we spoke. we live far apart so that causes some problem like. i think im falling in lov...
A. 14 April 2006: Dear James,
11 years is quite a considerable Gap. Does she know how old you are? I think it's best if you tell her how old you are and tell her how much you like her but like all the other agony aunts here, it's better to find someone your own age.... (read in full...)
Want my relationship with her to be a LOT better than her last one... but how?
Q. My new girlfriend's last boyfriend thumped her in the back because she said no to sex as she was having her period,and did not even consider that she may be a virgin. He was generally nasty to her during their 3 months together. How can I make our...
A. 14 April 2006: Dear Reader,
Take it easy, make her feel welcome, special, loved and most of all, make her feel RESPECTED. Respect is one of the many things she didn't have in her last relationship. And by the way you've described it, anything could be better than... (read in full...)
I'm dating my teacher! Am I naive in thinking there is a future?
Q. I recently starting dating a man that is twice my age. Even more of a problem is that he is my high school teacher! The whole situation is really bizarre, but despite everything we get along very well and maybe I am being a bit naive but i think ...
A. 14 April 2006: Woah!
Happy that you found someone but it's AGAINST THE LAW to even hold hands or hug or kiss your teacher. If someone found out you were dating you could both get in serious trouble. Does this mean you're only 12? There is a 99.999% chance of fail... (read in full...)
Scared that my former model and current suburban queen of a mother will hate my tubby, scruffy, unemployed new man!
Q. so, i met this guy this past october. since then - and, initially, despite my reluctance - we've become extremely close ("close" meaning serious marriage talk). i never thought that i was capable of loving someone so strongly: not the problem. ...
A. 14 April 2006: Dear Reader,
first off let me congratulate you for finding someone so special to you.
But listen, if you really love him, when it comes to the crunch, you'll be there for him. Go ahead, introduce him to your Mum FIRST not you bro. If he meets yo... (read in full...)
I have a major crush on a teacher. He gave me a lift home and we kissed!
Q. Is it wrong for a 13 year old to have a major crush on a teacher? I asked him to give me a lift home the other day as I told him I was getting bullied, as I know he is kind and would believe me. So he did and we kissed. I really liked it but every ...
A. 14 April 2006: Dear Reader,
First of all, there is absoloutly nothing wrong with fancying your teacher, everyone in this world has or will at some point. The only thing is, this guy, well ok, Man is a lot older then you. and he is you teacher. This means that even... (read in full...)
When is an age gap too big?
Q. when is an age gap too much?...
A. 14 April 2006: Dear Reader
First off, hi.
An age Gap is too big when each of you are in a different stage of life. For instence, if you're a mature (and I'm sure beautiful) eighteener and you hook up with a thirty year old. You'll be 21 and wanting to parrrrty... (read in full...)
My son is dating someone much older than him. Is there anything wrong with this?
Q. I am a father of two; one 20-year-old son and a 15-year-old son. I have heard my 20-year-old son is dating a 38-year-old woman (at first I thought it was a rumour, it was actually verified later!) and I am worried about the age gap. What pro...
A. 14 April 2006: Hi Mark
Sometimes age isn't everything. I do admit, an eighteen year gap may have some risks but so does any relationship! Just relax, the only thing you can do right now is show support to your son. Maybe you could get to know his new girl... (read in full...)
I know it's weird to think constantly about my history teacher, but how would I stop?
Q. Well lately I have been constantly thinking about my history teacher. He's gorgeous, and sweet, funny... I know it's so wierd but I can't stop thinking about him as hard as I try. And I can't tell my friends. I don't know what to do? How do you ...
A. 14 April 2006: That's a good question, an one that almost everyone, boy or girl asks in their lifetime. Fnacying your teacher is completely normal. Know why? Because they gain a lot of respect, have a lot of power, and you get to know them really well. All of ... (read in full...)
Late-night tutor, or...?
Q. Should I be worried about my bf tutoring some girl at one in the morning at college?...
A. 13 April 2006: Dear Reader,
Yes, all girlfriends would be wary. But understand. If he loves you like you think he does he probably wouldn't have even thought of cheating on you. Talk to him about it, tell him you know he wouldn't but you can't help being nerv... (read in full...)
What does he want? He knows I have a boyfriend and I'm on the verge of breaking up...
Q. I'm in uni, living in halls. There's a guy who I have got to know over the past month. Every night we lay on his bed for three hours and just talk and talk. I'm so comfortable with him. We're not touchy-feely, although he will occassio...
A. 13 April 2006: Dear Reader,
if you are this unhappy with your boyfriend then ditch him, but do it gently. Then keep it going with this other guy, he sounds good, but be warned! Never judge a book by it's cover
Good Luck -
Phoebe xxx... (read in full...)
I've cheated on my girlfriend and now she's pregnant!
Q. hello i am in a deep situation and i need some very truthful advise. I have been cheating on my 4 years girlfriend and with another girl for 8 months and now the 8 month girl is pregnant but i dont wanna be with her and i dont know how to tell my 4 ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hey BabyBoy? Time to start growing up and taking responsability for you actions, don't you think?
First of all, be truthful with the four year hirl. Tell her everything and tell her how ashamed you are of yourself. Then go and talk to the 8 month ... (read in full...)
Played a love scene with a guy and really, actually fell for him!
Q. I recently worked closely with this boy in a love scene for a school play, and have fallen completely in love with him in real life! Unfortunately he has a girlfriend, but a friend of his says he likes me, and that he and his gf are really unhappy. ...
A. 13 April 2006: OK, just think for a second. Ask yourself the following -
1) did he seem to enjoy the play as much as you did?
2) what does he say in these e-mails?
3) are the friends that are telling you everything trustworthy friends?
4) do you actuall... (read in full...)
I found porn pictures of my husband himself, is he cheating!?
Q. This question is for all the males. and I want a very honest answer if I can get one. I am 34 years old and my husband is 40. We've been married for 15 years this June. When I first met him, we were VERY sexually active. I was only 17. Of cour...
A. 13 April 2006: Dear Reader,
I think you should sit your Hubbie down and talk to him, tell him no lies or you are walking straight out of that door. Tell him everything you just told me and show no weaknesses. Don't be frim enough to start and argument but don'... (read in full...)
We had an affair, now I'm worried about what he does behind MY back!
Q. I just recently had an affair with somebody I work with, we were both in relationships I was engaged and he was married. I'm completly head over heels in love with him but because of how we started constantly find myself not trusting him. I really ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi
Listen Hunnie -
1)If you think he's playing around, have it staright out with him. You know he's capable of it
2) are there any clues pointing to him having an affair?
3) what happened to you being engaged???
Phoebe xxx... (read in full...)
In love with a woman but she is going to marry another bloke!!
Q. I am i love with a woman but she is going to marry her bloke, why can't i except this and why do i feel like someone has died? ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi Ondo
You probably can't except this because this girl/woman was and still is very special to you. But if she has chosen someone else over you there's not a lot you can do. Be there for her, be supportive and show her you care.
You feel like so... (read in full...)
Her boyfriend broke up with because of me, but that's not what I wanted!
Q. Hey there, I'm 17 and six months ago I got my second saturday job at a department store after leaving my first one. When I arrived I didn't know many people. After about a week there was a girl who came up to me and talked to me which I thought ...
A. 13 April 2006: If she is a true friend, she won't go off you. Tell her to give him another chance. Let them get back together. Stay good friends but try to see a bit less of each other. Maybe you could talk to this guy and explain everything. Keep the peace. Good ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to exactly cope with the break-up, I really need help!
Q. I feel as though my life is falling apart. I broke up with my bf, who i was completely and uterrly smitten with and loved very much but then he dumped me for a blond American beautitian, and lied about it. then he started playing with me, being all ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hey
listen up and listen good!
Before you can move on, you need to let all those pent-up feelings out. It’s totally normal to feel sad, upset, disappointed, lonely and even downright furious!
Talk to someone you trust and bawl your eyes out. P... (read in full...)
I'm devastated about our break-up, but still want to be friends...
Q. I'm on my early 20's and I was living with my girlfriend of 2 years and suddenly she told me she wasn't in love with me anymore... I was crushed and didn't know what to do....She was feeling like were are best friends but that's about it. This was ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi David
Listen up and listen good! My ex broke up with me and i felt exactly the same way. Maybe you should phone her and tell her what you just told me, tell her you want to be friends with her. Try not to be jealous if you are friends and she ... (read in full...)
Three months on and I can't get over my ex! Is this normal?
Q. I was seeing my ex for 6 months, then one day I seen him at a bar with another girl. I could see him clear as day. I didn't want to interrupt anything so I called him and I seen him reject my call. I called once again and I seen him reject again, so ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi Kitty!
Only three months? It took me ages to get over my ex but the question you need to ask yourself is "is he worth it?" Does he deserve another chance. Well done to you for only seeing the good in people but sometimes seeing the bad can help... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was grabbing my boobs, is this wrong?
Q. I am 15 and I am going out with my first bf. My Mom has told me about boys but the other night when we were kissing he put his hand on one of my boobs but I moved it away. A little bit later he did it again and this time he squeezed and I told him ...
A. 13 April 2006: Dear Reader,
Be careful. Him grabbing you may send a thrill through you but if it progresses the only thrill you'll probably get is the result of the pregnacy test, and it may not be a good thrill. If you feel pressured in any way, DITCH HIM... (read in full...)
Shall I contact my celebrity crush?
Q. Hi Again! I have something thats troubling me. Just recently I have become depressed. I have been watching "24" since it began and my feelings for Kiefer Sutherland have suddennly grew. It started off as admiration for him as he is a wo...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi
of course you write that letter, if he choses to ignore it or not reply, that's his loss, not yours. go for it!!!... (read in full...)
I stayed after school and ended up having sex with my ICT teacher!
Q. I really fancy my ICT teacher. Then last night I stayed at school late to finish my dida (ICT ) coursework, and during that time, me and my teacher were talking and he leaned over and kissed me. We ended up having sex and now I don't know what to ...
A. 13 April 2006: Woah! It's kinda agianst the law ya know.
First of all, are you pregnant?
Second of all, did he make a move on you or did you start it with him.
Third of all, a ten year age gap is ok (there are 9 years between my parents) but likeing your tea... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and pregnant! HELP!
Q. I am only 12 and i am pregnant.Me and my boyfreind wo is 13 nearly 14 used protection but it split.Only me and him no but i need to no what to do.PLEASE HELP!(i have gone a few weeks)...
A. 13 April 2006: Right ok, deep breaths, calm down!!!!
first of all, you have to tell an adult you trust.
Second of all, you really shouldn't have been sleeping with anyone as you're not 16 yet.
Third, your parents may explode but they have the right to. To the... (read in full...)
Together a week and 17 and pregnant already, what to do!?
Q. My girlfreind today had a pregnancy test. She is positive. What am i to do? We have established that we have to make a decision as a couple and not as individuals because i was asking her what she wants? Shes 17 and we've only been going out f...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi
first of all, if you've only been together seven days, there is no pregnacy test that will show you this! The aby is probably her ex's. It would have been best not to jump into a relationship staright away and start sleeping with her staright... (read in full...)
She says that she likes one more than the other, but I can't tell if I'm that one!
Q. Hi. I recently posted, but i also have a different issue, so i decided to ask another question. Right.Im 14. Theres a girl at school who i really.. really like, she really likes me too. We told each other but her friend said i dont think she...
A. 13 April 2006: Hey, good on you for being so supportive!
If I was that Girl I'd choose you. Putting her feelings before your own. You've shown her by saying "go with the person you're happiest with" that you are willing to suffer to make her happy, which ri... (read in full...)
We have two kids, we're teenagers and now he says he doesn't love me anymore!
Q. 2n a half yrs agao i met this boy on the net we were 16 then and 6 months later we decided to meet things were going really well we both fell in love with each other n i fell pregenant every thing was fine till 7 months ago i found out i was ...
A. 13 April 2006: Aw babes. First of all, having two kids early on in life isn't a brilliant start but I'm proud of you for acting so maturely about this. He's probably scared that it's all happening too fast. His Mum probably doesn't want her son being caught up in ... (read in full...)
She said I should write a poem....what's this for?
Q. Do girls around the age of 13-18 find boys who write poems attractive? Because ive been telling a girl how perfect she is, and she said to me about 3 times i should write a poem. Eh?...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi
us girls never complain about being told how perfect we are! Go for it! How about putting these in -
Your skin is a soft as satin and silk
your eyes sparkle like stars ****
Your laugh is like a summers day
you're kind and lovely, y... (read in full...)
Could you get pregnant without sex? And am I?
Q. Right, im 13 and have a very serious with a boy of the same age. We have been going out for nearly a year and have become practically inseperable. But, im curious, we have never had proper sexual intercourse as we know the risks and that the age of ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi
the only thing I can say is the same as all of the others take a pregnacy test! Good Luck babe! And if you are pregnant, I'll have you know the youngest Mum in the world was eight so you wont be entered into the record books! And of course y... (read in full...)
I want to tell him I love him, without actually saying it...
Q. Hi, I'm 15 How would I tell a boy that I love him without saying it to him or anyone else? thanks ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi
you could tell him over msn, or buy a simple card saying "i love you" inside but make sure you're together when he opens it. If you're too shy to do it verbally, do the above, whatever method you use, go for it girl! ... (read in full...)
I still love my ex, but we both have someone. What should I do?
Q. Well i dont no were to start. im in love with my ex bf kieran, but im now with matty, but matty is a strange person. me and matty got 2geva fine and for the first 3 weeks everything was brilliant no arguments nothing. but then one night time me and ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi
First of all, I'm not too sure about matty. If his opion of you changes that quickly just because of some rumours then I don't think it'll last.
Second, Keiran may still love you but you know what boys are like about these things. He's pro... (read in full...)
My lad flirts with me but he's got a girlfriend, does he like me too?
Q. theres a guy my age (16) he has a girl friend and has been going out with her for just over a week. we are kind of best buddies, and we spend an hour a day allown with each other in lessons. during that time we get close, he tells me that im beaut...
A. 13 April 2006: ah! A tricky one!
Think about it from everyone's point of veiw. But at the end of the day, he's taken. Fidn yourself another guy but stay best buddies with this one... (read in full...)
If we go to the pictures, should I try to hold hands?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm giong to ring this girl I haven't seen in a while and ask her to go pictures with me. If she says yes and we do go pictures should I maybe try to hold her hand while watching the film or something? When I last saw her we linked a...
A. 13 April 2006: Hey,
when you meet her, compliment her, remind her of old times. You could try holding hands, chances are she'll probablt be ready for a real relationship. Go for it! ... (read in full...)
My friend's jealous of our love and is trying to split us up!
Q. Me and my boyfriend, I am 13, he is 14, are planning on been together forever and we are in love. We are going to get married in a hot air ballooon over the Niagara Falls for my 18th birthday and we are going to die together in Peru. lol But we...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi
you lucky thing, first of all, so glad you are happy so early on in life.
Your friend is jealous of the relationship you have because she isn't in one herself. Maybe she feels this guy is stealing her best buddie from her. sit your friend ... (read in full...)
Why am I always too shy to take the next step!?
Q. What's wrong with me? I'm 18, at uni, i'm smart and pretty and popular BUT I've never had a boyfirend! When I was at school my parents were really strict and didn't want me taking up any guys on their offers but now i'm older i feel ready to date! ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi
don't rush into a relationship because you can. There is nothing wrong with you. It's probably just the way you were brought up by your parentss and maybe you feel disloyal to them now? Going against what they have tought you?
Valuable tip - So... (read in full...)
I miss her sooo much, it may be love!
Q. Please help me cupid. Im 16 years old and i think i might be in love with a 15 year old. This is because like over a month ago i used to see this girl and talk to her alot and we would link arms, hold hands, hug and put our arms around each other. ...
A. 13 April 2006: hi
yet another tricky problem! Has she contacted you? Do you live near each other? Does she have msn? Maybe you could phone/text or just speak to her. Tell her you should meet up and see if she feels the smae way about you too. Let things star... (read in full...)
We're both 14, but he thinks I'm too young to go out with him...
Q. I liked this guy for ages and just found out he likes me too - but he won't date me because he says I'm too young! He's nearly 15 and I'm 14. I've tried to persuade him but I don't want to go too far unless I annoy him. What should I do? How can ...
A. 13 April 2006: Hi
a tricky problem! Give him time. Some people can't stand the thought of age gaps, even if they are only a year. Don't bugg him about it, let him know he's special but don't push him. Maybe he likes you a lot but has his eye on someone else and ... (read in full...)
Is the distance going to cause a break up?
Q. Im 15 and i met this girl in a internet chat room and she lives in chester but im scared we r gonna break up because of the distance what can i do...
A. 13 April 2006: How far apart are you? Sometimes absense makes the heart grow fonder. Write letters to her, talk to her over the internet. Don't reject her. Let her know she's still speical and if it's truly meant to be, it'll last. But do bear in mind you are only ... (read in full...)
Was I right to break it off with my married Australian guy?
Q. Hi, I'm a 26 year old female, had a long distance relationship with my man for five long years. We broke up recently. He was married with no kids at the time I became involved with him. He is still with his wife, and I left him because I felt he ...
A. 13 April 2006: It depends if he was happy with his wife and if they had a future together. well done for thinking of these issues first, putting others before yourself, you're a common saint. There is someone out there for everyone, he probably isn't your someone ... (read in full...)
How do you have better conversations with girls?
Q. hey i know some girls find me attractive but i find conversation really hard with most girls once u have gone through where u work? what u been doing? how are you? i cant seem to think of anything interresting to say and i dont think im ever going ...
A. 13 April 2006: Relax, how about they're interests? Maybe you could flirt a little? Pay them small compliments? Do you like these / this girl(s)? There are a lot of un-answered questions! These / this girl(s) are probably just as shy as you are! be gentle and be ... (read in full...)
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