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No replies yet... 1 June 2017: GET out there..It might be terrifying,but you need to broaden your social horizons.Go on line,join a club or go to a speed-dating night You will not find love in your living room.REVAMP your image;Ask a good friend to appraise your style.Do you need ...
CatFish, and tips to keep you safe
No replies yet... 10 May 2017: CatFish,has nothing to do with either Cats or Fish.As you will probably know ..CATFISH....is a person male/female who will put a fake profile on dating sites....and will contact many people or maybe just one and have a relationship be it ...
Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle
No replies yet... 22 October 2016: In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...
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What's the deal with this girl? Is she playing me?
Q. Ok... So basically at work, we had this national conference (a place to mingle). Anyways I went to work the next day at my local branch, and received an email from this girl who I noticed was at the conference. Asking if I enjoyed it. This was a ...
A. 4 October 2014: With texting all the time and not meeting can put a strain on the friendship. However there is a possible that she may have met someome else or maybe she is wondering why you did not suggest a meeting. Now you know the tone of your texts so the ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with this girl? Is she playing me?
Q. Ok... So basically at work, we had this national conference (a place to mingle). Anyways I went to work the next day at my local branch, and received an email from this girl who I noticed was at the conference. Asking if I enjoyed it. This was a ...
A. 4 October 2014: With texting all the time and not meeting can put a strain on the friendship. However there is a possible that she may have met someome else or maybe she is wondering why you did not suggest a meeting. Now you know the tone of your texts so the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to forget her but I still love her!
Q. My age is 20 and my gf age is 16 nw. When i was 18 and she @ 14,our love started,and for 1 3by4 years,it went good,but also inbetween,we had ego clash,but none of us harassed each other,just small fights temperorarly and everythng comes to norm...
A. 4 October 2014: Hi i understad how hurt you must feel.But sometimes Young love does not last but it will always remain magical and special in your mind.But please try and move on with your life as your ex-girlfriend seems to have done that .Make new friends ,join ... (read in full...)
He seemed to be the "one". But now I feel guilty. Does this mean my feelings have changed?
Q. I had a boy friend from two years ago. We had so much fun he was my soul mate he taught me the meaning of love. We broke up because of some issues he had. He promised me that he will propose to me and we would get married, when the issues is resolv...
A. 6 September 2014: He was a special boy in your life and you will always remember him with fondness. But in the last 6 months you have matured and moved on and that is very good for you .Remember you will have many different kinds of love in your life before you meet ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he hinting around about marriage?
Q. Does it sound like he hinting around about marriage ? The hints: We live together We've been together for 2 1/2 years We share expenses We've talked about the future (I can't have no more babies but tells his friends we've talked about ...
A. 6 September 2014: YES YES YES He most certainly hinting at marraige-I would say he is on the verge of popping the question but just testing the water. Did you respond when to any of his hints.Give him time and space and he will ask when he is comfortable with it Best ... (read in full...)
What are the best options to get through these issues with my partner's 28 year old daughter?
Q. My partner's 28 year old daughter has never accepted me into her father's life. She pretends I don't exist. At first I would have done almost anything to get her to talk to me. Now 9 years on I don't care, but now she has decided to pop back int...
A. 6 September 2014: What a very sad and difficult position for you to be in.First of all you must be special to your partner if you both have lived 9 years together.So ask your partner to sit down and have an indept chat with him after all this is not your problem but ... (read in full...)
What is the answer to this problem? Lately, every single thing I do is always wrong in his eyes.
Q. i have been dating for 2 yrs. My boyfriend was a lovable person, cared, always show his feelings to me, and so on. But lately he was being so heartless, stubborn, never told how was his day even i asked to, everything has changed. I loved him so...
A. 6 September 2014: How very hurtful your boyfriends behaviour is to you and i understand how you feel.This sort of behaviour will continue if you allow it. So do have a long indept chat with your boyfriend explain first how unfair he is to you with such unkind ... (read in full...)
Can you really teach yourself to sing?
Q. How an earth is this possible.... My sister is 20 and I've known since we were little she can't sing, she usually signs around the house and it's not bad but she's not great either. Well she's been at uni for the past 8 months and has been teachin...
A. 29 August 2014: Well the first thing one has to have is a VOICE because all the teaching in the world would not give a person a singing voice unless they had one in the first place.But what a lovely surprise for you at the wedding.Maybe you have a singing voice and ... (read in full...)
My best friend keeps replacing me with other people!
Q. My best friend replaced me with my own sister. She also replaced me with my stepsister. I feel like the third wheel. She keeps saying that you should come join us and what not and then she always leaves me out! What should I do?!?!?!?!?...
A. 11 August 2014: First of all she is not your best friend the way she treats you in such an unkind way.Dont allow her to push you around.Would be best to find a new friend who would treat you as a friend.Nobody can be replaced .YOU ARE A SPECIAL PERSON IN YOUR OWN ... (read in full...)
We've been friends for 9 years and for the first time he sent me hugs. Does he like me?
Q. I like this guy. I'm pretty sure he likes me back too but he has not told me outright I haven't asked but plan on it next time we chat. He seems really shy but always talks to me, texts me early am, texts me late his time. He asks when I will move ...
A. 11 August 2014: Hi i can understand how you feel if you have stronger feelings for him its not easy.As you have been friends for 9 years i would say he certainly LIKES YOU.But i would thread with care hoping for something more.He may be shy but 9 years to remain ... (read in full...)
Recently rekindled things with an ex and now I'm realizing I don't have the right feelings. I don't want to break his heart again!
Q. I recently rekindled with my ex after two years apart. We were together for 8 years before that. We split because I grew distant, he didn't have a lot of respect for me. However when we broke up, it seems I completely broke his heart. I was told ...
A. 23 July 2014: You may have fond memories of the past but will not make a happy future.First of all you owe to youself to be truthful and you owe to the man you now live with .Remember the longer you stay living with him the more you will hurt him.Have a open chat ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but he doesn't know I am already married!
Q. Dear cupid, im in totally mess right now, i hope you can help me more than i can help myself, im facing such a messy situation what can i do..My story goes this way, i had a boyfriend right now, we already knew each other for about a year i think ...
A. 23 July 2014: No you are not a bad person but a confused one.There is no point in living with a man in this case your husband if you do not love him.But neither it is fair to be living with your boyfriend and his familyand leading him to think that you are ... (read in full...)
I'm taking the break up hard. Will I ever get over it?
Q. Three years ago, I moved to a new city for work. I have met a lot of people my age at work and we get along well, and that's where I met my ex. We dated for one year, and I chose to go to grad school at a nearby town. We continued seeing each other ...
A. 6 July 2014: The answer is yes but it will take time to heal.I can understand how hurt and lonely you are feeling right now.But this will pass and then you will move on.Would you consider joining clubs and groups that does not have in connection to your ex or ... (read in full...)
Do I leave the man in his mancave?
Q. My boy friend whom I have been living with for the past two years well I came home from work and I found out that he had moved all his clothes in to the spare room it has been like this for two weeks. He says he need time to sort out his thoughts ...
A. 6 July 2014: Money can cause a lot of problems and also the fact that he is going to court would be stressful. However the answer is not by locking you out of his room.It would be important to have an indept chat with him about the money issue and maybe ideas of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is as unromantic as can be
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We connect so well in everything. He challenges me intellectually, is fun, sweet, affectionate. The thing is, he is as unromantic as a person can be. As an example, he lives right across t...
A. 6 July 2014: Yes i can understand your feelings about lack of romance but not everyone are romantic.How ever your buyfriend sounds so loving,caring and sweet in other areas and as you stated YOU are prefectly happy so desire what you have.It was most interesting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is as unromantic as can be
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We connect so well in everything. He challenges me intellectually, is fun, sweet, affectionate. The thing is, he is as unromantic as a person can be. As an example, he lives right across t...
A. 6 July 2014: Yes i can understand your feelings about lack of romance but not everyone are romantic.How ever your buyfriend sounds so loving,caring and sweet in other areas and as you stated YOU are prefectly happy so desire what you have.It was most interesting ... (read in full...)
How do I approach this without repeating the past?
Q. I’ve been chatting with this guy I know on instant messenger for about 4 days in a row now. We’ve known each other for about 4 months, give or take a week, and he’s been there to help with things here and there because I’m currently in a new country ...
A. 1 July 2014: Hi i can quiet understand how you feel from your past experience and its only natural to feel this way and remember that no 2 men are alike. Enjoy the friendship as it is and give it time to develope,Let your friend make the first move to a more ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to cry after I dumped him?
Q. So me and my boyfriend (now ex) have been together for almost 3 years. I just recently broke up with him because we both got into an argument and neither of us could stop mentioning our mistakes in the past so I broke it off (after thinking about it ...
A. 24 June 2014: FIRST love is very important but it does not always mean in most cases thats its your LAST love .Its quiet natural to have a real good cry after the relationship ended.He will always be a SPECIAL memory for you and part of your youth. Maybe in time ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to act like a porn star and said I've ruined his life
Q. My husband told me I was a fat disgusting pig! And he watches porn because I'm boring in bed and I have no ambition. These are things he has never said before to me ,we got into a fight and told me he needed to get things off his chest. I have ...
A. 22 June 2014: I can understand your hurt and feeling down over the very hurtful things you husband has said to you.First of all if your husband had these pent up feelings about your weight he should hae sat down and talked to you in a kind sensitive way and not ... (read in full...)
We're not handling conflict well in this relationship
Q. Hello, How do I handle it when my boyfriend (of one year) gets mad at me for getting mad at him when HE does something wrong, hurtful, disrespectful. Then after I get mad about it (rightfully so, these are big things) he does something WORSE ...
A. 20 June 2014: Hi KK.It might be a good idea if both of you when CALM would sit down and have a chat about both of your behaviours and come to some adgreement to try and work things out.A little kindness and understanding goes a long way.Best Luck . NORA B.... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to break out of my comfort zone!
Q. Hi people well recently i have been applying for live-in hospitality jobs. I enjoy this type of work and im good at many different things. However the past 6yrs of my life have been robbed from me ss i was in a violent relationship and pretty messe...
A. 19 June 2014: Well done u re ur new job enjoy it and just take things in a slow fashion.I HOPE you will consider going to a counsellor .Im delighted that you also thought of going yourself.Best of luck with your job and your future.TIME will sort things out .Kind ... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to break out of my comfort zone!
Q. Hi people well recently i have been applying for live-in hospitality jobs. I enjoy this type of work and im good at many different things. However the past 6yrs of my life have been robbed from me ss i was in a violent relationship and pretty messe...
A. 17 June 2014: I am so sorry to hear of your past 6 years in a violent relationship.However that is in the PAST.Also death is always a shock and we are inclined to think of the good times rather than the bad ones. Now you have 2 situations to deal with here .{1] ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else ever felt this way after having an abortion?
Q. I'm looking for some advice from anyone who might have been in my situation or know someone who has. I've come to understand it's a far more common situation to be in than I had once believed. I had an abortion 3 weeks ago. At first I felt gla...
A. 16 June 2014: Right now you are being very hard on yoursel.Its only 3 weeks since. you had the abortion and you made the right decision for you at that time.Now i dont have personal experience myself but my best friend had an abortion so i would know something ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how I feel about him when he's not around
Q. I have currently moved countries from Europe to Asia- on my own. While here, I met a man from a different part of Europe. We met up almost every day during the initial stages and I was very happy to have a kind thoughtful and handsome man to share ...
A. 16 June 2014: You sound a very open,honest,senstive,caring person so try and be gentle on yourself.Yes you have found a wonderful man and man worth holding on to .Remember you are still trying to get over the boy back home and the hurt that you felt then and ... (read in full...)
He wants to talk everyday and support me financially, why, when he broke up with me and already has a new girlfriend!
Q. My ex an I was together a year and 3 months. And we broke up on Saturday. And he moved on started dating another girl. But the day after the break up he was being so so mean to me. And now he's been texting me for 3 days non stop he texts from when ...
A. 12 June 2014: Yes i can understand why you sound confused. On the other hand i feel that your boyfriend has his bread buttered on both sides-he has now 2 girlfiends. Yes he is acting like this at the moment as he is getting away with it.You will have to decide if ... (read in full...)
He wants to talk everyday and support me financially, why, when he broke up with me and already has a new girlfriend!
Q. My ex an I was together a year and 3 months. And we broke up on Saturday. And he moved on started dating another girl. But the day after the break up he was being so so mean to me. And now he's been texting me for 3 days non stop he texts from when ...
A. 12 June 2014: Yes i can understand why you sound confused. On the other hand i feel that your boyfriend has his bread buttered on both sides-he has now 2 girlfiends. Yes he is acting like this at the moment as he is getting away with it.You will have to decide if ... (read in full...)
Why don't I feel close to my boyfriend? I feel distant from him even though we do enjoy intimacy together
Q. Hi! So I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now, and I really like him and he really likes me. Now the problem is, as much as I like him, I really can't feel close to him. Like, it barely feels like we're in a relationship! It...
A. 11 June 2014: Maybe the MAGIC is not there that special link that turns friendship into love.The question you have to ask yourself is .Would you prefer him as a friend ONLY.Best Wishes NORA B.... (read in full...)
I feel he is not really interested in me but surely he would bother wasting his time like that!
Q. Hi been dating a guy for 5 weeks now we've kissed and been intimate but i don't really think hes that interested in me.....we met on a dating website but he lives locally to me sand id rather he just said if he doesn't think it will go ...
A. 11 June 2014: Well 5 weeks is not a great lenght of time maybe he likes to take things at a slow pace.However it would be a good idea to have a chat with him.During the chat just ask him is this just a casual friendship and then decide from there .Its always ... (read in full...)
I feel he is not really interested in me but surely he would bother wasting his time like that!
Q. Hi been dating a guy for 5 weeks now we've kissed and been intimate but i don't really think hes that interested in me.....we met on a dating website but he lives locally to me sand id rather he just said if he doesn't think it will go ...
A. 11 June 2014: Well 5 weeks is not a great lenght of time maybe he likes to take things at a slow pace.However it would be a good idea to have a chat with him.During the chat just ask him is this just a casual friendship and then decide from there .Its always ... (read in full...)
Why is he being so tepid in bed?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend since October. We started having sex often and regularly a month into the relationship. He's not that great in bed. I thought this would change as we got closer, playing and developing a sense of what the other likes. ...
A. 10 June 2014: Your boyfriend maybe not be just Tepid.He may have a LOW sex drive. However have an indept gentle chat with him over this matter and explain how you feel and invite him to tell you his real feelings on this matter.Give it time and understanding and ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever been in a relationship with someone who shared a name with them? Was it confusing? Awkward?
Q. I met a guy who I am quite into; it's early on, so it's hard to tell if anything will develop between us. My question, however, is about names ... he has the masculine version of my name (ex. Alexander/Alexandra, Nicholas/Nicole, ...
A. 10 June 2014: Hi well having the sames names can be confusing.But if the respect and love is there just go for it. My personal experience was i married a man with my surname.That was more confusing because any froms or anything i had to sigh I would get the ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever been in a relationship with someone who shared a name with them? Was it confusing? Awkward?
Q. I met a guy who I am quite into; it's early on, so it's hard to tell if anything will develop between us. My question, however, is about names ... he has the masculine version of my name (ex. Alexander/Alexandra, Nicholas/Nicole, ...
A. 10 June 2014: Hi well having the sames names can be confusing.But if the respect and love is there just go for it. My personal experience was i married a man with my surname.That was more confusing because any froms or anything i had to sigh I would get the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 8 years and I just moved in together but now all we do is fight!
Q. HI Ying Yang I would really appreciate if you could help me with this mess. Where do I even begin to cut a long story short.Well I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years he means the world to me I truly love him don't think he even knows how much I ...
A. 6 June 2014: When you are in-love and love someone as much as you have stated you want everything to be prefect immediately.Focus this does Not happen.It takes time and a lot of time to get used to each other 24/7 a lot of understanding and give and take on both ... (read in full...)
Am I mad to take on a guy with these issues???
Q. Ok, for the last 5 months I've befriended a gorgeous guy who has quite a few issues! Firstly, he is a recovering alcoholic, off the alcohol for 21 years, secondly, he has been self medicating for the last year and is currently in hospital trying to ...
A. 6 June 2014: Yes your boyfriend has a lot of issues to deal with which will take a lot of time.But he was honest and open with you so one has to give him credit for that.Also he is getting help with his problems.The question is do you care enough for this man to ... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my boyfriend how insecure I feel ....
Q. I have a lovely boyfriend who i had been with for about 14 months, he hasnt done one thing to make me not trust him apart from on thing i seen a text on his phone about having video sex with a sex and cos i was so upset i couldnt remember the date ...
A. 5 June 2014: I can understand your hurt of the past and how very difficult it must be to trust anyone man again.But you now have a nice boyfriend and i again understand your fear of getting hurt again.First of all i suggest that you have an indept chat with your ... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my boyfriend how insecure I feel ....
Q. I have a lovely boyfriend who i had been with for about 14 months, he hasnt done one thing to make me not trust him apart from on thing i seen a text on his phone about having video sex with a sex and cos i was so upset i couldnt remember the date ...
A. 5 June 2014: I can understand your hurt of the past and how very difficult it must be to trust anyone man again.But you now have a nice boyfriend and i again understand your fear of getting hurt again.First of all i suggest that you have an indept chat with your ... (read in full...)
I want to do what is correct, should our adult children meet before we marry?
Q. I'm planning to get married in a month or so there is one adult child on my side and 3 on my Fiancée side, would it be inapporiate to marry before the children all meet? ...
A. 4 June 2014: It would be more sensitive and caring to introduce all before wedding.They would feel more included rather then being just told. Best wishes. NORA B.... (read in full...)
How do I Make him stop flirting and cheating?
Q. We have been married for 16yrs, with two children, our youngest is 16. From 2005 my husband has been cheating on me. In 2010 we almost got divorced but he apologised and vowed to stop and seek counselling but that didn't happen. We have been to ...
A. 4 June 2014: The truth is you cant make him stop cheating.You have given him chance after chance. Its not easy for you after all this time to make up your mind and tell him you want a divorce.You deserve a man to love and respect you a man that you can trust.Be ... (read in full...)
Why have I Been alone this long?
Q. Ive never had anyone in my life say the like me, Ive never had a girlfriend, Ive never Had a passionate hug, I fought in the army, Served 12 years, And when i was just a kid my mom told me i'd find someone, all the way through school no one ever ...
A. 27 June 2013: For a start well done you You severed in the Army for 12 years-this alone must make you feel so worthwhile.Meeting women is not easy and meeting the right one is difficult.However would you consider joining,some group meetings i.e- a debating groupe ... (read in full...)
Why have I Been alone this long?
Q. Ive never had anyone in my life say the like me, Ive never had a girlfriend, Ive never Had a passionate hug, I fought in the army, Served 12 years, And when i was just a kid my mom told me i'd find someone, all the way through school no one ever ...
A. 27 June 2013: For a start well done you You severed in the Army for 12 years-this alone must make you feel so worthwhile.Meeting women is not easy and meeting the right one is difficult.However would you consider joining,some group meetings i.e- a debating groupe ... (read in full...)
Why have I Been alone this long?
Q. Ive never had anyone in my life say the like me, Ive never had a girlfriend, Ive never Had a passionate hug, I fought in the army, Served 12 years, And when i was just a kid my mom told me i'd find someone, all the way through school no one ever ...
A. 27 June 2013: For a start well done you You severed in the Army for 12 years-this alone must make you feel so worthwhile.Meeting women is not easy and meeting the right one is difficult.However would you consider joining,some group meetings i.e- a debating groupe ... (read in full...)
He makes me out to be the bad guy but he's the one who cheated and lied!
Q. I'm feeling manipulated and would appreciate an outside perspective on this Seeing this guy for over a year. We were for sure monogamous at one point (9 mos) but he would never fully commit to me as his girlfriend :( He went out of town for t...
A. 27 June 2013: Well done you by breaking it off with your boyfriend.-you are totally in the right. He has betrayed you and you are not the crazy one .But sees things as they are Would you consider meeting a man that will love,respect and a man that you can ... (read in full...)
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