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writes:Ok, I'm in a relationship but I have a frienship with an older man 11 yrs my senior anyhow he's married. It all started out as a friendship that developed into a much more intimate one, but the thing is he says he wants to bring it to the next level and wants for us to have sex, now I really like him too but I think he just wants to use me. Should I give in or should I just blow him off??
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): I'm a married man and it would be best if you don't do this.If you can't think of why, then try this exercise.Ask him for a picture of his wife, look at it, memorize it, and then imagine her face when she finds out her husband has been cheating on her.Then, imagine yourself, happily married to same guy (more or less), and finding out that he was cheating on you.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 He is married, his sex life should be with his wife. You start having sex with him that's called an affair and you would be considered a home wrecker. Not to mention you would be cheating on your boyfriend. Keep your relationship and tell this married guy to buzz off.
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (6 November 2010):
 You say you are in a relationship! What about respect for the person you are with?
Of course he just wants to use you for sex...do you really think he will leave his wife for you? It doesn't happen very often, and when it does....they cheat on you as well!
Focus on your present relationship. Find ways to improve that. If you are not happy in it, then get out of it! But don't complicate things with a married man! yes! Blow him off!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Don't have sex with him. He's married and mostliky only wants you for sex. But all you really need to do is ask yourself one question..."how would it make me feel if my husband cheated on me with another women?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Blow him off! This is from a middle aged male, who has been married for 9 years. Temptations, crushes... it never ends... who is it going to be next, after you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): DON'T GIVE IN!!
I was in exactly the same situation as you are now 4 years ago.
He asked for sex and I agreed. I thought what's to it. Three years later I was an emotional wreck madly in love with a married man still not wanting him to leave his wife for me.(Guilt)
I was feeling guilty everytime I saw him and miserable everytime I left him.
It took me one year to gather the courage to end the affair with him. Another to get over him and only two months ago my new relationship was wrecked because I discovered appearently I'm not over him after all.
Now I wish I had just simply said no back then and you can still do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): Don't give in if you have any respect for yourself or his wife for that matter.
Don't be his bit on the side, you're much better than that i'm sure.
You will end up hurt and feel used and you'll regret it, tell him to get lost.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 November 2010):
You can be sure that all he wants to do is use you. Blow him off.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Blow him off!
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