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writes: hi, well I'm confused he's 16 I'm 30 we like each other and get along too. We met on the internet but he's saying he wants to wait 1 to 2 years for we meet. How can i cope with the distance and without seeing each other we are falling in love too. We tell each other everything i dont know what to do cause it hurts both of us and age doesnt matter if u love each other does it ? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): hey well no age dosent matter, i know how you feel see i have the same problem but he is 19 and i am only 14 and my perents dissagree but idk but i get over it when i think about it we arnt in love that much well we used to be but after 2 years it didnt work anymor, not for us anyways. but yeah i now have this boyfriend that is 15 my parents do agree but sometimes i still wonder is he really the one i love?? i want to love him like he loves me too but i dont uanderstand anymore...
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Dear Reader,
Question how far you think it will go. I mean, he's 16! He's not even leagally counted as an adult yet. I know you love him but slow down. A fourteen year age Gap could cause problems. I'd say let him down gently and find someone your own age, or nearer to!
Find Your Happiness
Phoebe xxx
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reader, Kyoko +, writes (31 March 2006):
Age difference can effect a relationship. Think about how his mother would feel. Her 16 yr old son met a 30yr old over the internet and she wants to meet him. The internet is a dangerous place. He is 16 and he is growing up. I know it might be hard for you but you must leave him alone. For his sake and yours, you could get in a lot of trouble and he might regret it so much.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (31 March 2006):
 i'm 17 and i would never even consider going out with anyone over 23-25...30.. wow what attracts you to him. your 16 so you have to be careful there a many pedfiles out there. i'm glad this man said you should wait becuase its unsafe for you to be meeting an older man. you may have feelings for this guy but you also have to remember to be careful. you should try meeting guys your own age first before you move on to older guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2006): Are you serious!!! This is a sixteen year old child you are trying to get involved with here. Do you not get out much or something that you are on the net stalking children!! Seriously get help, I live in Northern Ireland where the age of consent is 17 therefore you would be breaking the law if you acted on feelings for him here, this child has more sense than you even he realises you need to leave it a while
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 This kind of age difference CAN matter big time depending on where you live. Big time meaning jail time. Pedophiles have become the bain of our existance since the onset of the internet. Just leave children alone dearie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2006): This boy is young.He is possibly still at school and he has his whole life ahead of him.No wonder he doesn't want to meet up with you.He is proberly living at home with his family and he his scared.He proberly just see's this as a bit of fun over the net and thats all.Leave it now.He won't meet up with you and he proberly never will.Grow up and act your age.Have you worked outn the age gap?
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (29 March 2006):
 I would question your state of mind to be feeling this anxious over someone who is very young. I wonder why it is you want to be with someone with suchan age difference.
To tell you the truth I think he is wise not to meet you. For all he knows you could be anyone, he has met you on the internet. Its is advised, especially for people his age, not to meet anyone who they meet on the internet, and I think you need to tread very carefully in order to avoid getting into trouble.
If you can't wait until he is comfortable to meet you then you will just have to move on. I'm not trying to be mean to you but I really do think that you would benefit from some kind of counselling or help, because I suspect underlying issues here, that are causing you to reach out to someone so young for help. The fact that you would choose a lover who is 16 years old, tells me you are either looking to act the mum, or you want to be someone you can control, or that you have insecurities, there's something (I can't put my finger on it) that is not right about you desiring this and I think you should get this sorted, before you even consider persuing any type of relationship,
You really do need to consider this advice because like I said, you could end up getting into big trouble if you make the wrong move. Consider how outsiders would look at the situation if it was a 30 year old amn trying to get a 16 year old lass from the internet to meet him. It wouldn't go down well would it, please go and get some counselling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2006): Grow up. He's acts more grown up than you. Please act your age, he is only 16 years old and not mature enough to be called an adult yet. Leave him alone.
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