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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend spends lots and lots on his car and bike but dosen't buy me any gifts, let it be birthday, valentines day or annivesary he dosen't bring me anything. I don't expect much from him but somtimes I do want him to make me feel important. And he takes me to boring places where we have to sit for hours and hours doing nothing and when I tell him I'm bored he gets irretated. What to do? Please help and thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (11 April 2013):
 Hi
If he takes you to 'boring places where you have to sit for hours and hours' why do you agree to go, do you ever suggest going someplace you like?
To be honest you don't sound happy nor do you sound like a couple.
Perhaps he just isn't for you or you for him
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 April 2013):
 Have you told him what you want?
if not how is he supposed to know?
if you have told him and he refuses to comply and acknowledge your important days as you find appropriate then he may not be the right boyfriend for you.
some folks don't do gifts or cards or such very well.
as for taking you boring places. if he asks you to go somewhere you know you will be bored just say "thanks but no thanks it' will be boring" or if you can't get around that and it's ok bring a book or something to entertain yourself.
if he likes the places you go and does not find them boring, then it may just be that your not a good fit and no amount of love can fix that.
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reader, raiders +, writes (10 April 2013):
 Talk to him let him see your views, men are not mind readers so be clear with him and if this does not work than its probably best to split because you two obviously are a mismatch.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (10 April 2013):
You have two choices: accept that this is who he is, or find someone else.
You could try talking to him and expressing your feelings in a non judgmental way (not "you neglect me" but "I feel neglected"). Let him know that you don't want to force him to change but you don't want to be with someone who doesn't doesn't_______.
While it is possible that he's just oblivious to your needs and could change, it's more likely that he's just a selfish guy and will be better of with a different girl, the same as you'd be better off with a different guy.
Sometimes you leave someone not because you don't love them, but because you're not right for each other. This is probably one of those cases. Either that or you learn to accept it.
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