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*elina
writes:Hi!I have a question for you.Well,I am 25 years old,and over this last months I think...I ve changed.Since I was 7 years old, I masturbate, and think about sex at all times. I also remember thinking about sex before that age. So, since then,I explore my fantasies,and I find myself upgrading my fantasies to other levels. Lately I added to my fantasies women. Now, I think a lot about it, and imagining me having sex with another woman turns me on very very much.All my life I had sex with men, and I really love to do it. I love my boyfriend,and he makes me really horny. However, at the age of 25, I now want to have sex with a woman,and just to imagine it,i go crazy.So,the question is, am I a lesbian,or a bisexual,or just pervert? Or maybe....did this happen because I watch too much porn?I am not worried, I am not scared about this. I just wonder whats happening to me.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 I don't think you are bi at all. I think you are merely sexually open and adventurous. I've said before on this site, I don't believe in all this labelling. Why does society feel impelled to put people into three pigeonholes: straight, gay, and bi? It's a simple-minded classification that seems to have stuck (I don't think it's very old), and because of its rigidity I think it is more a hindrance than a help. I personally prefer the word "pervert" (without the negative connotations), because it aptly sums up the many, varied, and kinky sexual desires that our species is capable of! Even the most straitlaced man or woman can have mildly perverted sexual desires. If you are open and adventurous, just think of the possibilities :)
I don't know what a sex addict is and I've never seen it defined satisfactorily, so I would be wary of sticking that label on you.
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reader, MissUnique  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 You might be a bi. There is nothing wrong with it at all. Talk to your boyfriend about it and maybeee suggest a threesome to satisfy yourself? You sound happy with your bf though so I don't think any of this roots from there.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 I think you are just trying to accept yourself. If you fantasise over women I think you possibly be bi-sexual since you also enjoy having sex with men. You are not perverted but maybe have a high sex drive.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (18 November 2008):
 Hi,
You seem confused as to what your sexuality is?
Watching too much porn won't make you bi but will encourage you to take your fantasies further the more porn you watch the more you will want to act out now whether that is with a man or a woman is your choice.
You say you have been masturbating since 7?
What exposed you to doing this behaviour so young?
Maybe you have underlying issues you are harbouring in order not to face up to your past?
I feel you may have sex addictions to certain behaviours you seem obsessed about sex and i really feel that is not normal behaviour to think of sex the way you are tells me you may have hidden addictions that have been caused by things that have happened in your childhood/past relationships?
Correct me if i am wrong but living with a sex addict i see all the signs in you so maybe you should try and recall things that are making you want to act out these fantasies something will be triggering this allow your mind to go back and it might be painful for you to do this but try and recall past events that have hurt or exposed you to things maybe you did not want to take part in you might have trouble recalling things as to do so is usually quite painful as we tend to block out negative things that take us to places we don't want to be in.
I hope you can find some solution to your problem as you are going from men to women all to live out a fantasy?
I hope you keep well and can find some solace here.
Ginalolabridga.
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reader, Felina +, writes (18 November 2008):
Felina is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank´s for your help.I see your point.Maybe I am a bi.But I dont´t think my relationship is the problem,because the sex is really good and we bot get really horny when I make up the crazyest stories about me and other woman,and we both reach the orgasm touching one another and imagining it.Maybe now that my sexuallity is all grown up and mature,i feel free and secure enough to accept my fantasies and have fun and much pleasure with them.So maybe youre right,i am a bi,at the age of 25,and I never even touched a woman yet.Thank s
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): Yeah you could well be a bi. Nothing to be ashamed or scared of. Not unusual to develop this desire this late in life. Are you still happy with your boyfriend or do you think this because you want something more? I'm not trying to make you doubt your relationship, but you need to be sure =]
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