I may have been too honest with her about my feelings, but I never thought I would find another woman who I could be with, and I don't know how to handle things.

A male age 41-50, *by1 writes:

Right, after the awful life I've had and been put thru by my ex gf and struggling to do anything for last 2n half years, somehow I've managed to find another lady out of the blue, because she knows of my past and my dislike for women and seeing them for nothing but mercenaries (see my other posts starting bout 2years ago) I've made a mistake by being far too honest. Weve known each other for 6 months and it was only 2 weeks ago that somehow there was a huge spark between us outvof nowhere, I never ever thought I'd meet somebody who I could actually want to be with and be seen out in public with as I saw that as a sign to others that finally I was wrong as I always maintained my ex Laura was all I ever wanted and would never give up. Well, this new lady is gorgeous and we've got on unbelievably well. I took her n her children out for dinner and she kept apologising for them being naughty and I said was she seeing it from there view who's this bloke etc, and I don't wanna get with her if its not genuine long term ideas because the children don't need that sort of environment as they will remember and possibly make similar relationship issues wen older. So we've gone out, stayed at each others and all pretty quick, but all natural and so comfortable, I know from speaking and her personal info on the dreaded fb (which I'm not and suggest others leave as I've made much more strides without it) that she has no trust for men and so on. I tried to reassure her that I would Change her opinion over time by actions and want nothing more than to be happy blah blah, other things have been discussed and I thought its best if I'm totally honest from the Start as that's how I want It to be, I told her I had good feelings and I could see us being together long time n happy, then she said its all to quick and too much and now having 2nd thoughts. Not good. I had docs the next morning and she messages saying get up, showered n dressed etc as she was then on way round to take me, then she had a dental appointment with surgery an hour later, she was in some pain after and we just came back to mine and slept til late afternoon. Now I need advice on what to do and how to handle stuff. Many thanks

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