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writes:My boyfriend is so selfish when it comes to us sexually. We've been together a year and a half now, and recently he's been asking me to spice it up a bit with how I do uno stuff with him.. But he has never once or gone down on me or properly satisfied me, I don't know what to do that will make him want to actually please ME and not just him! Reply to this Question
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reader, Lamb  +, writes (24 November 2008):
i don't know about you, but 69 doesn't work for me. he stops when he's done. i'm thinking of making a new rule: ME FIRST (cos he's always done in, like, a minute!!!)
he should enjoy giving you pleasure. real men like pussy!!
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reader, Rhandy  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 just tell him that you left unfulfilled. im sure he will understand. Will for me im considered im high sex drive and when my gF told me that she is not satisfied it will make me more aggresive and make a thoughts that im not good in bed , lol and thats for me is very BAD IMAGE.
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reader, oldfool +, writes (21 November 2008):
 He is still young. He imagines that because he is incredibly excited and satisfied, you must be too.
He will learn what it means to be a good lover as he gets older. But you have to help him along the road by suggesting things to him.
One problem is that men are very visual. For him, spicing things up probably means all kinds of hot raunchy visual stuff like dildos and vibrators. He needs to be told that good love-making starts with sensuality, not with "porn". Things like a "feather touch", not no-holds-barred shoving and thrusting. And learning to touch and pleasure all parts of the body, not just his penis. Perhaps you could buy a book on good love-making and explore it with him. Telling him verbally might be a waste of time, but going through a nice sex guide with him might attract his attention and encourage him to try something different.
Of course, since he's young he's probably also not used to the idea of putting his pure clean mouth near something as smelly and germ-ridden as a female vagina. He needs to be disabused of this notion. Make sure you are scrupulously clean for your man if he ever does get to the decisive moment. You don't want his delicate senses to be offended!
Good luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (20 November 2008):
Tell him that you don't want to try anything new until he gets the hang of what you've done already.
Tell him he has to give you an orgasm before you'll do anything new.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): You could offer to trade him something he likes for something you like! That could be fun...
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reader, helpjayne +, writes (20 November 2008):
 69! It benefits you both or just say you give me a little something and I might return it. Make sure you get what you want to. It's not fair that he always gets to have the fun and then has the cheek to say that you should spice things up. Just talk to him tell him that you'd really like it if he went down on you because he's probably great at it big him up a little, you'll get what you want don't give up!
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