Husband obsessed with teenage girls, trying to be ok now but I feel depressed I keep getting images in my head

A female age 36-40, *atie85 writes:

I am 28 next month, my husband is 30, we've been together 13 years, we have 2 children and he has constanly cheated on me!, all of them much younger, mostly teenagers!, I have gone through his phone and emails and facebook and found out there's more on the go then I first thought and even found out his on a dating site, when I confront him he just gets very angry and says its my fault for snooping when I ask why he always says he doesn't know why!, this is mental torture!, Even some he has kissed, done sexual things with infront of me and there boyfriends, he always played mind games with me saying I'm seeing things, I'm paranoid etc, when his phone rings I'm hearing things then months later he'll say yeah he did have a call!, this has made me feel ugly, old, fat, boring, humiliated, depressed, lonely, useless, I love him so much though I want to stay with him and our 2 children. I think he just needs help, he clearly has a lot of issues with beingable to tell me or show me his feelings, he txts these girls sexy messages he never txts me even hello or how are you never mind sexy messages!, and he says he loves them all the time, I've never told anyone but him I love him, he refuses to go to counselling with me, his mum just says well his just like his dad I know what your going through he would never talk and got angry and it frustrates you so much that's why I'm glad his left me for his much younger secret lover!, he says he won't ever do it again but in 13 yrs I struggle to remember a year that he hasn't cheated, I don't think he can make me feel loved or wanted I just keep clinging onto hope that one day he'll surprise me and say let's try for a baby or let's give you the wedding you deserve the dress you always wanted (we got married at gretna on the cheap no guests, no reception, no dress), I know I need to be more positive I have to be strong but its hard!, has anyone been through this?

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