Should I end our affair in person? Or is a goodbye text enough?
Q. I've decided that even tho I'm hopelessly in love with a guy I've been having an affair with, it's time to end it. He is married, and I know he's never gonna leave her, I'm just tired of holding my emotions inside, and waiting for him to be mine, ...
A. 29 November 2012: Hi
I wouldn't tell him,no texts or phone calls.Just delete and block him. Don't give him any opportunity to talk you round because he will try.
You are going to need to be very strong, you've made the right choice and you know it,to finish it.... (read in full...)
My sad and depressed moods are affecting my relationship.
Q. Hi everyone, I have been feeling sad and depressed for the past year and i don't know how to deal with it, i am always moody even my period has stopped coming regularly. I have started a new job about 4 months ago however its a long distance wi...
A. 29 November 2012: Hi
I would imagine your completely tired out and stressed out.Is it possible to move nearer to your job and cut out the commute? You could go home weekends to stay with family,see friends.At least it would be a better balance of your time.
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Unemployment and relationship finances...who buys dinner?
Q. My bf and I have been dating about 8 months and this is the first serious relationship for both of us. When we met we both had good jobs, he still has one but I'm a contractor and so once my last contract ended about 4 months ago I have been ...
A. 29 November 2012: Hi
This is getting more common every week, one person unemployed,sign of the times.
I would sit him down next time he is at yours and explain that you need to pull your belt in till your earning again.He should realise your going to be stru... (read in full...)
Got caught speeding by a traffic camera. Need advice from people who live in the UK!
Q. I know this has nothing to do with love or relationships but everyone on here who answers always seems very insightful and knowledgeable so I figure maybe you can help me. I live in the UK and I went to a concert last night in Glasgow, which is...
A. 29 November 2012: Hi
Don't panic, check this site first, then take it from there
http://www.i-database.co.uk/... (read in full...)
My daughters are jealous of the time I spend with my boyfriend.
Q. Ok, here is one for ya. Been in a serious relationship with a wonderful man and things are great except for my two girls (ages 19 and 20) from a previous marriage. I thought it would be his 11 year old daughter that would be a problem, but no... My ...
A. 29 November 2012: Hi
Well with the new information I can see where they are coming from.
Why dont you have a weekend when your at home at least once a month.Being away every weekend is a big chunk out of your time with the girls. Yes they may have boyfriends ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated...should I take him back?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 1/2 yrs has cheated on me with another woman that he said he knows for many years. He said is nothing serious, he helps her out when she needs him and he can count on one hand how many times he had sex with her while we been ...
A. 28 November 2012: Hi
Why would you want to contact him? He isn't better than having NO man, he's just simply not worth having.
If YOU think hes worth it then do NOT text or ring him.Let him come to you. If he does, then you need to set bounderies.But r... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend wants nothing t do with me.. What do you think??
Q. So i haven't talked to my boyfriend in about 3 weeks.. and i feel as if he's ignoring me.. i don't know what to do.. this isn't the first time. He usually dosen't talk to me for a week or two then just calls or texts me and acts like nothings ...
A. 28 November 2012: Hi
If I hadn't talked to or seen my *boyfriend* for 3 weeks and he wasn't out of the country or in hospital,I wouldn't think he WAS my boyfriend anymore, if ever.
Next time he contacts you ignore it. Delete his number today,block on F... (read in full...)
My daughters are jealous of the time I spend with my boyfriend.
Q. Ok, here is one for ya. Been in a serious relationship with a wonderful man and things are great except for my two girls (ages 19 and 20) from a previous marriage. I thought it would be his 11 year old daughter that would be a problem, but no... My ...
A. 28 November 2012: Hi
How long have you been with him and is it the only serious relationship you have had since divorce? Does he live with you? If he doesn't live with you where do you see him and how often? Need to take these things into account.
The girls wil... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a relationship that's going nowhere?
Q. I met a guy online, we chatted for a couple of years on and off and eventually we met up and started dating. Before we met I was never really interested in him romantically but in person he was charming and kinda grew on me. We've been together for ...
A. 28 November 2012: Hi
Whats the point of being in a relationship thats going nowhere. He could be out there meeting others who do want what he wants and will want him long term. I bet even if your honest I bet he sticks around in case you change your mind,he ... (read in full...)
I'm 22, he's 53. How will it look?
Q. i joined dating site to think i can find a real man.. cauce i wanna settle down.. i met a man who is older than me he is 53 we will be meeting soon 2013.. i just dont know how it will look like if i am with an old man. were open minded in all ...
A. 28 November 2012: Hi
I would not worry until you have met him in person,make sure your not alone with him too. Have family and friends around.
Plus theres nothing to stop you dating others for now as you are not a couple yet, just internet friends.What do ... (read in full...)
I have a fear of existing. What can I do?
Q. I know this isn't exactly to do with relationships, or perhaps it is but it's more about my relationship with life and the world. I could really do with some help. My problem started about 2 years ago, at least to the extent that I am suffering t...
A. 28 November 2012: Hi
You will still exist in a way, your child,their child,and so on, all will pass on the family genes just as you have.I was always told 'oh your just like Auntie ***, you have her hair and your mums eyes..'
You,as S.V.C says can be helped, a... (read in full...)
My husband cheated, the marriage is over but I'm afraid to end it
Q. Dear cupid My husband had cheated on me in the past a few times i for gave him and we have tried to put it behind us. His affairs went on all though our marriage until he got caught,(20 yrs) no doubt he would still be cheating if he had not been...
A. 28 November 2012: Hi
I can understand how you are feeling - you by the sounds of it have centered your life round him for 20 years.
You need to gather together some money in your own bank account asap, get some advice about divorce too how you stand financiall... (read in full...)
I think he stole my bracelet
Q. Over a year ago, I found my favorite bracelet, a diamond cuff bracelet missing. It was hidden in the side pocket of my suitcase, which was in my bedroom. I keep my bedroom locked when I'm not there. My boyfriend moved in with me about a month ...
A. 28 November 2012: Hi
Well you have a gut feeling so you are going with it.As he had access to your room then he is suspect. The fact he didn't wait with you at the hospital doesn't say much for his caring side either, from what you said he just left you there,th... (read in full...)
How long should it take before relationship becomes exclusive?
Q. We've been dating for the past 8 months. How long should it take before relationship becomes exclusive?...
A. 27 November 2012: Hi
I would expect to be exclusive after 6-8 weeks if spending more than one or two dates a week with them
Definately before you have sex -
Ask him... (read in full...)
My boyfriend constantly brings up my past, how do I get him to see I've changed and help us move on together?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 11 months. 16 months ago I split up from my husband and went a little crazy, craving attention from absolutely any guy I met. I slept with a few guys but would also get guys numbers and constantly text them and email ...
A. 27 November 2012: Hi
So in the 5 months between your marriage ending and meeting your new man you went wild? You dealt with the end of your marriage by seeking male attention. I can understand that,seen it happen to others. But what I think your doing is let this... (read in full...)
He's been separated for 6 years but wont get a divorce, am I a mug for staying with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months, he has been separated from his wife for 6 years! But still isn't divorced! He says she means nothing to him and its only a piece of paper. We have bought a house together and I have 1 child and he ...
A. 27 November 2012:
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sorry, I see its your child not a baby you had together,misread that bit... (read in full...)
He's been separated for 6 years but wont get a divorce, am I a mug for staying with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months, he has been separated from his wife for 6 years! But still isn't divorced! He says she means nothing to him and its only a piece of paper. We have bought a house together and I have 1 child and he ...
A. 27 November 2012: Hi
You two have a child and bought a house together. If him still being married bothered you that much then why did you proceed with the relationship to this extent.
What has bought on this question about his divorce now?
I agree he shou... (read in full...)
Is there any hope of turning this around? I keep finding my Gf on dating sites.
Q. My life seems like a constant cycle of catching my girlfriend on dating sites, breaking up and then somehow ending up back together. When I have caught her she has lied by denying it, blamed me for neglecting her, accused me of jealousy, abuse, i...
A. 26 November 2012: Hi
No hope of changing her, the best thing you can do is to walk away and stay away.
Your being her doormat,her fall-back man. She has a history of cheating. Just stop all contact because when she meets Mr Right (or Mr Right Now) she will be... (read in full...)
What were his motives? Why did my ex ask me out, thinking I had a new Bf? But then get all upset after he realised I wasn't dating?
Q. My ex boyfriend started texting me last week. He thought I was still seeing someone but when he mentioned it I replied saying that I wasn't. Well it turns out he never got that text and asked me out anyway thinking I still had a boyfriend. Wel...
A. 26 November 2012: Hi
Cerberus put it perfectly.
Also ~ you've lost your job, your goinng through a custody battle,your about to lose your home, I would think this man is the least of your problems.
Sort out your life before you date ANYONE... (read in full...)
I have an interview for a job. Any hint, tips or suggestions to help me succeed this time?
Q. Can anyone give me some advice on this ? . I have an interview for a Sales Suppport position with an Estate Agency on Wednesday. It's only part time, but i don't mind about that. I have been unemployed for three years, and i don't have much wor...
A. 26 November 2012: Hi
I have had all types of interviews over the years and conducted them too.
You would not be human if you didnt feel nervous,after all you want the job.
First, they have seen your CV so they have a rough idea of your skills and history ... (read in full...)
Six months later I'm still grieving at the passing of my grandfather and feel like people think I should be over it
Q. i know this isnt a relationship question but i'm still grieving over my grandpa's death and dont know who to turn to about it. i havent had a nice year, i lost my horse suddenly, i became ill with anemia and then close to a year ago my grandpa w...
A. 25 November 2012: Hi
Don't beat yourself up over this,there is no 'normal' and if people don't understand grief its usually because they haven't experienced it.
When I lost somebody very close for the first time it hit me like a ton of bricks,it took months to g... (read in full...)
I fell for him and my heart is broken
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I am suffering extreme heartache and I would like to know how to get over it or reduce the pain. I'm waking up at 6am crying as reality hits that he doesn't want me and has left me and for someone else. It's going to sou...
A. 25 November 2012: Hi
Simple fact was he was committed already,to the other woman and now she's back,you, who has been keeping the bed warm for her, are no longer required.
Yes he probably did like you, but thats all.At least he didn't just vanish which is ... (read in full...)
I feel like he sees me as a mom not a lover!
Q. I'm engaged to the man of my dreams but recently our sex life hasn't been good. I've tried everything I can think of to spice things up and he really seems to enjoy it when we do have sex but it's not making him want to more often. I recently lost ...
A. 25 November 2012: Hi
You've tried everything to entice him,to make this work and he is oblivious to your efforts or plain ignoring them.
You must be exhausted through lack of sleep too, but I have to say his dreams are weird.Nobody I know dreams and talks in the... (read in full...)
He thinks he should "be alone". Does anyone have any advice or insight about the way he broke up and why after 11 months?
Q. We're both 44 and divorced. We've been dating about 11 months. We get along well, enjoy hanging out and his kids really like me a lot. All is going well. We tell each other "I love you". While my house was being finished I lived with him and t...
A. 25 November 2012: Hi
What a strange turn of events,it must have left you with the wind knocked out of you to say the least.
I would imagine the Ex said something,perhaps it followed on from something the kids have said to her? Its hard to say what it could be... (read in full...)
Is this healthy? is she game playing? My Controlling girlfriend keeps giving me ultimatums or threatens that we'll break up
Q. I have a girlfriend and I'm soon to be divorced with my estranged wife. My girlfriend has been acting weird lately.... She gives me ultimatums to do X or we break up. When I don't do X, she gives me the complete silent treatment and ignores all ...
A. 25 November 2012: Hi
Yes I think you can safely say this relationship is doomed. In fact ANY this girl is in would be a non starter, she sounds awful,immature,controlling and seems to think she can treat you as she wishes,because you always run after her..I w... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I were in car accident and he didn't even ask if I was ok?
Q. Please tell me if I'm overreacting here because I can't work it out. My boyfriend of 4 years and I were just in a car accident (he ran into the back of someone on black ice). I am ok for the most part, although I hurt my neck a little bit and I ...
A. 24 November 2012: Hi
Well I think he is probably still in a bit of shock, it could have been a hell of alot worse than it was and he was driving and knows this.Cut him some slack.
Now he's got insurance etc to sort out so hopefully he IS insured.Also rep... (read in full...)
My wife says there is no love for me and she has fallen for some man online
Q. i have a problem. my wife and i have been together for several years now and we have always had our ups and downs. we have both done things in our time together to hurt each other and we both dont like it. the problem now is that we drifted apart ...
A. 24 November 2012: Hi
What do you do? You end this sham of a marriage.
This so called wife of yours should be packed off to her 'internet lover' (who will probably make her totally miserable) but thats her problem.
You start afresh, hard as it will be to ge... (read in full...)
Will my family and friends accept my potential lesbian partner with whom I have an age difference of 31 years?
Q. Ok first to start off, I am 22, a senior in college and I am single. I have been single for awhile but even when I was with other females they didn't spark any interest in me besides sex. Recently a friend of mine told me to make a profile on Plenty ...
A. 24 November 2012: Hi
Have you actually met in person yet because until you have got to know her, to see if there is in fact chemistry and even the possibility of a relationship, your jumping the gun.
However if your family and friends acceptance of her is import... (read in full...)
How do I talk to the cute girls at the coffee shop without coming across as creepy?
Q. I go to this coffee shop alot to study and there is always a couple cute girls there and i always want to go up to them and talk to them but i don't ever know what to say to not seem like a creeper or a weirdo. any advice?...
A. 24 November 2012: Hi
You wont come over as creepy unless you go up and say 'hey nice boobs' - which I am sure you won't.
Just start casual if they are customers, say hi, you here for the bad coffee again too, something to show you've noticed them.. they eith... (read in full...)
Does he not really want me, or is it all in my mind?
Q. Right this is a long story cut short. I met someone a yr ago and for the first couple of months it was all good and then cracks started to appear. He had more female friends than normal, especially one who was his ex that would txt him flirty ...
A. 24 November 2012: Hi
He likes to be seen as some super hero,a stud and everyones friend and whats more he isn't about to change now. The fact he didn't come to YOUR aid when you need him says everything you need to know.
His life is how he likes it so why be an ... (read in full...)
She won't break up with me but isn't talking to me. What should I do?
Q. I've hurt my girlfriend really, really badly and she has given me the silent treatment ever since (2 months now). The first 3 weeks she was extremely angry and now she is depressed and avoiding me. I know she doesn't want to end this but she doesn't ...
A. 23 November 2012: hi
Well you are remarkably patient and must love her very much, 2 months is an excessive time for 'silent treatment',leaving you in limbo.I don't know what you did wrong but it sure must have upset her,really hurt her.
The ONLY way to solve any... (read in full...)
What point is a relationship being abused?
Q. my girlfriend always seems to find a way to keep another male relationship in our lives .she always claims they are not sexual and we do often spend days where we dont see eachother.i choose to believe her so my question isnt so much do you think ...
A. 23 November 2012: Hi
Your question isn't very clear to be honest.If you don't think she is cheating then I assume you trust her.
How do you think your relationship being abused exactly? Did she run off to California for 3 days without telling you? If she WAS ... (read in full...)
I'm in a unhappy marriage, and I've fallen for a man I met online.
Q. Hi. I am in a mess of a situation. I am a married woman of five years and I have 2 children. I'm 26 years old. I have been with my husband for 10 years total. He was my first and only boyfriend and my first and only for everything. Since the ...
A. 23 November 2012: Hi
It sounds like the 'marrying and having kids before you lived a little' syndrom for both of you.Now your unhappy disallusioned and realising theres more to life than one man who doesn't even make you happy.
Forget the online man, he is NOT w... (read in full...)
Now that boyfriend can have sex again we never do anything else sexually!
Q. when i first started sexual relations with my boyfreind he would go down on me all the time and want to satisfy me. As he could not get hard due to stress. He can now have normal sex and thats all we have when we have sex and I go down on him. I ...
A. 22 November 2012: Hi
Your right to question the relationship.He sounds like a caveman.
Communicate with him, tell him you want to be satisfied sexually too, that you liked how he was with you before,that you want foreplay as well as intercourse
T... (read in full...)
Should your girlfriend be sleeping over at a guy's house who has hit on her?
Q. Is it all right for your girlfriend to sleep at a guys house,after the guy hit on her,she said she turned him down,but then she said was interested in him at one time,then did it again? I broke up with her?...
A. 22 November 2012: Hi
Theres only one reason she would sleep over at his house.If you HAVE now broken up with her it was the right thing to do... (read in full...)
It seemed like a perfect time for a kiss but she wasn't up for it. Why does she act like she is and then turn off?
Q. A girl friend of mine asked me to go watch twilight. So i went along as I kind of got forced to. She was holding my hand in the film. Squeezing it and than putting both her hands on mine. Anyway she enjoyed the evening. I'm near her road dr...
A. 22 November 2012: Hi
You don't need to be ripped apart, she asked you to go to see the film,then to go to the beach. Thats like saying I want some more time with you and alone. I wouldn't have suggested the beach if a guy was just a friend,maybe a drink or food.... (read in full...)
Why did the evening start out date like and at the end she made it clear we were just friends?
Q. I met this girl in August and we hit it off straight away. So we started going out on dates, going to the cinema, meals out ect, which would always end up with us passionately kissing and cuddling till the early hours. We even performed oral sex on ...
A. 22 November 2012: Hi
The way you have behaved sexually, plus dating,since August and getting on well, SOUNDS like a girlfriend/boyfriend or FWBs situation.
Maybe the month away you had made her wonder where she actually stood,perhaps she was trying to find o... (read in full...)
Why would he be sending me such mixed messages?
Q. There is a guy I know who I like a lot, and a while ago I plucked up the courage to let him know. At the time he was adamant that he wasn't interested in that way but was fine about it, and said he still wanted to be friends. Recently, though, I ...
A. 22 November 2012: Hi
He sounds like sometimes he wants his ego boosted,like 'oh I know who will talk to me' type of thing.
As he made it clear he wants to be friends from the start I would just continue to treat him as one.He isn't about to change his mind ... (read in full...)
Ladies only please: My partner makes stupid remarks about age and offends alot of our customers. Am I just being too sensitive?
Q. I m pissed. Ladies opinions please, as I understood that in this question men are no help, sorry. My business partner who is a guy makes stupid in my eyes comments and asked out customers questions that simply inappropriate. For example, 2 older w...
A. 22 November 2012: Hi
I think in a professional situation referring to anyones age is wrong,or making any personal comment, he won't endear customers. Some may just laugh it off so he will probably focus on them and think that if a few don't mind.......
Perhaps... (read in full...)
Questions about pregnancy
Q. I've just recently found out that I'm pregnant with our first child and its a wonderful time for both myself and my boyfriend but I have a few questions that hopefully you could help me with. 1) I've always exercised a lot, walking, running...
A. 20 November 2012: Hi and Congratulations.
The others have given great advice. I didnt run during pregnancy (except to the bathroom quite frequently) nor sit-ups. But I did swim and cycle right up to 8 n half months,also walked alot.I like the fresh air so enjoyed ... (read in full...)
Not for revenge but for my own pleasure I'm thinking of cheating, nothing serious just a one night thing. Opinions please!
Q. My partner and I have been together for 5 years up until recently we were engaged, have 2 children and were trying for a 3rd. During this time he has cheated on me twice that I know of. The first was for the first 12 months we were together...
A. 20 November 2012: Hi
I think you would be crazy to do it. Personally I would have kicked him out after his 5 minute session in a toilet with some random girl.Being drunk is not an excuse.
I would also be grateful I wasn't expecting a third baby with him. I don'... (read in full...)
I think he stole my bracelet
Q. Over a year ago, I found my favorite bracelet, a diamond cuff bracelet missing. It was hidden in the side pocket of my suitcase, which was in my bedroom. I keep my bedroom locked when I'm not there. My boyfriend moved in with me about a month ...
A. 18 November 2012: Hi
Somebody would have had to ransack your room to find it unless you told them where you had hidden it.Why would they even look in the side pocket of a suitcase - they surely wouldn't *expect* a valuable bit of jewellry to be there.
I think... (read in full...)
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