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No replies yet... 1 June 2017: GET out there..It might be terrifying,but you need to broaden your social horizons.Go on line,join a club or go to a speed-dating night You will not find love in your living room.REVAMP your image;Ask a good friend to appraise your style.Do you need ...
CatFish, and tips to keep you safe
No replies yet... 10 May 2017: CatFish,has nothing to do with either Cats or Fish.As you will probably know ..CATFISH....is a person male/female who will put a fake profile on dating sites....and will contact many people or maybe just one and have a relationship be it ...
Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle
No replies yet... 22 October 2016: In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...
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I remind him of his mom.. good or bad??
Q. Dear Cupids, I am presently seeing a guy . Its been 3 weeks now. We have a great time , being around each other. We communicate on a broad spectrum of topics. Recently, he has been going through some rough patches and I have been helping him to s...
A. 1 November 2015: As you say he has being going through some rough patches and he was lucky to have your helping hand.Its difficult to know exacly what he means re- remark about his mother.[1]He admires his mum and talks a lot about her-that is positive[2]He may ... (read in full...)
How on earth do I bring this crush under control?
Q. I am obsessed with my uni lecturer! Infatuated, and cannot stop thinking about him! This is very embarrassing for me to admit because I am almost 30 and have been in a relationship for 9 years. I am sure my lecturer must realise how I feel...
A. 28 October 2015: You are not the first nor will you be the last student to have a crush on the lecturer that is teaching you at the moment.I know it must be painful and difficult to deal with and so i would ask you to consider having a chat with a counsellor on this ... (read in full...)
I am comparing every man to my ex. How can I move on?
Q. About seven months ago, my boyfriend of three years broke up with me completely out of the blue. There were no warning signs whatsoever so it really rocked me. We had been living together for two years and were about to move into a new house and he ...
A. 27 October 2015: This is a very painful siuation for you and its not easy to deal with.But please just for a moment-take a few steps back and look at the situation in an cool manner.[1]After wonderful years with you- he just left-on his side this was very cruel to ... (read in full...)
Do I continue on and hope he will grow up? Or is it time to end our relationship?
Q. I feel stupid even writing this. I have been with my partner for over 5 and half years. I have a child from a previous relationship. My child is 10. I do love my partner but he is so immature. He is 32, i am 31. I feel like i behave more like...
A. 27 October 2015: You have ONE CHILD and a second child aged 32.NO he is not going to change-You deserve a mature man in your life and to feel loved as a woman.DONT waste any more Time.Move on and find that special love .Best wishes NORA B,... (read in full...)
Is there a possibility for someone like my husband can change?
Q. Dear Cupid. I have been living with my husband for 7 years now. For past 2 yrs things have been a roller coaster. I have left twice just for 5 wks at least to get a break from him and his tantrums. The first time I left I took our two kids with...
A. 22 October 2015: First of all this is a sad situation for you both that things have got to this stage.However the children here are being most affected- because they will pick up on the tension in the home and this cannot be allowed to go on for their sake.Something ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of this man's behavior!
Q. Actually I am in a trouble. Opposite to my PG one guy is staring. At the very first time he used to stare at me and one night he was coming along with his friends and i was talking on phone he called me by making some noise. I got scared and ran ...
A. 22 October 2015: Reading your letter i would understand that this man and you are just saying -hello-nothing more so this would not be considered a relationship.However if you are scared of this man maybe you would consider Not saying hello at all.As he seems to ... (read in full...)
No matter how much I show him the moment I don't it's like everything else I do isn't good enough
Q. My boyfriend gets upset/frustrated with me when I don't give him a hug or cuddles because he wants me to show him some love. I'm not like him because I like my space and I don't really like cuddles all of the time. It's not the case at all that I ...
A. 20 October 2015: It would be a good idea to sit down and have an indept chat with your man and tell him just how you feel and that you need space.Some people need more love than others.When you dont give him a hug he feels rejected and hurt-so just explain that you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been in his cave for too long! Help!
Q. I've been in a 'relationship' with my long distance boyfriend for only 4 weeks. He is great; smart, funny, sexy, interesting and we both feel a definite connection. The first 2 weeks, although long distance, over the phone chatting were amazing. I ...
A. 19 October 2015: Yes i can understand your fear that he may not come back to you.But to be fair he is a very busy man between studying and work and after all that 90 mins at that stage would seem to him to far.Remember the man will only come out of the cave when he ... (read in full...)
Why does he prefer to masturbate than have sexual things with me?
Q. Why does he prefer to masturbate than have sexual things with me? I know it's natural for everyone but it makes me feel rejected because then hw doesn't want anything from me. It makes me feel sick. I don't want to feel bad about him doing it. What ...
A. 19 October 2015: That is a very hurtful situation for you and very unfair.You will have to have an indept chat with him and tell him how you feel and ask him the reason why he behaviours that way.This must be talked out immediately,because it has caused you a lot ... (read in full...)
Went on a date, it went very well, now he's not messaging back, what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I went on a date with a guy just over a week ago and completely hit it off with him. I could tell he was quite bowled over with me and was very complimentary and we had a lovely time. He said he wanted to see me again but I w...
A. 18 October 2015: You did nothing at all-but maybe he to sensed like you that things did not flow as easily as the first time and perhaps he is quiet sensitive. Im nor suggesting that you chase after him.But one note to him stating that you would enjoy his company at ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is sending me screenshots about him cheating! Help!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly three years now. He has a kid with another girl. I love him so much and thought he was the one until tonight whenI got a bunch of screenshots of texts from his kid's mom about them hooking up. Apparently they ...
A. 18 October 2015: Yes it must have been just greadful painful for you receiving those screenshots and your finding it diffult to sort things out in your head.But hold on -you love him and you have been together for 3 years-that must count for something.So why not ... (read in full...)
Do I sacrifice the dream of an amazing connection with someone that may never happen or do I stay knowing that will never happen with my husband?
Q. I have been married 20 years and am feeling totally conflicted qs to whether to stay or go out into the world on my own now our Holden are grown My husband is a good man and we get on well. We also have sex that is ok but I would t call it passiona...
A. 16 October 2015: In the 40s if you are not happy it is a very difficult time.Because at this age we stand back and view our situation at all levels.be it money or the type of house we live in.e.c.t.We question our achievements at all levels and particular our ... (read in full...)
I want to overcome my fear of starting a conversation with him.
Q. i don't have a lot of relationship experience. It has taken me some time to figure out what it is I want out of life…one thing is to get married! currently, i think i like this guy but i seem to be unable to give off any signs that i like him…i ...
A. 12 April 2015: Well you have written a very nice letter which proves you have lots to say.I do understand that it is quiet more dificult for you with this man that you like.Remember it takes two so my suggestion is -Give him a smile and a cheery Good ... (read in full...)
I feel my boyfriend has just given up on getting a job and I'm tired of paying for everything!
Q. My boyfriend is very on and off with jobs but now it's gotten to a point where he is unable to take me out anymore. When i first met him he was working hard at two jobs. He moved to an area where it is very isolated, no bus and he had no car. We ...
A. 12 April 2015: STOP STOP.You have been OVER generous and now he is taking advantage of your kindness.First of all its up to him what he wants to do over his job offer and his credit.Consider having an indept chat with him pointing out how you feel about paying for ... (read in full...)
Colleague turned off by platonic comment I made?
Q. I was talking to a male colleague about keeping in touch when he leaves for vacation. I joking said, "you're not going to blow me off if I try to reach out to you over the next few weeks?" and he became really uptight and offended. He just ended the ...
A. 12 April 2015: No i dont think this had anything to do with your race at all.Rather that he has a up-tight not very nice manner.If someone takes offence at the least comment it would be very difficult to have either a friend/boyfriend with a personaility like ... (read in full...)
We never talk but he looks at me. Does he like me?
Q. There is a guy that always make eye contact. Not just an eye contact but there is something behind his stares. My friends always catch him staring at me when ever he's around. He used to always come to school early but after he noticed me he comes ...
A. 20 March 2015: Yes he does like you but as you say he is rather shy and so are you.Why not give him a friendly hello and start to chat about your artwork or something he might be interested in.A nice smile and a friendly hello maybe just what he needs. So Best ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help myself move on and feel better about this one night stand?
Q. I had a one night stand at the weekend with a friend of a friend. I found him very sexy and I was very glad for it happening. It was good sex and it had been a while for both of us, so it was a positive experience. However we were both very drunk, ...
A. 11 March 2015: ThankS for your follow-up it was very kind of you.Another ides would be would you consider having pen-friends,its always great in sharing and getting their letters.But it will pass just give it a little time .Take care Kind wishes NORA B.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still talks to another girl. This bothers me!
Q. i have a boyfriend and we have been together almost a year. i love him so much and i know he loves me, but the problem is that i just found out that he had a ex girlfriend name Claire and they r friends and they still talk. i don't want him to tell ...
A. 11 March 2015: When you know that he loves you you must try and trust him as well.Dont do anything or it could cause trouble Play it cool ,keep your EYES wide open and enjoy your boyfriend.After all she is his ex and your his present. Sometimes silence is golden ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help myself move on and feel better about this one night stand?
Q. I had a one night stand at the weekend with a friend of a friend. I found him very sexy and I was very glad for it happening. It was good sex and it had been a while for both of us, so it was a positive experience. However we were both very drunk, ...
A. 11 March 2015: That is the problem with one night stands-that is just all they are and while i can understand you were hoping that it might develope into something special ,more that often they dont.However it will pass and by writing this letter means you are ... (read in full...)
He reminds me of my father. Should I continue with this Bf and just hope for the best?
Q. I can't bear it anymore! I love my BF but he reminds me my father so much that I am afraid that one day I'll find out I live with the person I hated whole my childhood (and moved from him before finishing school) because of unbearable psycholo...
A. 1 March 2015: Im sorry to hear you had such a stressful time with your father-but the main thing is that your aware of it.The flash backs to our past[in this case your father] are the greaest threat to our present and future.First of all would you consider going ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad person to feel the need to talk to other men ?
Q. My partner and I have been together for years now but it's always me that puts in effort, including a normal conversation. I get excited to see him after we both work and to share our days with each other but it's always me to ask how was your day? ...
A. 1 March 2015: No your not a bad person at all,but i feel a lonely and confused one.No need to talk to other men just sit down and have an indept chat with your boyfriend telling him how you feeland that a relationship is a Two-Way situation and that both people ... (read in full...)
Sleeping with the ex but I'm demanding more respect
Q. Just to start off, I'm a 30 yr old female and single. For the past two years I've been sleeping with my ex (37). He took my virginity exactly 15 yrs ago and we always been hooking up on and off. I have been celibate since 2008 due to low self esteem ...
A. 28 February 2015: You seem a nice girl needing love and respect but going around it the wrong way .First of all this man is simply and only using you for sex.He is not doing you any favours and is treating you in a most dreadful way.Be positive delete this man from ... (read in full...)
He said it's not me and not personal.
Q. My 38 year old boyfriend of a year is a bit introvert and was dyslexic and I suspect slightly ADD. He gets very focused on work and projects at his house. He shows me he cares with practical things. I'm struggling to feel wanted and cherished wh...
A. 28 February 2015: Yes i can understand your situation very well and its not easy for you.However your boyfriend seems to be a very nice person.As you know some men/women have different levels of a sex drive.For example some have a high sex drive others a medium sex ... (read in full...)
She is seeing someone else, should I continue with her or not bother?
Q. I met this incredible girl we share a lot of the same interests. From the beginning she stared she is seeing someone else, we spent Valentine's Day together and then spent the following Saturday cuddling and watching movies. Then broke contact for a ...
A. 28 February 2015: First of all this girl has been very honest with you and has told you she likes dating many guys and is not ready to commit to one.So in other words she has not met the -ONE- as yet.Right now its going no-where as you are one of many.Now if you want ... (read in full...)
What are some ways I can make extra income?
Q. Hello! I have a bit of a problem and hope you guys can help. For the past two years I've had a full time job working a 2PM-10PM shift. However, it's just not enough to make ends meet. I need more money. The question is what should I do to b...
A. 19 February 2015: WELL fair play to you looking form more work. One or two suggestions here [1] Would you consider doing SURVEYS-ON-LINE ? [2]aS A CARER TO A ELDERELY WOMAN .a couple of hours a day. Happy job hunting.Best wishes NORA B,... (read in full...)
Can I ever win him back or is that unrealistic? I'd like another chance to reconnect. What can I do?
Q. Okay I feel like an idiot even writing this but I need other peoples insight. I was with my ex for 6 years, I have borderline personality disorder which caused alot of stress and fights and I believe ultimately was the ending of our relation...
A. 18 February 2015: you sound like a very nice caring person who had a lot to deal with on a mental level and from my reading of the letter you are doing quiet well That why its so important not to have any stress or hurt in your life.Your ex-boyfriend is still with ... (read in full...)
Did he use me? My married lover just stopped seeing me
Q. So I know that what I have been doing is wrong. I wholeheartedly know this. I just feel sometimes you cannot help who you have a real connection with. This is my situation in a nut shell; I am now 26. When I was 18/19 I used to work for a l...
A. 18 February 2015: You are not the first girl/woman to be atractive to an older married man and you wont be the last.Martried men are quiet expert in chatting up younger girls and they know the right buttons to press.He got a lot of pleasure from kissing you.Now i ... (read in full...)
Committed or not?
Q. I am 27 years old my BF is the Same Age. We have been in this relationship 3 years total and 1 year living together. So far everything is good. I have my doubts. He seems to be prolonging marriage and kids. He tells me on it's time it will come. I ...
A. 18 February 2015: I CAN UNDERSTAND YOUR CONCERNS.But what do you feel about this relationship ? It just good friends or a in-love situation.Are you sure you know what your boyfriend thinks.Do sit down with him and have an indept chat and if he mentions that marraige ... (read in full...)
My wife can't see that her friends are bad for her.
Q. My wife has very poor taste in friends. They do not treat her like a friend at all. They spread rumors and try to undermine anything she does, like telling her boss she shouldn't get a promotion. I try to sit idly by until I just can't stand it ...
A. 15 February 2015: i can understand your concern with your wife and her so- called friends. First of all if a boss cant make decision for himself/herself regards then he/she is not fit to be a boss.At this stage would you consider talking your wife into going to a ... (read in full...)
My feelings for long distance friend is affecting my feelings for my boyfriend
Q. I have had a boyfriend for almost 2 years. 3-4 years ago i met an american man on holiday and ever since he went back to america we have spoken every day for the last 3-4 years just as friends. We have told eachother that we have feelings for one ...
A. 14 February 2015: Well i feel that by your own statement-that you cant stay with your boyfriend -you have in fact answered your own question.However remember re your friend in a AMERICA.that hills are greener far away.Dont do anything in a hurry and it might be a ... (read in full...)
My feelings for long distance friend is affecting my feelings for my boyfriend
Q. I have had a boyfriend for almost 2 years. 3-4 years ago i met an american man on holiday and ever since he went back to america we have spoken every day for the last 3-4 years just as friends. We have told eachother that we have feelings for one ...
A. 14 February 2015: Well i feel that by your own statement-that you cant stay with your boyfriend -you have in fact answered your own question.However remember re your friend in a AMERICA.that hills are greener far away.Dont do anything in a hurry and it might be a ... (read in full...)
Is online flirting cheating?
Q. I am in a relationship with a wonderful person. He is 10 years older than me and I love the fact that he is more experienced and worldly wise than I am. I met him on facebook and we hit it off immediately. We are both abroad away from our families ...
A. 12 February 2015: Well this man wants his bread buttered both side.Give him a CHOICE- YOU-or ALL those other women.If he still wants all those women -Tell him goodbe and mean it Be positive Best wishes NORA B.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is impatient and short with me
Q. My boyfriend of a year has a father that treats his mother really badly. For that reason I have been mindful of how he treats me. When he gets stressed he raises his voice which to me happens every other week. He's very conscious of this and said ...
A. 12 February 2015: Your situation is not easy.Because your boyfriend has come from a unhappy home and would be stressed out of years of watching his dad being so unkind to his mum.Have no doubt this is having an effect on him and you are receiving the fall out of a ... (read in full...)
I'm finding it difficult to continue living in this atmosphere of deception.
Q. There was a period of five years in my present relationship, of 20 years, where sex stopped. For me, it was part of a larger package of the menopause, our teenage daughter's behaviour and my partner's semi-loss of potency. In October last year I ...
A. 12 February 2015: This is a dreadful sad situation for you to live in and you will get stressed in time.But you have 3 choices [1]You can sit down with him and have an idept chat about the whole situation.[2]Ask him perhaps to go to a counsellor with you and get help ... (read in full...)
My friend told me she loves me.
Q. I have a female friend that I have known for about a year. Even though we haven't known each other long we are pretty close. She lives hours away so I don't see her often, but we text and instant message each other almost every day if it is just ...
A. 11 February 2015: Well she is so lucky to have a friend like -one whom she can share the good and bad times with.As you stated you are not in love with her-and she is on the rebound from the married man.So she is hurting and confused in her feelings.It would be wise ... (read in full...)
At 54 is it too late to start over?
Q. My miserable boyfriend spends every weekend morning with his mother and weekend afternoons reading and napping. He refuses to travel, never shows affection, does little around the house and never suggests doing anything in term of leisure activity. ...
A. 8 February 2015: Its never to late to start and the sooner you meet someone who loves and appreciate a caring woman the better Life is a gift dont just waste it away with this man Life is for living.sharing,loving and having fun with a man who is able to return your ... (read in full...)
I was there for him and he still chose another girl
Q. Hi, So I've been dating this guy for a couple months. We made the offical date Nov 20 but its more like Dec 18. We had a thing going on between us (just making out and holding hands) but he never formally asked me out and I told him we aren't to...
A. 8 February 2015: Hi This is not a easy situation for you because he broke your TRUST.For you it will take time to heal and trust him again.I understand that when he is with you everything is fine,but once out of sight you are wondering -whats he up to-and that is ... (read in full...)
Goodbyes that aren't so sad, what does it mean?
Q. I've said goodbye to my first love and it ended up horribly. He said some very hurtful words and it took me 3 years to accept things as they are. We have kept separate lives since then. And yet there was another experience unlike the other...
A. 4 February 2015: What a beautiful account of your last -goodbye- to this man.Have you ever heard the saying ITS BETTER TO HAVE LOVED-THAN NOT LOVED AT ALL.There is no good-bye easy-because in fact you are saying good-bye to precious time of the past and a man that ... (read in full...)
How can we fix this? We want to fix it. My bf and I don't feel that our chemistry and our interactions are working well.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years. We are currently living together . He is working full time and I am studying a diploma. When we are together, often we don't feel that our chemistry and our interactions goes together...
A. 4 February 2015: Hi This is a difficult situation to be in and not easy to decide what to do for the best.However i note that you both have been living together for nearly 3 years.In that 3 years both of you would have grown grown as an individual.Hopefully you ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him with this other woman
Q. I want my prevent my husband from working for a female tennent. My husband is the repairs manager for a local housing authority. One of the female tennents has needed ALOT of repairs done to her home and my husband has visited her for every repair. ...
A. 17 January 2015: This is very difficult for you and i understand where your coming from.I would suggest that you have an indept with your husband re the situaton.However just a friendly chat and just mention that you noticed that he did the repair work rather than ... (read in full...)
She picks and finds fault with everything I do. What should I do?
Q. Recently got engaged to my partner and we have been living together for the past 6 months. Over the course of living together I have found she is a real knit picker and i'm feeling like anything I do is never good enough, even when I do what I c...
A. 7 January 2015: Thanks for your follow-up i read it with great interest.Its good that you had an open chat with her on this matter and as you stated you had chat at other times as well and then she went back to her to her old self .I HOPE ITS WORKS OUT FOR YOU ... (read in full...)
She picks and finds fault with everything I do. What should I do?
Q. Recently got engaged to my partner and we have been living together for the past 6 months. Over the course of living together I have found she is a real knit picker and i'm feeling like anything I do is never good enough, even when I do what I c...
A. 7 January 2015: That is very difficult for you to deal with and she has no right at all to be undermining you THIS IS NOT AN ACT OF LOVING SOMEONE.Now you might have heard of a saying-That you get treated the way you allow people to treat you.However this sort of ... (read in full...)
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