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writes:It's simple. I'm in love with my cousin. He's 21 and I'm 18. We met when I was 13, then again when I was 16. He lived in Florida, and I lived in Illinois. As soon as I went down there when I was 16, I was immediatly attracted to him. Face it he's HOT. So, I blew it off as a physical crush. When I went back home though, my thoughts of him didn't stop. No matter who I dated, no matter what I did, he stayed in my head. We also started chatting: aim and myspace. Now that I have graduated and moved down to Florida. I talk with him everyday. He tells me everything. From girls, to sex, to family problems. I just soo bad want to be with him. It's killing me. I'm living a lie and I don't know what to do.
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reader, darkangel22 +, writes (28 September 2015):
I fell in love with my half brothers first cousin. Me and my brothers have the same mama but different daddy's so their cousins are of no relation to me.. now my mama is trying to adopt my half brothers first cousins on their dad's side and I'm in love with the oldest one who now because of everyone finding out our love for each other he's being shipped off to a finishing school to become a man... and I get talked down constantly by my mama even though she herself tells me that she understands that your heart loves who it loves and you can't help that. I just wish people would understand we aren't related... bc I cry all the time bc of how my mama and my real dad talk to me... they down Grade me telling me that because we are five years apart they could take my baby from me. I didn't expect to fall in love with this man while I was pregnant with someone else's child... I'm gonna wait and then when the Times right I plan to marry this man and no one will be able to stop me.
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reader, WerewolfMoon +, writes (18 January 2014):
Listen, I was in the same situation once. I was in deep love with my cousin. And even though it hurt, I never told him. We were just friends. Although I always blushed around him… We would just hang out and be just plain old cousins. Now I'm over him and into someone new, but that's not the point. The point is that love should be able to flourish no matter what. If you love somebody, don't keep it in. It will do nothing but pain you. Who cares if it's your cousin anyway? There's no reason to live a lie. If you want to love somebody, love them. Listen to your heart. This is something I wish somebody would've told me. Unfortunately, I'm learning the hard way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): i'm in love with my half cousin we are linked by granddads i met him three years ago and instantly we clicked. we was in a party and hes mum (my mother sister) said my son fancies you but she was drunk!!!, i never took to heart so that night i was put my brother to sleep upstairs and he came in and shut the door and told me he liked me and its complicated. every since it just been tension between us when we are with family we have that eye contact locked together. we hold hands when were alone we havent kissed yet but yest i told him i really really like you and he said "i cant get you out of my head" and we looked into each others eyes it was crazy. everyone calls it incest but imagine never knowing your cousin and u meet them on the train you link and have sex just to have a bbq the folloowing week to be introduce to your cousin the person you slept with.mines i guess is not that bad because my mum and hes mum are HALF SISTERS THEY ARE LINK BY DAD which me and him are linked by grandad. there a feeling you get where you know its wrong that what gives you a million doubts, i have tried so many ways to forget him. what i did do was insult him a lot to hide my feelings for him it worked for a while but the times i saw him just made me forget.i swallowed the drama and told hes mum (BRAVE I KNOW) thinking all hell break loose. i said aunty i need to tell you somink and i want your honestly!. i got her full attention and said i'm in love with your son. she did put her head down (mentioned we did nothing i just like him. she said just try and get over it if you cant then you cant. then theres nothing u can do. i told him i told hes mum hes mum said try get over it what ever happens it happens.obviously my opinion this is nothing to be proud of. just because you are related if your parents DO ACCEPT i would continue to see them but NOT rubbing it in the family. they will be younger children in your family its not a good example for them to confuse them so although your parents know Keep it Descreet (kissing in front of family)if your family DO NOT KNOW ....not all of us will have UNDERSTANDING PARENTS we all know that but i would personally try what i did. try to get over it or hide it but if a year or 2 has passed and your feelings are the same and true then proceed be together
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reader, tinker.bell  +, writes (30 October 2010):
im in love with my cousin , i adore him he makes me laugh and when im upset he makes me smile it may sound a bit cheesy but its all true , i find him gorgeous when i shouldnt and i cant help but stare at him at whatever he does , sometimes i wish we werent cousins but then i remember that if we werent we wouldnt be so close. he means so much to me, and your proberly thinking what will your family say, well to be honest i dont think most of them would mind because they always wind us up by saying stuff like you's two fancy each other and one time he won me a teddy out a machine with a love heart on it and they were teasing saying ooh got an admirer. but the only problem that i really have is that im scared to tell him how i feel incase he thinks im crazy so for now its just letting it all out to complete strangers than keeping it all bottled up inside telling people this actually makes me feel a little bit better. xx
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reader, pinkberry  +, writes (27 July 2010):
 im in the same situation. i dont want our families to find out and if they do, then we are both grounded. Iam in love with my cousin and i go out with him. i dont think it`s a disaster coz i mean as long as u love him the rest does nt matter. him being ur cousin has NOOO importance. all i can say is that LISTEN TO YOU HEART. and go with it coz if u dont listen to ur heart u will regret it.... dont go too fast plssss sloww down plsss
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): ya know ultimately you two are the ones who decide who you are going to love and spend ther rest of your lives with. remember everyone else has already made their lives and chosen their partner. when you two are old and grey are you going to love the person you're with or wonder what if i was with the person i truly love? at the end of the day this is your life... not everyone else's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): I understand where you are coming from coz I was going thru the same thing.. I mean EXACTLY same thing. I start noticing a crush feeling toward my cousin when i was about uh 15 and he was like 13ish, but thought it was nothing.. until I was 19 and he was 16. the feeling was still there. we got together and did stuff. i loved him so much, but didnt work out very well coz of my family. If you want to talk to your cousin and see if things will ever go farther than the way they are right now, you might want to think about how your family would say/think, unless you dunt give any flying fack. My family wasnt very happy about it at all.... p.s dunt listen to those people who says cousin should not date. I would rather date my cousin than my siblings!!do whatever that makes you happy =]i wish you for the best..if you ever want someone to talk about the whole cousin stuff, u can talk to me =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): i'm going through the exact same delimma. remember, he's the only one who has to know and sounds like he wants you as much as you want him. I would like to get a woman's perspective on this however and would like to know what happens if you decide to tell him. Hope to hear back!
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reader, samsmommy +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Ok don't get all freaked out or anything. You asked a question and you got an answer. Get over it. It's my opinion, that's what this site is all about right? Someone asks a question and people answer it? Ok so you don't like the answer, that's not my problem. I personally don't think cousins should date. Just how I feel.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (21 November 2008):
 I think most people would have assumed that you have problems with your feelings for your cousin. This is normally a pretty taboo sort of thing. If you wanted advice on how to break it to him, you should have made it clear.
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reader, brkn4vr +, writes (21 November 2008):
brkn4vr is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand who makes you queen of the world saying who you can and can not b with huh? u the supreme power? or the supreme powers voice in the world? dont think so hun. 'u cant cuz its wrong' is FALSE.
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reader, brkn4vr +, writes (21 November 2008):
brkn4vr is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbleh.. im not worried about the 'morals' of it. i really dont have any. im not religous (i've seen the cousincouples.com site), our family is really small, just his my mom (my aunt) his brother, my dad (his uncle), our grandmother and grandfather, and my brother.. and the only one that would have a problem would b my grandmother, and she'd get over it easy. i just dont know how to tell HIM. ya no?
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reader, samsmommy +, writes (20 November 2008):
You can't date your cousin, as much as you would like to, I'm sorry it's just wrong.
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reader, pieceomind83 +, writes (20 November 2008):
look the fact that he is your cousin makes it off limits whether you like it or not, i understand you didnt know him your whole life so to you he was a stranger that you where attracted to, i know this isnt what you want to hear but you need to let it go, for the sake of your family and the special relationship that you and your cousin have formers .. im sorry
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