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No replies yet... 1 June 2017: GET out there..It might be terrifying,but you need to broaden your social horizons.Go on line,join a club or go to a speed-dating night You will not find love in your living room.REVAMP your image;Ask a good friend to appraise your style.Do you need ...
CatFish, and tips to keep you safe
No replies yet... 10 May 2017: CatFish,has nothing to do with either Cats or Fish.As you will probably know ..CATFISH....is a person male/female who will put a fake profile on dating sites....and will contact many people or maybe just one and have a relationship be it ...
Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle
No replies yet... 22 October 2016: In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...
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She picks and finds fault with everything I do. What should I do?
Q. Recently got engaged to my partner and we have been living together for the past 6 months. Over the course of living together I have found she is a real knit picker and i'm feeling like anything I do is never good enough, even when I do what I c...
A. 7 January 2015: Thanks for your follow-up i read it with great interest.Its good that you had an open chat with her on this matter and as you stated you had chat at other times as well and then she went back to her to her old self .I HOPE ITS WORKS OUT FOR YOU ... (read in full...)
She picks and finds fault with everything I do. What should I do?
Q. Recently got engaged to my partner and we have been living together for the past 6 months. Over the course of living together I have found she is a real knit picker and i'm feeling like anything I do is never good enough, even when I do what I c...
A. 7 January 2015: That is very difficult for you to deal with and she has no right at all to be undermining you THIS IS NOT AN ACT OF LOVING SOMEONE.Now you might have heard of a saying-That you get treated the way you allow people to treat you.However this sort of ... (read in full...)
I'm an unmarried man in cyber love with a married woman!
Q. I am 27 years of age, single, never being in relationship, athletic build and sexually active( I masturbate 2-4 times daily) . I talk to a lady from a different country who is mother and hates her family. I am really love with this woman and she ...
A. 26 December 2014: After reading your letter i feel you yourself have answered your own question when You stated -Seriously we cannot be one-Would you consider joining a dating site and hopefully find someone special to have in your life.Remember sometimes the Idea of ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I should try to work this out or just move on
Q. I need some advice on a situation and hoping I will get the answers to make a decision. I am in a long term not sure if you would call it a relationship we don't live together but things have been good for a while. Last week, he text me to ...
A. 17 December 2014: This is a very sad situation to be in i understand that you are in-love with him.However from reading your letter i form the opinion that your boyfriend doesnot KNOW when he is coming or going nor does he care how you feel about his behaviour,He ... (read in full...)
My husband of 5 years is a miserly selfish man. What can I do?
Q. Cupids, Its been a year now and I have been trying to love my "5 years in marriage" huband again, but have failed. I lost feelings for him since I realized he's greedy, miserly person. He stated he would only fund for my food and shelter and that...
A. 11 December 2014: This is a very sad life for you but its nice to know you have a lovely daughter.Is there any way you could arrange to do part-time job.As i dont know your work experience i can only suggest the following. i,e. dressing -making.minding ... (read in full...)
I want long term, but I don't know if she wants it as well
Q. Hi, Just a question if anyone ever succeeded with respect to different views about living together. I was married for 16 years and then divorced after my wife cheated. I met a new woman after that and we have been together 3 years now. She i...
A. 11 December 2014: I can appreciate the difficult situation you are in but never the less you are very object in what you want and that is a very positive.It would be a good idea to have a long indept chat with your girlfriend and mean everything you say even to the ... (read in full...)
My husband's explanation is not convincing. Is he cheating?
Q. Last night I was going through my husband's phone which he constantly updates and deletes stuff from. I happened to click on the "notes" and the only note I found was from a week ago. It said: "It was good seeing you today, I never knew how dazzling ...
A. 27 November 2014: Well all i can say is he is not very good at telling lies.If he is not cheating at the moment ,he could be very well on the way.The question is what would you do if you found out he was cheating.Would you forgive him-or would that finish the ... (read in full...)
My Gf does not want me to see her naked when we make love. How can I help her to overcome this issue?
Q. My girlfriend is overweight and its not from over eating its from a medical condition that runs in her family. I have told her that i understand thats she is over weight and have told her that i dont have any problems except when we make love. S...
A. 27 November 2014: In this day and age there is so much about the image that a woman should be and that is slim that it can be a very senstive issue for a woman.Would you consier having an indept chat with her about this when your not in bed.Maybe you might consider ... (read in full...)
Second time around and there are issues
Q. I re married my first husband. The marriage broke down first time after over 20 years, he was a workaholic and picked up a prostitute one night which was the straw that broke the camels back. He thinks I have cheated in the past but I never, its ...
A. 26 November 2014: I can understand where you are coming from and you are in avery difficuly situation as to what to do.Sometimes second time round does not workbecause the magic is gone and maybe the space of 10 years was to much to overcome.Because after all in ... (read in full...)
Extreme jealousy- Do I need help?
Q. I've been having trouble with extreme jealousy in my relationship which is gradually getting worse. It's mainly things like when I'm watching TV with my boyfriend, and something remotely sexual appears (e.g a naked woman or something even as normal ...
A. 24 November 2014: First of all you are not stupid,but would come across as a very level headed lady.You have reached out to get what you youself feel but you need it clarified.Yes you do need help by getting your doctor to refer you to a counsellor who will chat with ... (read in full...)
How many people give you a spark in life?
Q. Do you meet many people in life that give you that spark feeling ? not sure what it is but you know that silly feeling when you automaticly smile at each other , and daft things make you laugh. I had it with one girl ages ago who I fell in love w...
A. 24 November 2014: Thanks so much for the follow-up to my answer its much appreciated. Keeping looking, keeping hoping and when you least expect it Love will find you .Best wishes for your future.Thanks again NORA B.... (read in full...)
How many people give you a spark in life?
Q. Do you meet many people in life that give you that spark feeling ? not sure what it is but you know that silly feeling when you automaticly smile at each other , and daft things make you laugh. I had it with one girl ages ago who I fell in love w...
A. 22 November 2014: The answer to your question is NO not very often and that spark you talk about is called CHEMESTRY .You could meet 20 girls and they would be nice but the spark would be missing.So the fall in love situation would not happen.But dont give up keep ... (read in full...)
Just friendly, or interested?
Q. I've been texting my guy friend everyday for almost 2 months now. He tells me good morning everyday and he's always saying all he wants is for me to be happy. Lately he's been sending me funny pictures/jokes to make me laugh as well. Just confused ...
A. 22 November 2014: Fron reading your letter your guy friend certainly likes you as he wishes you to be happy However if you are hoping for something more i would thread with CARE.Right now you have his friendship and be happy .Maybe it will develope to something ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend is subtly criticising me all the time and it's tiring me out.
Q. I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend is subtly criticising me all the time and it's tiring me out. It's never anything obvious, but he'll make small remarks all the time that I've started to notice. For example, he will ask me where all of my ...
A. 23 October 2014: Well done you you are doing a great job,between working.and doing your degree.and helping at home.You are to be admired and if your boyfriend does not see this it is his loss.However i would have an indept chat with him.telling him that his remarks ... (read in full...)
Confused about getting married
Q. Hi! I am a 31 years old woman single and a virgin. I live in Pakistan where you can only have a relationship when you are married. SO arrange marriages are usually the case here. I married six years ago to a guy but we ended up divorced. Now I am...
A. 23 October 2014: There is no point at all to get married unless you care and respect that person and in your case i can well understand your situation as it is the 2nd time round for you. Dont get married unless you are as sure as anyone that your going to be ... (read in full...)
How do I stop beating myself up for my stupidity at spending my money?
Q. My grandparents sold their house at the start of the year. From the money they got from it, they gave they're grandchildren some of it. I got around £1500. At the time I was in a job that paid horrible money, less than minimum wage. The plan was to ...
A. 19 October 2014: That was a nice gift of money and a pity the way it went.However this is the BEST AND MOST EXPENSIVE LESSON U WILL HAVE OVER MONEY.Learn from it and Never let anything like this happen again,that way you can stop beating yourself up It was an ... (read in full...)
If a guy texts me every day is that an indication that he might like me?
Q. I know it might be a little trivial but if a guy texts you everyday, does it mean he is interested in you? Recently, I got into contact with an acquaintance (who used to be my eye candy!!) and we've been texting everyday since. Both of us are...
A. 18 October 2014: Yes i would say he certainly likes you and its nice that you both are meeting up for the holidays.Just go with the flow and enjoy it as it is.It may develope into something else and may not .So thread with care and time wil sort out whetever is ... (read in full...)
He says my nature is bad. That was his reason for breaking up with me. What was my fault?
Q. I met a guy online 3 months back. On the first day itself I had phone sex with him. Initially he was very loving. We were even planning to meet. He used to say if I make you pregnant I will marry you. He said we will make videos while having sex...
A. 18 October 2014: I know you must be hurting with the behaviour of this guy and he has no right whatsoever to say anything over your nature.This is not a matter of FAULT rather that you made a wrong choice in having phone sex to please him.You were right to refuse a ... (read in full...)
After I married her I found out she had worked as a hooker. Can I make this marriage work? Or should I divorce her?
Q. A year and half ago i happen to know a girl through her relative. She was living in (Country 2) and i was living in (country 3). But we both were from (Country 1) She was there since she was 8 or 9 living with her parents and two siblings. ...
A. 18 October 2014: I know you must have been shocked after you were married to her to find out she was a call girl.Also she was not honest with you over this and this was very unfair of her.I can only say she was afraid that it would change your mind about her but ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for asking for time and attention?
Q. I was in long distance relationship. Never met him. Initially he took out time for talking. But then he started to work for around 16 hours. I understood his commitment for work. But he even stopped messaging. If I asked him something he replied ...
A. 15 October 2014: Long distances relationship are very difficult even when people are meeting a odd time but in your case it was a phone/text relatonship.NO you were not wrong to ask for time and attention but from your letter he was not interested and this would be ... (read in full...)
I want to be in a relationship but I don't want to settle for just anyone
Q. I graduated from university this past spring, and have been single for about 3 years. I have decided not to settle for just anyone, however I now really would like to be in a relationship. But I do not know where to start. I am working but the ...
A. 13 October 2014: Hi it might be helpful if you would consider joining different types in your area,For example Tennis, bowling,cards.a debating group.joined a writers group,a book club.Inserted a advertisment in apaper re -meeting point-stating your interests.age ... (read in full...)
How do I politely turn down invitation without closing doors to further invitations?
Q. Ok, I have a lot of friends, like a WHOLE lot. Some are casual friends who I had fun with, some are useful professionally, some are genuine friends I can go to, some are going out friends, some are culture friends. I amassed many friends but I do...
A. 12 October 2014: I understand your situation very well and you do have lots of friends.However you will have to put you and your health first.One word you will have to get used to saying is NO with a smile and a little banter but never the less a firm NO.Just sit ... (read in full...)
I miss her. She was my closest friend. How do I move on from the sadness I feel now that our affair is over?
Q. I had an affair with another woman that lasted a very long time. Our affair lasted 12 years. It was the right thing to do for both of us. She is considerably younger than me and neither of us thought it would go on so long...but it just never ended ...
A. 12 October 2014: Try and be happy in knowing that you both have DONE THE RIGHT THING in ending the affair and that no one has got hurt.This will not be easy but well worth the effort.Would you consider joining some groups, starting a new interest,Time will sort the ... (read in full...)
I have a lot of anger towards him. We both shout at each other a lot. How can this be resolved?
Q. My husband has been shouting at me and sometimes hitting me and calling me lots of names. I have put up with it, now I feel like a very angry person and I shout back at him a lot and I can not speak to him nicely and even when he tries to be nice ...
A. 12 October 2014: NO ONE be it man or woman has the RIGHT to hit each other.This sort of behaviour is out of order and it is very sad that your husband is both hitting you and calling you names.No doubt your hurt and very angry but shouting back to him is not the ... (read in full...)
Does sex always result in soreness for the next day or two?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I've been with my BF for about a year, and things are going pretty well :) I do have one issue though…if we have sex for a long time (say, 30 minutes or even an hour), I will be VERY sore the next day, and sometimes it l...
A. 12 October 2014: Happy for you that things are going well. with you and your boyfriend.However you might consider using a cream which a chemist can suggest .But after using the cream and if the soreness is still there you might consider having a chat with your ... (read in full...)
The Perfect date to impress her? Any good ideas for an awesome first date, please?
Q. So I have a friend who i'm really starting to like but the only way in I have with her is that we agreed at some point in the future we will go on a date. We get on so well and I think if I could just organize the perfect date that the rest wil...
A. 12 October 2014: Why not cook her a simple meal with all the trimmings on the table .i.e. A pretty table cloth ,flowers.a gift of a romantic d,v,d parceled up with a bow.Then just be the charming guy you seem to be.I suppose the best tip for a date is to be ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband continue to destroy me like this? What do I do?
Q. Please please help me, im so hurt, demoralised and depressed, i really am breaking down. Ok, so, we've hardly spoken for 4 weeks now. I only speak in reply to him when i am spoken to, that way, he cant accuse me of prying or accusing him!! After 20...
A. 12 October 2014: Thank you so much for your much appreciated feed back it was kind of you. Now i read all the replys you received all caring and giving you the best and kindness advise possible.There is a lot of help out there for you you are not ALONE.You can so ... (read in full...)
What can I do to fix this relationship? I think he loves me, but sometimes I doubt that.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. He's sweet and treats me like a princess. I'm his priority in his life. We've both been through so many things together he's going to proposed and marry me next year. Problem is, I reje...
A. 11 October 2014: When a man loves a woman and asks her to marry him and to be REJECTED IS THE WORSE POSSIBLE HURT FOR HIM. Yes he has changed and has changed through pain.You must have been confused when you said no and its not always easy to make your mind up ... (read in full...)
What can I do to fix this relationship? I think he loves me, but sometimes I doubt that.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. He's sweet and treats me like a princess. I'm his priority in his life. We've both been through so many things together he's going to proposed and marry me next year. Problem is, I reje...
A. 11 October 2014: When a man loves a woman and asks her to marry him and to be REJECTED IS THE WORSE POSSIBLE HURT FOR HIM. Yes he has changed and has changed through pain.You must have been confused when you said no and its not always easy to make your mind up ... (read in full...)
Why would he want to be around me if he's going to act stressed in my presence ?
Q. I'm seeing a guy and he seems to be stressed out when he's in my presence. I hang out with him at his request. He doesn't seem stressed while talking the moments before we see each other. I ask him if everything is ok, he says he's enjoying my...
A. 11 October 2014: As you say he may have other things going on in his life but it is rather unsual behaviour.If this behaviour continues when he is alone with you I would say in a casual fashion -are you confortable in my company and see what he replys.Best wishes ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband continue to destroy me like this? What do I do?
Q. Please please help me, im so hurt, demoralised and depressed, i really am breaking down. Ok, so, we've hardly spoken for 4 weeks now. I only speak in reply to him when i am spoken to, that way, he cant accuse me of prying or accusing him!! After 20...
A. 11 October 2014: I read your a letter a few times with deep understanding and it dreadful that your husband has hurt you so much.First of all after you got the mediation sorted and get divorced and you OWE yourself this you will be able to be yourself and start a ... (read in full...)
Is this a sign that I'm the one for him?
Q. Dear Cupid, My long distance boyfriend and I recently celebrated our first year of dating. I think its amazing that we've maintained a connection being that we are 1000 miles away (he's in NYC and I'm in Atlanta). It gives true meaning to our r...
A. 10 October 2014: How delighful to hear of a true romance that has endured from a distance. Well done to you both.He sounds very serious about you and in-love. But give it time just to be on the safe side and also all will become more clear when you are living near ... (read in full...)
Am I holding on to this marriage for nothing?
Q. I was 8 months pregnant with our third child when I found out my husband was cheating on me. We reconciled I though. After I had our daughter on his birthday 2 weeks later he left me and moved in with her ( He did support us financially the whole ...
A. 10 October 2014: This is a very sad and hurtful situation for you and your family and i can quiet understand how you feel. First of all it comes across to me re your husband that he does not know what he wants.However in the meantime it does not give him the right ... (read in full...)
This dream has me feeling so hurt! Why would I dream this?
Q. hi. i had a dream that my boyfriend wants to sleep with his ex girlfriend while in relationship with me.we have been together for about 6 years now. he tells me in the dream that it will be healthy for our relationship to explore in that way and he ...
A. 10 October 2014: The good thing about dreams are they are only DREAMS but i can understand how hurtful after that dream .You might feel insecure about with your boyfriend and unsure if he is still incontact with his ex-girlfriend.Do have an indept chat with your ... (read in full...)
We want different things but I keep going back!
Q. I keep going back and forth with my ex. Every time I say I'm done, boom, a few weeks later I'm back at his apartment. He has told me that he does not want a relationship right now and isn't ready to get back together. He claims needs to figure out ...
A. 7 October 2014: I read your letter with deep understanding and know how you are feeling and it so difficult for you to walk away.But at the sametime would you not give be gentle with yourself and give yourself some time and space and be objective about your own ... (read in full...)
What should I do, the lack of communication has me confused!
Q. 6 months ago i went on a trip around europe for 3 weeks. I met a man and we continued to keep in touch after i left the trip. I live in Canada, he lives in England. When I returned home initially we talked a regularly. he even surprised me by calli...
A. 7 October 2014: I can understand why your confused over the lack of communication but it would be no harm to send him a msg and find out what is going on.That way you will know for sure .However take into account that he maybe treating your encounter with him in a ... (read in full...)
I snooped ... and I think he's cheated on me!
Q. I know what I did is bad, but I think what I found is worse... I snooped on my boyfriend's facebook account and found him talking to an ex flame which he told me they're just friends now... I would like a stranger's opinion on whether these...
A. 6 October 2014: I know this must be hurtful.But you are right there is no way your boyfriend can explain himself out of these messsages as you say they are in Black and White.Just confront him and state that you know about these messages.Before you do that decide ... (read in full...)
They say that opposites attract and you can complete each other, but is that too optimistic?
Q. Hello. I need some help in figuring out if opposites really do attract. I'm 18 and I'm starting to like someone who I probably wouldn't usually befriend, not for any negative reasons, but just because we're very different. For example, I like ...
A. 6 October 2014: I think the fact that you question the situation would mean that you yourself have doubts.One thing that you have going for you is that you can be very OBJECTIVE over the situation.The ONLY way this would work is if you both ACCEPTED each other as ... (read in full...)
My Husband sent a text to another girl in the middle of the night ...
Q. I have a very simple question. Should I be worried? I got off work today to find a fb message from a girl my husband used to be friends with. It had a picture of a iPhone convo and her message to me read "this is not the first time your husban...
A. 5 October 2014: I know you must feel very upset and hurt over your husband behaviour.First i would have an indept chat with your husband over his hurtful behaviour towards you.He must be made aware that its not the DONE THING THING for a husband to text another ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with this girl? Is she playing me?
Q. Ok... So basically at work, we had this national conference (a place to mingle). Anyways I went to work the next day at my local branch, and received an email from this girl who I noticed was at the conference. Asking if I enjoyed it. This was a ...
A. 4 October 2014: With texting all the time and not meeting can put a strain on the friendship. However there is a possible that she may have met someome else or maybe she is wondering why you did not suggest a meeting. Now you know the tone of your texts so the ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with this girl? Is she playing me?
Q. Ok... So basically at work, we had this national conference (a place to mingle). Anyways I went to work the next day at my local branch, and received an email from this girl who I noticed was at the conference. Asking if I enjoyed it. This was a ...
A. 4 October 2014: With texting all the time and not meeting can put a strain on the friendship. However there is a possible that she may have met someome else or maybe she is wondering why you did not suggest a meeting. Now you know the tone of your texts so the ... (read in full...)
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