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writes:hi. i had a dream that my boyfriend wants to sleep with his ex girlfriend while in relationship with me.we have been together for about 6 years now. he tells me in the dream that it will be healthy for our relationship to explore in that way and he will only go to her, have sex and leav thers no emotional attachments its just for fun.in the dream i feel so hurt and unwanted these feelings feel so real.why would i dream this ,if anyone has any idea what this means please do tell.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (10 October 2014):
 I can help you with the meanings of dreams. No, I'm not some mystic, but there is a sort of universal truth when it comes to dreams...
Dreams are your subconscious way of working out issues. They are also manifest of your secret fears and insecurities, as well as your deepest wishes and hopes.
You don't fully trust your boyfriend. It's possible that something either happened, or you have always had a thought that you got your BF by default, and that he still is into her.
Either way, you're hurt because the dream was not only vivid, but spoke to real existing fears.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (10 October 2014):
 Dreams don't have some ominious meaning, it doesn't predict the future or mean anything like this will ever happen. Dreams are whatever is on your mind, your fears and your subconscious. Do you fear he still has feelings for his ex? Are you having problems in your sex life that are worrying you? Are you scared he is having an issue with your sex life or relationship and it manisfested itself in a dream where he was looking elsewhere for 'fun'? Dreams can feel very real and stick with you for days afterwards. Don't take this out on your boyfriend though whatever you do, he can't control your dreams. Get to the root of why you would come up with this scenario in your head. And remember, it's all in your head.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (10 October 2014):
 From what I remember from reading Sigmond Freaud's books, the subconcious is in charge of dreams. Ergo, yoursubconcious is hold a grudge or doesn't trust the bf. The Ego and the Id have lots of exchanges in the brain overnight, so the Id might be suspicious while the Ego is trusting. Dreams are fun sometimes, you can even control them st times by directing the anxiety during the dream. It's realy a facinating subject that I wish I knew more about.In the meantime, try to avoid stimulants before bedtime until yo can have sucess in the dream manipulation process. Good Luck
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (10 October 2014):
The good thing about dreams are they are only DREAMS but i can understand how hurtful after that dream .You might feel insecure about with your boyfriend and unsure if he is still incontact with his ex-girlfriend.Do have an indept chat with your boyfriend on this level and that might put your mind at rest. Kind wishes. NORA B.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2014): Honestly, it means nothing. It doesn't mean he's thinking about doing that. Dreams do not tell the future. Sometimes they are not pleasent... instead they are nightmares our worst fears.
I've had my share of messed up dreams. One was similar to yours in which my boyfriend said he cheated on me. But this holds no real value, because I've also had dreams where my mom killed me and nazi zombies!
The mind is a cruel thing. Don't let it get to you.
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