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Ghostly goings on...

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Question - (19 October 2010) 9 Answers - (Newest, 23 October 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, *er_zyniker writes:

I'm sorry, but this is going to be a long one, but this is something that I'm really confused about and most of you that read this probably will either have no idea what to say or just think I'm crazy. Well I sense ghosts, I was able to repel them, and on rare occations have premonistions. The thing is that I just got these abilites back a couple years ago.

When I was young there was this ghost in the basement and I could see him like any other person. Every morning I would go to the basement to play and he would sit on the stairs and just stare at me and I knew based on the way he looked at me that I should stay away from him. When I asked my mom about him she just told me the it was my imagination and to just ignore him. I of course still saw him, but I believed my mom. After all I was only 5 at the most. So I decided to approach him. When I first started to try he would run upstairs and disappear. He would also disappear if someone else was there or came near me.

After a while he stopped running away from me and just sat at the top of the stairs. So I began to walk up to him and was within a few feet of him on several occasions and each time he stared into my eyes without blinking. After a few times of this I stopped seeing him. Almost all my abilities shut down from that point on except a little bit of foresight. The things I foresaw were just stupid things like what episode of a certain show would be on or stuff like that. Then a couple of years ago I got into a coversation about ghosts with my older sister, who also senses them and has premonistions, and one of her friends who is also a little bit psychic.

By this time I dismissed what happened as a child as a dream and I didn't really remember it. Then suddenly I remembered it and I asked my older sister about that ghost. Her response to me was to stay away from him, however by this point we had moved to another house, but there are ghosts here too. I think there are 3 here. At that point my abilities began to return to me. The thing that bothers me is I don't know what that ghost did to me when I was young. Why did I stop seeing them? What did he do to make me stop seeing them?

I still can't see them most of the time and when I do it's not in a full fledged form like they were when I was young. Now when I see them it's like the image of what's behind them is just a little blurred. Then there is one in my house that really doesn't like it when I talk about this sort of thing. Right now I feel this chill that feels like it's coming from inside of me. Another thing too worries me is it feels like my abilities are corrupting me like I might start to use them for my own personal gain. I want more abilities and to have greater control over them. Sometimes I think that the fact that I have these abilities makes me more important than many other people or better in some way and that tends to mess with my chakras, which is the source of the abilities for people like me.

How can I gain more abilities without letting this corrupt me? I feel like I need these abilities because they are part of me now and I sort of want new ones because I think I might need them later because I know that my father will disown me when he finds out that I am gay and my older brother will too. However, if one of my little sister's premonistions is true my dad will die shortly before his 63rd birthday. He is 52 right now.

Part of the reason I feel like I need them is that I don't feel like I can trust anyone that I care about and I need to find out the truth. The ones I was looking for gaining are remote viewing and mind reading. I know that mind reading is possible since my little sister can do that sometimes. I thought that I was able to do that for a couple of months early this year, but I was probably mistaken. I just feel like I have this obligation to be the best that I can be at this to protect my family and future family from certain ghosts and I feel like I'm losing touch with that world and my abilities. Are there any suggestions for how to get back in touch with this world and my abilites because I sort of lost the ability to repel ghosts.

Anytime I get that back, the next time I spend the night somewhere away from home I have this encounter with a ghost where I'm asleep, I have a weird dream. Then I wake up I a feel this chill pulsating outward from inside my chest and then I lose all of my abilities for a while. What are these ghosts doing to me when that happens? I guess what I'm concerned with the most is how to become more powerful and how to gain more abilities and greater control over the ones that I already have without becoming corrupted by those abilities? When you become corrupt you tend to lose these abilities and they are just such a huge part of who I am.

Also, do any of you know how to read minds or remote viewing and if so can you give me some pointers. I want to use these for the good.

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A male reader, der_zyniker United States +, writes (23 October 2010):

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Well a good amount of the time I will be able to tell when someone is posing as a clairvoyant. I can sense when someone has abilities along the same lines as me. I can't always tell though. I find that it is easier to tell when if someone has these abilities if they are a male. I find it harder to tell when they're a girl. The thing that I run into a lot is that most the time I'm unable to use my abilities. I can't seem to get them to work most of the time. Then suddenly the just flare up and work for about a week or two and then they fluctuate between not working at all and only working at a low leave for a month or two.

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A male reader, der_zyniker United States +, writes (21 October 2010):

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Does anyone have any suggestions for books to read on this subject? I guess another reason that I feel like I need to know a lot about this is that these sort of abilities seem to run in the family. My older sister and younger sister have similar abilities. My dad did at one point, but he's under so much stress that I can't figure out if he lost the abilities or if the stress is supressing them. From the sound of a couple of stories I heard from my Grandpa it sounds like my Great Grandpa had some foresight. A cousin on my Dad's side of the family gets these weird feelings when something is about to happen. What I'm getting at is if I have biological children then there is the very real possiblity that they will have some of these abilities since it obviously runs in the family. I also feel so far behind since my sisters have had their abilities their entire lives and I lost my abilities when I was about 5, when they were just beginning to form, and regained them about 3 years ago. I'm basically feel like I have 11 years to catch up on.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (20 October 2010):

eyeswideopen agony auntYou have OCD too?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010):

Hi again

Truth! is all you want to know, nothing wrong with that, so does every person on the planet. No matter how you approach mediumship you will not prove anything really, you may help people or make them curious or more open minded to certain possibilities but you will always be met with skeptics along the way and quite rightly. The proof or truth is in your own knowing it can not be forced onto others. Your personality won't let you leave it alone you say, then find your answers in a local spiritualist center with an experienced medium with the same abilities, who can guide you and give you more understanding. I think summoning is a wrong word...a spirit may well come through but by their free will.

Your relationship i understand what you are saying but these two areas need to be completly seperate. Your relationships are natural stages of personal growth and learning , your psychic abilities are of a different nature and should not be used or mixed for EASY ANSWERS to lifes problems, you are here to learn not cheat! spirit will only show or tell you what they want not what you want. I wish you luck in the future .... one must learn truths about this life before one is ready to teach truths about the next.

Spunky Monkey:)

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A female reader, petina1 United Kingdom +, writes (20 October 2010):

petina1 agony auntI used to dabble with the Tarot cards, a Tarot reader once told me to go with my gut reactions on anything I feel, so i do now and I'm amazed at myself when I just say things out of the blue, to people I don't really know. It's like a telephone connection straight into their thoughts. I must admit though I'd love to be able to channel that because it has happened a few times on the spur of the moment. The last time I had this was at a cafe, i noticed a young lady was pregnant, I said 24th May, she said 'how did you know!, She was amazed because that was the date she'd been given. I said I don't know, but apparantly I've done this before. She said 'do you know if it's a boy or a girl, I said. I don't know that, my feeling would be a boy though, but I'm really only guessing. Hey guess what, she had a boy. I'ts fun for me especially the result,but that's just pure gut reaction working for me. Mind over matter. I believe in that. Good luck with your gift. x

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A male reader, der_zyniker United States +, writes (20 October 2010):

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This is to the most recent anonymous advisor. I see where you are coming from, I just have a couple problems with what you said, but they are just subtleties for the most part. I never play around with this sort of thing. I don't take anything more seriously than I take this topic. Also if I make predictions I don't tell people that I made a prediction or that I did something psychic. I just sit back and sort of watch it happen. Most the time I don't even know that I foresaw something until after it has happened. I never try to force it. As far as making my abilities stronger, I don't want them to be stronger because I want to be more impressive or anything like that. I just don't feel like I can really trust anyone in my family or really anyone that I love most of the time and I want them to be stronger to find out the truth about things. I might be happier if I'm oblivious, but I think knowing the truth is more important. Also with leaving this thing alone, my personality type just doesn't allow that. If I know that there is something there I want to know exactly what's going on. In sort, I'm an academic. If there is a question that I have and I don't know the answer I can't just let it go. It eats me alive until I have an answer. In short, I'm just looking for the truth and in the case of one friend that I love I need to know the truth about certain things and these abilities are the only way to do that without stalking him and I will not stalk him. I can just tell that he lies to me a lot. I can even tell if he is lying to me in a text based on his word choice. The thing is that ever since he found out that I love him he won't come anywhere near me. I told him in November. But also when I first learned that I could sense ghosts I was able to summon my grandpa to me by will who died when I was 3. I'm told that I'm a lot like he was for the exception of my OCD's and I just want to get to know him. Also whenever I'm doing something involving this area it just feels like I'm doing something that I was always meant to do. It just feels so right.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010):

Hi

You are right spiritual clairvoyance is not to make YOU more powerful or to corrupt you or others, some call it a gift others call it a curse. I believe Many children have the ability to see/ hear /sense ghosts/ spirits and most grow out of this. As an adult if you still have these abilities it is not wise to play at predictions/ mind reading/ remote viewing. You can scare people and yourself making predictions so tread very very carefully if you do this. Your life one day may later lead you into mediumship where you help people. You are at such a young age and i would advise you to leave the 'after life' experience and just enjoy been young living in this world. You could still read books on mediumship to understand what 'maybe' happening to you but please forget the psychic games WRONG MOVE!!!! I would leave it ALL well alone or at least untill you are alot older.

Spunky Monkey.

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (19 October 2010):

raiders agony auntI'm not familiar with any ghost can't say that I've seen or met any, but I do watch shows on TV maybe you can contact one of those shows and shared them your stories...or you might want to search the net to see if others share your ability to see ghost, they may be able to give you the answers that you are looking for.

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A female reader, iloveblue Canada +, writes (19 October 2010):

iloveblue agony auntI have only read the first 2 lines of your post but I do think there's a better and more appropriate website for you to share your experience about the supernatural. I am a member of that site too and sometimes I share my own experience there too.

For relationships advise, I come here at dearcupid. So just check this site then:

http://www.trueghosttales.com/paranormal/

Good luck.

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