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... Send *untie claire a private message | | | *untie claire's profile:hi there readers my name is claire (aka auntie claire) i'm new at this so i don't know how to convince you i'm all ears i've always been told i'm a good listener and my advice is good i never see things from one point of view i see two sides to every story i haven't had much luck in my life so must things i answer is from experiance and i've wised up from my own mistakes and belive me there have been a few i thought i would give this a try because i do really enjoy helping people i would even offer a one to one service via my own e-mail address if needed. i am in a very loving relationship now with 4 beautiful children i might add i had my first at only 17 (pregnant at 16) so i think that alone makes me understanding of a lot of readers. i hope i can help at least some of you even if it just something small and bring comfort to your lives i wish all who read this peace health and lots of love thank you for taking the time to read this xx |
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So many little clues have me thinking my husband is having an affair!
Q. I have suspected for a while that my husband is having an affair with my work colleague. The way that they look at each other etc. We all attended a wedding recently and my husband kept having a go saying how dreadful she looks on the dance fl...
A. 7 August 2006: dear reader, you need to confront him with this and you need to do it now and find out the truth. if you can get any joy from him then talk to your "friend" if she or he have any kind of feelings for you they should tell you the truth.
either way ... (read in full...)
I know what I should do... But cant find the strength to!!!
Q. Hi all... i'm a 35 yr old woman involved with a guy who says he loves me yet goes out with his female 'friend' (who hates my guts)He drinks more than i think anyone should (or could!) ends up yelling at me and the day after can't even remember any ...
A. 7 August 2006: dear reader, you've got it on the button, you need to get out. this man doesn't love you, you have to find the strenth from somewhere and go and find someone who will treat you a whole lot better and love you for you not for the idea of having "er ... (read in full...)
My Bf may have a weight problem and I am worried!
Q. Hi there, please help me, I dont know what to do. My boyfriend isnt fat at all, I would never see him as fat, but he is a bit too big for his age. He is nearly 17, and is an X-Large. Not long back, he had to throw some clothes away because they did...
A. 23 June 2006: thank you for the update i'm so pleased to hear your both getting on and helping eachother look forward to how your getting on before your holiday.
i wish you both the very best of luck and if we don't hear from you before you go have a wond... (read in full...)
Everlasting love... ?
Q. I have seen a lot of my friends and family marry only to all split up or separate in less than 5 years. What is wrong with us? Why are we not trying to work hard at a relationship especially when there are children involved.In my parents day they ...
A. 22 June 2006: dear reader, the way i see it is we all get preasured in some way to get down the iale, we don't marry out of love for each other we marry for the "big day" the dress the "attention" most of my friends have got married and split within a year when ... (read in full...)
I lied about going to work, was too scared to tell her, now she knows!!!
Q. Hi everyone iv got a big issue, i lied to my girlfriend about going to work in the mornings when i actually lost my job, i was instead at home looking for another job, when she asked hows ur day i had to lie to her, then i just couldnt do it she ...
A. 22 June 2006: dear "haribo578" unfortunatly you have now lost her trust in you and its going to take you a good while to get it back. you have got to prove to her you won't lie again and go out find a job, and do the very best you can, or your going to loose ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my baby's father, who left us both?
Q. I was with my bfriend for 2 years and we had a baby, when my baby was 4 months old he got up and left. We have been seperated for 6 months now but obviously i still have to see him and it still hurts so much, he has a girlfriend who he lives with ...
A. 22 June 2006: dear reader, i have been in this situation before and it is hard i know, also it's not easy to just stop loving someone especialy when you have their child but you must move on from this, i had 2 children when i found the partner i'm with now and ... (read in full...)
Dating and thinking about sex in the future
Q. so each day i fall a little more in love with my boyfriend when i talk to him or see him. we've briefly talked about sex and whether or not hes ready or im ready and i asked him how he knows and questions like that. we are both virgins @ 19, which ...
A. 19 June 2006: dear reader. before anything els ei would like to congratulate both of you for your patience.
the first time you have sex is not always a smooth as you'd like it can sometimes hurt and you could bleed,
obviously condoms are a must!!!
btu the b... (read in full...)
how to get over an ex?
Q. whats the best way to get over your x girl friend...
A. 19 June 2006: dear "omo" find something to keep your mind occupied. don't give yourself time to think about the past, take it as experiance and do the best you can to move forward, it does no-one any favours to keep a hold of the past.
i know its going to be hard... (read in full...)
Sex and dating terms confuse me
Q. so im just curious as to what all of your opinions are on what the bases are? like when a guy "gets to second base" or "third"....stuff like that. i have discussed this with a few friends, both male and female, and it seems the males have a very ...
A. 19 June 2006: dear reader as far as i'm awear first base is just kissing, second base is using fingers and oral sex and third base is penitrational sex.
i think thats right but if not do let me know lol
all the best xxx
p.s i hope your not too young to be ... (read in full...)
Everyone loves good neighbours!
Q. Hello, I just wanted some advice on my personal situation at the moment. I am happily married to a lovely guy but I (we) are having problems with the neighbours where we live. We own our home in a block of flats, and mostly I like it here apart from ...
A. 19 June 2006: dear Taylor2006 the only thing i can say is be strong and try and block it out, you know your good people so take no noticed of petty people with nothing better to do then start rumours, you have your friends and they know you so although it may be ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know that I'm alive, and I want to get his attention!
Q. I really like this guy, but problem is he doesn't know I am alive. I see him driving around all the time and he looks at me but I don't know how to get his attention. What should I do?...
A. 19 June 2006: dear "b-Rit" go for it girl make him notice you wave , wink,stop him ask for his number leave it any longer and if he likes you he might get the impression you don't like him. keep me posted all the best xxx... (read in full...)
Worried about cheating on my army man
Q. my bf of almost 3years has recently joined the army, the other day i was out with my mates and i was drowning my sorrows and got really really drunk, the next day my friends told me that i kissed someone, i dont remember it but they said they pulled ...
A. 19 June 2006: dear reader you have to be strong if you really do love your b/f then you'll wait for him. yes its hard and you want to feel loved and be cuddle and do what normal couples do but think of how he would feel if while he is off trying to protect his ... (read in full...)
Breaking up with my boyfriend
Q. Last night I broke up with my b.f. of 1 yr. I’m very confused about the way I’m feeling right now… I know why I chose not to be with him. In a lot of ways I realized that we were not compatible, we didn’t want the same things for our future, I ha...
A. 19 June 2006: dear reader idon't think you was wrong there no, i think you saved both you and him a lot of heartache. you may be feeling like this now but as you said it was only last night your bound to be feeling a little raw its hard to break up at any stag... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like oral sex!
Q. Why does my boyfriend not want to go down on me? He says he doesn't like to do it but I'm worried that it is me....
A. 19 June 2006: dear reader. there's nothing to be worried about here a lot of men don't like to do oral sex, it just does apeal to them and has nothing to do with you. there's far plenty of more exiting things you could try together. don't worry about it all t... (read in full...)
Not sure if I love my cheating husband anymore
Q. hi i hope someone can understand me i have been married for 14 yrs we have children but the last 7 yrs have been hard he cheated on me but i forgave him he finds it easier to talk to other women than me so thats caused problems in the past.he tells ...
A. 19 June 2006: dear first of all you should never just carry on if your not happy with something. its not uncommon for marrages to feel like routine, boy i feel like that and i'm not married yet. the main thing is just as you pointed out you need to find out if y... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrong in trying to get a girl?
Q. I don't think I'll ever get another girlfriend again. And if I do it probably won't last a month. My last and only girlfriend (we broke up over 6 months ago so I've gotten over her) was really attractive for a 16 year old (I'm 18) yet I always felt ...
A. 16 June 2006: lol very funny. good spelling for my age though don't you think?? lol
be good xx... (read in full...)
We're both still in school and I don't know how to tell my boyfriend I'm pregnant!
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex one time and now I'm pregnant, but I don't know how to tell him because we are both in school. Please help!...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader. honestly is the best policy my friend, but you are young so i hope you have told your parents and thought this through, do this first please for your sake, you need to find out how your going to deal with this on your own without the ... (read in full...)
Do I say something about how I feel to the girl who jokes that we're lesbian lovers?
Q. Just please help me. Yes I have typed this many many times but the answers I have got aren't helping! This girl I like, we are both girls, she recently made a couple of jokes about me being a lesbian and she is my girlfriend. I used to really ...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader. these mixed feelings you are having and the used to "like" her do you mean you have been attracted to her??.
whatever way you liked/like her you need to be honest, she will e feeling these mixed feelings however hard you try to hide... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be an 18-year-old man, and never have had a proper snog?
Q. Is it possible for an 18 year old boy (me) never to have been properly kissed (a proper snog). I've kissed girls on the lips before but only for an instant. So am I just a sad little man then?...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader. not at all your not sad just haven't found the right girl yet. if your shy or havea lack of confidence then girls will pick up on it so try and be yourself.
just remember your not the only one there's plenty of people out there far olde... (read in full...)
Yes, he has a girlfriend already, but he flirts with me outrageously!
Q. I know this question's been asked hundreds, if not thousands of times before, but I really like my friend that I know has a girlfriend. I wouldn't normally go there for obvious reasons, but he flirts outrageously with me, and I don't know his other ...
A. 16 June 2006: dear "shaunieb" i think you need to talk to your friend find out what he wants if he wants you he needs to be honest with his current g/f i know its hard talking to people about this but you need to knwo the truth or it will send you bonkers.
a... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend my have stole from my parents...what should I do?
Q. So My boyfriend who I've known for 3yrs was finaly starting to get brownie points with my parents. They let him stay the night for the first time and the next morning my parents found money missing. My boyfriend swares he didn't take it that he ...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader. obviously you can't be standing for any steeling so you need to find out for sure, if you really do belive that it is him then you need to be very firm with him and tell him if you can't find where it has gone you'll have to go to the ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I'm pregnant....what can I do?
Q. So here is the thing... I think I might be pregnant. I havn't had a period in a month and a half and have some symtoms of being pregnant. I've taken 2 tests and they both showed up negative and my insurance won't cover a doctors visit. What should I ...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader you really do need to see a doctor. it could just be an infection but get it checked out.
you should talk to your family they might be able to help you with the cost's if your not pregnant what can they say ah
good luck keep me posted x... (read in full...)
Would having a baby change my boyfriend's motivation?
Q. So Here I am almost 20 years old. I want to have children but i am so not finacialy ready and neither is my boyfriend. My boyfriend had no motivation to get a job or go to school. Am I wrong for thinking if we both diside to have a baby it would ...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader it could well do but be carefull not to make him feel trapped or he will just leave you holding the baby so to speak.
if he does want children but says no just coz of money then tell him he could save i know they cost a bit but as long... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrong in trying to get a girl?
Q. I don't think I'll ever get another girlfriend again. And if I do it probably won't last a month. My last and only girlfriend (we broke up over 6 months ago so I've gotten over her) was really attractive for a 16 year old (I'm 18) yet I always felt ...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader. you are what you are, be proud of yourself and if you don't like why not make some changes. no-one is perfect but i bet you there is your perfect girlfriend out there somewhere you just need to know where to look you have to push ... (read in full...)
My Bf may have a weight problem and I am worried!
Q. Hi there, please help me, I dont know what to do. My boyfriend isnt fat at all, I would never see him as fat, but he is a bit too big for his age. He is nearly 17, and is an X-Large. Not long back, he had to throw some clothes away because they did...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader.
first of all you sound like a very lovin and caring person.
Also i AM in this situation my partner is quite big but his tall so he carries it well. he also has a good ole giggle about his weight but won't do a thing about it even tho... (read in full...)
I need some advice about sexual stuff
Q. for a guy to masturbate does the foreskin have to be pulled back because if i try to give my boyfriend a handjob i can't pull it back over the head of his penis...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader this is not unheard of but if it hurts him to go any further then he should see a doctor.
to my understanding this is quite common and in time he will be able to pull it back further.
but all men are different so if he has no problem ... (read in full...)
What does the term " So fit " mean ?
Q. when a boy thinks a girl is 'so fit' does that mean he fancies her?...
A. 16 June 2006: DEAR READER simple answer YES!!!! all the best xxx... (read in full...)
I met up with my ex-ex as he needed to chat, now my ex wont get back together! What did I do wrong ?
Q. Have I Ruined things for good? Im 18yrs old n my x b/f is 19yrs old. We had been together for almost a year when we broke up a week ago. Anyway he treats me as if I dont mean anything to him and he is quite harsh towards me. I feel lyk he doesnt w...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader no you didn't do anything wrong as you said you have split with your "ex" b/f so what has it got to do with him who you see. i think this might just be his amunition to completly break things off, his finding every little thing to tell ... (read in full...)
She has a strict father...what can we do about our relationship?
Q. How can i help myself and my girlfriend because she's really scared of her strict father we want to make our relationship legal to everyone specially to her father....
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader. you need to give a little bit information on this case because a lot depends on how old you both are and how long you have been together. give us a bit more and we can try and help from there ok hope to hear from you soon xxx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesnt know why he loves me, should I be concerned ?
Q. My b.f. of 1 yr and I are going through a rough patch... I asked him why he loves me and he said he didn't know. Should I be worried? ...
A. 16 June 2006: dear reader. i'm not sure on this one you could take it either why 1) it could mean he loves you dearly but is not "in love" with you 2) he does love you but you know men they can never give you a straight answer i don't know that you should be ... (read in full...)
My bf's ex if pregnant! She says hes always wanted a baby with her, dont know what to do!
Q. Back to being worried about my bf's pregnant ex, i am still worried i have cried the last 4 days since i've known. Ive bein talkin to his ex today and she said that he had said to her her thats hes always wanted a baby with her i dont know what to ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader sorry to say but if thats what he wants your going to have to let him go you can't stand in anyones way if they want something sorry your so upset about this but get the truth and move forward all the best xxx... (read in full...)
My bf was intimate with a girl I used to be close with, i dont talk her to now, but how do I move on from this ?
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for 9 months now, hes 4 years older than me and i already knew hed partially fingered his gf wen he was 16. but recently i found out that he also fingered a girl who i was very close with and we used to call each ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader. just talk to her its not all her fault she wasn't the only one there this has happened when you and your b/f weren't together so i don't understand why this is affecting you now let sleeping dogs lye and see what happens it's in ... (read in full...)
Although my bf has a small manhood, we do have sex, but its very difficult! any suggestions!
Q. My boyfriend is 3 inches when erect, so penetration only occurs when he's standing, with my legs on his shoulders, but difficult for him to orgasm then or for me to stimulate with my kg(?) muscles. He does orgasm with me masturbating him and we do ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear "debra" i have the same problem with my other half he is a big bloke and sometimes i don't even feel him. there is loads of stuff you could try and you both need to remember having fun doing it. just do what we did shuffle about the bed a ... (read in full...)
Why does my sister act like this towards me ? Is she using me ? What do I do ?
Q. Hi everyone, I am having a really hard time trying to figure out what is going on in my sisters head. We have quite a close relationship, but If im honest I think its more of a case that she uses me and I let her. She is 28 and I am 21. Our parents ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader. this is just sisterhood i'm affraid and the things that you all have gone through are going to play a big part in your lives. i knwo some of the things she says are hurtfull but she is your sister and will love you no matter what. m... (read in full...)
He said he don't like lesbians, but I'm finding out otherwise.
Q. i'm really confused, my husband goes on about how he hates lesbians but i later find porn on his conputer of just lesbians and also he has aranged with a female work friend who is bi to join in with us one night. why is he lying like this?? please...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader. why do men lie fall stop. no-one has the answer to that. i don't think there is a man alive that don't get off about lesbians so on this question i am stumped you need to talk to him and find out what he likes and don't like if he ... (read in full...)
I can't desert my children to keep my girlfriend happy
Q. Hello, I am in need of your advice in trying to address a problem I have. I live in England, I am a 45 year old man, divorced for 4 years, with 2 children: a boy of 7 and a girl of 13. I live on my own, and see my children every other weekend,...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader i think you have hit the nail right on the head with this one "bail out" can you honestly see a future for you and her if your lives are so seperate, you know that you kids are the most important things in you life and you hardly see ... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt...??
Q. hi. i'm a girl and i have something to worry about. my bf inserts his finger into uhm. but I feel pain. and weird. why do I feel pain?...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader i think you need to get yourself to a doctor it might just be an infection but get it look at right away.
let me know how you get on
good luck xxx
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I know he's not going to be with her forever, so what about me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am in a bit of a messy situation and need advice. I have posted this before, but wanted to get other people's opinions. I met a guy over a year ago that has a girlfriend and a young child. We started to get to know each other, and ...
A. 14 June 2006: Dear reader theres not much I can say to you about this. but putting it bluntly you do come across as being very selfish are you not thinking of what has to give up just for you he has no comitment with you at the moment yes he may like you but is ... (read in full...)
I met up with this guy online, but he hasn't contacted me since...what's wrong?
Q. hi i recently met a guy online .we met up and got on well and he told me he liked me and cant wait to see me again then few days later he just didnt reply to my txt and hasnt contacted me for a few days.does he not like me now or something. i am ...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader men sat things, men do things, but they don't always use their brains don' take everything he says gospol you met this guy online remember so please don't expect too much or you'll jsut get hurt. May-be there is a perfectly good reason f... (read in full...)
He won't wear a condom, what should I do?
Q. My new bf sais he wont wear condoms, I am on the pill though. Should i have sex with him?...
A. 14 June 2006: dear reader the only advice i can give you is no. i would like to ask you how long you have been with your b/f? and if you know him well even to have sex in the first place you need to think of who he has been with him the past anything that cou... (read in full...)
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