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No replies yet... 1 June 2017: GET out there..It might be terrifying,but you need to broaden your social horizons.Go on line,join a club or go to a speed-dating night You will not find love in your living room.REVAMP your image;Ask a good friend to appraise your style.Do you need ...
CatFish, and tips to keep you safe
No replies yet... 10 May 2017: CatFish,has nothing to do with either Cats or Fish.As you will probably know ..CATFISH....is a person male/female who will put a fake profile on dating sites....and will contact many people or maybe just one and have a relationship be it ...
Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle
No replies yet... 22 October 2016: In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...
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Is he commitment phobic? He told me he loves me but then destroyed my trust in him. What's his problem?
Q. Hi, Would like some thoughts on the following... Dated a guy for two years and for the last seven months we have been going through a rough patch about living together. We arranged to sell our houses and live together. I sold mine first and ...
A. 15 April 2013: Thanks for the follow-up its not easy to say goodbye.But well done you .Wishing you a happy future .Nora B.... (read in full...)
Does she need more time, even if she says that she would like to be in a relationship with me?
Q. Dear community, here's my problem. There's this girl, I've always liked her (as a friend of course). One day, she broke up with her boyfriend (they've been together for three years). We started texting a lot, met several times, had a great g...
A. 15 April 2013: Thanks so much for the -follow up- it was much appreciated.Hopefully in the not too distance future you will meet a special lady and soulmate Wishing you happy future and thanks again.Kind regards Nora B.... (read in full...)
Does she need more time, even if she says that she would like to be in a relationship with me?
Q. Dear community, here's my problem. There's this girl, I've always liked her (as a friend of course). One day, she broke up with her boyfriend (they've been together for three years). We started texting a lot, met several times, had a great g...
A. 15 April 2013: Thanks so much for the -follow up- it was much appreciated.Hopefully in the not too distance future you will meet a special lady and soulmate Wishing you happy future and thanks again.Kind regards Nora B.... (read in full...)
How do I develop a social life again? I look after my Mom at home and I work as well. At the end of the day I'm tired.
Q. Hi I'm 24 years old.. And I'v been working for a year now but it has completely taken a toll on my social life! When I was a student I was very active,hang out with friends,go to a lounge..BUT now after work all I want to do is come back and sl...
A. 14 April 2013: Well done you and take great credit on the care of your mum she is THE BEST FRIEND YOU WILL EVER HAVE.However i can understand that your friends might get irritated if you keep refusing to go out with them.As you are so tired after work would you ... (read in full...)
My wife's sister hates her and we don't understand why
Q. My wife is 42 years old. Her sister is 43 years old. For reasons we don't understand, my sister-in-law hates my wife. I understand that they fought when they were little and throughout high school, but no singular event occurred my wife can poin...
A. 14 April 2013: In most families there are clashes of personalities between brothers and sisters and the parents dont even the the reason WHY.I suppose it what we call life.However this is very difficult for you to be stuck in the middle and hard to handle. While ... (read in full...)
Does she need more time, even if she says that she would like to be in a relationship with me?
Q. Dear community, here's my problem. There's this girl, I've always liked her (as a friend of course). One day, she broke up with her boyfriend (they've been together for three years). We started texting a lot, met several times, had a great g...
A. 14 April 2013: Yes she needs lots more time to heal after the break-up of her last relationship otherwise she will be on the rebound with you.However i would take things at a very slow pace.Im somewhat concerned on your part as well.As you stated that both of you ... (read in full...)
Is he commitment phobic? He told me he loves me but then destroyed my trust in him. What's his problem?
Q. Hi, Would like some thoughts on the following... Dated a guy for two years and for the last seven months we have been going through a rough patch about living together. We arranged to sell our houses and live together. I sold mine first and ...
A. 14 April 2013: This man does not know if he is coming or going and is very selfish and very hurtful and unfair to you at all levels.Dont let him use you when it suits him.Hopefully you will stsrt a NEW life with a man that loves and respects you.Tell this guy a ... (read in full...)
Seeing someone but attracted to someone else. Normal?
Q. Hi there i was just wondering if its normal to be in a relationship but be attracted to someone else?this might sound stupid but im quite worried about it.Im actually in love with another guy,Although i cant let go of my boyfriend, please help me?...
A. 10 April 2013: Yes its very Normal at your age to be attracted to other guys or in fact at any age .There must be something special about your bf as you want to stay with him .Young love is special so be gentle with yourself Kind Wishes Nora B.... (read in full...)
Turned off by my husbands hairy body, any advise how to tell him kindly to groom himself
Q. Hi, I am a newly married irl.I love my husband a lot but am not able to enjoy sex with him. One of the major reasons is that he has too much hair on his body.I have told him a few times that i don't like too much hair on his body and asked him to t...
A. 10 April 2013: Yes that is a very sensitive area to deal with and you have his male ego to consider.Maybe at a romantic moment you might say to your husband that you would be even Turned on more if he were a little less hairy.Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
I fall in love with woman that don't want me, why is it that I select the wrong ones to lose my heart?
Q. Why does my heart hurt so much? I'm 21 and I've fallen in love on three separate occasions. None of them ever reciprocated those emotions, and I'm fine with that, but I just feel so alone. Why wont it stop hurting, why does my heart feel like it's ...
A. 9 April 2013: Because your a warm loving sensitive man and you give your heart to soon.Stops the lights right Now please try and hold on to Falling in love untill you are sure that your feelings are returned by a girlfriend.Give it time and the hurt will heal and ... (read in full...)
How do I get my BF to stop living with his parents and marry me and contribute more financially?
Q. My bf and i have been together for just over four years. He knows I eventually want marriage and a family. I am in my late 20s and he is early 30's so we are at that age to seriously start thinking about it etc. He jokes around, but he is probab...
A. 9 April 2013: Your boyfriend wants it all his own way he has no idea of the meaning of the word COMPROMISE-this is a two way situation or if you like give and take but with him its his way or no way..With regards to expenses he would to pay his share perhaps ... (read in full...)
After a bad dating experience I don't trust easily. How can I found out more about someone I am dating?
Q. Hey everyone, I am 24 years old,about 4 years ago I met a guy at a place I go to jog every morning..we clicked and we started dating,he met my family,friends..but its only later I found out that he was married and has a child I was shocked,...
A. 8 April 2013: I can understand your situation and your problem with trust since your unhappy experience with you ex-boyfriend.First of all i would ask your boyfriend questions like where he grew up-if he has brothers sisters.are his parents alive and where do ... (read in full...)
Is he starting to like me again?
Q. So there is this guy I have some history with and it didnt last that long back then. Kinda a very rushed little fling. But now we seem to be trying again, least that what I think. People are noticing except for him and I. So I need some opinions to ...
A. 8 April 2013: Yes he certainly likes you-but as a friend or girlfriend would be difficult to know. So enjoy his company thread with care and let him make the First move.However if this friendly friend continues and you want more might be a good idea to ask him. ... (read in full...)
Should I just try to adjust to his moods? My Bf is just not very showy when it comes to feelings
Q. I am so in love with my new boyfriend (we've been together for 2 months) but there's a small problem. He's just not very showy when it comes to feelings. Don't get me wrong, he can be incredibly sweet - he comes to my place when I'm sick and brin...
A. 8 April 2013: Some people are warmer than others and able to show their feelings-other like your boyfriend are a little slower but that is not to say they dont have feelings for you.Your boyfriend seems very nice and i have no doubt with your loving and ... (read in full...)
Is it that he's too possessive? Or is it more serious? Could it be that he is an abusive partner?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about two years now. We work together in a fast food restaurant and that's basically how we got together. It's weird because when we have good days he's perfect and then a bad day comes along and it's hor...
A. 8 April 2013: Well you have a very difficult and sensitive situation to handle and that is not easy on you. First of all your boyfriend seems to have a Big problem with trust I feel on this issue HE might consider going to a counsellor and getting some help.Also ... (read in full...)
Our sex life ended 18 months ago and there are no signs of improvement, should I leave him?
Q. hi, ive been seeing my bf for nearly 3 years. firstly, we are both very healthy and have no problems sexually with being able to perform or participate in sex so we don't need to see doctors. sorry but I needed to say that so that nobody sugg...
A. 3 April 2013: As you stated you dont like being kept on a string.However i do feel he is your Best friend and i also think that your boyfriend thinks only as being a friend to you.With respect to you he shows no desire for you and after 18 months -IT is Time to ... (read in full...)
Can I get my girlfriend back even though she doesn't want anything to do with me?
Q. Has anyone ever wanted their girlfriend back when she didn't want anything to do with you and got her back? If so, how, because I really love my ex and she doesn't seem to like me at all for no reason and I would do pretty much anything to get her ...
A. 1 April 2013: This is painful for you and difficult to handle because you love her so.But please allow yourself time and space without trying to get her back and think what is the point in trying to get her back when she does Not want to come back.Would you ... (read in full...)
I've just found out he has a baby son! He never told me!
Q. I have been seeing a guy casually for nearly a year and a half now. I am developing strong feelings for him but now I have just found out that prior to meeting me he got a girl pregnant and had a baby son. I found out from one of his friends not him ...
A. 1 April 2013: Yes i can understand that you upset and angry with this guy that you have been seeing for nearly a year and a half.There is only one approach-ask him straight out and the reason that he did not tell you.Keeping in mind that you dont know how this ... (read in full...)
I'm shy and have a big crush on a guy at the store. What can I do?
Q. I have a big crush on this guy at the store I want to ask him to lunch but I'm so shy I told him he was really funny after never spoke to him again and ever since he stares at me when I walk by I turn so red and he talks t everyone but me I'm lost...
A. 31 March 2013: Maybe he is very sensitive guy and did not like your remark that he was funny.The next time he walks past you.Just give him a cheerful hello with a smile and see what happens.Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
My deployed Bf does not trust me anymore. How can I make things better between us?
Q. Hey , I have been with my deployed boyfriend one year and half . We had a great time sure it were a lot up and downs like everyone else. I do love him so much and want to work out things . It just he seems still hurt from his past... And he d...
A. 31 March 2013: When someone has been hurt in the past it takes time to heal.Some people take longer than others as we are all different how we deal with situation.He is very lucky to have someone like you that loves him so much.Give him time and just keep loving ... (read in full...)
My man's mega spend on liquor. How can I address this casually while still voicing my concerns?
Q. My husband enjoys drinking beer and will have 3 cans most nights and more on the weekend. I have just discovered the supermarket has an offer on and he has went and bulk bought spending almost £350 on beer. I'm quite alarmed to the point of sic...
A. 31 March 2013: Yes i can understand your concern and your in a very difficult situation.Would you consider your husband to be on the way to having a drink problem.Maybe it might be a good idea for you to go first to a counsellor and discuss his problem and asking ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to be alone with another man before I join them for a threesome
Q. I have been married for 4 years, we have 2 kids together. A couple of months ago she wanted to try a threesome (mmf) with one of our friends (a 23 year old guy). it was not that bad, but its like it has been going on every month. Today she aske...
A. 30 March 2013: Would you consider having an indept chat with your wife about your relationship.Ask her straight out why she wants to be alone with this guy before you join them.The problem with a threesome is that sometimes one person gets hurt.Kind Wishes Nora B.... (read in full...)
How do I approach my girlfriend about losing weight?
Q. In the 3 years we have been together my GF has been slowly letting herself go physically to the point where I no longer find her attractive. When we met in college, she was more physically active on a daily basis but now she has an office job wh...
A. 30 March 2013: YOU are right this is a very SENSITIVE ISSUE and must be handled in such a way that will not hurt your girl and get the required results.As you stated you are near breaking point this is not a happy place to be.So please for your relationship you ... (read in full...)
He hasn't tried to hold my hand nor kiss me or anything. Should I believe him when he says he wants to be more than just a friend?
Q. A few weeks ago I met a guy and we have been hanging out 2-3 times a week since then. I'm very confused by him though. In the few short weeks we've known each other, I've met his family, we made plans months in advance, we are doing couple things b...
A. 29 March 2013: He seems a very nice boyfriend who respects you.Maybe he is just taking things SLOW maybe this is his way.Give him more time and see what happens.Yes i would believe him when he says he wants to be more than just friends.Because he did not have to ... (read in full...)
Is he just not into me or could there be a real reason for not contacting me for a few days?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now, he's a few years older than me so I don't know if this is normal behaviour as I'm not used to dating! On all our dates we've had a lot of fun, enjoy each others' company, he's always such a ge...
A. 29 March 2013: Really delighted for you.Hope everything works out for you both.Thanks for the follow-up.Best Luck for the future.Nora B.... (read in full...)
Is he just not into me or could there be a real reason for not contacting me for a few days?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now, he's a few years older than me so I don't know if this is normal behaviour as I'm not used to dating! On all our dates we've had a lot of fun, enjoy each others' company, he's always such a ge...
A. 29 March 2013: Really delighted for you.Hope everything works out for you both.Thanks for the follow-up.Best Luck for the future.Nora B.... (read in full...)
My BF was still hung up on his ex when we got together and I feel resentful. How can I get over it?
Q. Are breaks in a relationship ever a good idea? Just to give some background: my bf and I have been together ten months. We love each other, we've been honest with each other, we trust each other, and we want to make this relationship wor...
A. 28 March 2013: If you really Want this relationship to work you will have to fine inner TRUST to really trust your boyfriend and for you to have peace of mind.This will not be easy for you but as you say you love your boyfriend and he is a good man.I dont think a ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have no other choice. He's unwilling to change. What can I do to salvage this relationship?
Q. I dont know what I can do to salvage our relationship. I have been in this relationship for 6 years now. At the beginning everything was great. Then we took the next step and I moved 5 hours away to live with him and his 5yr old daughter. Things...
A. 28 March 2013: After all that time and your son and as you still love him but not his behaviour.Would you consider having an indept chat with him and tell him you still love him but would need his help to make this relationship work.Also would you ask him to go to ... (read in full...)
Is he just not into me or could there be a real reason for not contacting me for a few days?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now, he's a few years older than me so I don't know if this is normal behaviour as I'm not used to dating! On all our dates we've had a lot of fun, enjoy each others' company, he's always such a ge...
A. 27 March 2013: Well this boyfriend of yours sounds very nice and has much respect for you. As the lack of contact from him seems to be causing you some stress.Yes i would give him a call and ask him how he is but would keep it light. Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
Should I keep dating a man who moved to the same state as his ex to be with his son?
Q. should I wait for or leave a man that is in another state with his son and his son's mother even though he tells me nothing is going on? but he moved from one state with a job to the state that she's from he says to be closer to his son? ...
A. 27 March 2013: I think it would depend on the relationship you had with this man and also the promises that were made on his side.Its possible that he moved to be closer only to his son.More so the question is DO YOU TRUST THIS MAN .Only You can answer this ... (read in full...)
I asked about our relationship status and it comes out that he thinks we should just call ourselves 'friends'! I'm totally heartbroken, should I just say good riddance?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a little over a year now and everything seemed to be going well and the relationship was definitely progressing. Because we're long distance however we don't see each other as much as we'd like (but up until this point ...
A. 26 March 2013: Long distance romance is always very difficult but most hurtful when you are told You are just friends. No way contact him if he wants to contact you he will.I think it might be a good idea to see other men and live and enjoy your life.If he calls ... (read in full...)
Does he really love me at all? I think I should break up with him because he is not the same person anymore...
Q. I'm 22yrs and my guy is 26 plus we've been dating getting to 4 years, we both love each other very much, he calls, pays me visit at my place of work, he treat me well each time i pay him visit. each time i log in my facebook now if he is online he ...
A. 26 March 2013: This is very painful for you and very unfair of your boyfriend.No point in this sort of behaviour to continue and waste your time.Have an indept chat with him and ask him outright What is the real situation between you Have informed information from ... (read in full...)
How do I handle an annoying older co worker?
Q. Hello, So I have a co-worker who is rather annoying and I'm not quite sure how to handle it. He is an older gentlemen (50s) who sits in the cubicle across from me. He is a nice enough person but will always walk over to my cubicle, ask wha...
A. 26 March 2013: Well if your friends at the office said his behaviour was strange and that you should avoid him Maybe they know more than there saying i would probe them more about this situation and see what you can fine out.If you cant find any information out ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend about a drunken fumble with her boyfriend?
Q. I recently went on a weekend away with my boyfriend, two of my friends and their boyfriends. We always go out as a group and all get along really well. One night we was playing drinking games and everyone ended up naked. This is the first time ...
A. 25 March 2013: First piece of advise i would give you is-that it it never Wise but could but you in danger to be only able to remember portion of the night because you were so drunk.Re- your friend I would Not tell her AS THIS ONLY HAPPENED ONCE and when you ... (read in full...)
I want a healthy relationship, so why am I attracted to unattainable or unavailable older or married men? How can I stop doing this?
Q. I have a major problem and I have no idea how to fix this. I am only attracted to older men I can't have. For example, people in authority or married men. I don't express this to them and I end up beating myself up about it. I haven't been in a re...
A. 24 March 2013: Life is like that we want what we cant have it adds to the excitement.Its o k to go for older SINGLE men within reason of the age gap.But you would be hurt very much if you got involved with a married man.So quit while your ahead JUST DONT GO ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my fiance lying about porn?
Q. when me and my boyfriend started dated we made it very clear what we expect from each other. Together we made the commitment to be a christian couple and live that kind of life. I just had a baby with him and he asked me to marry him, i said yes, ...
A. 23 March 2013: AS you are regretting saying yes when he asked you to marry him.Maybe it would be wise for you to take more TIME.to reconsider. He knows that it upsets you when you fine out that he has been watching porn.This is very unfair on you and selfish on ... (read in full...)
I want to end this affair with a married man feeling strong and independent. How do I do this?
Q. Basically I have been having an affair with a married man for almost a year now, Despite being pretty attached by now i've finally found the strength to accept that things are never going to happen with us and want to re-gain my self-respect and end ...
A. 23 March 2013: Well done you its now the END of the affair.I would advise you to just let him know in a very firm manner that you are moving on with your life.NO CONTACT at any level after that.Be gentle with yourself take time and space to heal.Then look forward ... (read in full...)
Please, how do I get my high teacher off my mind?
Q. My old English teacher is in my high school now. Since I was in 7th grade I have liked her, but now in high school, I know I really like her, as a crush. I don’t really recall being gay or bi, but I do have a gay feelings for her. I really do li...
A. 23 March 2013: This is a very sensitive situation for you to be in and not very easy to handle. Would you consider going to a counsellor and having an indept chat with her. This would be of great help to you.Best Wishes Nora B.... (read in full...)
Please, how do I get my high teacher off my mind?
Q. My old English teacher is in my high school now. Since I was in 7th grade I have liked her, but now in high school, I know I really like her, as a crush. I don’t really recall being gay or bi, but I do have a gay feelings for her. I really do li...
A. 23 March 2013: This is a very sensitive situation for you to be in and not very easy to handle. Would you consider going to a counsellor and having an indept chat with her. This would be of great help to you.Best Wishes Nora B.... (read in full...)
Can a single mom with 2 kids consider a military job?
Q. I apologize that this question isn't about dating. I'm not currently dating, as I'm focused more so on my future. Here's my situation: I'm 31, divorced, two kids... and contemplating joining the military. Is that crazy??? The job market is rough and ...
A. 23 March 2013: IM SO SORRY- I meant to say NO YOU ARE NOT CRAZY. Kind Regards. Nora B.... (read in full...)
Can a single mom with 2 kids consider a military job?
Q. I apologize that this question isn't about dating. I'm not currently dating, as I'm focused more so on my future. Here's my situation: I'm 31, divorced, two kids... and contemplating joining the military. Is that crazy??? The job market is rough and ...
A. 23 March 2013: NO YOU ARE CRAZY -Go for it .I wish you the very best of luck.Your children will be very proud of you and you will have a secure future.Remember its never to late to start.While i cant give you any tips on the military job.I wish you all the Best ... (read in full...)
Can a single mom with 2 kids consider a military job?
Q. I apologize that this question isn't about dating. I'm not currently dating, as I'm focused more so on my future. Here's my situation: I'm 31, divorced, two kids... and contemplating joining the military. Is that crazy??? The job market is rough and ...
A. 23 March 2013: NO YOU ARE CRAZY -Go for it .I wish you the very best of luck.Your children will be very proud of you and you will have a secure future.Remember its never to late to start.While i cant give you any tips on the military job.I wish you all the Best ... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend I don't have money for an Ipad, then he stopped talking to me.
Q. Dear cupid My bf of 3 years is asking me to buy him new iPad for his birthday, I don't have that kind of money and I cannot afford it. He never bought me anything for my b'day and I never really made an issue out of it. I told him I cannot ...
A. 23 March 2013: Please remember its the thought that counts in the giving of any gift NOT THE PRICE.Your boyfriend is very selfish and mean to expect you to buy him an iPAD.First of all your boyfriend maybe be a user.As he seems to have lost interest in you with ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend his lateness is driving me mad?
Q. Hello all I think my bf has issues with time management. He's a lovely guy and he tries his best to spend time with me despite his busy schedule. Sometimes when he says he would call at a certain time, he ends up calling an hour later. I wish he ...
A. 21 March 2013: Just sit down with your boyfriend and tell him how frustrated you are with his LACK of punctuality and ask him to send you text if he cant meet you at a certain time that was arranged.Leave him in no doubt how you feel on this level.Hopefully things ... (read in full...)
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