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My real name is obviously NOT Phoebe Halliwell and no, I'm not Alyssa Milano either, though it'd be awesome if I were. I chose this name (Phoebe Halliwell) because she's a strong character and has been through some tough times in love herself, coming out stronger and still believing.
I'm young, single and live in the UK. I don't have any form of qualification, just a big heart and the occassional spare moment!
I have a pretty open mind and can relate to a lot of people. I'm the right side of 25 and have had some serious ups and downs! I'm just here to give you guys a fresh pair of eyes on a situation that seems to have no solution, sometimes that's all you need :)
Peace,
Phoebe
*NOTE* I'm going back to school for a while to try and change my career path. This means I won't be answering as quickly as I usually do but will still accept private e-mails from those seeking my advice. |
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Struggling with my wife’s past.....
Q. Hi I have been married for 3 years, and been in the relationship for 5 years. Before we got married, my wife told me about her past, the number of guys she has slept with which is 4.When she told me I felt uncomfortable proceeding with ...
A. 1 September 2010: So what if she's slept with four guys? A number like four says nothing about her as a person at all... if it were something like 20 I'd be unnerved but it just means she went with four before she found the right one. You have to kiss a lot of frogs ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my husband without hurting the kids? Help!
Q. basically, i have problems with my husband, they are: 1) he is emotionally abousive to our children and sometimes slaps them. (he whines at them, impersonates them when they whine, calls them stupid etc) 2)he is very defensive with me for example i...
A. 28 August 2010: Oh dear :(
You would be putting your kids first by leaving. You say they'll suffer growing up without a father, think how much they'll suffer if they stay in an abusive enviroment? Even mental abuse like the insults from their Dad can knock thei... (read in full...)
I really like someone who lives far away? What do I do?
Q. Okay, so there's this guy who I have a huge crush on:P (he's actually my cousin's cousin, but that doesn't matter;)) i've actually known him for forever, but a couple months ago i saw him after not seeing him for over a year... and sparks flew, ...
A. 28 August 2010: First of all, it might be wayyy to complicated to get involved with your cousins' cousin. Yes, ok, you're techincally not related (at least not by blood)and it is legal for you to get involved with him, but what if things went wrong and you broke ... (read in full...)
Involved with a married man who cheats with others but I won't leave him
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man who also sees other people. I knew this going into the relationship. I did not care, because I am obsessed. I will not leave under any circumstances, as I am that codependent. I love him, and that's ...
A. 28 August 2010: There is no answer that doesn't involve leaving. You feel bad, how do you think his wife feels?? You may love him, but he's only with you for sex. If he loves anyone, it'd probably be his wife, though he has a funny way of showing it. I think you're ... (read in full...)
I'm having a really hard time getting over my ex. I really need help
Q. hi... im 16 years old and im having a realy hard time guetting over my ex... we went out for 3 years and i honestly loved him but he left me because i wouldint have sex with him...he said'' its been three years and you wont do anything with me i ...
A. 28 August 2010: I know you don't want to hear it, but if he broke up with you because you wouldn't have sex with him, he's not worth your time! The "if you love/care about me you'll have sex with me" line is one of the oldest in the book. You can care about him ... (read in full...)
We had a fight and he told me he has feelings for someone else...I am so confused
Q. My boyfriend of almost two years and i got into a fight, during this fight he told me he had feelings for someone else, but that he wasnt going to leave me for her, or cheat on me with her, so then why bother telling me? i feel like he is hiding ...
A. 28 August 2010: He was probably "hiding" that he fancied another girl. You can be in a relationship and still have crushes on other people. He says he loves you, and he just likes this other girl. His feelings for you are stronger, so he's staying with you. The ... (read in full...)
What should I wear on our first date?
Q. i have a crush on a boy and now get to date him. I learned that he had feeling for me too. I need some style advice from ladies on what to wear on a first date with him. I want to look nice, cute, and make him think I am sexy. Should I wear ...
A. 26 August 2010: It depends where you're going. If it's something like dinner and a movie, I'd go for nice jeans (just a little tighter than you'd usually wear)and a formal top that's not too conservative. That'd be cute.
If you're going out for a drink or to a po... (read in full...)
Id rather us try and have it possibly fail then not try at all
Q. Hi there, I could really do with some advice... I met this guy at a club 6 or 7 weeks ago and we were "getting off" as they call it for about 45 minutes. We exchanged numbers and he started texting me every single day. We started to get more flir...
A. 26 August 2010: It's worth trying, you'll just end up "what if"-ing if you don't, right? Just text and e-mail often, organise weekends where he trains to you or you to him, as long as it doesn't affect his school work. If you both really want this to work, you'll ... (read in full...)
What age should I get my 1st boyfriend?
Q. Im 13, At what age should i get my firts boyfriend?...
A. 25 August 2010: Hey :)
It differs from person to person. When you're 13 - 15 boyfriends aren't likely to be too serious anyway. Just have fun with your friends and if a guy wants to be with you, cross that bridge when you come to it. Some girls have boyfriends at y... (read in full...)
I had a dream of my boyfriend getting married to another woman. Should I read into it?
Q. I don't usually read into dreams, I've had a lot of nice dreams, but also unpleasant ones, like any other person. Thing is, last night I dreamed that my boyfriend was getting married, IN MY HOUSE, with another woman (she was brunette, but then she...
A. 25 August 2010: Hey :)
I definitely wouldn't read anything into it. We have several dreams every night that, in the morning when we try to remember what we dreamt about, get squished into one big, confusing mess!
I wouldn't worry at all, maybe tell him about th... (read in full...)
46 year old man and never had a girlfriend
Q. I am 46 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I have always been too shy to approach a woman for a date. I did have issues with my build in the teenage years. Being tall and thin, I became very shy and awkward in social situations. The jobs ...
A. 24 August 2010: Hey :)
Being tall and thin is nothing to be ashamed of! My main example is David Tennant, who is tall and skinny and still desired by women! Why don't you start small, by making friends with women first? Then you'll learn how to talk at ease with... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out again and if so, when?
Q. Went on a date tonight and it went really well. We just got some dinner and talked for a bit. Nothing too serious. She was talkative and seemed interested. We actually laughed quite a bit. She is quite the flirter with others so i kind of take that ...
A. 22 August 2010: It's good that your date went so well!
Maybe wait until the afternoon of the next day or something. Call her and say you had a great time last night and you'd like to meet up again. See when's good for her and maybe pick something as well as dinn... (read in full...)
In love with a virgin but he cant be with me because I am not a virgin!
Q. So i am about to be 20 years old in month, during my freshman year i met this guy who was out of the ordinary. Hes 22 years old, and hes a virgin for religious reasons. But yet hes messed around with girls, including myself. We are in a ...
A. 20 August 2010: This sounds like something we can't cure I'm afraid. You're doing everything you can to accomodate him and his beliefs, which is very understanding of you. If he can't get past his own issues with you not being a virgin, that's something we can't ... (read in full...)
Was this the right thing to do?
Q. we both really like each other, been something between us for over 2 years. he's moving away for school though. i just ended a long distance relationship a few months ago and wouldn't do LD again. I told him to not put his life on hold for me and ...
A. 19 August 2010: This sounds like a very sensible thing to do. It wouldn't be fair for you to say you can do long distance with him, making promises you can't keep won't do either of you any good in the long run. You've done what's right for him, and although it ... (read in full...)
Missing him in LA!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 months. On Monday, I barely found out that he was leaving for school. It's only upstate but I was really upset because he didn't tell me and he knew for a long time that he has decided to go away to ...
A. 19 August 2010: It's perfectly understandable he didn't want to tell you.. he probably didn't want to tell you because he knew it would hurt you, and that's clearly something he didn't want to do.
All you can do is trust him. I know it's hard to do that when you'... (read in full...)
Confused and worried about relationship and also interested in friend!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 months. I have 2 problems. First problem is that even though I love him very much, I am afraid of what's going to happen with us. In my 3 past relationships, they have not lasted longer than a ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hey :)
In answer to your first problem, none of us can tell you how long your relationship is going to last. We're not mind readers I'm afraid. All you can do is make sure you're enjoying your time together. If you give him no reason to want to leav... (read in full...)
Will my girlfriend agree to have sex with me?
Q. i am thinking to ask my girlfriend whether should we have sex, do you think she would say sex cuz our relationship is one year old...
A. 19 August 2010: How long you've been together is no indicator of whether or not she will want to sleep with you. It's dependent on the person. We don't know her, you've not given us any information about her, so we don't know. We're good, but we're not that good! ... (read in full...)
Pregnant preteen
Q. Okay I'm 13 turning 14 in 6 mos anyway I have been dating since I'm 11. I only had sex 9 times. 7 times were with boys my age and the other times were with girls. Anyway I just found out I'm pregnant and further along then I thought how should I ...
A. 18 August 2010: You've "only" had sex 9 times since you were 11?
That's a lot of experimenting for a 13 year old.
First off, tell your parents. If you hide it from them, it's not going to do you any favours. They're probably not gonig to like the fact you're m... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin !
Q. Im 23 and still a virgin,I once used to be very proud of the fact because unlike the other girls my age Im not just willing to sleep with any guy,the only problem is now the older im getting im finding it hard to even get in a relationship with a ...
A. 18 August 2010: It's fine that you're still a virgin!
These guys that are surrounding your friends are only doing it because they want to have sex with them. They don't want a relationship! So even if you didn't feel left out, and they were buzzing around you too,... (read in full...)
Do I go for it or do I wait?
Q. hey im 13 and in a month im gunnu lose my virginty im not shur if me or my gf are ready we both realy love eachother if i had 2 lose it to anyone its her and this bleeding think is frekin me out and im kinda strong and dont know my own strength if ...
A. 18 August 2010: I wouldn't if I were in your position. Yes, as teenagers, you're both going to really want to. But there's a strong chance that's just hormones. I know you think you love each other but you're 13, it's not likely (though it's not impossible either) ... (read in full...)
I think he used me! why do boys do this?
Q. there is this boy who i really liked, ive liked him for 5months now, we snuck out, one night and we has sexual intercourse, and then the next day he ignored me and he keeps ignoring me, and i feel very used, i really love him, why do boys do that to ...
A. 18 August 2010: Oh dear, that's a horrible thing for this guy to do. Unfortunately most teenage guys will say pretty much anything if they think it's going to get them sex. It sounds like he did use you. He didn't respect you enough to be honest with you, and now ... (read in full...)
Why would she go back to her ex?
Q. The story of my life is a pretty common one but still i needed to tell someone that is objective and doesnt know me so he/she will not judge me as harsh as my friends did. I had a relationship with a girl that we go to the same university for 3...
A. 17 August 2010: she sounds like a girl who doesn't know what she wants.
How can she treat you so badly when you've been nothing but good to her?
Sounds to me like she doesn't deserve you. If she wants to be with her ex, fine. But he became her ex for a reason, ... (read in full...)
He beats me up... but I always forgive him.
Q. I HAVE A BOYFRIEND BUT HE IS ALWAYS ATTRACTED TO OTHER GIRLS.WE HAVE BEING TOGETHER FOR 8 YEARS AND HE BEATS ME UP.AND WHEN I LEAVE HIM N GO OUT TO STAY WITH MY COUSINS HE CALLS ME UP AND BEGS FOR FORGIVENESS.WHAT SHOULD I DO?I LOVE HIM SO MUCH SO I ...
A. 17 August 2010: Honey, this is very simple. A real man does not beat women, at all. Doesn't matter if it's your wife, girlfriend, sister, it's just not right.
He's violent and abusive. You may love him, but if he doesn't respect you enough to stop beating you up, ... (read in full...)
How can I be the person he wants me to be?
Q. i've been going out with my boyfriend for 2years and 6 months and i've always been the one who needs all the attention or basically always is the one that needs it. in the past me and my boyfriend have had problems with me being to needy and we ...
A. 17 August 2010: Hey :)
Well, firstly, he should want you for you, just the way you are. Yes, well have our annoying habits and it might help if you don't need to know where he is every minute of the day; but if he doesn't love all of you, faults and all, is he real... (read in full...)
I fell in love with my best friend's girlfriend.
Q. About two years ago, I went away to university with a three other friends who are all girls (for the sake of the story, lets call them Jane, Mary and Ann). Maybe two years before that, I thought i was falling for Jane even though i was in a ...
A. 17 August 2010: Hey :)
I think you handled a lot a drama rather well. "James" seems like a very insecure guy, I think he needs to learn to be happy in his own skin before he got into a serious relationship.
It sounds to me like "Jane" was torn between two guys... (read in full...)
Why would he want to get back with his old circle of friends?
Q. my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with his ex late 2007, they had been going out for 6 years (who he says they are both completely over each other. his ex moved to the u.s also). he was close with his ex's group of friends at the time and they'd all ...
A. 17 August 2010: Hey :)
It could be that he was good friends with some of his ex's friends and doesn't see why the fact that he's not dating her anymore should stop him seeing his friends, which is fair enough.
I get why you're worried, if they used to hook up ... (read in full...)
I feel a bit violated after my friend tried it on with me, but should I tell my boyfriend what happened?
Q. I have been for my bf for about 8 months he makes me very happy, but last night i went out with some friends most of them male i am quite friendly with one in particular there is alot of banter between us. I went back with him and his housemat...
A. 17 August 2010: Hey :)
Oh dear, what a horrible experience! Your friend was way out of line, even if the both of you had been drinking. You said no, you meant no, and he should've listened to you.
This incident is obviously affecting you (how could it not?) so... (read in full...)
How long does a girl have to wait for a proposal?
Q. My b/f and i have been together for over 2 years now, how long doesa girl have to wait for a proposal? i'm worried if I ask it will hurt his ego.... i dont want to give any ultamatiums but have dropped hints left right and center and the best ...
A. 16 August 2010: hey :)
Just because he hasn't proposed yet it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It probably means he's either waiting for the right time or he's not ready to propose yet. I wouldn't push him, let him do things in his own time. If you stop expe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he'll leave me if I get pregnant
Q. My younger sister is pregnant and lately I've been getting broody. I'm 21 and not ready for kids yet but in the next 10 years I would like to have a kid. I asked my boyfriend of 3 years, rhetorically speaking, what would we do if I got pregnant. ...
A. 16 August 2010: Oh dear :(
With four brothers and sisters who love you, you're never alone. A great thing about family is they're there when you need them.
Your boyfriend doesn't sound very nice! It could be that he's scared that if you got pregnant you'd ha... (read in full...)
I want kids and had a dream where I can't have them!
Q. hello guys i had a strange dream last night which it was abut me, my older sister, my boyfriend, and other people, been chased by a gang of men and then i was separated from my my sister, and my boyfriend so the gang caught me and shot me on my ...
A. 16 August 2010: Hey :)
Dreams are a weird thing. Scientists have discovered we have seven or eight dreams in one night, but when we wake up and try to remember what we dreamt about, we kind of squish all seven/eight into one weird dream that seems to make no sens... (read in full...)
When he says he loves me it doesn't feel the same, why am I feeling this way?
Q. I have a weird problem, i dont know whats wrong please help. i have a boyfriend his awesome his the best he makes me smile so much and i just love him so much, but since yesterday whenever he says he loves me it doesnt quite feel the same i do...
A. 16 August 2010: Hey :)
Woah now, that's a bit of a complicated situation you've got there! Maybe you're feeling uneasy because he just had a kid with another girl. It could be that you're afraid of losing him, because you feel he might want to be with the moth... (read in full...)
The proposal!!!
Q. Hello people, last week i went to my boyfriend's country to meet his parents which was in portugal, and they were a lovely family especially his mum. we've been together for 1 year and 5 months now and we normally talk about marriage and kid...
A. 16 August 2010: Hey :)
Well, none of us can tell you how or when he may ask you. We're good, but we're not THAT good!
It's lovely that you have a good relationship; but just because his Mum hinted you might be married next year, it might not mean he's spoken t... (read in full...)
I get sick from the birth control pills!
Q. Hi :) i'm currently taking the pill (Microgynon 30) and it makes me feel so nauseus for a few hours each day and I hate it! I started it about 2 months ago and took it for a month, it made me ill but I continued taking it. Then I had the week's ...
A. 16 August 2010: Hey :)
First of all, well done for passing your driving test!
Every body is different, so we don't know how the pill or other forms of birth control are going to affect us. I would talk to your GP, explain your concerns and discuss the alternat... (read in full...)
Does a girl's voice tone change when she talks to a guy she has a crush on?
Q. There's this girl I like who I think likes me back. Among the things she does that makes me suspect this is that her voice tone changes when she talks to me in comparison to other people. She seems to speak with a much softer tone and her words seem ...
A. 13 August 2010: Hey :)
Yes, the way we talk changes. You might also want to pay attention to her body language. Maybe she stands closer to you than she does other guys? Maybe she likes to hug you a lot or touches you on the arm/shoulder when you're talking? I thin... (read in full...)
Ideas for party for whne my army fiance comes home
Q. I am currently an army fiance my fiance gets out of training in 8months I'm planning a party or something of some sort Can someone give me some kind of idea. ...
A. 10 August 2010: that's a great idea! Try to think of a really fun theme, maybe something from his favourite movie? Or a James Bond theme? I had a Pirates and Princesses party that was a lot of fun, one of my friends even came as a pirate ship!
Try to think of some... (read in full...)
My friends say I should tell a guy how I feel about him, but I don't know
Q. I have liked this guy for about 6 months now im only in high school but i think im in love because hes all i think about i really love him everyone says i would have a chance with him but i dnt think so. I don't know what to do because im a really ...
A. 10 August 2010: Hey :)
I was in EXACTLY your position. Everybody loved him and I felt like a nobody. We were friends and I didn't want to tell him because I thought it would change our friendship. I liked him for YEARS without saying anything.
I was a quiet, s... (read in full...)
What is going on in her head?
Q. Theres this one girl... We have been talking for about 10 months now. Shes was in a relationship when we first started talking... I didnt care, although it came to bite me in the ass later. 4 months into that "friendship" we had.. we spent alot of ...
A. 8 August 2010: Hey :)
This does sound confusing! First off, why are you both kissing etc when she's in a relationship? If she's being dishonest to her boyfriend what makes you think she's being honest with you?
It could be she's trying to "quit" you too and that... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can make myself taller?
Q. Hello. I'm Emily. My height is 153cm or 5'1 and I weigh 40 kilograms. In a few months I'll be 18. I have always worried about my height. I have heard that we stop growing taller at 18. Is it so? If no, then what should I do to get taller? ...
A. 8 August 2010: Hey :)
I feel your pain! I'm about 5'2 and in my teenage years I always wanted to be taller!
There is no certain cut-off point I'm afraid, no un-written law that declares at 18 all bodies MUST stop growing. Every body is different. You may stop gro... (read in full...)
Because of abuse in the past I"m afraid of strong guys!
Q. Hey! :) , my dad has abused me for the past 5-6 years, and that has made me scared of guys cuz there strong, well my boyfriend was over here 2 days ago, and we were sitting on the floor facing eachother and he put both of his hands like slightly up ...
A. 8 August 2010: Hi :)
wow. It's a terrible thing that's happened to you. I hope that you have gotten some help to help you deal with your abusive past. You're young, and this has evidently affected you. If you haven't already, get help. It should, over time, help... (read in full...)
How can I do this without going behind my parents' backs?
Q. ok I'm a 14 year old girl and just like every other teen we all fall in love eventually right? well me and my boy friend started dating close to 6 months ago, but the thing is that I'm not allowed to have a bf till I'm 15. when we first started ...
A. 8 August 2010: Hey :)
Well, it's good that your Dad listened to you. I would've said exactly the same thing, if he loved you he'd wait and he does love you, so he is waiting.
If you still want to see him and do things like go to the movies why not do it as a gro... (read in full...)
Was it wrong that I had sex?
Q. I have a problem now that im starting 11th grade boys are very tempting about sex. my boyfriend and i of 3 years had sex and now i feel all weird at first we didnt say that much 2 each other and now we talk alot.. for me loseing my virginity at 16 ...
A. 7 August 2010: I agree with the others. If he forced you, tell someone. It's worrying you, tell someone.
If it didn't feel right, my guess is it wasn't. The fact that you've been together for a few years shouldn't be a deciding factor on what you do toge... (read in full...)
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