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*ock chic
writes:Hi. I met this man online. I knew he was older than me (51yrs old, I'm 31) but and we became friends, we met up yesterday the first time and we went for a meal and I had a great time, and something else happened I realised I liked him more than friends!He dropped me home and about two hours later we made arrangements for him to come mine an watch movies, once again had a lovely time. He says things like if he was 10yrs younger etc and I'm almost 100% he likes me too! I know he would never make a move on me, but I also know he's happy single so what do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): To the OP, my parents have a 16 year age gap. They were married for 25 years, and they dated for three years before they got married. One of my half brothers has been married to someone who is 17 years younger than he is for nearly three years , and he dated her for six years before they got married, and i am currently dating a man who is 21 years older than i am. I've been with him for almost two years. It seems as if age gap relationships run in the family lol!. These kind of relationships can last . Age gaps dont matter. As long as you love each other and trust each other and enjoy each others company that's what matters. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2013): I think its too early to be worrying about these things just continue to invite him out and have fun together like being good friends. Then see where that goes as you get to know him more. When he says he is happy single that just means he isn't desperate to get into a relationship and is happy to take things slow that's all. I mean he was on a dating site, so that means he is interested in female companionship but you don't have to worry about him pressuring you into a relationship.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (13 January 2013):
 Hi,
First get to know him better and see how it goes.Absolutely no sex for the time being until you are sure he is for real and what he is after.
Goodluck
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (13 January 2013):
 well he's happy and single so you should feel motivated to make him unhappy? You imply that married is unhappy. If you want him to remain happy leave him alone and find a guy your own age to torment.
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reader, Rock chic +, writes (13 January 2013):
Rock chic is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for ur replies! Yes I have to agree I think he needs encouragment too, he says stuff like past his sell by date lol bless him but he's a young 51! I honestly don't think he's after sex, believe me he is a gentleman and like I said he wouldn't try it on and from experience I know men who want sex will make it clear.I'm blessed I already have a daughter so if I don't have more kids I'm not massively bothered.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (13 January 2013):
 You don't KNOW he's a happy single do you? Or has he actually TOLD you that? I say that all the time but if the right girl turned up I'd be there like a shot.
Personally, I think he likes you. His actions show this. You went out to dinner and 2 hours later he came over and watched movies.
"He says things like if he was 10yrs younger"
Haha. I've said this before. It was my way of seeing whether she thought it was an issue. I say, forget what the others say here.
There could be loads of reasons he's happy being single. Truth it no-one is happy being single. Yes, prefer being single than with a pyscho. But would rather be with someone if they are RIGHT.
I say, you've got a good shot here. His actions show he likes you enough to go on a date. You can ask him if he's really happy being single and if he say yeah you can say "REALLY?"
Drop a hint about liking a REAL man and not silly boys you've been dating/seen in the past and see what he says.
Sounds to me he just needs a little encouragement here.
Forget what all these guys here say; he might just be shy. My guess is he's been single for quite some time and he says he's happy that way because he doesn't want to appear to be a sap.
I say I'm happy being single, and girls say "how come" to which I reply "I haven't met the right woman yet". Simple.
You MIGHT be her (for him, not me)?
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (13 January 2013):
 Did you meet him on a dating site? If yes, and he then said he's happy being single, it doesn't sound like he's looking for a relationship, just casual sex. Listen carefully to what he's saying because I think he was giving you a clue.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (13 January 2013):
 Hmm, if he is a HAPPY single at 51 I just don't see him changing any time soon.
However, if you do spend time with him (NO SEX -ABSOLUTELY no sex) and get to know him and he gets to know you, who knows maybe he will want more then friendship, however..... Not many single guys in their 50 want kids. They like that they can travel and do as they please. So keep that in mind and maybe re-think if he really is the right partner for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 January 2013):
 you continue to spend time with him and make sure he knows that the age is not an issue for you.
but you have to consider these things:
what do you want from the relationship.
if you want children I am betting he does not.... are you willing to give up kids to be with an older partner?
are you willing to care for a disabled older partner?
are you willing as you come into your sexual peak, to not have sex as frequently as you would like with an older partner?
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reader, oldbag +, writes (13 January 2013):
 Hi
What you do is take your time,definately no sex, even date others or at least keep looking.
Make him an option not a priority for now.
If he wants a relationship with you then he will persue you.He may be happily single, or he may be 'open' to more. Time will tell.
Good luck hope it works out.
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