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26-29,
*Diamondx
writes:I'm so confused =[I have the greatest boyfriend in the world! He loves me with all his heart and I love him too. He's very caring, super understand and always ALWAYS there for me. Only problem is he doesn't live here. He recently moved away, we've been together for 14 months.A month after he left though..His best friend and I started hanging out..just friends. honestly, never did anything out of place...but I developed feelings for this guy..And I'm so mad at myself! He stood me up many times..which I know my boyfriend would never do...He takes forever to reply to my texts..My boyfriend replies in a matter of seconds. And He goes through my mind all day..like seriously, he's all I think about!why don't i think about my boyfriend like this?! why don't i treat my boyfriend as good as he treats me(he treats me like a queen)?I mean..this is really bothering me..I can't imagine life without my boyfriend but yet all that I can think about is a boy who makes me cry :/It's crazy. And I want to know whats going onnn?I'd loveee to have my boyfriend running through my mind all day because I know he loves me and he would never do anything to hurt me :)
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reader, Odds  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 "He stood me up many times..which I know my boyfriend would never do...He takes forever to reply to my texts..My boyfriend replies in a matter of seconds."
That's why. It's more dramatic, it's unreliable, it makes you question your self worth - all proven tactics for getting a chick's interest, especially at your age. Your boyfriend, on the other hand, treats you fairly and with respect, which is a fairly reliable way of turning her off physically even if it attracts her emotionally.
Combined with your boyfriend's physical absence, this guy is (intentionally or not) using your natural instinctual attraction to assholes. Chicks dig drama, far more than reliability.
Ignore him, though. Trying to pursue him will only lead you to heartbreak and ruin your relationship with the boyfriend. You could feel the same way about your current boyfriend if he became a little more distant and dominant, but I'm not sure how you would ask him to do that.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 The age group you are in is a perfectly natural way to feel about boys. Hormones are raging and emotions are swirling in your head. If you truly love your boyfriend then you must be true to him. If you are weak and get swept up with another boy then you need to just let your boyfriend go and you will be able to explore other options. At the end of the day it is impossible to run two relationships side by side without someone getting hurt in the end. Typical scenario, when the cats away the mice will play. Good luck!
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